I understand but you can't stay there ..serenity prayer we can't fix everyone precious one but we can help our young ones we can help our self we can surround our self wth good energy we can't change the past or humans we can choose gratitude kindness and many good things .and in our living room my ma had poem children learn what they live . Bad childhood affect people different ..I was lucky my parents learned from it and Gained wisdom !
Not only depression and anxiety, but also personality disorders and mental illness. I was severely mentally abused by my parents and thru epigenetics turned out bipolar. My little brother is a narcissist, ss a response to trauma. I am 70 yrs old, with mental help for the last 50 yrs. You have helped me today with my codependence. I will look into your website. Thank you for your great help.
Thank you Carl for your calm, didactic and clear explanations. I learned that I am a codependent a couple of months ago and following your advice, I am reading and watching videos and learning as much as I can to understand how I feel. I also have a counsellor. What I have found is that codependency can be connected to narcissistic abuse and inner child need to heal as well. I will visit your page. Thanks again! Hugs!!
Carl, I and a fellow counselor developed what we thought was an innovative therapeutic methodology back in the 80s based on this same structure. However we avoided using what we felt was infantilizing terminology with adult clients. They are not getting "parented" and they are not "children". What we did was to apply psychodramatic schemas - adult in presentation - addressing the tasks that by interview and review of patient records, were not successfully completed during a pivotal earlier childhood developmental stage. For example, Issues of control and being able to say "no" were addressed in mild conflict and authority tableaus. We were shocked at how effective this proved to be. And how long lasting were the benefits. I recently found letters of commendation in my files while perusing this past endeavor (I am now retired ). Unfortunately I moved on and left the work we were doing. I do not know that my colleague continued the work, or started an experimental protocol. I wonder what your results have been, whether you've considered using so strong a technique as psychodrama, and whether you have made any attempt at documenting the efficacy or effictiveness. Thanks, Lawrence
Hi, Lawrence. It sounds like you were doing some great work and research. I am a therapist, not a researcher. I do base my approach on research, however. I am a mindfulness-based cognitive-behavioral therapist, and the work I do with clients is to help them become more aware of how their mind works so that can make better choices for themselves. I use a lot of metaphors to help clients understand complex parts of themselves in more manageable ways. It is not my only approach to helping clients, but it is one that seems to make sense to and benefit many clients. Thanks for your input!
@@Serenityonlinetherapy Thx. It looks like you have intuitively come across similar techniques using Erikson and CBT. Very impressive. I trust you have been rewarded by positive outcomes. My concern with my earlier efforts was that we were only seeing results based on selection and confirmation bias. Your above presentation makes me think that the techniques are really on to something fundamental and important.
Hi, Andrea. You are not a "failure." This is just what happened to you as a child. It is not your fault. However, it is your problem to solve. There is help available. You can get therapy and read books/watch videos about healing and reparenting your Wounded/Inner Child. It may help to go to a 12 Step program like Codependents Anonymous or Al-Anon (if you have been affected by someone's alcoholism). The key point is this: as a child you were powerless to change your circumstances and not mature enough to understand what was happening to you, but as an adult you have the power to heal and grow. Best wishes!
Andrea Mathis I get more out of Al-Anon than going to church, I feel safe because there is no cross talking allowed or gossiping; in fact, because I felt safe I became aware of my trust issues
Hi. You can begin by viewing the videos in my Inner Child Work Playlist. Here is the link: ru-vid.com/group/PL_wjG-62Kkus47LyeKJJjqEx_5KU5uy59. Best wishes!
I feel my life is a complete waste.. I couldn't complete the early stages...I'm in my thirtees now, cut contact with my abusive family...yes I'm often depressed and have a fear of intimacy, never had a relationship while others starting their families...I always felt like an outcast due to the consequences of the abuse at home, now it is continuing...
It sounds like life has let you down, so quite naturally you would be depressed due to the shame, hopelessness, isolation, and lack of purpose. One program that can help with all these things - and it's free - is Adult Children of Alcoholics AND Dysfunctional Families (ACA). It is available online and in many cities. Here is the link: adultchildren.org/meeting-search/. I wish you the best!
do you have a counselor in the Venice Florida area? I can afford 50 dollars a throw!!!! I am 63 years old and have not separated EMOTIONALLY from my mother who abandoned me to a terrible father at age 10!!! a guy named Rick belden does this type work but it's big bucks!!!! thanks take care!!!!
