Healing After infidelity And Should You Stay Or Walk Away | Sandra Hart

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"Hi, everyone, welcome back to the channel. Today, we're going to talk about a subject that, unfortunately, many of us may have to face at some point in life: dealing with infidelity. This is such a sensitive and deeply painful issue, but it’s also an important one to address because so many people are navigating these difficult waters."
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@jcool4358 8 дней назад

Once you lose the trust in a relationship, in my opinion, it is never the same.

@usforsarah 7 дней назад

i think it needs a lot of work and effort from both sides to rebuild the relationship, if there's love from both sides it can be done.

@aquilinaciamacco2410 7 дней назад

Exactly. It's like trying to unscramble an egg. The damage is already done and irreversible.

@jeanettehigginbotham 7 дней назад

You can work through it if you both do the work, but it will never be magical... in my opinion. I have been through it. I decided that "good enough" was ok... for now.

@carladaniels7910 3 дня назад

Trust and love matters.

@VeronicaYoung-t7i 6 дней назад

Thank you so much for creating this video! Your insights on infidelity really touched my heart and helped me find clarity during a tough time. I’ll definitely keep following your work!

@thegatesofdawn...1386 6 дней назад

Amen. As I've said, two people in it to win it.

@Nara-fy5gj 8 дней назад

I love you

@lifewithsandrahart 7 дней назад

Love right back to you

@nanettebear295 8 дней назад

It is so awful to go through, but when you heal you realize, hey I am the lucky one to be rid of him.

@JL-lz4xu 8 дней назад

Yup, upon some deep reflection on my part, I figured out that I really didn’t trust him. So I would have been waiting for not ‘if’ but ‘when’ it happened again. There were a lot of tears but I am worthy of much better, even if I remain single. Reiki blessings to all here!

@barbaradieckmann9020 8 дней назад

Oh yes, it hurts at the beginning because being replaced by woman half my age did hurt my self esteem very much. Through therapy and self discovery I’m in the best place I’ve ever been.

@Mphscat 8 дней назад

Happened to me too! They are still together and that age gap for them and his health issues have been quite the challenge in their marriage. I've moved on.

@marybarratt2649 8 дней назад

Keep on keeping on. His loss, not yours.

@sassysandie2865 8 дней назад

I stayed until my kids were older. Usually if they cheat once they will do it again…and again….i ended up remarrying a good faithful guy in my early 40’s but it’s been a challenge with all the baggage that comes with re-marriage. The success rate for 2nd and 3rd marriages is low but here I am 30 years later.

@marciastewart1527 3 дня назад

Oh I hear you. I remarried too. It was better than my first but lots of baggage!

@davidpruiksma8014 8 дней назад

You are a treasure Sandra. ❤️

@kwihanganadavid8395 8 дней назад

Hello Sandra I'm David 27 years from Rwanda in Africa I was Waiting your new video , your advice is very helpful for all sides of ages. Wish you healthy

@kathryngarcia8800 8 дней назад

25 years ago, with 3 young children, my husband was unfaithful. I found it painful and humiliating. One thing I would advise young women, be careful who you share with because you are very vulnerable at that point. Hold your head high and look forward. We divorced and I talked with a therapist which helped immensely for healing my self worth issues.

@mariehaverty8209 8 дней назад

Agree 100% would say do this on any subject, awareness of this is key, unfortunately not everyone has it. This is an inside job, a road less travelled not for everyone. Well done young 👩 ❤

@patsy6589 8 дней назад

You said all this so delicately and I'm sure helped a lot of people. Most people feel that life cannot go on, but then later they say it's the best thing that could have happened to them. Hopefully because you've learned from this and found someone so much better to share your life with.

@betspath 8 дней назад

A friend I knew in West Va. had her husband leave her for a younger woman and a year later he begged her to take him back. She did, and they’ve had a very long marriage. Every situation is different.

@HarrisonWilliams-c2i 2 дня назад

@@betspath that’s what I’ve been trying to tell some people. You only realize the value of what you’ve lost after losing it and reflecting on it will make you want it even more.

@barbarabarr9195 8 дней назад

The betrayal I ended it and got divorced it's been about 29 year's. I also ended a relationship with a boyfriend. I've been single since I would say 1997/98. And I still have trust issue's . I'm 63. Love ❤️ your advice

@janicelloyd3215 8 дней назад

I spent some time and effort trying to repair the relationship, wasted time. Divorce was best feeling I ever had.

@schildca 8 дней назад

Run as fast as you can, heal and move on! Otherwise it's decades of 💩 they don't stop and 2nd guessing for decades is not worth it!

@tahsinislammahi7346 8 дней назад

I was worried about you as you hadn't uploaded a video in the last week. I am now glad that you are back! Take love,Mrs Hart ❤

@anniemathew8808 8 дней назад

Me too worried .

@lifewithsandrahart 7 дней назад

Thank you so much!

@aliciadorame9961 7 дней назад

I hope all is well.

@ld3507 8 дней назад

This is a tough one, and you covered it perfectly. I know some who say they forgive, but in their hearts...no. It ends up having two unhappy people when you aren't honest with your decision. You can love someone like crazy, yet, as you said, Sandra, sometimes it's just not meant to be. It's better to find out sooner than later. All of your points were exactly right. The one I feel is the most important is being honest and true to yourself. It truly is the most important relationship we'll ever have! Good to see you! Thank you for another much needed vid💞😘

@rokmin8550 8 дней назад

It hasn't happened to me but I would walk, no doubt about it and no second chances. I know it would be hard but I would do it without a doubt. Cheating is a planned activity, its not something that "just happens". In my opinion the person who gets caught is only sorry they got caught, period. Right or wrong that's my stance.

@truthboomertruthbomber5125 7 дней назад

Many years back I came up with a saying - “Don’t marry a project “. It applies to both sexes and all ages. . A few months back I came up with the second part - “Don’t be a project”.

@riverbilly64 6 часов назад

Great advice, all the way around.

@lionundue8959 8 дней назад

I wish i would have had those four questions years ago when i went through infidelity. It took me many years to truly move on. I had forgiven the first time that was my biggest mistake. He did it again 6 years later. Only then did i walk away broken and hurt. With time i healed and finally met the love of my life. Jen

@carolmartin7474 8 дней назад

Hi Sandra. Your very first statement brought me to tears. Thank you so much 😊

@laura.redfield 8 дней назад

Another amazing video, Ms. Sandra. ❤ I’ve never been a victim or perpetrator of infidelity, but I was present when my best friend in high school found out that his first serious girlfriend was cheating on him. He started sobbing and punched a concrete floor… breaking his hand/wrist/arm in several places. I will never forget that shocking moment and his pain in the months that followed. My heart goes out to anyone who has felt that betrayal.

@giiggii11 7 дней назад

I stayed, my husband and I went to counseling and although he came around 100% things were never really the same for me. It has been about 11 years but I realize many times I've grown colder. I do love him but I don't believe it is the same as it was before 😢

@jeanettehigginbotham 7 дней назад

I understand... you are never the same. I stay cautiously optimistic but the magic is gone.

@BlingyBea 6 дней назад

Same

@Karen-nq8du 5 дней назад

Thank you for saying this. It's been 10 months for me and I feel the same. I believe I've forgiven him thoroughly and I do love him, but I've wondered if I'd ever feel the same connection, interest and commitment to the relationship. So far, no. I'm going to stop trying so hard to find that. It feels sad to say it's "good enough" but I think it is. No magic is not the worst.

@jeanettehigginbotham 5 дней назад

@@Karen-nq8du I agree. I never thought I would say this, but good enough can be workable when you have invested 28 years in a relationship.

@Karen-nq8du 5 дней назад

@@jeanettehigginbotham Me either. A few years ago I probably would've said I was "settling". I hope it works out for both of us.

@susanmason3432 8 дней назад

Missed you last week Sandra. ❤ I’m 12 years post divorce and within the past three years have discovered being single works well for me. My former husband still lives with his girlfriend and the past few years has been sick (surgery from partial colon removal and prostrate cancer). Our children and I had 27 of his best years. The hurt doesn’t heal with time, you learn to live with it in the background. It’s important to remain open to trust again.

@barbaradieckmann9020 8 дней назад

My story is just like yours and I could write a book about the journey. I’m in a good place by myself and happy.

@ld3507 8 дней назад

Susan, your comment on how you got the best years of HIS life is brilliant! I love that!

@sassysandie2865 8 дней назад

He also had the best 27 years with you I would imagine. My ex got me in my best years.

@barbaradieckmann9020 8 дней назад

27 years must be a magic number for a long term marriage. Must be midlife crisis for the men who think they can but can’t keep up. Then comes the health issue for them that we don’t have to deal with!!!!

@christy7344 7 дней назад

Be careful. Enjoy your peace of mind & don’t take it for granted. #2 could be a whole lot worse than #1 speaking from experience. Thankfully I’m single with a happy & full life. No need to rock the boat

@ginatees3262 8 дней назад

I wish I had your insight and the very important four questions back in the day. Very sound advice.

@lifewithsandrahart 7 дней назад

We all learned by living, don’t we?

@bernadettealmeida2847 8 дней назад

You look wonderful Sandra thank you so much for sharing 💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏God bless you always

@lifewithsandrahart 7 дней назад

Thank you! You too!

@judyl3492 8 дней назад

Sandra. Thank you so very much. Had a good cry and needed it. You must be reading my mind. One never forgets but moves on and prays for a happy moment. Somewhere there is a glimmer of hope and happiness. Small steps.

@mariamachado3371 8 дней назад

Dear Sandra, this video said too much to me but I can’t tell my story because it is a book with so many pages😂. Now I can laugh. Thank you❤

@lifewithsandrahart 7 дней назад

I get it!

@marisejones6046 8 дней назад

Was so worried about you when you did not post last week . What a relief when I saw this post ❤

@anncarr6510 8 дней назад

Yes very hurtful! I finally divorced after 21 years of marriage-did remarry and I am very happy! Stayed until children were almost out of the nest - they knew it before me as he involved them! They still have a relationship with dad although there is still anger. Sometimes I wonder if it is guilt related. So many truths come out of the blue! Thank you Sandra.

@HarrisonWilliams-c2i 2 дня назад

@@anncarr6510 it’s good that you were able to remarry and you’re happy in the marriage. Most people lack the will to trust again or afraid of going into another relationship.

@earthdogpj1 8 дней назад

Important questions to answer with a calm head. So many of us have dealt with this betrayal, but the key that you mentioned is whether the betrayer is remorseful and doesn’t justify their infidelity by gaslighting us with making it our shortcomings that caused it. It can be quite complicated and messy. I say a separation is needed to gain clarity after such a shock. Important topic for women to think about as it is so prevalent and this includes porn addiction that is even more common that wreaks intimacy and trust

@HarrisonWilliams-c2i 2 дня назад

@@earthdogpj1 Like Sandra said if both the man and the woman are willing to make it work and if the offender is remorseful the victim is willing to forgive then they can make it work and can live happily ever after.

@jackiecullen1956 8 дней назад

I should have realised then, that he wasn't the type of man to truly commit. Thanks for pointing it out ❤

@tamathagilbert5816 8 дней назад

🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿Powerful insight, thoughtfully presented, and shared with grace, kindness, and wisdom:)... Appreciate all do Sandra:) ❤🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿 Your RU-vid Channel is wonderful Blessing:)...

@connieedwards1684 8 дней назад

You’re so comforting and wise. I went through this with my ex husband. So much pain but after a couple of years realized this was the best thing that could have happened. You can’t fit a square peg in a round hole. I’m so much happier now. 😊❤

@lifewithsandrahart 7 дней назад

Thanks for sharing!!

@ursulamullikin4723 8 дней назад

Good morning Sandra! nice to see you back, I needed to hear that years ago when I went through that, so this conversation is good for young people to hear we already been there and done that, have a wonderful day

@1cruiselvr656 8 дней назад

I don't believe in going back. It happened to me, I forgave and he did it as many times as he could get away with after even though he promised he wouldn't. I believe in the saying Once a cheater, always a cheater. I finally left. Best decision I made. He quickly remarried and cheated on her. He came home one day and found his things packed at the door. I don't think he's capable of being monogamous but is very good at pretending. He's on wife #4.

@luciatat4084 7 дней назад

The funny thing is that he did not understand marriage is not for him. He needs God first, a transformed life. Then he might be able to be a married man.

@BA-yo3vz 6 дней назад

For me it's deal breaker and it was a well known deal breaker from the get go (30 years of knowing this). Trust is 100% broken and if I wasn't worth it the first round why would I be on a second round. 12 years later and I haven't looked back. Not an easy road but necessary for my growth. Thanks Sandra for this platform of empathy and compassion.

@HarrisonWilliams-c2i 3 дня назад

Once bitten, twice shy. I understand what you mean I really do but there goes the saying that you really don't know the value of what you have until you've lost it, I'm sure that's the case of your ex. Walking away is never easy especially when you've come to invest your time and emotions. You're a strong person 😊

@angelajanelomax5540 8 дней назад

I've seen my whole life my father cheating on my mother. He had at least two other children with young women. She forgave him over and over. I have loved her forever. He manipulated everyone. Never wore a wedding ring. Says it all. She deserved better. She won't talk to me as I took him to court. You know he abused me. Thankyou Sandra ❤❤❤xxx 🐶🐾🐾

@beeu9841 8 дней назад

I believe in you

@angelajanelomax5540 7 дней назад

@beeu9841 Awe Thankyou, you have no idea what that means to me. ❤️❤️❤️

@lifewithsandrahart 7 дней назад

So sorry Angela. Stories like yours and your long-suffering mother are too common and heartbreaking. Thank you so much for sharing because it may help someone else who has walked in your shoes. I’m glad you took him to court. You did the right thing.💕💕💕

@angelajanelomax5540 6 дней назад

@lifewithsandrahart The guy that represented him in court was clever. He knew a big case was comming up before the public (including me) so to the jury it looked like I was jumping on the band wagon. Huge case of a much loved man in the Uk all over the news. And they kept delaying with no explanation. I was nieve, had I been aware I'd have delayed, waited for the news stop mentioning it all the time. That said it was a much talked about issue as he was on the Television for years doing programmes which involved children. Who wrote to him, even I did, you could be picked luckily I wasn't. Hindsight a wonderful thing, and knowledge as you grow older. Shame I didn't have the brain of a 50 year old me at 8. 🤔

@old-soul 3 дня назад

hugs to you 🤗❤

@Candy-ti3ge 8 дней назад

From the first video l saw to her l felt like she's my best friend how trying to advice me❤

@sylviaperkins3051 8 дней назад

You look fantastic Sandra. Thanks for sharing.words of the wise is sufficient!❤

@georgiafrye2815 8 дней назад

My ex wasn't happy and still isn't. When he left he said he want a divorce and also said separation. He didn't know what he wanted.He married the woman he left me for and they divorced. He remarried a fourth time. I was his second. He is a manic depressed alcoholic and refuses to see his children from his first marriage which is so sad.

@nellybaquiran1020 8 дней назад

Thank you Sandra. Beautiful and very informative. God bless !

@charlenewilliford6957 8 дней назад

Thank you for speaking on this topic. Biggest hurt for me was loss of innocence and trust. Did not feel like journaling when I found out. More ready to break something Be well and enjoy fall❤

@HarrisonWilliams-c2i 2 дня назад

@@charlenewilliford6957 Most people broken when they found themselves in such situations, most people tried getting even, most people just walk but remember communication is key.

@ElleIsForLiving 8 дней назад

It is very difficult and a personal decision with so many factors that vary from person to person. Good job of tackling a difficult topic Sandra. ♥ Elle

@lifewithsandrahart 7 дней назад

Thanks Elle!! Love Maggie’s new plush baby’!

@nicolahooppell4265 7 дней назад

Thank you so much I am recovering from this situation but its so painful ❤

@kaycee625 7 дней назад

Once the trust has gone, what is there?

@TheQueensWish 6 дней назад

Stone cold roommates, living the facade of a marriage, chipping in monthly on shared house bills. And that’s not enough.

@kaycee625 4 дня назад

@@TheQueensWishyou’ve described my marriage in one sentence

@juliefizpatrick513 8 дней назад

Hi Sandra:) Great advice with much thought to this situation. My story would be a book.. but I could never trust him again and divorced after 24 years. I stayed four years after the infidelity. We have remained friends for many, many years. I think the kids (now grown men) are happy we are -but understand why we parted. Hope you are doing well and praying for the hurricanes to stay away. I pray for God’s protection 🙏🤗🩷🙏

@Sameeabdalla123 8 дней назад

Hello, Aunty Sandra I’m kindly appreciating you for your fascinating advices. I can’t describe how I love you in words. Long life sending you love. 🫂🥹❤️❤️

@martna1 8 дней назад

That happened to me after 28 years, now 33, because I can't afford a divorce and he won't pay for 1. Noe I'm old and body is broken. Who wants someone who's been used up? He left me for a man and I just wanted to go to bed and let Jesus not wake me up. How does someone do something like that? I wish I had stayed in South Jersey.

@Anas-rx1he 8 дней назад

From a gay man myself, I must say your smile is absolutely gorgeous! You are not 'used up', you have years of wisdom, warmth and experience. Embark on a fitness journey (not as a diet) but to remind yourself how strong your body can be, and feel comfortable in your skin. Invest in your female friendships and build sisterhood you truly love and cherish. I am sending so many well wishes your way. Get a blank piece of paper and just let your mind dream. He may have left the marriage, but do not give him the satisfaction of breaking your spirit.

@maryabdel-malik656 8 дней назад

@@Anas-rx1heI agree do not let him break your spirit you are stronger than that Best wishes 🙏❤️

@lifewithsandrahart 7 дней назад

Anas advice is the best! He said it so well! You are worthy and don’t let your ex break you!!

@Anas-rx1he 6 дней назад

@@lifewithsandrahart Sandra I'm 26 & didn't really grow up with either of my grandmothers. Thank you for all you do. Wishing you nothing but good health & smiles ❤️

@nancygreen217 8 дней назад

Been there 2x’s which made me so angry at myself…how could I make this mistake again by marrying the same kind of man again with the same mental health …..bipolar. Sometimes controlled but often hard to stay on meds and be stable! You are so correct Sandra that you can have a happy life without him/her. Thanks for discussing❤️

@truthboomertruthbomber5125 7 дней назад

Many years ago I came up with a saying- Don’t marry a project.

@jessiemacleod-p3j 8 дней назад

Thank You so much. I’m so happy to see you..this is a poweful message. ❤️🙏

@dilekcamlab5219 8 дней назад

Again thank you for sharing your wisdom 🌷much love and many blessings to you💞🙏

@vickylee5579 8 дней назад

My high school boyfriend did this to me. We had dated though high school. It was like a cold slap in my face. I walked away. Thanks Sandra ❤

@anniekiong5046 3 дня назад

It's been 16 yrs and need to be mindful to accept the things that I cannot change and the courage to change the things that I can and the wisdom to know the difference. 🙏 Thank you for your input. Have a blessed week! 🙏😘

@vernasinclair2318 8 дней назад

This video really resonates with me. Thank you, Dear Sandra!💞👍

@susantaft6873 5 дней назад

I wasn't given the option to stay as my husband wanted to make his mistress his wife. After the divorce I realized how badly he had been treating me for years and my friends all said, "thank goodness he left - now you can have a happy life.!"

@anamariahurtado6972 8 дней назад

God Bless you Sandra, always happy to hear and see you ❤️❤️

@peggypowell678 8 дней назад

Hi Sandra. I hope this video helps someone that needs to walk away. You are so sweet and beautiful. I love watching your videos. Im sure you have inspired alot of people ( male & female). Looking forward to your next video. Stay safe and have a very happy blessed week.❤😊

@Himani-i8l 8 дней назад

You are so sweet😊

@lifewithsandrahart 7 дней назад

You are so kind

@carolsmith5345 8 дней назад

Thanks Sandra for ure words of wisdom. ❤

@011562ae 8 дней назад

Sandra, thank you for your wisdom. Good to see you ❤

@ninaeaston3083 8 дней назад

Thank you, Sandra, for an excellent message. Thankfully, I haven't experienced this but several friends have. Your message was spot on. That is total disrespect & I think it would be extremely difficult & not worth staying. As you said, it's ok to leave. And it's true...the most important relationship in your entire life is with yourself. Everyone deserves happiness. Don't settle is right!! Many women stay & wonder daily if he's continuing to be unfaithful. No one deserves to live like that. Life is short. Thank you for such an important message. I hope you & Mu-Shoo have a great week ahead!❤

@justinamusyoka4986 7 дней назад

Your words are full of wisdom.Women have suffered more than people can think others died in the transitioning process.

@sandraharding3698 8 дней назад

Miss you last week I get nervous when I don't see always hope you are well

@gab2758 8 дней назад

Hello, Sandra. Thank you very much for making this video. This is something I'm currently going through and isn't the first time. It is very difficult to navigate and overcome. It's wonderful to hear from a wiser generation who can offer advice on things I'm still learning about. I enjoyed this very much. ❤ Thanks again.

@lifewithsandrahart 7 дней назад

Glad it was helpful! Best of luck to you

@katc1985 7 дней назад

This couldn’t be more timely. I’m almost 3 yrs out from my betrayal, still in the process of rebuilding myself and starting therapy with a trauma informed therapist. Thank you for sharing your wisdom Sandra, this video has made me feel less alone

@madelinevegas8123 8 дней назад

It happened to me I just moved on with my life and learned from it. My husband did it it told me to divorce him and move on.

@richardcheatham9490 10 часов назад

What good would it do to "forgive" knowing you've compromised your fundamental self respect? Had it happen in my youth and reflect now at 77 on the wise decision I made all those decades ago. As Will's greatest character reflected -"To thine own SELF Be true."

@MaryEllenAfter60 4 дня назад

Excellent video, Sandra. I have a good friend whose husband cheated on her 30+ years ago. He walked the walk, and talked the talk, and made it work. It took about 5 years before she really trusted him. Blessings, love, and safety from the hurricane...MaryEllen

@jeanettesmith765 4 дня назад

I've been divorced for 33 years due to my husband's infidelity with my sister-in-law. I dated but just could not trust again. On the positive side, I got my degree and have had a great single life.

@HarrisonWilliams-c2i 3 дня назад

Sometimes we meet a few bad people before meeting the right one. And when we finally do meet the right one we'll know how to cherish that special one. You mustn't misjudge everyone because of your past experience, the person you're not giving a chance might be the special one beautifully made for you by so learn to trust again. I'm not saying you shouldn't be careful after all once bitten twice shy but learn to love cause we can truly be happy when we love and being loved in return.

@goldie51944 8 дней назад

Good morning Sandra Glad to see you again I was wondering what happened to you last week. I see another comment where a subscriber missed you last Sunday. Hope you weren’t feeling sick last week I am lucky I haven’t experienced infidelity. I did divorce years ago for other reasons. I’m sure your advice will help those in need. Your video was interesting though. You never know what life might bring. 💗

@beulahbenade4098 8 дней назад

Thank you so much. God bless xx

@Kirbygal55 6 дней назад

Hi Sandra. I am 69 and married at a very young age. My husband was a pathological liar and a constant cheater. Unfortunately we separated and he died at a very young age which was something that should never happen to anyone. I never spoke about the cruel treatment he gave me for over 45 years. I just held that pain inside all that time because I was taught never to speak ill of the dead. This caused me so many emotional problems and it is only now that I speak about it. My son does not know what his dad was like as I did not want him to know this about his father. I opened up finally to a friend a few weeks ago and although I was very careful about what I said, I did feel a certain amount of relief. I have decided to be open about it now. Thank you for this video. I needed to hear this. God bless you.

@goshdarnit 5 дней назад

Sending you 💓

@cindyhalpern3187 7 дней назад

The answer was no on all 4 questions. I left him 2 and a half years ago.

@Christine-j7b 8 дней назад

It takes work on both parts and forgiveness but it is not easy .

@kuzenler54dabaa63 8 дней назад

Hello I am hadeel 37years from turkey thanks for your advices. Love you so much 😘

@JudithSchoner 8 дней назад

How truly spoken, I can only agree from my own experience ❤.

@annmarie6732 8 дней назад

Thank you Sandra. Words of wisdom. I have found that time is needed as both sides have to heal first. Decisions need to be made from a balanced perspective. Egos must be put aside ❤

@angelakinney1999 5 дней назад

Nowadays it is difficult to find another mate especially because of the internet temptations, plus both spouses out in the work field as well. Theres always someone out there that wants what you have.

@HarrisonWilliams-c2i 3 дня назад

True but if you know what you have and cherish it you can overcome any obstacles and won't have fear of loosing it. Same goes to your partner too.

@riverbilly64 6 часов назад

“Is this relationship aligned with what you want in love?” Such a good question.

@HarleysMomIM 7 дней назад

Thank you Sandra! Another beautiful video of an important topic, sensitively done.

@LSTEdD1 6 дней назад

I give you credit for talking about this subject, Sandra. I am sure the video will help many.

@128titanic 8 дней назад

Hello, Sandra. Thank you so much.

@lifewithsandrahart 7 дней назад

You are so welcome

@marciastewart1527 3 дня назад

Oh yes, been thru it. I survived. I outlived him and I’ve outlived my 2nd husband too. So I’d say I’m a survivor. Don’t ever give up on yourself. Just pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again!

@maryalbert6138 8 дней назад

My husband after 18 years stepped out in our marriage. I did divorce him . And yes, we went to counseling fact was that I would be able to forgive him someday, but I just wouldn’t be able to forget and I couldn’t do that to myself on my children and yes, I did forgive him. I told him in person.

@ld3507 8 дней назад

Oh yes! Forgiving is tough, and for some, doable. But forgetting is a whole other thing! That's usually the defining issue. I'm happy for you! And I love that you said you and your kids got the BEST years of HIM. Most women say he got my best years. NO! NO! NO! If anyone is going through this I hope you read this brilliant way to look at it! Good for you!💞

@ld3507 8 дней назад

Mary I got carried away and responded in the latter part to Susan's comment. Yet it all applies! Just thought I'd mention it!

@maryalbert6138 8 дней назад

@@ld3507 Thank You. Many years later I met a wonderful man. He is the most kindness man to my special needs daughter she’s 31. My youngest daughter lived with us for a while after she got her degree in nursing. My husband also has two daughters that are just lovely. We are all very blessed.

@lifewithsandrahart 7 дней назад

Forgiveness is sometimes very difficult difficult but it’s extremely important for both of you

@leianu5166 6 дней назад

Everything you said is so true it takes two people to make a marriage work.❤️🌺

@justintindall9515 8 дней назад

You are hitting home with this won girl! I guess why I could tell you were my about beauty when I first started watching and listening. ❤

@IsabelPlaisant 8 дней назад

Thank you Sandra

@debiseeu1620 3 дня назад

It's easy to want to go, and you know it's time to go. If you have nothing to live on because you put yourself last and take care of everybody but your own livelihood, it's the worst knowing there's no way out.

@emilyvickery8081 4 дня назад

Forgave but moved on. Once the trust has been broken... and they've failed the children, too. The children did not need a toxic, negative, immoral person in their home environment.

@alishajones3439 6 дней назад

I could never stay !! I would never trust him again…

@HarrisonWilliams-c2i 3 дня назад

You sound like your experience is still fresh. Remember communication is key.

@kevindecoteau3186 8 дней назад

Truth.

@jihankurdish7259 3 дня назад

This video arrived at the perfect time for me 😢 thank uu mam you’re absolutely amazing ❤❤❤ i love u

@justintindall9515 8 дней назад

To me it was about family and giving our kids some semblance of stilbility.

@aquilinaciamacco2410 7 дней назад

Thank You, Sandra. I am sure this message will be helpful to so many. Having been divorced THREE TIMES due to infidelity, I can assure everyone watching that HEALING is possible and living your best life without a partner is better than staying with someone who cares so little for you that they would cheat. If you're not happy with someone then end the relationship and then go see if the "grass is greener" but don't do that while you're still in the relationship! It's very hurtful to the person who is staying faithful!

@4seasons546 5 дней назад

Off subject . But great hair style it’s similar to Marylyn Monroe! Very flattering ❤

@ronibradley234 8 дней назад

Having married a covert narcissist I know the immense ongoing pain. Of being married to someone who thought my friends, his husbands wives, were all just women he could help himself to. He makes messes he never cleans up. Disgusting ones. He happily eats a share platter to himself, believes he has right of way on all roads, the selfishness is staggering each and every day. Has never loved me, his children, his lovers, or felt remorse. It’s a cruel personality disorder that actually gets worse with time.