He WANTS You, But He WON'T COMMIT To You 

Yes! Don't force a man to commit. Or force him to do anything, for that matter. That's called coercion, bullying, etc. I'm a man btw

Pure bs.

Nobody is forcing anything. Men need to make it clear before they start dating and sleeping with women that they aren't looking for anything serious. I know most won't do that because a lot of women would say they're all set from the get go and the man will miss his opportunity to get his needs met. Aside from a one night stand, unless both parties are on the same page, nobody should be reaching out and starting anything with anyone if they don't care what the other person wants or will want. That's selfish af.

@@SunshineAndSnowflakes what a lot of women don't understand is that most men want both and they don't have that many options so they accept what they can get, which means they would like something serious with a beautiful woman of quality, but they also really want to have sex and will have sex with women who maybe turn out to be not "the one". So men are looking for both sex AND relationships, whereas I think women tend to be in phases where they are looking for something serious or NOT something serious. I think a lot of men (including myself) use the process of meeting, dating and having sex with women as a way to find a woman to be serious with, but unfortunately a lot of women ruin their chances for a relationship with men by being totally clueless about what men need from a relationship - the women who know what men need tend to keep a man around because she knows what he needs and gives that to him. Maybe there are two types of men: those who are mainly looking for something serious, and those who are mainly looking for something casual. But both are open to alternatives, I think just because most men have less options than most women. The ones who are looking for something serious might start off having high hopes for a woman (she could be his wife, have kids, etc) and then downgrade her potential in his mind as time goes on and he realises that she isn't what he's looking for, so she gets downgraded to just short term relationship potential, then just casual, to one night stand level if she is really bad (e.g. disrespectful). I've met women who I imagined something serious with and then as I got to know them I realised they were entitled, delusional, or not that interested in putting in similar effort, so I stopped taking them seriously. I guess it starts with idealising a woman as offering a lot, and then getting to know her reveals what she really can offer and how generous she really is. For men who start out looking for something casual, a woman will grow on him as he gets to know her, to the point where he sees enough relationship potential for him to think he wants to keep her to himself in a relationship. The things that men value in a relationship only come out after knowing a woman over time, so we really don't know if we want to be in a relationship with a particular woman. And often women destroy their chances for a relationship with a man as they reveal their various flaws to a man such as self-centredness, entitlement, etc, which blows apart the illusion that man had of her being relationship material. So I guess the short answer is that it is not as black and white as women make it - where men are dating you "for a serious relationship" or "for something casual". The truth is it depends on the person, because men don't want to commit to just any woman so they can just "be in a relationship". Most men aren't like that. They choose to be in a relationship with a particular woman because they see her value over time, and that necessarily takes time. I wish more women would understand that

@@thecurrentmoment I guess I don't see it because I'm very black and white and honest. I can tell within the first date, sometimes the first real conversation whether I see potential with someone. I know if I'm going to sleep with them, if it's going to be a casual thing or if I will want more. The second I realize this, I am upfront. Sure there are more traits you see as time goes on, but unless you have your blinders on, red flags are pretty easy to spot. That's where it's your responsibility to make it clear you don't see it going any further other than something casual so nobody is led on. However, that's where the gray areas come in because a lot of men still want access to that woman and to sleep with them, but know they don't want more. That's extremely selfish and deceiving. I can see going on casual dates to see what you want, but to sleep with different people while trying to figure it out isn't cool. There's feelings that get involved. Why make it messy and play with people's emotions? Moves like that is why a lot of women are choosing to remain single. It's not even worth it. As for options, you're right. Women do have more options than men. But that doesn't mean we feel the need to pick one to get our needs temporarily met. I rarely have men that I feel a connection to ask me out. They might be good looking and great on paper, but that's not what makes a potential future partner for me. I say no to almost everyone. Maybe every 5 years or so I agree to a date with someone I feel a connection with. So we might have a bunch of options, but high value women aren't sifting through our choices and dating someone we know we don't see potential with. I don't and will never understand the concept of dating someone who is not your first choice because your options are slim. I'd prefer not to date at all rather than adopt that mindset. We should all be able to fulfill our own needs until the right one comes along.

Thats not a label. Labels are for commitments....Relationships.

The avoidant man I dated asked if I would date him and be open to him being able to date "if one of my friends introduce me to someone.* But also told me "you were in the running" and "you're a great partner, you need to get out there and meet someone." I cut the ties.

@@alchemicalsoul Good! Thanks for recognizing the red flags ma.

@@alchemicalsoul I remember a guy telling me that I'm going to make someone really happy someday. Lol What??

@SunshineAndSnowflakes Same. Like are we the 90 day trial? Then he does the review at the end?

I agree. But a lot of these guys are super selfish...so that's why they do it. They don't care about them...just their selfish needs unfortunately. SMH

So am I. 5 years single and celibate. I refuse to settle with just anyone. This time he will be heaven sent, the love of God will resonate through him 🙏 I'll wait! I will admit though I do feel that someone from my past was "right person, wrong time." But in the meantime I'm working on myself(spiritual, personal & financial growth).

@@ChocolateLover4365 that’s right! Settling is not an option this time around. It’ll be worth the wait. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Exactly ❤

Be quiet.

Come to a point yes, I shall ... 😂 There's alot in stake .. some risks I could not bear not to take 👏 amen

I like the Princess and The frog analogy 😂😂 but yes so True God will always lead you right❤💯🙌🏾

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