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HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND | DR. KIM SAGE 

Dr. Kim Sage, Licensed Psychologist
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Please check out my courses (LINK ABOVE):
1. BORDERLINE AND NARCISSISTIC PARENTS: HEALING AND DEALING WITH YOUR TRAUMA
(*This course is designed specifically for you if you were raised by parents who had Narcissistic, Borderline or significantly Emotionally Immature parents.)
2. RE-MOTHERED: TRANSFORM YOUR WOUNDED INNER CHILD INTO AN INTERNALIZED, LOVING "MOTHER"
(***This course is designed to help you learn to heal your inner child AND your inner parent if you experienced a complicated childhood or challenging relational wounds).
3. IDENTIFYING CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL ABUSE AND NEGLECT (FREE COURSE)
CHECKLIST IS INCLUDED IN ALL 3 COURSES!!**
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* Additionally, I am only able to work with California residents for weekly therapy once available. If you are interested, please also add in a few brief details in your email including your reasons for seeking treatment, current diagnoses, concerns, etc.

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@wandalester8624
@wandalester8624 Год назад
I spent 24 hours with this woman "Elinor" l was four years old. She was my first foster mother. She gave me the only hug with love and security as a child as she tucked me in bed that night. The next day she took me to what I thought was a store, it was a brick building. I saw no door or window. When we pulled in, she got out of the car and came around and opened my door. I got out, it was cold out, l remember snow on the ground. She came up to me and opened her coat and wrapped me in it. I am still in Elinors coat emotionally. I told a counselor that we never got back in her car and we didn't go into the brick building. I am 71 years old now, but l'm still inside Elinor's coat. My parents were broken adult children having children. When the court took us away for good, l was fourteen. I was third out of ten. I have C-PTSD, but l believe without that hug and her black coat wrapped around me, l would not have survived childhood much less adulthood.
@clairejahnke5024
@clairejahnke5024 Год назад
Been there-when I was 16 a psychiatrist told me I had lived the life of a 65 yr old person-Jesus does wonders! He will wrap you in His coat.
@taniapylypiv3323
@taniapylypiv3323 Год назад
@wandalester8624
@wandalester8624 Год назад
@@clairejahnke5024 Yes He did!!! Thank you for sharing your testimony!!!
@marygavin3203
@marygavin3203 Год назад
That's so beautiful. I hope you always have a wrapped coat feeling...
@wandalester8624
@wandalester8624 Год назад
@@marygavin3203 Thank you, l have been wrapped in "Elinor coat" for 68 years now. God bless you, Mary Gavin!
@johnroberts7959
@johnroberts7959 Год назад
Religious fanaticism was my personal hell as a kid. That's a tough one to work out of.
@stepbrown2000
@stepbrown2000 4 месяца назад
I’m so sorry to hear that! I’m just at the place in my life where I expect my mother to be present and having new experiences. She’s just been the type of adult parent that expects you to visit her and she never comes to visit. At this point I can no longer be apart of a one sided relationship.
@jds0981
@jds0981 Год назад
Thank you so much! This is an affirmation that I'm on the right track. Between yoga, Internal Family System work, somatic exercises, meditation, being in nature, investing in healthy relationships, and journaling (yes, I need all that and I'm not ashamed) I'm thriving while still dealing with the debris of my childhood and my present relationships. It's an on-going worthwhile journey.
@madeleinegrayson8372
@madeleinegrayson8372 Год назад
Not only should you not be ashamed, those are some of the best tools for healing and it's great to keep sharing that so more people do the same. Hypnotherapy has been great for me as well as the things you mentioned. But breath work and yoga, priceless. I have done yoga for 35 years, and taught for 20, and love it all, but for deep healing Kundalini yoga is my most powerful ally. ❤
@linata6112
@linata6112 11 месяцев назад
Well done you! I’m also learning to not feel shame for all the self-care/ self-healing I need.
@pay7183
@pay7183 11 месяцев назад
Girl! I’m on almost the exact same journey right now! Part work, somatic exercises, meditations, journaling etc. have you heard of Dr. Gabor Maté’s compassion inquiry?
@jds0981
@jds0981 11 месяцев назад
@@pay7183 Yes! I love him and Peter Levine.
@kaylees1072
@kaylees1072 7 месяцев назад
We all need all of that. I hate that people try to shame us for saying we need more to heal. My family's favorite one is you are not trusting God enough. What they are really saying is we don't want you talking about all the stuff you need healing from because of them.
@lailanitukuafu
@lailanitukuafu 6 месяцев назад
Through watching these videos in the past few days, I've learned it's likely that I have CPTSD. I'm discovering that my trauma responses and dysfunctional beliefs are so impossibly ingrained into who I am. I don't even know where to start. As soon as I try to think anything contrary to these belief systems, everything in me destroys the thought before it can finish. As much as I despise asking for help and practicing self-care, this is probably too big and intense for me to handle on my own. If I have the spoons for it tonight, I'll try to get in touch with a therapist. If not, I'll see what I can do in the next couple of days. Wish me luck
@kimberlyeyler1031
@kimberlyeyler1031 Год назад
I’m so intrigued with how right on you are dr Kim. I am the person that internalizes everything I’m told. I always look up to my mother. It’s very hard to feel like I don’t matter to her. My sister younger than me gets the texts phone calls from my mother, not me. I am the black sheep, the failure, the daughter who she never probably wanted. So, in response to the thing I am choosing to work on this week for healing is setting new boundaries of a no contact because it’s very toxic every time she chooses to write me back usually only once every six months. I need time to feel worth something again without her input of feeling yuk inside. I think also a journal couldn’t hurt to write my feelings down when I feel something. To validate myself. Thank you.
@lillygandar844
@lillygandar844 Год назад
good for you, you are so loved and worthy. you dont need anyones validation but your own.
@lottytaylor572
@lottytaylor572 Год назад
My mother was damaged by her mother & she passed that damage on to me, unknowingly i believe, she passed over last year, i cared for her in the last couple of years & i did finally get admittance & apology’s, its hard in many ways but emotionally im improving in leaps, i think because i dont have the constant feeling of disapproval tapping on my shoulder, im 60 soon so I write this to give hope to those still suffering under a damaged mothers love. Stay strong, you are beautiful in every way & deserve all the happiness life has to offer my friends 🙏🏻❤
@persianprincess90
@persianprincess90 9 месяцев назад
Thank you so much for writing this. It touches my soul. 🙏🤍
@Zelicious11
@Zelicious11 Год назад
I love my mom so much. She had such a limited belief from her mother and then she was hurt for so long when she divorce from my dad. I dnt think she ever really healed. Now that I am older I see why I am the way I am in a lot of ways. I’ve worked hard to break cycles and go beyond those limited beliefs. There is still so much to unpack! Thank you for this
@iliaderojorosso408
@iliaderojorosso408 Год назад
Lately I've been working on giving myself the space to feel emotions inside and outside. There was a very touching moment when i reconnected with my inner child and she told me that she was scared of showing emorions because of the repercussions (this comes straight from when i was yelled at or mocked by my parents when i cried or was in anger when i was a child). I told her that my love for her was unconditional and there was always space for her and her emotions and from now on she would not have to shrink anymore cause i would build a safe space for us. I particularly have an hard time with anger, since it was the most policed in my childhood. But it's such an amazing tool to set my boundaries and stand up for oneself. So even if i don't know how to regulate it properly, I'm giving myself the space to feel my anger and let it out. And more importantly (bit this is super hard) to not feel ashamed about letting it out, or guilty for some reason. I catched myself policing myself intead of my parents and respinding to my showing of anger in the same way. I'm trying to stop policing myself and my inner kid (and my inner teenager). Thanks so much dor your videos, they are being such a big help for me . ❤
@iliaderojorosso408
@iliaderojorosso408 Год назад
I must say: It's peculiar to be a transitioned trans man and deal with an inner child that is a little blonde blue eyed curly haired 4 year old girl (like i was) 😅. Not dissonant, i actually feel like i can really work as an adult on my inner child better. (My teen is a tomboy 14 year old with no gender already) Anyone else with the same experience?
@blackgirlemonight
@blackgirlemonight 20 дней назад
as listening to this video i heard you speak about exactly what’s happened in my life and how i function now and i just cried. i wasn’t crying for me today, i was crying for younger me. she didn’t deserve any of it and she deserved to be loved unconditionally and taught how to live with no fear or shame. thank you for seeing us
@lizwilldoit
@lizwilldoit Год назад
Also, single moms may have a "style" that simply reflects the circumstances she finds herself in, her behavior may be the result of exhaustion and lack of resources, not a style or mental health issue.
@dancefitcasey9896
@dancefitcasey9896 5 месяцев назад
So incredibly helpful for me today. Thank you for creating this video!
@miuthub7954
@miuthub7954 5 месяцев назад
Wow so many parts to healing. Thank you for setting it out so clearly, it does take a lot of effort. One thing I'll do is rewatch this clip and write out the framework to look at. I'll try not to beat myself up when i go into freeze or fight. The invalidating environment is the big one for me to get through.
@dieresis9
@dieresis9 Год назад
I plan to use a 3-minute meditation app that I have more regularly. It has a section to reflect on a strong emotion that I felt that day, which often gives me a clue about some habit or belief I hold that isn’t working well, or that opens a wound, e.g., something in a person’s tone that made me feel angry when I recalled what we said, because there seemed something dismissive about it. Not sensing that immediately was what made me feel angry at myself later. As a child I had to keep under the radar and so learned to suppress my emotions. I’m getting better at sensing in the moment, but still have trouble when the response would require confrontation.
@KimberleyJP
@KimberleyJP Год назад
I decided to ask my parents for help this week knowing it was a long shot... It was a total joke of a conversation 😂 One of the things my covert/social narcissist mother said to me, was "I think you might over intellectualise..." I was stumped. These are people that have spent a life time telling me I'm overly emotional and too sensitive, but also, 'you are too smart for your own good!' It was hilarious to see my mother try and gaslight me by saying this (based on the fact I'm highly educated and an ASD special interest SME in intergenerational trauma.) Clearly trying to get an emotional reaction from me, seeing as that it is much easier to validate and dismiss my perspective and experiences when I'm being emotional and appealing to (non existant) empathy from them! I'm now so used to people being intimidated by either my emotional capacity or my gifted intelligence, which depends on their own lens and which is more triggering for them at the time... I felt like saying, "oh! You think I'm avoiding my feelings, by over reliance on fact and reason!? Interesting!..." 😂 You just can't win with a narcissist mother and codependant borderline father... 😢
@blueskygal255
@blueskygal255 Год назад
God Bless u Kimberly.
@BlueRidgeBubble
@BlueRidgeBubble Год назад
I think you caught a bit of the ol narcissism yourself Eeesh
@jennykelter9518
@jennykelter9518 Год назад
@@BlueRidgeBubble narcissism is not confidence. Huge difference.
@kajolsharma8840
@kajolsharma8840 Год назад
Hi Kimberley. I am from India. I just want to say that I could really relate with your comment. I have been surrounded by family members and people who get overwhelmed by my emotional intelligence, sensitive demeanour and articulation. It's like a huge paradox of my being, I am good at my work, have been good in studies too, but the traits that make me excellent at my job, make people around me uncomfortable. Whenever I try to share something which my mother, she dismisses it by saying that I am overthinking and need to learn to let go in order to lead a peaceful life. This is the reason why I sometimes feel confused and debased and don't know whether to be cognizant of my emotions or ignore them as musings of my mind.
@lucilaspannaus
@lucilaspannaus 9 месяцев назад
I completely relate. Damn, the "over-intellectualizing" accusation is ridiculous. It's exhausting fucking explaining yourself and the very well-thought out conclusions for them to be rejected or dismissed.
@time2bherenow
@time2bherenow Год назад
Thank you for your videos. They are helping me immensely & I’m sending some of them to my grown children in hopes of mending their broken childhoods as well. Bless you & yours.
@heartshapedboxx66
@heartshapedboxx66 2 месяца назад
What’s crazy is how much work we have to do ontop of the work we already have to do just existing as humans. I’m tired.
@lesleyhadrill3207
@lesleyhadrill3207 8 месяцев назад
I’m inspired to resume my journaling and look more closely at the connection between my childhood relationships and my adult relationship patterns.
@thecrapartistx
@thecrapartistx Год назад
I am 48 years old and i can't even think about what my mother did to me without being full of rage.. I keep trying to write to her and I can't.. it's so much so evil and so sick..
@IloveTheHolyOne
@IloveTheHolyOne Год назад
This series was extremely helpful. Thank you 🙏🏼
@agasza3
@agasza3 Год назад
It's a lot of information about the problem. Thank you very much. I was struggling a bit with a speed of talk, maybe it was on purpose to put as much as possible information in a short videa, but I had problem to catch everything.
@jazzsterelli
@jazzsterelli 6 месяцев назад
Put playback speed slower
@Baely_with_a_m
@Baely_with_a_m Год назад
When my mother crosses a boundary I tend to feel obligated to sugar coat my hurt feelings or dismiss them in fear that expressing my own feelings would hurt her. When she redirects her actions with excuses and gaslights you saying I couldn’t tell you then because you were xyz … making herself the victim and reinforcing me to feel like I need to protect her from my truth. This behavior still hurts and is keeping me small. When this happens I will use “I” statements and set CLEAR boundaries based off of how certain behavior like this makes me feel. Constant reassurance that I am worthy and a supportive wife will help me see through the bullshit sorry’s and take more responsibility in what I am allowing in my life.
@tatjanakecman7236
@tatjanakecman7236 Год назад
I want to be fully aware of what I believe about myself.
@leobeaupre858
@leobeaupre858 Год назад
More Compassion ❤️ towards me, ThankYou Kim, your delightful to listen to, Very thoroughly done, so that I think I'm starting to understand ,they truly are doing the best they know to do..
@Deranged-Lemonade-Stand
@Deranged-Lemonade-Stand Год назад
People like my mom around the community, however, was Hell growing up. And then people find that as just.
@teddyruxbin9300
@teddyruxbin9300 Год назад
I just discovered your videos today and I cannot wait to view more. You really have me hooked thinking and reflecting on my childhood in a new light which I never thought was possible because I thought I exhausted myself with these thoughts. I wonder though what think what happens to a child when they lose their mother at a young age and the father is almost non present after?
@blueskygal255
@blueskygal255 Год назад
Thx so much dr Kim! Much appreciated and its funny I was just thinking of going back into therapy to cope with new relationship in my life. This must be heaven sent 😊
@Sworldpeas
@Sworldpeas 7 месяцев назад
I don't care what my female parent's problem is. She ruined my life. From giving me drugs at 3 years to committing suicide twice in front of me before 6 to burning down the house at 5, sexually abusing me at 10, disowning me at 19, I'm 58 and it hasn't stopped. I found safety in no-contact until I found out she has been stalking me and I'm gutted. I can't get away from her no matter what I do, she has made it VERY clear she will NOT give it up. I threatened her with a restraining order and she laughed and said THAT WONT STOP ME. At this point it's either HER or ME and I'm not winning this battle...
@trafik-ii4ki
@trafik-ii4ki Год назад
Thank you for your generosity to share your knowledge 🙏❤️
@VriEvolutionTarot888
@VriEvolutionTarot888 7 месяцев назад
0:40 1:57 3:25 5:40 6:15 8:40 9:40 nervous system regulation 12:30 14:20 armour 😢
@persianprincess90
@persianprincess90 9 месяцев назад
Thank you so much Dr Kim. 🤗🤍
@BeautifulSoulgurl
@BeautifulSoulgurl Год назад
Yes I am working on healing from mother issues. I know its bad to say for some but I am glad my mom is dead now My elementary secretary saw her beat me in front yard called DFS I lied for her though So yep Thank you for this
@msmonet84
@msmonet84 Год назад
Gratitude!!!
@billydiaz7280
@billydiaz7280 Год назад
I'm having trouble with my aging mom. I feel so guilty like I'm not doing anything but actually I'm doing it all. This woman smoked marijuana with me before school in the morning and discouraged me from college. I'm smart. I'm going to try and notice when I'm worried about what she thinks of me. I'm going to start there. Just noticing when I worry about her judgement
@noOnionswithoutTears
@noOnionswithoutTears Год назад
Today, I will write a page. I can do that.
@tinypea
@tinypea 7 месяцев назад
I have finally manifested getting out of the matrix so I'm off the hamster wheel of paying bills and lights and all however the guy I hired to keep my lawn at the house I moved from offered me to crash at a place he is renting😮. I refuse to let him use my body ao I set boundaries and 😮 it's not gunna work I'm exited about getting on the road
@jonnyaesthetic
@jonnyaesthetic Год назад
Thank you
@bonniedunbar6717
@bonniedunbar6717 11 месяцев назад
Hi, you guys must be out for the day. Andrew, I've been trying to talk with you for 6 hours for some advice about something happening in my life but not sure if you went to the beach or you both decided to hang out at your place for the day. I know that can turn nto a little fun fest so I won't take anymore of your time. Whatever, no big deal. I did check to see if you were by the flower earlier. Not a hoover but you both must have been in a hurry to leave and get on the road. Can't blame you. Anyway, see you around sometime I guess. 💯💯
@mysticlisa369
@mysticlisa369 Год назад
Getting into a better meditation practice
@dawnmarie09
@dawnmarie09 Год назад
How do we figure out what item we have? I have spent years in and out of counseling and never was told what is wrong with me. I would love to get some guidance finally and understand myself so I know what direction to go! I would give anything to figure it out. I am 57 and have had so many different things go on in my life. All negative! From being abandoned by Dad as a child to then being sexually abused by my mothers father. To a mother that hated me. Grew up to loose a child at birth. Then being in an abusive marriage then he passed. Now I have 2 children that have walked away from me. I’m now alone in a different State. Please please guide me to figure out what is wrong with me.
@lillygandar844
@lillygandar844 Год назад
hey just checking on you. are you ok ?
@dawnmarie09
@dawnmarie09 Год назад
@@lillygandar844 thank you so much! I am okay just need guidance. I’m really in need of guidance. Very confused and want to know how to fix me! I’m obviously very messed up and don’t know which way to turn. I do my best everyday to try but find I am just a people pleaser so that no one else leaves me. I know that’s no correct but unsure what to do about it. I’m alone because I fear putting anyone else in until I fix me.
@juliebaxter435
@juliebaxter435 Год назад
Hi, while reading through the posts, yours moved me. I guess it was your cry for help, feeling the frustration. I understand and can tell you that your self awareness and acknowledgement of what you've gone through is already a huge step in the right direction as many people try to push it all away using various coping mechanisms. Did you go to a therapist specialized in childhood trauma? That's important because from what you explained you have childhood trauma with a big T. It's important to see someone who specializes in this. Also, in addition to Dr. Kim there are many good sources of information on line, therapists and people who have been through the same or similar who have healed and dedicated their lives to helping others. They have books, podcasts on line communities, etc... Do you have someone in your immediate environment who you can talk to, who understands what you've gone through and how it's affected you? That would help a lot I think. I'm sorry you went through this and I see you. Wishing you the best. Take good care of you, you deserve the very best!
@dawnmarie09
@dawnmarie09 Год назад
@@juliebaxter435 Thank you so very much for your reply. I do not have someone in my immediate environment! Because I have had a lot of losses and estrangement I have learned to keep things to myself. I have had so much that others sometimes will think that all of that didn't happen to one person. I actually have had that cause negativity in my life. Hence the reason I want professional help. I imagine I had no so good people in my circle. I want to fix myself in the worst way so that I may build and change the future with my own children. I love them with my whole heart but I do not think they believe that. My mother is still alive and tells my children that I am a bad person. I thank you for all of your guidance!
@rosemarieramsingh8749
@rosemarieramsingh8749 Год назад
Hi, great stuff. CAn I ask do you see this pattern for unmarried people going to work for environments that replicate the dysfunctional childhood? Thank you!❤
@rebeccahigham4173
@rebeccahigham4173 Год назад
For as long as I can remember my Mum hated me and I hated her right back.
@lizwilldoit
@lizwilldoit Год назад
Dear Dr Kim, I don't doubt that what you're saying is mostly true, but what about generational trauma? When you can't find a good relationship because everyone in your age group is socialized in a way that places men over women, your role as a woman is static. If you refuse to stay where these things are happening, you can grow and heal but still not find the love you crave because most men over the age of 60 simply want servants, not partners.
@imah6249
@imah6249 Год назад
I love your reaction. Most mother also where traumatisch by the war, mine anyway, and now a days by life ... l traumatisch my kids 😢 and what they do to me is my own responsibility. This is one of my convictions I am working on, any way.
@larsbitsch-larsen6988
@larsbitsch-larsen6988 Год назад
Great
@vasantipunchoo3699
@vasantipunchoo3699 Год назад
There are so many mothers who suffer like anything and it goes unacknowledged
@madeleinegrayson8372
@madeleinegrayson8372 Год назад
Oh please, mothers get tons of sympathy and support. Whenever someone mentions an abusive or neglectful mother, people rush to judgment and take the mothers side 99% of the time.
@SWNelson7
@SWNelson7 Год назад
"Affirm everyone, no matter what." -Satan.
@usaintltrade
@usaintltrade Год назад
🌹
@Banksia-Blue000
@Banksia-Blue000 Год назад
🙏🏻🙌🏻❤️
@kellychuba
@kellychuba 7 месяцев назад
Your moms did the best they could in this terrible society. Forgive and let go.
@michelledotell4572
@michelledotell4572 Год назад
My mom is dead so problem solved 😏
@madeleinegrayson8372
@madeleinegrayson8372 Год назад
Not necessarily. A wound doesn't magically heal when someone dies.
@cami0076
@cami0076 Год назад
u speak too fast, its hard to comprehend even if english is first language
@memyself4431
@memyself4431 Год назад
There is a difference in being hurt by a parent as a kid but for it to continue and get worse as an adult is a whole other hurt
@PerrySkyePhoenix
@PerrySkyePhoenix Год назад
Yep!
@marygavin3203
@marygavin3203 Год назад
So true..
@barefootjamie143
@barefootjamie143 7 месяцев назад
Absolutely 💯
@stepbrown2000
@stepbrown2000 4 месяца назад
That’s exactly what has brought me here. I feel it’s worse as an adult.
@memyself4431
@memyself4431 4 месяца назад
@@stepbrown2000 hi I wrote this a year ago since then I lost my dad to colon cancer and after not seeing my mom for about 6 years I have reconciled! My mindset is this: we can’t pick our parents and they are who they are! I took on that mindset to accept my mom for who she is and I find myself “ok” with that decision! I still have a hard time with accepting my dad passed away 6 months ago :( love the parents you have
@angelaachee7933
@angelaachee7933 Год назад
I’ve been no contact since before the pandemic. It’s crushing to be around someone that loves/hates you. Mostly hate in my case. Incredibly, she was a NP that specialized in mental health. Talk about confusing! She gave me “advice” and “treatment”. I have prayed for death and wished for it (hers and mine). Recently found a new definition for forgiveness. 1. I will not harm you. 2. I will not wish harm on you 3. I will not let you harm me 💕✨🌟✨💕
@lorrainetaylor8570
@lorrainetaylor8570 Год назад
💗💗💗💗🦋🌈🦋🌈🦋💗💗💗💗
@michele0324
@michele0324 Год назад
"I have prayed for death and wished for it (hers and mine)." Thank you for saying the words that many survivors think but don't have the courage to say "out loud" because guilt and shame keep us silenced. I feel for you and can relate. ❤
@jds0981
@jds0981 Год назад
I love this definition of forgiveness. Thank you for sharing.
@thirstonhowellthebird
@thirstonhowellthebird Год назад
Oddly so NP’s and many disordered people especially narcissists and sociopaths end up in the medical field where they can wield power over those in a weakened state. It’s all they crave. Power, subjugation from others and massive control. The longer you stay nc the more your mental health will improve. You’ll become stronger and be able to see how truly evil these people are. Cain and Abel, Joseph and his brothers. Forget the blood relationship and look at the behavior. It’s demonic. You’re a bright light and that light highlights their evil dysfunction and enrages them. We unwittingly unintentionally point out their evil right to their faces by just being our kind empathic selves. They must destroy you in order to not see who they truly are. Your empathy highlights their lack. If one is a successful beautiful movie star for example and the envious are slovenly and don’t know God, they will despise you. It’s rooted in envy. Stay strong you beautiful soul. You are here to heal, help others heal. Start a channel or write a book. The word on this evil must be spread in order to educate and bring awareness so people can put on the armor of God and not let the daggers hit their intended target.
@monabarber2335
@monabarber2335 Год назад
Angela I know exactly how You feel ! It’s mind blowing that the Person that brought you into this World could hate You ! I was perfect as a child and happy and She hated the light that is in Me ! She’s 85 and still as Evil as ever ! She hates the fact that I’m so happy despite Her trying to destroy Me My whole life ! She is Demon Possessed, I can feel the Demons and I see Her change ! She’s got a Jezebel Spirit 👺I moved out of State and closed on a New Home last Summer, I text Her a couple times a week and that’s it! It will be such a relief to Me when She dies !
@An-ux2fq
@An-ux2fq Год назад
I simply try to relax. No longer working all the time or pleasing others. Self care! A walk in nature, sitting in the sun with a cup of tea and a book…. I have so much tension in my body and it needs to be released.
@madeleinegrayson8372
@madeleinegrayson8372 Год назад
Sitting in nature with sunshine, a cuppa and a book sounds like heaven! ❤
@s1.munyun
@s1.munyun 9 месяцев назад
struggling because still living at home with her. so hard to heal from someone you have around you 24/7 buzzing and snapping on you constantly. its just a lot.
@PassionateFlower
@PassionateFlower 3 месяца назад
1. Get health insurance if you do not have any currently either through the state or county or your work. 2. Find a source of income independent of her control, no matter how small, find some way of generating revenue if you aren't able to get a traditional job and try to save what you can. 3. Join a support group and attend weekly. 4. Find ways to entertain yourself that you don't depend on her for. 5. Find inexpensive hobbies to do alone and find people you can share a mutual hobby with inexpensively. 6. Save up for your own place or save up for transportation or save up for a lifestyle that gets you out of the house and away from her for longer and longer periods of time that you get some enjoyment out of 7. Find people to socialize with (having more money gives you the gift of discernment, you can find higher quality friends with more particular interests that you resonate with when you have the financial freedom to seek out the right friends group. I'm not saying to buy people's loyalty. I'm saying having more money gives you more flexibility to be choosier with who you want to be friends with. Beggars can't be choosers when it cones to a social life. You don't ha e to be rolling in the dough buying out the bar to impress shallow social climbing socialites. But when you have money for a phone, internet, a car, access to plane travel, etc. You can find considerably higher quality friendships than just Timmy the stoner who lives down the street or Janet the single mom who has a kid and a dead beat baby daddy and she still smokes cigarettes but she lives next to your neighborhood grocery store and you used to be part of a club together 10 years ago.
@nancybartley4610
@nancybartley4610 Год назад
Childhood was where our faulty foundation was build but we didn't know it as kids. We couldn't. Adulthood is when we begin to realize something was/is really wrong in us and our relationships with others, especially our families. A house can't stand against the stresses of the environment (life) for very long without a solid foundation. Very few therapists understand this and know how to guide, support, educate a client through this so that a solid foundation can be build. Therapists that do understand childhood trauma waste the patients time because they don't tell patients the truth. RU-vid therapists tell us the truth. We can read the comments of others in similar situations that confirm the truth that therapists like Dr. Sage are sharing. I do believe learning the truth is necessary to begin healing, but I do not know how full healing finally occurs. Has anyone an answer?
@aml8760
@aml8760 Год назад
Inner child healing, reparenting, knowing what healthy relationships look like, boundaries, emotional regulation can help you on your path. Its not easy to heal from. And it is a life long process..
@nancybartley4610
@nancybartley4610 Год назад
@@aml8760 thanks
@TreasureC00
@TreasureC00 Год назад
Wow very great thoughts! I agree with you on many of them. I can say healing starts with you recognizing and honestly wanting change. Then baby steps moving forward. It really is lifelong because there's always something new to discover. Its like shedding layers.
@frv6610
@frv6610 Год назад
Maybe it can help to not view your parent as your superior anymore but, depending on the case, as an idiot or something?
@hanaezra9452
@hanaezra9452 8 месяцев назад
Energetic healing. Clearing stuck energy, purifying the stagnant energy through forgiveness, acceptance, through light and love.
@PerrySkyePhoenix
@PerrySkyePhoenix Год назад
For years I've made excuses for my abusive mother. I won't do it anymore. She takes "0" accountability for anything. She doesn't apologize, and I "deserved " all of the abuse that I got. After a lifetime of trying to have a relationship with my mother... I give up. I've gone no contact with her (again) this year. Hopefully it sticks.
@madeleinegrayson8372
@madeleinegrayson8372 Год назад
It's never as easy as it should be, or as you hope. I realized recently that I have never once in my life heard anyone in my family say they were sorry or apologize for anything. Not one person, not once. That's bonkers. It's like that family is emotionally stunted. My grandfather was an alcoholic and I think they all just shut down. I sympathize but there's a limit when they resist warmth or growth with every fiber of their being.
@hanaezra9452
@hanaezra9452 8 месяцев назад
Begin with forgiveness. Forgive yourself. Forgive her (to free yourself)
@markcampbell1795
@markcampbell1795 Год назад
Unfortunately my mother wounded me quite a lot as a child, from shouting at me because I reminded her of my father, to deliberately excluding me from doing what my brothers were doing. I left home at an early age, and we had become estranged, I rarely went to visit her, and when I did I was often either turned away or ignored, when I was coming up to the age of 21 she was murdered. so I have never had the chance to bury the hatchet, and try and work things out, that was denied me. Living without her has made me realise a few things though, she was a drinker, and often quite depressed, drunk she used to come home, and cry and wail on the end of my bed, but would never say why she was so upset, I would assume these days she would have been diagnosed with bipolar or bpd, due to the fact she was self medicating, her death has left me with many questions, and I can't get closure. My closure is acceptance of the fact that I have none, that goes into healing me to a degree.
@Rwissam1987
@Rwissam1987 Год назад
I know that you think you always felt like this and you always will, but I promise one day the pain will slowly start to fade away. Trust that you are healing and that one day you will find joy and peace! Stay strong ❤
@markcampbell1795
@markcampbell1795 Год назад
@@Rwissam1987 I appreciate the sentiment, it was over 30 years ago now, my life went on without her and without knowing, but my healing came from forgiving her, I have no bitterness towards her, I don’t blame her for my lot in life, I just wish I had the time for her when she was around, not wrapped up in my trauma, maybe I could have helped her, or at least understood her better. Was never meant to be.
@jilianemmy2654
@jilianemmy2654 Год назад
Sending you hugs and l pray you heal and find peace.
@markcampbell1795
@markcampbell1795 Год назад
@@jilianemmy2654 I have and still am healing, and peace came from forgiveness, if it never happened the way it did, I may have been a completely different person, and tbh, I like who I am today, and that I can look myself in the eye.
@shaydenhornsby2342
@shaydenhornsby2342 2 месяца назад
I am so sorry you had to experience that , I send you my love as well. ❤ I hope you have a good life going forwards dear one
@Dee-Ann_Louise
@Dee-Ann_Louise Год назад
Yup, I have been a fawner. I am becoming more aware of when I am doing it and working to change my intention when I am speaking to people. The fawning is beyond icky. I have also been hyper-vigilant, and that is exhausting. I was forever attuning to the woman who gave birth to me. That poor child [me].
@AntrimRachel
@AntrimRachel Год назад
I would really appreciate more content on dealing with these issues when your mother has passed.. Thank you so much for your videos! I am learning so much. 💕
@Crystalquartz964
@Crystalquartz964 Год назад
And I would, please!
@Gma2aCouple
@Gma2aCouple Год назад
Me too please
@AnnaCarlson-b9u
@AnnaCarlson-b9u Год назад
Me too My mother died when I was just 19 and she was borderline/ over protective
@mday3821
@mday3821 Год назад
Me too!
@bb-ez6si
@bb-ez6si Год назад
Me too
@anonymousanonymous9797
@anonymousanonymous9797 Год назад
thank you so much for filming this! much needed! sending love and support to all! you are helping me so much as I heal. xx
@RichL_Arts
@RichL_Arts Год назад
The only chance to start healing from my abusive mother is completely breaking up contact with her. My mother hit me in the past and has emotional abusive character traits. No matter what I said, she will not change. However, my wounds and my behavior still remain. E. G. when I read reports about people struggling with a crisis I get anxious or depressed. I start panicking for approximately a week.
@chipchippie
@chipchippie Год назад
Same. My mother just took all of her wounding traits covert when we got older.
@Ban22s
@Ban22s Год назад
I’m so sorry, and I sympathize. Mine (who didn’t raise me by the way), when as a young adult I couldn’t devote all of my non-working, non-school life to her, finally threw down the gauntlet and lamented how she should have kept her abortion appointment for me. After a lifetime of having to mother a mother who couldn’t be bothered to help raise me, I had enough. I learned to accept a lot of abuse and abandonment. Accepting having to listen to how she wished she had eliminated me before birth? Done. The wounds are deep though. I hope you are able to find the path to love and contentment.
@RichL_Arts
@RichL_Arts Год назад
@@Ban22s Yes. I also sacrificed my whole personality for a person who wished me dead. It's horrible because I also have posttraumatic flashbacks.
@lorieamazing8465
@lorieamazing8465 Год назад
@RichL I agree with you 💯. People like us are more than survivors,we are Warriors. The battle never stops but we have to Let go and let God. We can't keep on being resentful. Resentment keeps us in a mind prison and those moms have no clues what we are going through. Treat yourself better than they treated you and let go .
@roksananor2744
@roksananor2744 Год назад
How do I buy your courses ?
@lucilaspannaus
@lucilaspannaus 9 месяцев назад
As someone who is adopted, my mother wound has impacted me profusely. 🦋
@HeartFeltGesture
@HeartFeltGesture Год назад
Should I boycott mothers day this year for the first time? I think Im done with keeping up the pretense, what would the fall out be? Im sure mothers day is a challenge for all people who were made the family scapegoat and psychologically abused by their mother.
@madeleinegrayson8372
@madeleinegrayson8372 Год назад
That is such a good question. You know you had genuine trauma when something like Mother's Day becomes something you dread.
@sarayates1010
@sarayates1010 9 месяцев назад
Mother's Day is deeply traumatic for me. It is the worst day of the year. Hands down.
@HeartFeltGesture
@HeartFeltGesture 9 месяцев назад
@@sarayates1010 I didnt observe Mothers day this for the first time. Nothing has been said, but the "cold shoulder" has definitely been served, so to speak. Dont let them hold the promise of inheritance over your head for any reason.
@mysticearth272
@mysticearth272 Год назад
My mother ran away from home when she was 13, ended up on the streets and to shorten this, she became a Madame, to survive, she got married and along came me, my dad left when I was 5, so I became a pawn in her life, she used to basically rent me out for sexual pleasure, and started grooming me to be a Madame 😢
@chill_house9890
@chill_house9890 Год назад
I can understand your pain. God bless you pure soul 💓 .
@madeleinegrayson8372
@madeleinegrayson8372 Год назад
😢❤
@Mo-n564
@Mo-n564 2 месяца назад
Sorry
@allwellandgood8547
@allwellandgood8547 Год назад
You do an amazing job 🌟 I am really going to focus on the future and in particular how I can be the best parent by breaking the cycle of generational trauma and being more aware of when I go into that dreamy isolating state that may feel confusing to my children. Thank you for another insightful series Dr Sage. Have a lovely Easter ❤
@MickeyDs-mp7yr
@MickeyDs-mp7yr 6 месяцев назад
I got so much out of this. I'm in therapy (EMDR) which has been brilliant, and only today we uncovered my second mother wound. ( birth mother, now step mother) Have been working through abuse neglect and abandonment, never realised how a lack of love and validation also hurts.
@gem7078
@gem7078 Год назад
She poisoned my dog in 1999 & my dog died. I was 3,000 miles away visiting my brother-in-law & my dog was in her care. Ruined my trip of course & came home to my dogs ashes in a box. I could write a novel. I’m 55 & no contact for the final time
@marygavin3203
@marygavin3203 Год назад
I'm so happy...
@marygavin3203
@marygavin3203 Год назад
I'm so sorry...misprint
@gem7078
@gem7078 Год назад
@@marygavin3203 thank you 😊
@shao8614
@shao8614 10 месяцев назад
Healing here is a miracle, never happened in my life, it still hurts
@Gogoro7
@Gogoro7 Год назад
My mother refuses to talk about the emotional neglect and trauma she caused me. The other day she yelled at me saying “go see a therapist so you can forget about it!” I’m getting tired of her denial and roadblocks, thinking of walking away from her. I’m new to your channel and getting so much help from your videos. Thank you!💛 P.S. I just LOVE your wallpaper, so peaceful and calming, where can I buy it? 😊
@nickandrews2255
@nickandrews2255 Год назад
horrifc to feel like you arre so trapped with this hurtful person who will never look at you and just say I'm so sorry this must have been so hard for you I really fucked up your child hood plus failed you... you deserved better I cant imgaine what it must have beenn like .... what did it feel like? Imagine hearing this .... ohhh man would fill my heart with love plus safety ... it sucks to be gaslit it sucks to be hurt by people that should keep us safe plus be there to help us feel seen plus heard fuck it hurts so bad it really hurts fuck it REALLY HURTS ... it feels like being trapped with this bullshit forever it feels like why cant we just love eachother why do you have to be like this? why do you have to say these things why cnt you just be there to love me like I deserved ? WHY???~?!?!? It crushes me so bad We deserve it .... we deserve to be taught how to keep healthy plus keep safe plus care for ourself to feel such lvoe it hurts
@heartwellnessandfitness
@heartwellnessandfitness Год назад
She means it wit love I think my mom said that I wish I did sooner
@Gogoro7
@Gogoro7 Год назад
@@nickandrews2255 Yes it hurts and still makes me very angry, I’m working on trying to let the anger go, so “I” can heal. 😔
@nickandrews2255
@nickandrews2255 Год назад
@@Gogoro7 Do we really have to let it go? Why are we not allowed to feel angry about it? It makes sense really we were so hard done by how can we not be angry I feel like we deserve to be plus have the right to be angry ..... I feel so angry about it too I feel like I want to be angry I do not want to let it go I wat it to consume me to be super angry I really do I Feel like we need to explore it fully before it naturally exits our system I feel like that's the healthiest way for me
@ekennahutchinson1636
@ekennahutchinson1636 Год назад
​@@nickandrews2255 😮
@lo-ul8nq
@lo-ul8nq Год назад
Thank you, you're so right about everything. It's so true. My mother is Narcissist and so is My Dad Narcissist.I got C-Ptsd from the abuse. I went to Jesus cause of the abuse. Jesus is our hope. I am a 47 female who is Empath , I am the oldest out of five children my parents had. I always been the black sheep in my family. I been a Christian for over ten years. I know my worth and values. My peace come from God. God is great all the time. My brothers and sisters are Narcissists Enablers. Narcissists are liars Narcissists don't love us at all. Narcissists don't even care about you at all. Narcissists always act like they are the victim Narcissists are broken people Narcissists are insecure people Narcissists are pure evil souls from the Devil Narcissists are fake and phony people
@dyannnew4603
@dyannnew4603 Год назад
Looking for coping skills dealing with a narcissist mother with dementia, I’m pretty sure I’ll need to beef up my therapy for this!!!
@marygavin3203
@marygavin3203 Год назад
Me too...
@g-man3731
@g-man3731 11 месяцев назад
Forgiveness is the only true way to healing ❤
@ChrisE-xy4wv
@ChrisE-xy4wv 7 месяцев назад
@henditta6342
@henditta6342 7 месяцев назад
How do you do that , i eagerly want that but i dont know how , tried but still get bk to being mad
@g-man3731
@g-man3731 7 месяцев назад
What we first need to understand is that forgiveness is not a natural thing it is a spiritual thing, in the bible only God has the power to forgive sins but he has also commanded us to forgive those who have sinned against us , no human on this planet has that kind of love , so the first thing you need to do is receive God's forgiveness for your life , than if there is any judgement that you are holding against God you need ask him for help to release it , than forgive yourself with the forgiveness you received from God , than forgive other people it will be effortless because that grace to forgive someone only comes from the lord jesus no one else , when you receive God's forgiveness it will empower you in love to forgive with all your heart not your mind emphasis on "heart" sometimes people find it hard to forgive because they are wounded in there emotions but if ask the lord jesus into your heart and for him to fill you with his spirit ,love will flow out of you to even the people who hurt you the most but this is only possible through the lord jesus no one else
@Grimenoughtomaketherobotcry
@Grimenoughtomaketherobotcry 4 месяца назад
Let God decide if they deserve forgiveness. For some of us the best we can do is feel nothing toward them. At least we're no longer consumed by hate and resentment. And forgiveness means nothing if the subconscious damage they inflicted continues to harm us.
@bloominbean
@bloominbean Год назад
I have been really trying to speak to myself with kindness and compassion. I have been experiencing a lot of grief lately and feel like my functioning has gone downhill hill in terms of managing the house, sleeping at the right times and being there for my husband. I tell myself I'm trying my best and if I've only got 10% to give then that's what I've got. My mind keeps telling me I'm bad because I behaved in certain ways and I respond with well that's all I knew and I've apologised for it. Shaming myself isn't going to help anyone. I'm trying so hard and I'm exhausted. I've been napping a lot.
@bloominbean
@bloominbean Год назад
@@Grimenoughtomaketherobotcry sending you strength and love. I'm glad you can validate that you had a different experience to your siblings. You're experience is valid. I'm so sorry you went through that. Doing new things like setting boundaries feels uncomfortable because our body remembers all the times we may have stood up for ourselves previously and got hurt because of it. Keep going. We have to feel the uncomfortable feeling of doing things differently. It has set off anxiety for me. I've been trying to use some somatic techniques and music and getting outside in my garden to help me through. I have to consciously slow down and be with my uncomfortable feeling which is difficult when your bodies alarm is going off. Get curious, like this is something I could never have done as a kid which is why it feels wrong but I consciously know it is the better choice for my long-term wellbeing.
@bloominbean
@bloominbean Год назад
@@Grimenoughtomaketherobotcry sorry you've experienced all the grief you have. Your walks sound great. Yeah don't take the bait. Protect yourself. People can be cruel but when they do that they're telling on themselves. We have to refuse to take on their projections 💚
@lillygandar844
@lillygandar844 Год назад
@@bloominbean i love what you st about our bodies remembering when we got hurt standing up for ourselves. God bless you on your journey. I see you and hear you. You are loved.
@bloominbean
@bloominbean Год назад
@@lillygandar844 thank you 💚 much love and strength for your journey too
@bres9977
@bres9977 Год назад
I’m in my 40s and don’t think my mother wound would ever healZ I can only work towards not being like her.
@trinksaalabinksa7094
@trinksaalabinksa7094 Год назад
My mother is probably the most narcisstic person I know. She is in her 80s now and we just lost my Dad in March. Now it is all about her 24/7. How she has no one to help her, how she has no one living around her (she lives in a wonderful neighborhood with neighbors who have helped her and Dad a lot thru the years). She is one of the most unhappy people I have ever known. She complains about everyone and everything and is grateful for nothing. She says she is scared to live alone especially at night. I do feel for her but she can NEVER live with me. I lost my husband to Covid in 2021 and moved back home to be near family (long story but actually the best and most economical decision for me). I have my own home and I am actually very happy and content where I live. I refuse to ever have my peace destroyed again by someone who only wants to control and demean. So that is what it is. I really do not know what to do with her, but I hope she finds some sort of peace within herself before she leaves this earth. I doubt she ever will, but that is what I pray for her. Your videos are very helpful and I want to thank you for sharing your insight and wisdom in these areas.
@OrbAttraction
@OrbAttraction Год назад
😢 I woke up this morning asking for God to show me something that can help me..... I'm ready to give up, again! A few minutes into this video, I hear a golf cart as it's coming around again, it's a woman working at a park I do my walking exercises in. She passed me the first time and I know she noticed me crying (I do not like showing my weakness and being vulnerable to anyone) I was crying with tissue to my face as I glanced to see why she was slowing down. I saw her turn to me as she was slowing and then continued on. The second time I saw her I was back in my Tahoe wondering if I should leave or just rest to walk again. This is when I sat quietly and asked again for some guidance, please to let me hear what I need to hear, as I'm scrolling through my feed on RU-vid. I stumbled upon, I say I stumbled, but I mean gifted your video from God, because I had asked. As I'm in awe over your words not far into the video, I hear the golf cart coming around for the third time. But to my surprise I heard it turn off....thinking she was doing her job, I paid no mind. Until I hear her voice ask me, how are you doing? I said I'm here trying..... She went on to say, God wanted me to stop and talk to you, she was getting emotional which made me more emotional. I'm about to cry as she is holding back her tears.... this has never happened to me before, but God told me to stop and talk to you. Through her tears, she told God no, I don't know her. I don't want to be in her business, and such. She continued her rounds arguing with God, why she needed to do this! God told her, because you will be obedient to me. God said to her, if she's there when you go back by, you need to stop! Of course I started crying because I had asked God.... This sort of intervention from God has happened to me at least 4 times in the last 10 years or so. Complete strangers to me, but not to God. They've come to me telling me they heard God say, for me to hang in there, you're strong, and I have the support from God.... And others. They all see you and here you! That God knows my struggles, my needs and my wants. God is watching he's making it happen for me. To keep my faith, and trust in him, to speak to God for my answers. Just ask God Laura! I know I need to stop this fight or flight syndrome condition, kind of hard to do with my broken body literally going on 5 years. There is nowhere I can go, but to go inward. That's a scary place to go for me. I kid around, with this saying, but it is true I know it is, to my core! God had to put me in bed and keeps putting me in bed so I can heal myself PERIOD!!! As I was being reminded through my conversation with Edna.... she could literally see God talking to me (as she said, God's talking to you isn't he?!) As I am processing how far I've come....through our tears we hugged, truly a well needed hug. Edna my angel 😇 standing before me hand-in-hand. I'm being shown just how far.....I've had 4 surgeries in 4 years (I have my fifth surgery coming up in a few months 🙏) indeed this brought me this far. I am driving short distances now, able to do some sort of grocery market shopping with a store scooter. SSI has given me a little bit more money per month. I am staying in a safe place, where I have my own room now. And can stay as long as I want. I do see many blessings in my life today, your video.... Edna listening to God.... And me I'm a blessing! On to many other videos of yours, seeking desperately the help that will save my life. I appreciate you my new friend 😌 My Hope here with your videos, is to grow, and to be mentally stronger then ever 🙌🪘💃🪇
@ABB14-11
@ABB14-11 7 месяцев назад
I hope your are doing well ❤ Your post reminded how direct God can be at times. Peace and blessings to you. 🙏🏽
@OrbAttraction
@OrbAttraction 7 месяцев назад
@@ABB14-11 very kind of you to say, thank you so much. I am doing soooo much better these days now that I have God back in my life. My body hasn't changed much actually I'm dealing with another health problem, my circumstances and my financials and such have not changed either.... funny thing is I'm at peace 🙏🏽
@restlessmosaic
@restlessmosaic Год назад
The overarching thing from a hypervigilance recovery standpoint right now is me looking at my relationship roles (almost all of which I like!) and saying, "I'm doing this because I WANT to, not because they strictly NEED me to." Hopefully that changes some things. This series has been great. I've been waiting 6 weeks for my aunt to tell me if my parents are interested in talking stuff out after 4 years of no contact. They've said I could come to them with anything despite acts to the contrary, so I'm testing with a once-for-all-time letter. So who knows? But until whatever happens, you are doing valiant work for me, and I am grateful.
@bbdn5123
@bbdn5123 Год назад
💗 Whoa, that's huge. You, writing them a letter! I think you're very brave. I hope things will work out positively, if not, remain positive. Some things take time, every one has their own time (and stubbornness 😉). I think it's important to fill your time with positive things after you sent that letter for the rest of your life! Much love, care, peace and blessings ☝🏽💖🌌💫
@restlessmosaic
@restlessmosaic Год назад
@@bbdn5123 Aw, thank you! I mostly wrote it to crystallize my own thoughts (and not infinitely rephrase/rework them), while I also wanted it in my back pocket in case something came up. My aunt/uncle are vacationing with my parents around now. I told her the letter existed and shared it. To my complete surprise, she thought the letter was even-handed and nonconfrontational (especially surprising since it filled her in on a half-dozen traumas we'd never come close to discussing). So I didn't expect any of this, and maybe it amounts to them never seeing it - or somehow being *more* upset at me? But it beats the alternatives. :-)
@Rose-pj1fg
@Rose-pj1fg Год назад
Dr. Sage thank you very much for making these videos 😊🌻❤I found the recent videos very helpful and informative. Looking forward to seeing more videos of this series.
@KM-om3iv
@KM-om3iv Год назад
Thank you for what you said about generational trauma. I lost nearly 10 years of life with my mother because we were both in so much pain and this lead to confusion and lots of misunderstandings. Thankfully, my mom and I have both done a lot of work on ourselves and are in a better place now. As I learn more about how her choices affected my life as a child and an adult, I am so fortunate to be able to talk to her about her own childhood, which was one of not feeling seen, being disregarded and dismissed, and lead to her staying in an abusive relationship for most of my childhood. While she was emotionally neglected, and felt unwanted, I, in turn, was smothered (an effort by a very young mom to ensure I felt seen and loved). I am fascinated with how often people become (mis)diagnosed with several disorders to "name" their symptoms when it sometimes simply comes down to unhealed trauma. The people who wrote the DSM has a lot of work to do. I'm so grateful I have been able to mend my relationship with my mom and have started creating boundaries. Thank you, Dr. Sage, for these videos. They really do help!
@riyajacob2909
@riyajacob2909 Год назад
The video series on Borderline Mother's and healing is helping a lot.Appreciated 🙏💗
@anielyantra1
@anielyantra1 Год назад
Haahahahaaaa! I remember when I completed explaining my childhood experiences to a psychologist. She broke character and with much bewilderment said; 'I don't know why you are not on a roof top shooting people'. I responded; 'I choose not to do that'. For me.....coping mechanisms are the best I can hope for.
@carmenhartman1219
@carmenhartman1219 Год назад
I new mom was not right ..untell i be came an adult it had a name. I loved my mom she had it hard. She had a child hood like story sybill".💝
@nicolewily4846
@nicolewily4846 Год назад
I’m going to rewatch and rewatch until something clicks if that makes sense. just watching your videos in the first place is me trying to find guidance and how I can heal and change for the better… I Really like the series❤❤❤
@puffNRuntZ
@puffNRuntZ Год назад
I said some really really hurtful words to my mother and I don’t know if I can ever forgive myself
@karmasutra4774
@karmasutra4774 6 месяцев назад
I did too last year and she was hurt and stopped talking to me for a year. I stand by what I said, but wish it could have come out less hurtful
@RoMorawsun
@RoMorawsun 5 месяцев назад
Thank you for your videos could you please talk about mothers , Step - fathers and half brothers military kids growing up on bases.
@basicbase749
@basicbase749 19 дней назад
I fixed my mother wound by reintegration with my mother. But the occasion was definitely divinely guided! It was during a horrible conflict that was going on in my marriage. That conflict was a blessing in disguise. And just one conversation with my mother on why I expect my husband to understand me and he fails to do that. That one conversation was so divinely guided. Filled that void that I was trying to fill through my husband. We both decided to be there for each other’s emotional understanding. Always staying at a distance from my mother all my life, at the age of 36, today we’re the closest two people on Earth. And suddenly I don’t feel the need for attunement and emotional understanding from my husband that much. But mind you, you can’t do integration with the mother, if you’re still bitter at her, it can only be done from the place of total empathy. I was already doing the healing for years but it just clicked that day with her, during my own conflict.
@monarchkind69
@monarchkind69 Год назад
The cathair is healing 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
@ProfessorBorax
@ProfessorBorax Месяц назад
I know you're trying to be nice and fair but I feel like you minimize the legitimacy of the anger one would feel towards being emotionally abused by their parents. Good intentions don't make big mistakes acceptable.
@reneeormond9604
@reneeormond9604 2 месяца назад
Be kinder to myself and really give myself the time I deserve to unlearn these things about myself and replace them with kind loving feelings. It is my birthright ❤
@lisaefhaymi274
@lisaefhaymi274 Год назад
3:52 is it possible for trauma to happen but not blame the mother ...I didn't realize the damage I experienced was from my mother that I worshipped😊
@RespectAndLoveAndPeaceWins
@RespectAndLoveAndPeaceWins 7 месяцев назад
Fantastic video thank you. Can you buy the journal you are holding in the video somewhere? ❤️
@kleatexas4739
@kleatexas4739 9 месяцев назад
I just came across this video and have a question. My mom is good but her mom was narcissistic. I felt that throughout my childhood. I didn’t have the words to describe. Could I still take the course on healing mother wounds.
@weile4u
@weile4u Год назад
Thank you a million times for making this crucial problem for many women comprehensible.
@deborahbaker1254
@deborahbaker1254 7 месяцев назад
This is mostly an advert for her course
@maja1407
@maja1407 11 месяцев назад
Could someone translate this in Polish?
@olgafrayman989
@olgafrayman989 4 месяца назад
So good! Thank you! I sent it to a friend
@standoutofmylight
@standoutofmylight 4 месяца назад
Great vid, dr kim
@coppersense999
@coppersense999 Год назад
Hi Dr..Kim, just discovered your channel and appreciate the insights. Just a lil feedback based on what you shared in closing. Maybe I misunderstood, but did you say post 5 videos a week, Mon through Fri? Personally, I can't keep up with that many, and I would prefer to watch one really well-thought out video that dives deep. Just me. Thank you!
@reganhaight1278
@reganhaight1278 Год назад
Thank you for such a wonderful content. Any advice for the mother, with CPTSD who has undoubtedly wounded her children?
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