Healing Trauma: New Paradigm Letting the Body Inform the Mind | Shauna Quigley | TEDxStormontWomen 

Because y’all are saying it’s too vague, this is my interpretation: she heals by sitting with the emotion and getting up close and personal with it instead of ignoring it and running away from it like she usually would. I would imagine getting close to it is gonna bring crying but that is the purging of it. That is what she means by going towards the bad scary dark emotions you normally would want to ignore, that is actually your way out of it. Her message towards the end when she talked about the joy she experienced and washed over her with her husband is: let yourself get close and accept and feel the bad in you, you will feel free from doing so, and now you will be better able to actually feel and appreciate moments of true joy more and catch them, since you know and accepted what it feels like to feel bad. If you oppress the bad feelings you might never get to feel relief or freedom to feel true joy because you will feel too oppressed from your caged up emotions! I also like how she points out how she felt she had two sides: the one who only wanted to think good to forget the bad, and the other one who called her towards the bad emotion. This is valid and a sign of a truth of this world: there is polarity / opposites aka positive + negative , we DO have both sides in us, it’s only our culture which tries to make us believe we must be positive at all times but in reality it is a truth of life and we must not oppress it otherwise we’ll just have emotional blockages which could actually block us from true joy or healing or moving on. Being positive 24/7 is simply not the way we are naturally designed or meant to be that’s why it feels so bad to do it for a long time eventually we cannot keep doing it, we need to normalize to ourselves it is necessary to feel & accept all feelings we have whether good or bad emotions instead of shunning the bad so much accept it as it is a part of you. By ignoring your dark self you are ignoring your wounded inner self / usually wounded inner child and this part needs love attention & acceptance too This woman is amazing and she is not whiny at all , we have just normalized always having to feel good, but she is the most real and woke

This is so important to understand when you’re starting to heal from trauma, pain and mental disorders. Healing happens in the body, not in the mind. Allow yourself to feel the deepest pain you have beneath and you will heal Good luck and love Don’t give up!

I think it takes a rare breed to be able to face trauma this way. Most people cannot endure it and need an addiction to numb (soothe) it. I believe therapy helps one to slowly create insight, self awareness, and support which is needed to bring these walls down, and eventually being/feeling ready to confront this core (old) pain inside. There are simply too many beliefs that sabotage simply sitting down and feel the pain from awareness. So I believe she is right, I just don't think everyone is capable. Especially when life brings mostly sour lemons and no lemonade, circumstances are different than having the support of a relationship (the speaker might have had) and the joy of having a baby. Anyway; the only way out is through. Only by allowing to feel, we can let go. All the best to everyone around here 💛

A big big yes to this ... one thing, the word ‘clearing’ doesn’t sit well with me. Loving does, loving myself well, as I’ve just done with advanced cancer... taking the time to delve in deep, to make space to be with the pain so that I can transform my relationship to the core experience.. that is loving myself well

I lost my husband and my mom. My two strongholds in this life within less than 2 years of each other. I felt numb and couldn't cry. I thought what is wrong with me. I thought I need to deal with this grief. Two years later I did. It hit me just as hard as I had feared. I'm still living in it. I faced my grief and my grief has killed me. I'm alive but I'm not the person I knew. I'm not the person they counted on or relied upon. Sometimes we build up those walls because we need them to function. If I could back In time I would never tear them down. It's ok not to fall apart it's ok to keep moving forward. If it keeps you going keep doing it. This idea of facing our deepest emotions to let them go isn't what it's cracked up to be. Do what you feel you need to do to keep pushing on is my advice. I drowned myself in deepest hurt to feel the pain so i could let go. Two years later my deepest pain has left me feeling like I'm a stranger to myself. A little at a time is sometimes how we need to cope and thats ok.

Healing is the absolute only path to being able to experience true joy. It's worth all the pain you must go through to get to it!

I sat by my dad when I was 8 not knowing he was dead. I saw my brother attemt suicide by cutting his arm when I was 9. My sister committed suicide in October 2018 by jumping to her death. I've learned that pain makes you stronger...

I had a similar childhood. I witnessed alot of alcoholism. I know the emotions she's describing. I had a dream I brought all the demons of my childhood and I brought them out of the darkness and under the street light in front of my childhood home. The demons lost their ability to hide from me and slowly they lost their power.

I read A New Earth 9 years ago & that's when my healing started to speed up. I'm learning to listen to my body more closely & understanding more & more what it's telling me & there's still so much more to learn, so I was led to watching this.

Thank you for truth my dear. On my way to recognizing her. I detached from her to survive but no longer.

To anyone reading this message Hi you... You are a strong person. You are loved and you are an important person. You will be successful in your life process. Its OK to be not perfect because there will never be a perfect human. But whatever it is you have to work hard to show the best version of yourself. You are not alone in living your life, there will always be love and love from God without you realizing it in your every breath. God loves you even more than you understand. Don't feel unloved, unwanted, unappreciated and never feel useless. You just need a little time to understand all this process and you need to work a little hard to run after your goal and get your dream back. I pray that it will be easy for you. Calm your heart. Enable your soul to face all the trials of God. May you continue to be bestowed with long-lasting sustenance. Make your happiness easy. My strong and passionate greetings to you who go through this difficult life journey but we all can definitely stand at this point and step forward for God's promises that we must have. I love a strong soul like you You are a great person because you are still able to survive until this moment with this not easy process Hi you..... Every human being is given the same advantages as God find and develop the advantages that you have so that with it your self-confidence, sense of worth and a sense of desire will grow in you. Sad and disappointed human, it's natural and allowed, what is not allowed is that you dissolve in your sadness and your adversity Hi you..... Last but not least, keep up the spirit, keep going, keep growing, good luck in all of your goals. I'm proud of you personally who have this strong soul😍😘🤗

So true! Big fan of microdosing as well. EMDR, MDMA & somatic therapies. Literally shake it out! 🙏☮️💟☯️🙌

Nice video. Detox the mind. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

This woman is amazing & I am so thankful I came across her speech at a time where I really needed to hear this message it is so true and really speaks to me . Thank you so much

it is surreal, how there was like a somatic release, listening to this Tedtalk and yes i experienced multiple traumas but found healing through reframing

Great job. Thank you. This is wisdom and truth

Amazing @wellnessseeker @shaunaquigley. The clearing method is extraordinary! Congratulations.

Thank you so much for sharing and helping me understand. You are amazing!!

Damn you're such a good orator! Some of us have even experienced things worse, mine was public speaking embarrassment, i think about 10 times or more. But it's not an excuse not to be a great speaker and a great man that would have an impact on this world. Cause i don't just know how to give up and guess what i am getting better😊 Thank Jehovah. I honestly didn't want to type but c'mon why not, for anybody seeing this, i urge you not to give up on yourself cause why should you.

Love his shauna 💓💓 our bodies will tell us of we are willing to listen .

Thank you very much *Shauna Quigley*

Thank you so much for this 💗 💖 💓 ❤️ 💕 some things just process better and make more sense when you need to hear it . Thank you again so much for this. It's helped me understand my own self.

Our body will lead us to healing. 💛

BEAUTIFUL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Brilliant. This is exactly the sort of healing I am interested in. It is what I have been discovering at last myself. So much emphasis is put on the power of thought and of course this is true, but this, this is sooo important. To listen to what our body is trying to communicate to us through our anxiety symptoms by giving gentle breath and space to those physical areas manifesting the stress is in itself like a respect and a listening to what our bodies are telling us. This is, I reckon, the gateway to self love. Thank you so much, amazing brave woman!!

Thank You ❤

Very interesting that her story kind of reminded me of eckhart tolle.

This was helpful.❤

That’s outstanding.

such a compelling speaker ❤

I have heard it said that the body remembers things that the mind has forgotten. I can understand that. However, she does not tell us HOW to go about this process of healing, or have I missed something?

This is all so vague, i don't get it. Can someone help me understand? How exactly did she heal? HOW did she "clear" the pain? What was the actual process and how exactly did she make it happen?

Wonderful

I understand toooo welll

you are amazing

Thank you

That 10-year-old self had a thought -- I have nothing In this world. Tthat thought got lodged and wedged into the tissues and energetic space of your body. When you discovered the moment, the story that took place between you and another little kid and also between your own thoughts, the intense emotional reaction, and the felt sense within the body. Your body carried the burden of this negative core belief about the world and about yourself. Your story was short and sweet as a 10-year-old God I have nothing. The end. You discovered later that there was so much more to the story, that your 10-year-old self didn't have all the information, and that the power of one thought could impact emotional and physiological states. I believe that the very way you tell the story actually affirms that the intensity comes from the thought; Just like in the Bible it says in the beginning there was the word. There were a few words and it brought life to all these other experiences. Your doorway out was through the body and paying attention to its semantic narrative, but your doorway in was a single unconscious powerfully impactful, negative core belie f about the world. A belief is simply a thought that we've had many times either consciously or unconsciously. Blessings on your healing, thank you for sharing your story, for giving us new words and a new way of looking at things.

very cool.

She says ir didn't come from the trauma but from a conversation she had had at 10 yrs old. She would never have the joy this boy expressed.... but those inward feelings came from her trauma! This core wound was from trauma!

Be strong, be brave! Regain confidence, smile and watch comedy movies/sketches etc.. laugh like nobody is watching! Make your body laugh with you.. not just your mouth / face .. laugh uncontrollably! Try this, and learn breathing exercises, good luck everyone.

I've felt like her since I was little( the 2 ppl part) but ive never managed to "clear" that feeling inside. Idk how accure it is to just one day have joy when you've been through alot of trauma 🤷 how do we know what the core wound is?

=Healings 2022 = = Healing me and my biologic mom =2022=

Aren’t we all more than one person? Aren’t we a body, mind and spirit?

The letting go technic that she's talking about i guess

Literally nothing about how she healed herself, apart from that the body heals the mind. 50% about what her trauma felt like, 50% of what her healing felt like.

I feel for her...but I cannot understand the strong accent...🙏

If she from Ireland 🇮🇪?

😭💗💗💗

I wanna dooooooooo thaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat

I don't get what the process was

Iam struggling with trauma due to my family

No, something happened to make her FEEL that there would never be anything for her in life. That feeling itself is not the cause of her inner rot.

Sounds like disassociation

I cant stop hearing her salivating. Its depressing as well. Isnt there any way to make it less depressing and still bringing it to the point?

There actually is a book about this. It's the most sold book around the world for centuries. It's the a Holy Bible. "My peace I leave you, my peace I give you, not as the world gives it. "🥰

Shes a bit whiny I needed a guide because the ol resilience is starting to fade in old age but it just sounded downer tbh

Correct me if I’m the only one, but I’ve never heard anyone in my life say they got to the root of their dissociative disorder, and it ended up being a negative self belief that she developed after getting jealous of a friend boys vacationing options when they were 10 ??? Or am I totally misunderstanding this??🤔😒🥴bc Im not sure it works like that ...That’s ALMOST offensive to actual survivors of trauma with REAL dissociative disorders...who can’t just figure it out by themselves...I feel like I just listened to a whole lot of nothing.....like I paid for a .98 cent lie and only got your .02 cents😏.

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