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You are helping me so much throughout my journey! Thank you so much! I grew up in so much chaos, focussed on my studies, and left the house and moved overseas at 24. I finally opened my heart to love and just attracted the worst people for me. I stopped drinking a year ago and have just been focusing on myself. I am 27 now, single and not looking, just healing and watching your content. Thank you so much for putting into words something which is extremely hard to explain, even to oneself :)

Bad relationships not only ruin your good looks but also make you more prone to illnesses from the stress.

"Bad relationships wreck your good looks"...this is so true.

I’ve been isolating for two years now and working on myself in trauma therapy full time. When people say isolating is bad, it always rubs me the wrong way. I think most people could deal with one or two years of extreme isolating and introspecting. 💜

Never immediately leave one relationship for another. I promise it more than likely won’t work out

I like how she emphasizes fantasy relationships and "spacing out". After years I realized that was so detrimental to my mental health and I hadn't thought healthy people could tell the difference

I tell my friends that relationships are like projects, clean up your mess before you start another project.

My ex is painfully addicted to porn and cam girls and it quite literally broke my spirit and my self esteem. But I didn't realize I was broken and emotionally paralyzed until the delusion fell away and I had already changed everything about myself into what I thought he wanted from a girlfriend. We lived together in my home and I literally couldn't step away from him for longer than it would take to go wash my face or grab a snack from the fridge. My mind was constantly focused on how he was looking at and talking to other women online. At one point he even had several dating apps. I couldn't sleep or eat, I lost 27 pounds. I can't even believe I have the courage to type this, but this channel has finally encouraged me to start going no contact with him and start living my own life. I don't want his addiction and lifestyle and negativity to stop me from having a fulfilling life any longer. Thank you so much for these videos, I was referred here by my mother, who experienced several relationships like my last one, with cheating and addiction. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel now even though I know I need to continue to work on my codependency and boundaries.

I was blinded for 23 years yet everyone around me could see what was happening....thank God I woke up to this and left, AND put up and reinforced BOUNDARIES....

I have been single for ten years now and it hasn't done me any good. I am tired of it and I think inside myself I have given up. I have gotten used to being without someone even though it hurts like hell everyday is hard. The only good thing I have finally accepted after 35 years of pain is that there is nothing wrong with me!!!!

I’m 52 and I’m finally figuring out why I decided to stop dating years ago, as well as, why I’m not compatible with the guys I tried to date all these decades. Thank you for this.

Once I met a guy and he started gaslighting on the first date… 😳 It took me 24 hours to realise what‘s happened and I „broke“ before it really started. But… it took me one week to recover from this date. In the end I‘m happy, that I realised the red flags so early.

I suspected a lot that you said already. That even if you think it's private, that it's within you, it changes your energy, and healthy people have a sixth sense to pick it up. Thank you so much for what you do.

Alone is better then being a victim again !

I started listening and watching your videos thinking that I could help my granddaughter who is 14 and living with me. She had come from her mom's house and had been abused and neglected for at least the last 7 years. And of course this is a generational curse for us. My mom beat me, I beat my daughter, and my daughter be my granddaughter and I want to stop it. There will be no more of it in our family. I have learned so much about myself through listening to you and I'm 66 years old. I really was messed up when I got out of high school with unsuccessful jobs, relationships, and friendships. I was a very angry aggressive person. I spent 10 years in the psychologist and psychiatrist office and with group therapy which I believe helped the most. I did go on to have a successful career as a nurse and am now retired. But I find myself raising my 14 year old granddaughter. She does see a therapist and the therapist sees me as well and then we see the therapist together. She has improved greatly in the last year since she came to live with me. But I am of the opinion that you can never do too much self work! I want to thank you for your videos❤

I had a therapist actually criticize my intent to stay single for at least a certain amount of time while I’m dedicated to figuring a lot of this stuff out. He was concerned that I would miss out on the opportunity to be with my right person by not being open to dating. But I really think that there are times it is appropriate to turn off the cab light and spend some time in the shop.

I’m surprised to not have seen this really mentioned on your channel, but I’ve had the opposite problem. when I began entering relationships (since moving out of my toxic family) I was more often than not the more abusive and hurtful partner. I met several people who were kind and supportive of me, but I would inevitably return to behaviors that were detrimental to the relationship. It took until I was 23 to recognize the pattern and put a stop to it. It was a rough awakening realizing that I had never really witnessed my parents nor any two family members exhibit and maintain a healthy and communicative relationship. Without that model, it can be quite challenging for CTPSD sufferers.

This is so on point!!! I failed constantly and thought that could change the wrong kind of men who had substance abuse issues and different goals/values. The problem was that I had low self esteem and wasn’t happy on my own. Have been single and focused on healing and creating my own happiness/life of my dreams for 3.5 years now and my life’s been so peaceful. I eventually found a great church and it’s so beautiful to finally be around men who respect me as a person, share the same values, and that I can talk to without them hitting on me.

Here comes the Fairy with another great video. Thank you Fairy. I'd like to add that physical and mental clutter also dim the cab light. We all probably know that mental fog is reflected in our outter environment and vice versa and that messiness, in my experience, comes out in our work and relationships. It steals a lot of good energy, light and joy.

I tell men that I am taking resumes. I have CPTSD from severe childhood abuse but I am also almost healed about as much as possible and ready for real love.

I like how she didn't go into talking about "The Law of Attraction," and actually gave practical steps to make yourself a better partner. Well done. I really think a lot of both men and women in Western Countries will not be happily married NO MATTER WHAT WORK THEY DO ON THEMSELVES. People have become VERY politically ideal driven. This has a lot of consequences. It is not healthy. Try anyway and if it doesn't work out develop the deep intimacy you'd share with a partner with yourself.

If you don’t know what you want, you will get something you didn’t choose 🤔

It’s difficult getting back out there after devastating health issues and a divorce when your 55 and raising a grandchild

So true about how your addiction changes your energy!!! In my experience dropping addictions really did turn my light on, it's crazy how that works

One can have a bright cab light and still have to wait for the right passenger 🤷🏻‍♀️✨ Dating comes with issues..

Dear Anna, I will admit this one was so hard for me to hear. I feel so far from eliminating the habits that dim my "cab light" but I am so grateful to you for continuing to show us the truth of how we can find our way to connection. Love from Los Angeles.

Ahhh it's like you can describe my life perfectly, relate so much to your videos. You've finally given me the courage to help my cab light shine a little brighter. I've respectfully ended contact with 2 exes and focusing on my life and my healing. Just need to get back on my feet and then not isolate as much either. Thanks for all your work🤗

Love your, “cab light” analogy it is so true! I can definitely feel this within myself!

Your videos excite me! Not only do you give us hope. You also give us the steps to take to actually heal.

I personally don't trust my own judgement in the moment. I do trust my judgement over the long term (I have time to think, plan, and analyze). So I create SOPs (workflows) for everything that has long term ramifications. Then, I trust those SOPs COMPLETELY & ABSOLUTELY, no exceptions 1) Choosing a partner: I have criteria that must be met, criteria that is a dealbreaker, and I have a process for rapidly evaluating those criteria. If the criteria isn't met, it doesn't matter how I feel about the person. It is immediate game over. I have zero say and zero power over changing a "game over" result 2) Dealing with interpersonal relations: I have canned de-escalatory & leaving the situation phrases, criteria to determine if the relationship needs to be terminated (or can be fixed), and a process to repair the rupture OR to rapidly isolate then remove someone from my life. I have zero say and zero power over if the relationship is terminated or how that process is conducted 3) Life planning: I have a timeline of benchmarks to meet by specific dates, the steps I need to meet those benchmarks, and the steps I need to take if those benchmarks are not met. I have zero say and zero power over my life trajectory Now when I say "I have zero say and zero power" I mean, me, in the present, right this instant, has zero say and zero power. The person with complete and total control over my life is the version of myself from the past. That person thoughtfully considered what he wanted from life, what he didn't want, and then created a plan for me to make that happen.

I'm forever grateful for your videos 🙏 Thank you for helping me and so many others. 💓

I read these comments and I cant help but think how lonely everyone is and feels. I can feel the pain of each person that comments here. I was in a situationship with someone where our whole catch phrase was how we are no longer alone now that we have eachother. Until he became hot&cold and ended up telling me that I am just a friend. It doesnt get any lonelier than that and I have lost all hope. I feel like I lost all my light and it s no one else s fault but mine.

I've realized this... It goes both ways. Healthy people don't look good to us any more than we damaged ones look good to them. Until I'd healed beyond a certain point, I thought the "good boys" were boring and unattractive compared to the "bad boys".

All good advice. But it you do the math on the percentage of aware/healthy people coupled with general attractiveness (on both sides) age appropriateness, geographic location, kids from prior relationships, financial health also, and the ability of both potential partners to negotiate all of the above in good faith, chances are slim for most of us that we will locate and attract that great partner.

never been in any relationship. naturally shy and being born into a so-called family that was a toxic waste dump and then having one-sided "friendships" with kids in school who were nothing but demeaning and exploitative which i accepted for way too long cause that's all i ever knew and figured that was just the way life was made me withdraw even further to the point of total isolation. was involuntarily committed a few times many years ago, saw "therapists" for about ten years after that and for the past twenty just been taking meds and going around in solitary circles. not sure what people see when they see me but i definitely don't smile and always have my guard up.

My whole life ive attracted unavail men and i know why after 20 yrs of therapy. I am ready for love with a bright cab light. My boundaries are clear now no more imagination rships ❤

Thank you, baby steps and feeling and trusting my intuition without fail. Life doesn’t have to be in isolation after c-ptsd.

My breakup apparently went public because over the last few months I've sueddenly began receiving messages by men interested in something romantic. I'm not interested because I desperately want too heal because I've never felt this kind of ongoing pain and mental instability before. I loved my ex tremendously, more than I could ever put into words, but I had to finally, after almost 10 years, ascertain that he never truly loved me at all. My emotional needs were ignored and he placed the importance of his inappropriate and sometimes secret relationships with other women FAR above the so-called relationship he was in with me. It sounds nice to 'be in love', but the emotional damage this last relationship left me in will mean sure I remain "simgle" for a long, long time. Even though my ex lied, manipulated and took advantage, my heart, unfortunately, still remains with him. It disgusts me that after almost 6 months I still miss him terribly. Through therapy and watching your videos I get a better understanding why I do this. Why would any healthy individual still long for the person who emotionally manipulated them? So clearly I'm not quite 'healed' yet and I won't be forced or thrown into another relationship while my heart still lies with someone else. I just hope I'm able to rid my heart of his presence eventually because it's already been established time after time that he will NEVER change.

I isolate because I have no where to go. I'm happier and safe at home.

Thank you, your videos have been so helpful in understanding my partner w CPTSD who left the relationship. I had a tough childhood too but farther along in my recovery. Now that I’ve got to be on my own again, this is super helpful going forward. x

Wow you explained my Romantic life to a tee, alone or in a bad relationship. I think I’ve learned a lot in the last two years and im a mother now so it’s even more important than ever to be in a healthy relationship for my child. Unfortunately his father is soooo behind on the healing and healthy relationship so it’s a lot of weight on my shoulders but I’m excited to slowly get out there and date again ( with guard rails of course). Thank you

One of the huge things people look for is that the other person financially has their life together. I was looking for low crime places to live today and Issaquah, WA looked pretty good for a city where an average person could live. That is until I checked the prices of the cheapest one bedroom apartments and there was nothing below $1,800 per month, and they all wanted proof of three times that income (which full time is $31.15/hour). That is the rock bottom income required to live within 25 miles of Seattle in a place that isn't choked with drugs and crime. Being financially stable is extremely difficult to pull off now and every year it gets worse. Low income people can shack up to split the bills but signing a one year lease with someone on the gamble this relationship will work (when all the others failed) is a massively stupid gamble with terrible consequences when it fails (and it will). I am not implying that people need money to spend on things to keep the relationship going but that both people need to maintain the financial ability to break up if the other person violates healthy boundaries. Someone living on the financial edge of needing to move in with you for emergency shelter isn't functional in the dating sense. With hard work, sacrifice, no distractions like dysfunctional relationships, and no bad breaks I might be in the functional to date category in maybe two years. Until then I wouldn't even consider it.

You are a lovely lady who seems like she really cares about helping people find the love kind of love they deserve. Thank you for your wonderful sense of service and compassion. I'm touched xx

I needed this like a month ago but thank you so much for sharing this video. I can move forward into a better relationship free, clear, and letting go of the past. 💜

I didn't experience any of those things as a child growing up! I have however experienced the kind of relationships. Not carrying around child hood trauma, just seriously wrong choices , trusting , being manipulated as a young adult, as a middle aged adult, into my 50's. Been single now for 9 yrs.

Great explanation!!! I gained a lot of weight in my bad relationship. Not fat but just more bloated looking. Once I got out I had the motivation to drink way less and work out way more. Yes! You look so much better after you get out. One of my exes- a nice one lol- we are kind of friends now and she told me I look so much friendlier and softer now that I am on my healing journey. And it’s definitely a journey! Doesn’t happen over night. Expect to be healing for at least a year-if not more! Truly believe soon I will find someone correct for me, just not quite ready yet!

At 62 I have never had a good relationship or even lived with someone. They have either been abusive or totally selfish or unavailable. In between I’ve been by myself so long in between relationship that this seems more normal to me.The longest I’ve been in relationship is 2 years and yes I self isolate.

Cab light ! So brilliant! I do believe those cab lights have colors with different meanings. I watched my sister pick up on countless relationships with physically and emotionally abusive men and then wheep about it when it ended A army of do-gooder women, and “save the abused foundations “rush to her help, Her choices kept others employed or volunteering but she was just habitual in these relationships never educated .Now I know what I witnessed and called “her signal “was actually an “ open to light” for behaviors she would tolerate just to have a man.Put the right color on and you’ll get a certain insect for sure

A handsome man appeared at my door a few months ago, last fall it was, I was immediately attracted, and nervously tried to hide it. I chatted with him while he was here , he was a contractor, and I mentioned my mother. Oops, how she didn't want me to move here and tried to control my choice. Then very stupidly quipped, "I guess that's what mothers do!". His teenage son was with him. Mega oops. Now they both know I'm messed up. Oh well. Let it be a lesson to me! I'm not ready anyway. But man he was nice, good looking and calm! Very pleasant to be around.

I attract people who are troubled to say the least. Even my late fiancé had a horrible mental illness. I finally met someone who seems healthy and normal and I’m hoping we can take things to the next step.

this is exactly the relationship i had for the past year and 3 months. we lived in different states and occasionally met and it was exactly as she described, the first couple days would be great and then he just detached and the vibe would just turn for the worst for the rest of the stay. and every time we visited each other, I had to do all of the planning because if I didn’t we would have just stayed in the whole day. and even when we went somewhere, like a botanical garden or just out walking, he was so silent and it felt like i was a burden to him. i had to go to the bathroom just so i wouldn’t burst in tears in front of him. he also abused weed and used it as a way to dissociate, he says it’s the only way he knows how to solve problems in addition to retreating and going quiet. when we weren’t together and it was LDR, I would do all the calling and he never initiated it, he would text more frequently but it wasn’t the same. it got to the point where we couldn’t be in a call for more than 30 minutes because he would just go silent. it was so hurtful. And it would finally get to the point where (after putting up for it for a couple weeks) I would finally bring up what I was feeling and any time we had this happen where I would express to him very calmly how I felt, he ended it. his go-to was to call it and breakup, we never had a single argument with a resolution because he would bring up separating before we could get to that point. I was devastated but every time it was less and less because I saw it coming. it was such a painful push and pull cycle and we broke up four times until i realized just what was happening. there was a moment when we were in the car silent, I was looking out the window trying to think of what to say (I would carry all the conversations and he rarely initiated) and then I realized how this was so reminiscent of the dynamic I have with my own dad. We rarely ever talk and car rides between us is usually in complete silence. Once I had this realization it’s like the blindfold I was wearing finally came off and I saw the situation for how it really was. I was trying to win the affection of someone who wasn’t available in the same way I would try to get validation and approval from my dad it when I was a kid. He also was a workaholic and self employed, rarely having time for his family and never being emotionally available for me. he was also emotionally and physically abusive and used to drink heavily during my childhood. it’s like I was trying to recreate the whole situation all over again in hopes that this time would be different. it wasn’t. although we aren’t together anymore there are still moments where i remember the good times, because it wasn’t all horrible. he was sweet at times, being around him physically was peaceful and he was always respectful of me and would open doors for me/pay expenses for both of us, and never pressured me / made sure I was always comfortable when we were together. i think back to those moments where we would be together and it felt like it was meant to be, and just wish things and circumstances could have been different, but they’re not. i’m not angry at him nor do I think I ever could be, at this point i just genuinely wish the best for him and i want him to be happy and find his peace. there are times when i questioned if we were truly in love with each other, but i do believe that i truly loved him (and still do, unconditionally). it’s a bittersweet feeling. but i am relieved to finally be out of that relationship, it feels like im alive again and rediscovering myself because i truly became a shell of myself when I was with him. thank you for your videos, i found them back when i was in this “relationship” (if you can even call it that) and these stories resonate so much with me.

Yesterday I experienced that bad situation once again. I am used to be ignored by people when I finally feel the courage to go out of my home... This time I was with a friend of mine to show her my town. I felt as if I were the guest in the town !!! Everyone everywhere only noticed her, and it hurt me so much (because of this social inexistence I haven't been able to meet anyone to enter a romantic relationship for years). I've felt so bad since yesterday. But your video comes to me at the right time. 👍 Now I can understand the reasons why it isn't possible yet for me to attract any person I would like to rely on with. It brings me hope to make this. Indeed I am still in a VERY toxic relationship with my family and I really want to stop that without knowing how to do this. I know it's essential for me to solve that critical issue before living my own life

6+ years single and maybe being single is the way forward I guess. Narc dad, narc ex husband, DV in marriage which lasted 15 years (thanks God I escaped), now expat solo parent with two teenagers with no family to support me. I even won't tell them about my struggles bc then I'll be shamed and blamed for being a single mom and ruining kids lives. What about my ruined life? I am so tired from this ever-lasting healing. But so it is. Hugs to other souls who are healing ✨

What do you mean by "healthy people"? I think it's a risky term to use. With every other marriage which is divorced, putting single parenting into an equation only thin percentage of population get a chance to be that emotionally healthy, that they would be pointed at as some unattainable example. Perhaps you meant someone who has already done some significant work on themselves. But than again, to attract someone exactly on such level of mental maturity which would, in combination with mine, assure a high quality relationship, it is also low likelihood.

Great video. But reality is that people with alot of trauma, or childhood trauma. Don`t need " just a little healing". We need ALOT of it. I have gone in and out of therapy since 2017 ( my mother is a alcoholic and my father abandoned me), and have just the past two years been where i can say i am " heald". that is we can never become " new" again, but we can fix alot of the trauma and start living healthy. I can see that the people who are now in my life are healthy ( they are not narcissistic, addicted and have functional lifes), and are people i feel safe around. I can also see that the people who are now attracted to me are also alot more healthy, and i don`t let people who are a bad influence on me hang around ( i have taken responsibility for who i spend my time with). My point is that it takes hard work. And work over time. Thinking it is a " quic fix", and that life is gonna be perfect is to be naive. And people like us ( i just guess that most of you who read this have issues, anxiety, trauma), can`t afford to be naive. Life is brutal, but also beautiful. In it`s core it`s just the prosess of birth, growt, fucking, killing, eating, shitting, creating, sickness, conflict, love, confusion. That is "Life" is killing, eating, fucking "it self". This prosess is beautiful, but it`s also chaotic and unpredictable. The hard is to learn to just accept that this is life " as it is". And to accept our self " as we are". And we who read this need to work ALOT harder than others. That is we need to eat healthy, sleep the amount the body and mind needs, socialise with other healthy people and cut unhealthy ( narcissistic) people out, exercise, and also to " self sooth". If you read this... You can do it!. That is you are doing it!. You are on the right path!. And you are not alone!. Take one step at the time. And trust the process. You are enough " as you are". Seek people who can accept you as you are. And accept people as they are ( DO NOT ACCEPT THE NARCISSISTIC PEOPLE). And when times are hard... just keep on walking forward.

I've isolated myself for the last 5 years after I split from my abuser. Finally, I said YES to a date. We went to the park, bonded over EVERYthing, then I told him I was asexual, and he said "WHEW LOOK AT THE TIME!...I have to go back to work" and ya know, it was funny as fuck and I was really proud of myself and I ALSO realized that I really don't want a partner at all! It also makes for a great story....which I told at the bar last night. (and after the laughter died, all the men at the bar turned their backs to me because I became invisible...oh well!)

She says don't self-isolate but don't get overbusy. I guess that means don't be overbusy with solitary pursuits. I am guessing that going to group activities regularly (maybe 3 times a week?) is okay as long as you have time for yourself (rest and reflection and meditation).

Even though I'm glad your here and helping so many people. I can dwell on this way too much which brings me into a downward spiral.

It as if you made this video specifically for me. Thank you Anna!

You are proof of guardian angels. This is the biggest eye opener that sings to my heart. Thank you thank you thank you so much 😪😪😪

People who don’t care what signals they’re sending are the messed up people. Their stakes are low mine aren’t - they don’t care I care! I need to be more honest with myself and what I want.

Wow, loved this. Such great information and delivered with such care ❤

My cab light is on for me. To show me the way. That’s where I am now! I’m so good with that! It’s all about me now!

Romance is dead, people tend to fetishized about it…like it’s a drug. After a while, it gets boring and dull. Why stay in a relationship if your significant other might cheat, lie and gaslight you? Is it really worth it at the end?

I never had relationships. I only had very brief periods where I was getting inconsistent affection from somebody that was not available from the start. One time they said they were not gay, one time they didn’t want a relationship, one time they were much older and lived in a different country. I’m 24 and have spent all my short life in complete agony and sorrow, recently wanted to kill myself. But NO. I will not escape this the easy way. I will fight to become securely attached, to heal my trauma, and bring forth all the amazing projects, work opportunities and university studies I am pursuing at the moment. I WILL BE a happy man and will find one day, without rush, a man that is suitable for me, caring and available, intelligent and nice. And if nobody will be that for me, I’ll be happy either way.

Watching your videos is like having hot chocolate... soo comforting.

Bottom line: try to heal completely, because healthy people can detect healthy people and want to connect with them.

All of this is so true. Bad relationships also set back the healing process such a long way. I've done more personal growth in the last year out of a bad relationship than I did in 10 years in it

What a REALLY EDUCATING video. Thanks 😊

i have a healthy, respectful relationship with my exes on my own terms and treat them with kindness if for no other reason than my own healing. what i don't quite know yet is what i want--do i want a relationship or not? i am isolating, and i love it!! never felt so safe, easy, and free in my whole life. i feel like i'd like and am ready for a partner *who could actually be there for me* in a relationship that also feels safe, easy, and free. but i've had more disappointments after my second divorce...and my first ex pulled a bait-and-switch to become a neglectful, abusive spouse (the second was a narcissist--i was too emotionally starved not to bite that bait)...so now i'm having trouble trusting anyone! i finally met someone with lots to offer, but they immediately went back to their abusive partner...i know i dodged a bullet, but it felt like having chocolate cake snatched away from my lips right when i'm about to take a luscious bite. so now i'm torn between "yes, there is someone awesome out there for me" and "i can't trust my own judgment...what if they turn out to be another bait and switch?" ugh!!

As you say at about 1.30 of the video, " it's not always clear who is/is not emotionally available. But, if we can do away with the language that judges relationships as either "good or bad" and rather see them as "more or less appropriate" or "healthy enough to invest in" to too sick to continue them and the commitment we make is to terminate them because we genuinely care about ourselves and are through with self-sabotaging behaviors then I think we stand a far better chance of ending inappropriate or unhealthy relationships with compassion and of finding what we all really want which I believe is safety, love, acceptance for who we are- the good, the bad, and the not-so-pretty" aspects of our character and person.

Priceless video

This video has been painfully accurate to my experience through life. But I reckon my vibe is about halfway ready. Still a lot to do. Thanks for the insight.

thank you, Anna❤

I isolate. I'm aware of it. I need some time to myself after dealing with "stuff" though.

Can you please do a video on the difference between a connection and an attachment with a man?

Anna, can you make a video on how to become more emotionally available? I know you have videos on being attracted to emotionally unavailable people, but I’m the one told I’m too emotionally unavailable, and have been dumped for this reason. I try really hard, and Im always told I’m very warm/comforting, but when it comes to true and deep intimacy I struggle.

I love isolating.

Do they exist these “almost healed” single people? Or is it theoretical? In my experience the good ones are already taken and the available ones are difunctional. So my question is- how an earth can one experience healing and growing through connection if there is nobody to do it with ?

Hmm..now I have to decide what I really want AND need in a partner 🤔 The last partner made me think I was being “too needy” for wanting to plan a future for us, meanwhile we were supposed to be in love & soulmates🤦🏻‍♀️ He was not good for me at all✌🏻

Uplifting and good advice 🌷

08:55 this advice is really helpful. I struggle with carrying anger/guilt/sadness within me.

Found someone who was patient with me and inspires me to grow.

Great video as usual 🌈🌈thank you

Great perspectives and helpful suggestions. I feel I’m always on a transformation journey, constantly evolving and getting to know myself better… feeling more empowered to kick lingering addictions and approach relationships differently going forward. Although I very much need a period of celibacy first, for healing and introspection.

but I enjoy isolation 😅😅

It’s obvious to me that I though more or myself and my potential that what’s really there. I am a failure in this life and have to accept that.

Wow, you are very prophetic. Thank you for sharing

I have been isolating for 5 years now. Omg

This has been one of the harder parts of healing for me to really integrate into myself

This spoke my whole life.

Thank you!!!! I was not clear I repeat I was not clear in that clear CAB LIGHT!!! I NEVER experience so much pain that I am focused even if others do not think I am I am so clear on what and who I like to meet my last experience were 2 long-term relationships I am single for the first time and using the school of singleness to study myself and others a lot better

Boy do I get this!!

You're so good, so knowledgeable and yet so understanding towards us. I really have appreciated and listened to what you say in your videos. 2 years post break up and I'm still single and healing, thank-you x

I like this one as well! THank you so much for being here and helping us!

I appreciate your videos so much, and I have to say, you look fabulous in this one! Whatever you are doing- it’s working! You are glowing!

Wonderfully explained....💕💖💞💃

Wow i might be a healthy person 😊 thank u for this video

I'm not ready but this is great . Thank you

True. Every word.