He LOVES YOU if...I Episode 111 

But murugi really has pretty eyes

Lydia's comment about rewatching girlfriends reminds me of something i came across... that people with anxious attachment styles like rewatching shows coz it gives them a sense of ease, coz they know what will happen next in the shows and how it will end

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Despite having anxious attachment style and my man having avoidant, we compliment each other in the sense that, we are aware of our traumas and are working towards being better versions of ourselves. Sometimes it doesn't even feel like I am that anxious anymore or him avoidant. Thanks to Lydia and therapist Jeff, we had some of those serious conversations before, and I had my bare minimums....especially emotional security and how he treats me.

Lol, It’s Lydia realising there are avoidant women 😂 and as a representative of the avoidants, waahh si mlitukujia hii episode, si pole bas 😢 It’s just easier to switch off our emotions and go into robot mode to avoid hurt, it’s self preservation, we are really just scared little kittens on the inside 😅

Am 21 years old but am learning my worth through this show..you ladies are like sisters I have never had..love your make up and outfits💥

My hot take is that men are just naturally worse at sustaining relationships. And I say this as a man who understands how patriarchy can isolate and distance a man from his own emotions. Where women will have close and intimate relationships with other women through out their life, (male friendships are not intimate or vulnerable 9 times out of 10) most men will never experience emotional and intimate relationships outside of their romantic ones. This makes it almost emotionally overwhelming to deal with another human being in this way especially if you weren't in any meaningful relationships prior. (Also why most men have avoidant attachment) This is why a lot of relationships end because the man was being distant and seemingly uninterested a few months down the line; which, in my opinion, is sparked by "burn out" from having to be vulnerable so often, having to look after another person's mental well being, and other stuff that are easy to do when you're in love. But fade after the honeymoon phase where that emotional inexperience starts to show. This can be overcome of course with therapy, self reflection, and a healthy growth mindset (measures I've taken myself) and may be less common than I lead on but I feel is true from my experiences and observations. Keep up the good content, you two are inspiring.

This video is an hour long but I watched it for maybe an hour and 20min because i had to repeat so many good points. Yall are easy to watch and listen. In fact let me repeat some of your episodes whilst i wait for the next.

“Red flags aren’t red flags if they’re what’s familiar” I needed to pause after that one!😮‍💨😮‍💨

Everytime I told this son of pharaoh 'I love you' he just smiled...one day I brought it up and asked why he never says it back and he responded ' but I don't hate you'....I just left....praying so hard I don't go for closure😂

We always love love it here❤️❤️... The host looking good as usual . And yes today I've learnt my attachment style through the link you guys shared below. I'm Team Secure💯 .

Who else feels like time is flying, literally 😅 unafumba kufungua macho wiki imeisha 😂 Anyway it's good coz it feels like Wednesday isn't that far away 😊❤

Definitely TMIIII 🎶💃🏿. Quick recovery Lyd❤. Love that lilac colour on Murugi🔥. I love how we are redefining some as Bare Minimum😅. Standards raised🥂😎.

These days I just download. I don't even watch online anymore. I want to take it all in! Like a nice cup of coffee.

I loooove this episode, because it shines more light on the quality of a relationship. Even if a man doesn't necessarily do things that show that he hates you, it is more beneficial to know whether he actually loves you through these signs that you have given in the episode.

Only discovered you and love your podcast. 2 young ladies with alot of great advice. Well done you 2. You're doing a great job

Lyd is making murugi think about he relationship even more this avoidant and secure attachment styles hits her deep down

Paused to just come and acknowledge that Murugi & Lydia's edges are giving life!!!!!! Now back to video

Episode 111🎉 We thank God for TMI ❤

Thank you so much for this beautiful episode girls .. 💗💗

I think anxious are attracted to avoidants because in the beginning, avoidants give cool, calm, collected vibes that anxious attachers crave. It gives stability

😂😂😂,not the little " herpe"😂😂😂 am on the floor,,,,Lyd soo funyy....im definitely getting my bar high with every episode too 💯💯

Love the lighting in this video, its giving 🥰

Yes that part on going for holiday and not having the impulse to post. I'm with you on that

I am this old to learn about my attachment style. Thank you gals. The love for TMI glows and grows

Hey Queens looking gorgeous😍Lunch breaks are for TMI❤️

OMGGGG!!! I loveeee The new intro This might be my favourite episode And its episode 111 I love it

the test says am a disorganized fearful avoidant😪😪yawa

Am a new member to this channel and am glad to be here . Watching each episode is enlightening me to be better for me .i love what you ladies are doing keep it up.

Such a good episode 😊You ladies are everything amazing.

Definitely taking the test. Interesting. Thank you for sharing the link

That colour looks so good on you murugi ❤

My friend introduced me to TMI and I'm obsessed!!!!!!!!!!! My standard are on top rynooww can't even lie..... Its funny since I learned a lot of things I didn't know about myself and I'm not experiencing some things alone ,,,,like oooow woowww!!!!!!!!!!!

This was hilarious and also eye opening since we are single 😂😂aki my man

I the jiggling before starting when I saw "he loves you if "😍

Love what Murugi says. I also want to talk about things or know when to talk about them and solve them. When dating I was an avoidant but after marriage, you don’t want to be mad for days .

I normally take like 2hrs watching tmi coz I have to rewind till my mind processes but this one I'll watch twice for sure

Im inlove with Lydia's outfit ❤

I'm an avoidant, my man is secure. He is absolutely amazing! and being with him brings me closer to being secure...They exist for sure...but a rare breed... I value him deeply.

You ladies are hilarious😂. Love.

Love this ❤..love your intro❤

😍Wednesdays are definitely for TMI😘 I LOVE EVERY EPISODE

Am loving TMI,.....BEST PODCAST 💪keep up girls am in my 20's am learning and unlearning........🙏

Do we really have to wait till nextweek😢😭loved this episode ❤

It's my birthday but I have been waiting for this episode like my life depends on it🤣🤣🤣Best birthday gift.

I've been in situations where a guy I'm dating is jealous of how I talk about my dad. I'm still young, so I hope I'll figure it out and keep my husband to be first. I'm extremely sapiosexual, Murugi I feel it, trust me I've stayed in a toxic relationship coz the guy was so smart. He lacked emotional intelligence though ...pure madness

It's great discovering my attachment style as secure

Thank you for letting know my attachment style

Here for my weekly dosage😊😊🤗

am a new follower here and am loving it 😂❤you guys are so real

Murugi I loved your makeup. So on point

Wow🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 You guys mentioned my comment. I love you guys

The last last chapati waahhhhh🤣🤣🤣🤣That's true love right there

I really needed this session 😂😂thanks

Yoh !!!just the other weekend his friends were like we've never seen him like this😂😂

"Those who don't trust,control" wuuuueh

Yassssssssssss🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤❤... I love the duo and I thought they should know it ! ❤❤❤❤

It's a mystery how I watch TMI for 3hrs and it's originally for 1 hr😮😮😅but I'm always posing and taking notes literally 😂😂😂😂

"If you don't love us just say ,so that we can block you😂😂😂" we love you big sisters❤

The parting shot😂😂😂

I LOOOOOOOVE it here!🥰

The shade in this episode 😅😅😅😅😂😂😂😂😂 the bar is higher than your man bringing you water 😢😂

"Don't come here telling us he loves just because he brought a glass of water "😂😂 Murugi u are an attacker😂😂😂 jokingly

I always sing with you guys tmiiiiiiiiii❤😅😂 content is on firee

Day made ,😍😍! Also is no one talking about the disorganized attachment style? 👀

I love you ladies ❤❤❤ I took the attachment test and I came out *secure* I think my parents did well with early childhood. Only that our relationships has become quite challenging, because I wouldn't allow them project their fears and disappointments on me. I feel like that will be a lot on my shoulders. I want to live life to the fullest and not leave in someone else's regrets in life.

Always waiting for Wednesdays❤🤗

Needed this 😅..love from Uganda❤

Re-watching...i really need to.. this show is👌

When is government allocation security to these two treasures ? Murugi and Lyd ♥️♥️

Always waiting for Wednesday❤

A single babe here,will be back to give reasons of how "my man " loves me😂prayers queen betweeners

I'm here and I can't even relate a thing.😅

That 'wasilipe tu' took me out🤣🤣🤣🤣

You r such an encouraging soul,,, from Lyn show

Murugi is sooo perfect 😭😭

hoping to see "she loves you if" version :>

Love you all❤

Anytime❤❤❤

I agree with Murugi about sex in marriage...the pleasure after marriage can ease things into conversation. Also duty! Because he has to be dutiful ama?

What a way to end 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Murugi umeguza wengi

My man for sure loves me❤

Y'all are looking freeeeeeshhh

Waiting for next episode upload🥳🥳

Its murugi😂. 5 page power point presentation for only 300. Asaol😂😂 .. it's tough.. " What my baby wants, my baby gets" ( if he is capable) Thats the theme ❤

My take home from this episode....alooooot 🤗😍☺

Did the quiz and am secured I felt good. Hahaha

I knew my husband was the one when he stood up for me when his friend was being racist in my abscess...

Lyd's Outfit 😍😍😍😍😍 puurrrr

Inbetweener reporting for duty! From Zimbabwe

Very interesting as always. A series on signs you hate / love your man or signs your woman hates/ loves you would be very interesting as well. Based on some of the submissions on this episode and similar past episodes, the bar on what women expect/ require in a relationship is quite low, given that we have been socialised to put everyone else's needs and wants first and our own last and be " nice girls". We get starry eyed at the bare minimum because we are used to substandard treatment. Also red flags are not red flags if they are what's familiar_ word.

"5 page power point presentation as to why you should get 300 bob" 😂😂😂😂😂😂very funny

But surely Lydia 😂😂😂😂😂😂aty the quality of heerr husband

Fearful avoidant here😂

Whats a lil herp,a lil gonnorreah,lol.....i lve the sarcasm.

As for us, we are just there

That comment about he makes sure I don't get vaginal infections had be laughing my ass out😂😂😂,lol what you mean sis?

It's the 'That's really dump' for me 😅

That guy Lydia was talking about the one with the secure attachment...I feel really bad guys my bf is like that but I took it like a bare minimum 😢 feeling so guilty right now

How am I still watching this episode at 11pm yet i started watching it when it aired. Love you girlss Cant wait for the next one.