@The Esquire of Sports ® it’s funny that YOU are in a bubble how can you PLACE ALL women in this category YOU DONT KNOW ALL WOMEN. But hey that’s your assumption
Yep, you can tell by how the combative sassy men in the comments or the men who go out of there way to disrespect women and call them undesirable. They’re projecting and jealous because they also want the same time of man that women want but are afraid to live their lives out and proud. Black men are feminized in the generation but you still have those who refuse to admit they also want a 6 figure man as well. It’s very scary nowadays.
Wow that is real weird that a doctor would laugh at a man who wants to be involved with a woman. So many Black people have lost their humanity even the professionals who are supposed to have more compassion and are healers. He is being honest and wants to commit to one person.
Idk, I’m always weary of people that proclaim that they don’t want to “live that life” anymore. It screams I’m running away from who I am. Be who you are.
Now lets be fair women do it tooo...how many women have been on the show saying they have 2 and 3 kids ...but NOW they looking for a WIFE .....but at one point you liked the D ...now after you have a few kids you want the Cat ...huh ???
No father? I grew up with my father, but I knew I liked girls in Elementary School because my heart raced whenever I got close to one I liked, and that had nothing to do with my father. He's trying to talk himself into something that his body doesn't prefer.
He was probably a very vulnerable child and a man must’ve took advantage of his vulnerability and turned him out. It happens a lot with fatherless young boys 😢
@@marketables That isn't true. Same sex and bisexual people report having had more sexual assault experiences in childhood, which suggests that those experiences that early on can affect development, which makes sense. Just because it doesn't affect everyone in the exact same way doesn't mean people aren't affected
I was with him until he said he still had an attraction for men, but doesn’t act on them. I can understand someone having an experience and realizing they prefer the opposite. Sir, you can suppress that attraction as much as you want…it’s either gonna make you crazy or you’re gonna act on it…eventually. Quoting scriptures won’t save you from that attraction.
No necessary because everyone have something that have to be suppress.. just like a man who's attractive to woman what do you do with that when you are in a relationship?
So if any woman Pursues him, please understand that the attraction is something that will never go away. He’ll always yearn for something you, the woman, can NOT PROVIDE.
These days these crazy women are strapping up with their dudes and the men thats considered a top in the gay world, women are giving up that ass just as fast as the pu**y 😂😂
It is hard for anyone to get past their partner having history with the same sex. It will always be in the back of your mind. Most women won't trust he will not go back from time to time. I don't like being pessimistic but I don't believe this dude is done. He has a lot a demons he has to work through.
@@Noise_floorxx the way he's fighting it is the way people fight demons. He obviously don't feel good about his attraction to men. That's what make it his demon.
S adly, you are 100% correct! Black men either want other men or non black women 😐 interesting to see what the world will look like in the next 50 years 👀
@@aliciareece636 Naw, it's not there yet. Though not growing up with fathers impacts men I'm a unique way. In order to turn this around we need to fix the fatherless issue
@@gp9677 lol you had to drag women into this under a video with a man talking about having been with men and now conveniently walking away from that when he wants children.
Actually what is disturbing and scary is not this man’s Transparency ...but ...there are probably men who had a history like this ...but never told the women and got married to them and they keep the secret forever! 🧐🤨😳😬🙄😖😐❤️⭐️🙏🏽🙏🏼
Someone taught him that being gay is wrong. Someone taught him that he’s gay because he didn’t have a father. If he thought that there was nothing wrong with being gay then I truly doubt that he would be looking for a woman.
It sounds like he’s suppressing his urges to be with men. He said he recently met his father a few years ago around the time he met the ex gf. He actively, “Works on” not being with men and talks about being with men as a negative thing and bad lifestyle. Being with men or women is whatever, but it’s clear suppression that women should realize if they were to be with him.
Pretty much. He talks about men the way most men talk about women. I find myself looking at most adult women that I'm not related to and resisting the urge to think about sex with them.
I thought he said he tries to abstain from having urges toward either sex while he was abstinent? And that he stays away from porn to not be sexually charged by EITHER sex while abstaining? He didn't say only men...
@@dollhouseq1530 You have to really follow his timeline and how he answered. I'm about to sound like Sherlock but ehh hahah So he alludes to being with men because his dad wasn't in his life. Then he says he met his dad 2020, Kendra asks him when the last time he was with a man. He skates around and says early 2021 then started dating the girl. Kendra then asks if he still has an attraction. THIS IS IMPORTANT. He says he doesn't act on the urge, doesn't watch porn, and doesn't go to bars. He is avoiding the temptation. Therefore he is suppressing his sexuality. He describes being with men in a shameful and harmful way. Something def happened when he met his father. This man is gay, but is trying his best to play straight. It's sad.
I like his honesty because he’s not lying about anything. It would be a lie to say he’s not attracted to men still. But just because he’ll find a man attractive don’t mean he’ll want a relationship. That’s even when your attracted to the opposite sex. You can find other people outside your relationships attractive but don’t mean you’ll break your devotion and love from your partner
Kinda... "lives in his truth" totally respect the transparency. 💯 However, he was very focused on working ovaries. The woman that has my child... it wasnt about finding the love of his life. Looking for a nice woman to coparent with.
Are you still attracted to men? “I don’t act on if I feel it but whatever wolf you feed is the one that grows the strongest. When I’m single, I work on not giving into my urges that will arouse that. I want to be in a place where I can use my sexual energy more responsibly and put it into one woman” Sir!!!!
I can understand completely where he's coming from. I can appreciate the honesty and How forthcoming he is about that lifestyle no longer being for him. I can respect that no judgment. 🙏🙏👍👍
But even heterosexual people are tempted and choose to remain faithful??? Why is it that because he’s attracted to men, he WILL give in when husbands and wives all over the place don’t give in?
I agree...if he doesn't rush to get with just any woman that will "accept" him and heal through any shame he may have, he'll make a good match for whoever he's with. Definitely seems to have a good heart.
Bruh, if you're attracted to both...just get a transexxual. Its Really That Simple. You can have the best of both worlds for you. No need to mess with women and hurt them when you feel the need and urge and attraction to men every now n then. Cmon now. TF
Though bisexuals are attracted to both genders, it doesn't mean that they are attracted to qualities of both genders within the SAME person. Most don't want anyone who tows the gender line. They are attracted to males who are unambiguously men & females who are unambiguously women. In simple terms, they'd don't want chicks with pricks; they want chicks with natural vajays. Likewise, they don't want men with vaginas or who've ever owned vaginas; they want men with natural phalluses.
I know plenty of guys who grew up without fathers who are definitely not attracted to men😂 and plenty of gay guys who grew up with fathers or their father were the sole parent raising them. Your sexuality ain’t got nothing to do with that.😅😂
I’m sorry, but how is “once a crackhead, always a crackhead.” and “Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic.” But these men think they can be in relationships with men and NOT be considered BISEXUAL???? Please go directly to hell.
I think his honesty is adorable and refreshing. His transparency he makes seem quite believable. I hope he gets a woman to match his energy. Best of luck to him. Great show Kendra!
Ask these switcher types if a man could have a baby would they want a woman because using a woman as an incubator is not okay. However, I applaud his honesty.
Well, we’ll be seeing soon since Scientists in Japan have turned male cells into female eggs, and created a baby in mice. Their goal is to try it with Humans next. I posted the story in my community tab. Smh.
@@lt6986 A man can not have a baby so he can say whatever he wants about not using a woman to procreate. It is what it is. He is a gay man who is trying to 'live right' because he's religious and feels shame about his sexual identity.
@@Spokentruths725 I’m not gonna say he’s confused, but I definitely think he needs to figure out which direction he wants to go in and most women are not interested in dating a man who has been involved romantically with another man sexually as well, so I do agree with you, but best of luck to him, but it’s just not for me. It’s a no for me.
Kendra I’m with you on that journalist question. Soon as he said that I thought the same thing But he seems like a good person. He’ll be good for a woman willing to look past him being with men.
why are people bashing him. He seem so genuine and lovely personality. Clearly he's been going to church and he's heard things and feel ashamed and want to correct it. Now I'll say this if he's only stopping his lust for men because of the bible he'll go back or hate himself for wanting a man. I just feel he needs to come to terms with who he is. Embrace who you are. If he truly feels that's not for him because he's not attracted to men then ok but if there's a struggle then he needs to not deal with a woman till he figures out who he really is and who he really wants. But energy wise he seems like a really genuine person. I wish him peace above everything else. ♥️
I knew in grammar school I liked the same sex. Never grew up with gay people or no gay people in my family. It's not a choice but at same time you feel guilty and ashamed because of society. And you wanna live the right way because that's how God intended us to be. He's just fighting that same fight I'm going through as well.
I believe him. . . eh not into men that likes / have liked men but I do hope he finds his lady. He seems genuine and he's trying to find his way. There's an innocence about him though. Whoever gets with him will have to get beyond him saying "girl.." with the limp wrist lol. Would love to see an update from him.
I dealt with someone who talked in their sleep... We had to break up. I like him, because he's honest i would befriend him. He works, he's respectful, he can communicate, he seems to hold his own. I'm considered masculine because my father is in my life, so sometimes men are jealous of that energy. Be cautious when dating a man who likes men, they do tend to want a man just like you. It like dealing with a jealous woman who's much stronger than you but admire you and want to mimic your characteristics. My question to men and women is " tell us, what made you like the same sex". Media? Touched as a child? Environment? Just needing love? Affection? Etc.
i don’t see the shock factor. he only admitted what lottsa men would never confess. cunnilingus is a skill that takes willingness, time & practice. at least he knows where he can improve
@@chelseakatsidzira7153 clearly… but that wasn’t my point. my point was i didn’t find his admission shocking… and i know a few dudes who’ve only been with females and STILL in the same boat as him (pun intended)
I would love to see how many women will hit him up with a sincere interest. So many women want men to be honest in this regard but how many sisters will truly give this brothas with a same-sex history a chance? Please do a follow up on him.
I do love his honesty. Not all are honest like this and have a family but sleep with men on the side. At least he is letting you know what you are up against and leave for you to decide.
I'm glad I took the time to listen. I think this guy would make a great husband to the woman who could understand and accept his past. He has most of the attributes women say they want - open, honest, pretty good communicator, tall, educated... ... ...
I appreciate your honesty. I pray you find that woman. Continue being honest and open with her. The key to what you said is continue with therapy. Get to know her, but most importantly continue to get to know yourself and how your past experiences have affected you.
These type of men need to live in their truth so women can live their best life. These men need to just be with men and stop trying to live a false life because it won't last
I respect his honesty and openness. He appears to have a lot of what these women come on here looking for. He’s tall, dark, handsome, says he is a good size. He’s articulate, he’s not afraid of therapy, believes in a higher power, open minded. If you can get past his past then some women out there may have a good man.
Agreed. I don’t know why sexuality is a bigger sin than anything else to people. He has chosen to leave that life behind. We can forgive thieves, gamblers, alcoholics, drug addicts but sexuality is a NOPE! Once you’ve done anything atypical sexually, you’re always seen atypical 🤦🏾♀️
Regardless of what's being said, there's plenty of women who will accept this man's past so stop the 🧢 ladies. Lol. But I do give him credit This couldn't have been easy to admit
He don't deserve a womb period. He should have admitted it, his being on the other side ain't the issue, it's he's not into women. Whoever gets with him is a beard.
I feel bad for the sistas that are put in a position where they could potentially be sexually active with these confused individuals. It’s a high risk lifestyle and puts a lot of sistas in a bad situation. Especially when these dudes ain’t straight up with these women that they are sexually active with.
