Ra Maat yes!!!! I made that mistake back in college and even though it was one of the most fun and exhilarating experiences I’ve ever had, it ended in me being hurt because I thought I could convince him that we were perfect for each other. Now I’m sitting here like “why go for someone who doesn’t even want what I want??? I don’t wanna force myself on somebody”
What if you can't find a man you like that way who also wants to have a relationship with you? So many men don't, it's like they're scared or believe that women are wicked creatures, trying to trick them into an unhappy marriage they don't want. Some people, men and women, are manipulative and will treat you bad, but not everyone. Alot of people just want to have a good life together. So I think alot of men need to stop detesting the thought of marriage or even a girlfriend. It's a good thing! you just have to find the right person and give her a chance instead of constantly disappointing all the random girls you casually date. You experience true love or support that way.
1. give yourself a time frame. 2. Stop thinking/talking about comittment 3. stop giving him everything he wants 4. make him work for it 5. Keep your options open
Yes!! And even after he tells you that he isn't looking for anything and keeps messaging you ignore him!! He will ghost you! I had a guy do this to me just last week. And it hurts!! Save yourself the heartache!!
It really hurts when we invest time and feelings thinking we are going towards a serious relationship and sooner or later realize it has been a waste of time with somebody who avoids commitment and couldn't be honest from the beginning.
Honestly ladies, if he says he's not ready for a relationship let him go, don't play these games. You deserve someone who has already realised he wants to commit to you on his own without you having to manipulate him. Games like this backfire down the road. There's nothing wrong with a person not being ready for a relationship or simply not wanting one with you, truth is we've all been there. I'm sure even you have met a great guy who was really into you but you didn't feel him in a romantic way, it happens, except now you're in the receiving end. Be happy he was man enough to tell you the truth in the beginning saving you from a lot of second guessing and heartbreak down the road, wish him well and bid him farewell. Sorry if its not what you wanted to hear.
The guy I dated never did tell me from the beginning. Instead he led me on for 4 months and even talked about marriage with me and our future kid’s names, and asked would I change my last name. He expressed that he is a long term guy. I finally started catching on that he was leading me on by the 4th month when he only wanted to see me at nights or weeknights. Never on weekends and he was mostly Mia on weekends. I broke it off with him. Then he reappeared the 5th month and confessed that he had just got out of a 2 year relationship when we first met and wasn’t ready for a relationship. That was only after I told him why I broke it off with him in the first place. He wanted his cake and eat it too by having me do relationship things and have sexual experiences with me but continue to be single and flaky/ inconsistent and mention relationship with one minute and then he’s not ready the next minute. So no not all guys will actually tell you at the beginning. Some will waste your time for as long as you allow and lie claiming they want a relationship or marriage. You have to use your intuition and run. I just wish i never gave him a second chance because it only got worse.
Song Stress oh and I got lead on for almost 6 months if I would have never said anything or bring up the relationship part he would still kept using me and the sad thing is we already knew each other 3 years before dating he’s a piece of shit
Yes, whether it is the most recent one or an ex from few or many years ago... what about them when they’re hunting back and the “something” guy pays attention? Gosh that’s my problem right now. I hate this quarantine, everything was developing so good u.u
If he’s not ready for a relationship means he’s not ready for a relationship with YOU. Start dating other people. . Leave him in the dust. If he wants you he will know it. Ladies take my adv.
@@katrinaaq1528 If I am attractive, funny, witty, understanding, helpful, passionate in bed, things that I got to know that he wants in general, why am I just a fwb? Oh wait... I forgot I dont look like the latina baddies he likes on Instagram
Leave. I stayed.. for a year... with the guy not ready for a relationship. And monday he told me, he does not see in a relationship with me, but may want a relationship with someone else.
What I’ve come to understand is that no one will pass up on someone they really want. That’s like saying, “I really want to be rich one day, but not at this time”, If anyone (not just a man) wants to you, they will jump on the opportunity. Also, if you respect yourself you won’t make yourself constantly available to be passed up and under valued!
Great analogy I really like this one. It's so true I'm sick of the excuses when it comes to dating, if they really like someone they won't hold the relationship off, or say they need a huge amount of time to decide things.
Usually when men don't want a committed relationship, the truth is they don't want one with you. I've had them tell me they don't want to commit and then a few weeks later be in a committed relationship with someone else. Future video topic- breadcrumbing and coming in and out of your life randomly ( Orbiting) to keep you hoping that they like you or want you.
@@AntonioBorrello yes, super sad that there are even terms for such bad behavior. I honestly would rather have someone just be honest with me instead of trying to keep me on the hook as a back burner option.
@@AntonioBorrello yes I am very interested in bread crumbing and orbiting. I did not actually know there were terms for this, lol! But, sadly, I have experienced it.
What if it's a long-distance relationship? My ex is really ambitious about his music career and he would never move home just because I wanted him to commit. (move into an apartment) I am 20, he's 23...He cares about me but won't give up his dreams. So he broke up with me because I called him too much, was planning our first vacation this summer, and was talking about buying a new bed together. SURPRISE surprise... that totally pulled him away (I know after watching all videoes there is on youtube)I just want a non-complicated boyfriend who wants to be together.
And he touched my private parts and he said I was using people bbutI will never do that he wrote me and mean message on messenger his sister said I was posting about him on Facebook but I did not hes nothing but an asshole so where not together anymore I blocked him he hurt my feelings and did not say hes sorry I deserve better than him who treats me right
@@preciouspayne723 your situation same like mine...but I decided to close my heart for him. We deserve to be happy 🥰 and have a chance to live with someone can bring us a happiness and lots of love to share together
I am exactly on this situation... i stayed too long waiting for him to commit. But... i realized i deserve more. Specially right after watching this video. Right at this moment i know i have to move on. Thank you so much for this. More power.
@@AntonioBorrello we even lived together (so i can push him and help him find a job). But you know what? Instead of finding a job he find girls online and hookup with them. And its not just 6months. Its almost 5years. I thought he would change and finally learn to appreciate me. I never forced him... never pressured him to commit. He even told me he loves me and I thought we are getting there. Yes, you are right he is getting gf/wife benefit from me. But no. He did not change. Still does not want relationship with me. So, I made up my mind and told him that "I CANNOT LET YOU KEEP DOING THIS TO ME". He keeps playing me, using me because im convenient for him while he still hook up with other girls when we are not together. And im not happy with how he is treating me. After watching your video... it inspires me more not to keep up with his crap and stop being with him. I deserve more and i deserve respect. Billions of guys out there! He is not the guy for me. He don't deserve me. Its been almost a month since i told him i do not want to continue and i stopped communicating with him. I did not reply from his messages since 28th of march. All his belongings are still here. I do not want to reach out and tell him to get his stuff. I want to give away all of his things so when he finally decides to get his things... i can tell him that he no longer have his stuffs and I give it all away. So he wont have any reason to come here. I dont want to see him anymore. He even blocked me on viber which i do not care. I dont need anything from him anyway. Your videos are inspiring. It made me realized that i do not need him. Yes. Its hard leaving someone you loved (who does not feel the same way). But i deserve someone who wants the same thing like i do. So for now, i focuse more on myself. My goal is self love and I try everyday to keep myself busy and do things I enjoy. They said, if you love yourself more love will find you. Thank you for your help. I hope you will help a lot of people out there struggling in their relationship. Again, thank you and more power!
@@sweetesthershey Thank you. I thought i am d only unlucky lady hooked on a wrong guy. On the other way around, we are blessed by God for He took us out of the worst situation. God loves us. We are on the same tract...on the process of moving on, letting go, and engaging and giving more on self-love. Thank you so much for this agreeably very inspiring video. I love it so much! Big help!!!
I'm in a new loving relationship now in the past 6 months! He treats me like a queen and he loves me very much. Love will come to you... Don't forget to love yourself first.😊😘
Amanda Brown lip service that’s all that is love. If a man is really really interested in having you in his life he will commit to you bottom line. He doesn’t see the value in you or you just haven’t proven your value to him. Simple
I used these methods few days ago, he finally said , he really like me and like " really " but even if we were in a relationship ,how is it gonna be after he left the country ? Since he couldn't do Long Distance Relationship , he needes to see his gf and close to her and ever tried it with his ex 6 years ago but still broke up. His job is a model that demands him to travel to many countries, he could have stable relationship when he settles in one country , he said.
What if in a long distance relationship, he says "if you lived closer, there's no doubt I would commit 💯 to you, I love you and don't want to be with someone else but..."
Thanks for this video! I have learned that when I hear “I’m not ready/looking for a relationship”, that means “I’m not looking for a relationship with you”. I take for what it’s worth and move on.
NOTES: 1) Give yourself a time frame (to make a decision; get to know you to get deeper) 2) Stop thinking & talking about commitment. The more you talk, he will feel pressure, no talk on future & commitment. 3) Stop giving him everything he wants. Set BOUNDARIES. He's getting all his needs met. Say NO to him. No last minute dates. Make plans. 4) Make him work for it. Make him invest in you & work harder. Let him do things for you. Men appreciate & value what they work hard for. You share decision making. Make him invest time, effort & energy. 5) Keep your options open. Date other men. Men get complacent & take you for granted. He has no fear that he will lose you to another man. Don't stop dating other men. Keep you calendar full so you're not as available. 6) Have the talk when the time is right. Give the "spiel". Dating casually will just sabotage your chances.
Video topic suggestion 1.) How to create an emotional connection with someone you found online and have not met yet and is long distance. Also same thing for keeping an emotional connection after you have met. 2.) Should you be in an exclusive relationship with someone long distance if you met online or just wait for exclusivity until you are both living in the same town?
It’s very hard to get someone to do all of these things after the fact. I think it’s more important to set expectations upfront. Feeling someone out and keeping our emotions in check is more important. It’s not wise to date a guy who is not looking for a relationship. You end up in a Frienationship, always questioning where you stand! It’s manipulative to act like you’re in a relationship and do relationships type things without the commitment. If they do not want a relationship there is a reason. Maybe they’re a great guy, but if you’re not on the same page it will not work. Go on with your life and be patient. We often make choices out of desperation and stay when we know we should go!
Antonio Borrello Hi... I just recently stumbled on to your channel and found that you’re the male in my life that I’ve needed to tell me all along how men think. Long story short... I met this man abt 3 years ago, at least. He didn’t speak up right away. After a year or so, he finally make an initiation to say something to me. I invited him in. For the first maybe 5 months we were really into each other talkin all the time we hung out a few times. Early on within those few months I saw things start to change. We haven’t been intimate in over a year. Text msgs have been cut way dn and so has conversations. He used to pick me up all the time bcuz we live so far apart from each other. He ended up having an amputation and I was there wit him thru it all. Made sure I was by his side wit whatever he needed. He keeps promising that things will go bk to the way they were in the beginning. I’ve lived on this for I know now well over another year. I’ve explained to him that I wasn’t gonna let an amputation stop the way I felt about him. Work us always the excuse now as to Y he hasn’t asked me to spend time wit him. This man is 50 yrs old!!!!! What’s the real deal here. I’m done wit all the talkin and no action all the promises all the excuses about work. I explained this all to him as to how I feel. He says things will change just him some time. That’s all I’ve been doin is being patient. But I’m done now. He texts maybe 3 days now out of a 7 day week. I only text him now if and only if I hear from him first. I’m too old for foolishness. I’m not 50 but I know I don’t have time for this shit. WHAT’S THE REAL DEAL?
ive been in a no label relationship for almost 3 years he told me that iam important to him. Deeper feelings towards him is too much painful. Until now.
You're soo on point!! I kept my options open and dated others (wasn't even interested) I was unavailable for him..when he asked for my time. The VERY NEXT TIME I saw him.... He asked me to date him exclusively!!! Thank you!!
Most women sleep with a guy too soon. If you give up the cookie right away and is getting all his needs met, you won't get a commitment. You have to say no. Absolutely right, Antonio.
Lisa Cunningham I never even had sex with the guy I dated several months. He claimed he wanted marriage with me etc and then later said he just got out of a two year relationship and wasn’t ready. So it’s not always due to sex. I never even had sex with the guy I was dating and he still led me on
@@queenesquiresquad I'm sorry that happened to you. People need to be more aware of what their real needs are and be open and honest so they don't lead others on. It's sad.
Yeah but what people never talk about are the woman's sexual needs. Maybe we "give it up" too fast because we are actually in heat at the moment and really like the guy and want to sleep with him! So I'm supposed to be able to control my hormones and my sexual desire more than him? That's not fair. Men should learn how to say no to sex too. They should say I want to but I want us to get to know one another first so we can possibly build a relationship before being intimate. Men need to control their desires too it's not fair to say that only women should have to learn to control themselves. That's unnatural.
Last night I said to him "Your happiness matters to me, and I can't make you want me. So, yeah I want you to do what you need to for yourself, but I definitely have feelings for you, feelings I know could grow. It would be painful for me to be around you and not be building something meaningful. I guess if something changes for you where you might want to try, please let me know. I hope I'm still here, cause I cant do fuck buddies situ, and If there's no chance you want a relationship, then I'm not going to hurt myself being around you. If something changes you know where I am".......actually feeling relief...not sure if I'll work, or I'll hear from him, but I'm free to live...
You shouldn't have said "please let me know". You just say I want someone who is 100% sure for me, you are not and it is fine. I can't see you anymore because I want to be happy and to be in real relationship. Just walk away and close the fucking door!
It happened to me and it's true 😔😔the more you talk about it the more he ignored ..I pushed him I tried to give him what he wanted and that took me to no where I just want him one day realize that he lost a girl who really loved him ..
Enforcing boundaries if your needs aren't being met is hard but it's also empowering because you are listening to what YOU want. I went no contact with my fwb and ignored his texts and when he finally resorted to emailing me I decided to write back, that I don't want a fwb. I think he knows that but now I'm making it a reality. You're right about expecting change when he has no reason to.
Dating other guys? 🙄 I am so done dating games. Dating is harder than my work projects, I’d rather focus on my work/promotion/invest 💰 myself where the hard work is paid off with satisfying rewards.
Someone that CONFUSED is BAD news. I say continue to be nice but busy with your own fun life, goals, travel, school, dating, etc. Also, NO benefits, booty calls, etc. YOU are back in charge of you. Take back your power, FLIP the FREAKING SCRIPT. Stay SWEET, just say NO its NOT what a QUEEN would do.
Soy la Pu Yes, this is what you do. They are a lost cause but there's no point cutting them off completely (unless they are abusive etc of course). I cut my guy off after he dropped the "can't do commitment, soz" spiel and I think it took me much longer to move on.
It feels so freaking good when you’re in the exact same situation but guess what, you’re already doing all this without thinking too much about it. He’s so right, ladies gotta raise their standards! 😍👌
You right I've experienced this. It's a reminder. Once I asked him to have time apart so he can think about it. He pulled forward. And in a few months he uploaded photos of himself with another woman. I never commented and he kicked of big time. That am proud for nothing. He still throws messages but I decided to go quite. No comment. It did hurt but may be it's a lucky escape and 4 years. He used to say, he loves me I complete his life. But was not sure for 4 years imagine. Good video. Thx Antonio
I needed this video! I'm often so blind because of the hormones and all that chemistry. Now I met this guy and he is just like the wind. He doesn't want to stay, he doesn't want to commit and it hurts me. Now I realize that it's time to love myself enough to tell him that I deserve much more. Thank you!
I meet a guy online and started LDR and was going perfect we talked about many things to do to make our LDR work we've been eating together on webcam we was soo into each other. He told me he will going to meet me in my country so he could meet my family. We both wanted serious relationship into marriage can you believe he sent me a video crying and he needs me not leaving him. Yesterday we almost talk all the time and the end of day he told me maybe we're too rush or not ready for it and he was crying saying those things to me. &wanted me to promise him I'll never go back into site's and he says he really like me earlier was I love you. I'm confused he told me we have to start again in friendship and see how it goes. I really tell him fine by us being friends. I'm just surprise. Like someone told him not to or what? I really liked him too we even planning to meet next month and after that we'll going to meet he's parent too. I wonder what happened?
Nancy Martin : It depends. If he’s violating you physically, sharply insist he take his hands off you. Remind him you agreed to respect the limit. Add that it’s unpleasant to spend time with him when he repeatedly disrespects you. If he continues trespassing, dump him. It’s a red flag.
Antonio Borrello Hi. I want to ask your thoughts about my situation. I've been in a long distance relationship for three months now. Thanks to online messaging, my bf and I are able to communicate with each other. Lately, I noticed that he seem to "forget" to communicate. When asked, he told me that he's busy at work, gets sick or even lost my number. I am the one who initiates communication. On his end, he take how many days to have an initiated communication. I am quite having the feel that something is off. Any relationship advice? Thanks!
A guy just told me that he’s not falling in love with me and I respected it. But that’s ok, there still someone better out there. Besides he is not the only guy in this world. I deserve someone better.
I'm so glad I left him last week after staying too long(1 year) hoping he will eventually commit. I wasted my time but since I left him I feel stronger each day. I'm just angry at myself for having stayed long yet he showed me from the start that we was up to no good. This video has given me clarity. No more time wasters
My advice to ladies on this (from a man's perspective--at least my own from my experience) when he gives you the "I'm not ready for a relationship" is that, yes, take him at his word *but* also don't take it personally (like many are suggesting). It's true, most guys *do* want a relationship but they have so many fears. The worst is when women want to have "the talk" about where the relationship is going. It's understandable, but can be avoided. Instead of waiting for that dreaded, indeterminate moment when you decide to broach that question, be more up-front from the beginning but do not make it personal (that will defuse the pressure of him feeling he must make a once-in-a-lifetime decision either on the spot or at a specific time in the future). If he says that he is not looking for a relationship, then just continue the conversation and try to *not* make the focus all about him. You might say, "Yea, I know how you feel. I've been there, but I think that I am maturing enough to possibly enter a long-term relationship soon. Maybe someday you will be too." That is a far more attractive way of approaching the subject without making the guy nervous, and he will possibly feel more comfortable with you afterwards to open up about his fears. Guys like to feel independent, even if they know they want a relationship. You can make him feel this way without being pressuring or manipulative, you just have to give it some effort to understand male psychology. If he is dead-set against a relationship, a few more interactions (maybe another date or two) should give you that clear picture. Thus, I would advise against simply moving on immediately if he says he doesn't want a relationship, but rather to do so after a bit more general communication.
AntiquityCentury21 women don’t do it because it hurts our ego. We are literally being rejected, so staying around for him to “get comfortable” just doesn’t sound right. Especially if we have other options who are begging us for relationships. It’s like who does he think he is? If he is not into it as much as I am, right now, I have other options who are. Yes, he was number one on the list at this moment, but there are so many other great men that sticking around waiting and begging him is not an option. That’s why the best option is to say ok, good luck, it’s over.
@@Oktaviii I am glad that you have options, for sure. I in no way suggested that you should be "begging him" for a response (just the opposite, actually). I was only saying that you can give him one or two more chances (like another meet up, not the end of the world--not a sexual dalliance). Otherwise, it comes across like a very strict ultimatum up front--long term relationship NOW or bust! It doesn't have to be so brutal. I would also be wary if anyone, your or him, is "begging" for a relationship. Who does that, lol? Is there an ulterior motive in that case? Do you guys have the same goals? Level of intelligence? Religious beliefs? These are very serious issues that take a little time to start to understand. I was honestly just trying to give women some helpful advice and to remain positive about interacting with supposedly commitment-shy men.
AntiquityCentury21 “begging” was a strong word, by that I meant giving another chance or two. I just think saying something like “I’m not comfortable with keeping things casual and seeing different people. It’s not really my thing and I don’t think I can really get to know you if we are not exclusive. Also it’s hard for me to develop feelings if we see other people.” Then if his response is something like “oh idk, I’m not sure I’m ready” etc then to me it seems either he is not into it and giving him a chance is a waste of time OR he is a kind of a person that somehow is capable to have feelings for a girl while sleeping with other girls. Either option does not sound good. Thank you for your advice. But most women want men who know what they want and if relationships is not something they really want at the bottom of their heart, then it’s time to look at other options. It’s just better to stay friends and move on. It gets frustrating when a man wants several things at once, it comes of as very arrogant, entitled and disrespectful. It’s like “I want you, but at the same time I want to have a freedom to disappear any time I want, or go out with a different girl and when I miss you come back and know you are there for me”. Hell no. A guy gets one chance and if he is not sure it’s time to move on, because being a safety option in a “maybe” category is very toxic.
@@Oktaviii Ah, well it sounds like you've had a lot of toxic experiences with men, sorry. I am certainly not talking about men who are trying to "play the field" but rather ones that may be nervous to make a verbal commitment to a long-term relationship after only a very short time meeting a girl.
AntiquityCentury21 I’ve never met men like that. Not saying they don’t exist but most girls who complain about guys who don’t commit are probably not talking about the guys you are describing. Most of the time they are facing the situation with guys who are trying to play the field. That’s why you are seeing so many comments that tell the girls to move on right away, because in 99.99999% of the cases it’s not about a guy being shy it’s about a guy who wants multiple things at once while taking 0 responsibilities.
Next topic ‘He is afraid of commitment because of previous bad marriage/relationship’, basically how to help him or her overcome previous bad relationship & not carry baggage forward
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Hands down for you, Dr. Borrello! I love your straight forwarded approaches very much. I’ve been dating a few guys in the last few months. It’s been great and I definitely turned my table around. It’s my game to play.
This literally made me cry because I've done it all wrong. Everything you said not to do, I've done. And it's been 6 months. I don't think I can retract and fix anything.
I’m seeing a guy who says he loves me but there’s no commitment and we see each other about once a week. We have slept together at this point. There’s no real commitment
@@AntonioBorrello men today seem to want the milk for free with no commitment.when they reach a certain age 50 and over there so afraid they're going to die tomorrow they want to experience every woman they can
You can’t make anyone to commit to you!!! You can’t make someone to be with you!! Is just wasting your time💔I been there. Just trust your intuition on a person is ready for a serious relationship 💛♥️🧡💜💚❤️💙💚
Make him work for it.. This one comes up often and I like it. He needs to invest his time. I will keep this in mind :) same thing with the fear of losing me. I know my worth. Thank you Doctor 👌🏾
Wow....you've just spoken to me. GOD have just used u. I'm motivated, and STRENGTHEN. Thank you...🙏 mine is a distant relationship, but I'm thankful that it is. What could I have done to myself if we were in the same state. You just told my story. 😥 THANKS AGAIN...🙏
Antonio, I just discovered your channel, and happy that I did, this video has given me a new perspective on dating since I lost my husband of 22 years back in December 2018. I wasn't really wanting to jump into anything serious, I just wanted to be single and enjoy meeting new people. Anyway, recently by a chance encounter I met this man and though we have only seen each other a couple times [too soon I know] I feel like maybe it's time to re-evaluate my not wanting to commit feelings, because he makes me feel every bit the way I want to feel and treats me the way that no other man I have dated in the months after losing my husband has made me feel. Anyway, this has given me a new perspective on the modern dating scene. VIDEO IDEA: How to handle getting back into dating after losing a spouse once you become a widower after a long marriage. Thank you, great videos.
why do guys say they have no interest but they get mad when another person wont date you ? this is my topic and current confusion please help oh there is more to this but its my first idea
Men say they don’t want a relationship but the “with you.” Part of it is as silent as the G in lasagna. ( I quote I saw from twitter, idk who but it’s so true!)
My long distance bf told me his not ready for relationship after he tell me tht he love me...n his scared bec of his past...but stil want to talk to me as a friend do i need to accept tht or i just ignore him?
Suggested Topic: What does really a guy feel if the girl they like dates other men? When he was the one who suggested to keep her options open since he isn't ready for a relationship yet.
Im in this situation right now we've been in a relationship for a year but still until now he says he loves me but doesnt want to commit im tired of crying ans begging him to be together for real i have to leave this man thank you for this video it really helps me to see the truth
My best male friend and I started hanging out more then friends and you already covered why he wouldn’t commit, which hurt because we went through so much in 30 years! I eventually also found out he was drinking heavily every night to cope with life! This is when he would tell me how much he loved me and blah, but sober he didn’t have to hide how mean he was! I didn’t know this person at all! He said I guess I’m an alcoholic! I can assume he was nice because he was embarrassed to let me see what being sober before work was like I guess? He never answered! After 2 break ups and major heartaches I finally told him, I’m no one’s option I’m too good for that! I’m someone’s priority or nothing and left the most toxic relationship ever! It took a lot of tears to finally feel liberating!!!
Thank you for this video, it really hit home! I think a video about situationships, what to look out for, how to get out of them/ change them would be amazing. Thanks for another wonderful video x
I blocked him. Guess I screwed that up. But I couldn’t stand his Constant mixed messages, ignoring me, texting me one day and then Mia other days and selfish af. So I was too fed up and walked away.
Antonio Borrello I’m hurt but getting over it. I’m glad I finally reached the stage where I don’t want him back at all and over the idea of him. I deserve better. Thank you for responding! You’re the best!
If a man tells you he doesn’t want a relationship, or he’s not ready to be a father, sis believe him, that’s his decision nothing is gonna change his mind... no need to play these games it will never work out!!!
Those suggestions only work if the guy is actually interested in you. I suffered with a "non commitment" guy for a year. We were just like boyfriend/girlfriend, but he wouldn't commit. I did all those suggestions, but in the end, he didn't care when I left him.
I think you should make a video about someone being married to a person who is putting them through emotional abuse without that person who is doing it knowing it.
Megan Hensel, I am also and he has some kind of hold on me. It has been 6 months, in a long distance (150 miles) relationship. We still text daily and some calls. I am still communicating with other men but can’t see anyone now with our stay at home order. He is 72 and I am 70. He went through a bad divorce and has had a loss by death of someone he almost married. We enjoy each other’s company very much when we are together. What is your situation?
Topic suggestion: How to balance being independent when you’ve been single for a long time yet allowing a man to help you with some things without appearing to be too needy Thank you for this video I really did get a lot out of it!
What if he is your best friend and you have same feelings with each other but he doesn't want to level up your relationship yet and acts publicly like he doesn't have anyone in relationship with.
This is me right now, the guy who’s seeing me for 3 years doesn’t want to commitment, I just stop seeing him for two days and he seems not care much even he said he love me and care for me so much so I will try to do like what you said then I will tell you more about the results
He doesn't want me and that's okay. Heartbreak only made me stronger. I now have my passport and travel out of the Country 3xs a year, I own my own business now and my therapy career is going well. I wish him well; but I no longer want or need him. He will be ready for a relationship, when his dream girl comes along; I just wasn't it for him.
Dr. Borrello, I think you and your channel are just wonderful! It's nice to see someone here on RU-vid with some old fashioned values! In this video, I think this is a good way to see if you are wasting your time on someone, but I also feel if he says he doesn't want a committed relationship, don't date him too long before you have the talk. You might be very hurt temporarily, but he DID tell you this from the beginning. Cut your losses and move on because there are plenty of wonderful guys out there that would just love to date you but they may be to shy to ask you. Approach that shy guy over in the corner at a party who doesn't even know how charming he is. Please do a video about approaching these lovely men, the "real jewels" in the crown! I married such a man. Remember girls, real love should not be painful, you should feel contentment, like a "warm sun" inside of you. If it's hurtful to you, please, walk away!
Thats true but this video isn't about manipulating him. Its about setting boundaries and standards for yourself, giving him to think about what he wants, and then dipping if he can meet them.
I followed your advice with the result that he broke up three days ago on St Valentin because he didn't want a committed relationship although we always spent wonderful moments when we were together (we had a LTR) and everything seemed to be perfect. I'm devastated and cry a lot 😢 💔 Greetings from Germany
This comment is very late BUT I want you to know these videos are helping me through probably the toughest time of my life. I KNOW you are right. I KNOW the hardest part is accepting the end result which could be watching him walk away BUT I KNOW I HAVE TO DO IT. I also KNOW I'll be a stronger woman for it. However, it hurts so bad watching him make, what I perceive as the biggest mistake of his life. I know he'll end up with regret and heartache after I've committed to it being over, they always do but it's like a light switch and after I've shut it off, it's off and it's over. Which is why I was hanging in there BUT with your videos I've seen ALL THE MISTAKES I'VE CONSISTENTLY made over my lifetime. So, thank you. Because I will never make these mistakes again. Who knows..... Maybe he'll actually commit OR the next man I fall in love with will be the one because I won't be doing ALL the things I shouldn't have been this whole time. God bless and again, thanks Doc!
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This Is my suggestion and it's even what happened to me... I asked my ex boyfriend why he doesn't tell me frequently he loves me but he answered, he likes me as a gf but doesn't love me.. But he still wanted to be with me.. Does that makes sense? Whereas I do love him. What pained me is that he even got the courage to give me that kind of a response.
My ex girlfriend said to me that she didn't feel that I loved her, I said explain to me what love is...... she had no answer, how can someone feel strongly about something they cant even describe, the myth of love is just another word for kissing her ass
I do understand when women say they don't want to play mind games but some women didn't learn certain things growing up so in turn they kind of need this so they won't get played in life
I made it clear that I love your videos. You have been so helpful to me. Thank you. It seems like u responded to my email. Isn’t it funny how we know the right things to do but it sounds better coming from someone else? Also, I listen to the Peter Pan syndrome video. That was also very very helpful. You are right. Even afterDoing all the steps and nothings changed the best thing to do is to move on. That’s what I’m learning. My situation is a little bit different. The man I’m dating lives in a different state for me. So, we are doing this long distance relationship.
He makes me happy, he does everything for me, he's funny, sarcastic, good kisser, treat's me good but I don't want relationship cuz I don't like this commitment things duh it doesn't mean I don't like him it's just the way of thinking we enjoy each other's company cuz just bcuz giving a tag to relation doesn't make sense to me.
