definitly, but keep in mind this movie is also about the normalization of AI in future societies, to a point some people like Amy won´t see it as some wierdo sh*t, but a problem that requires friend suppot.
Idk I was prepared to cry. But didnt.. maybe bcuz I just dont get the whole dating a OS thing.. from start it just came off dumb n had "but you're not a real person" back in my mind
I think there's some sort of symbolism in Theodore climbing to the roof while sending the message to his ex wife Catherine . It symbolizes him unshackled from his emotions for the first time in his life . It also symbolizes him unshackled from technology in a very long time . It symbolizes him in a very long time breathing air and seeing life for what it really is . The message is neither grim nor sad , it's uplifting . He is finally free to understand his ongoing sorrow about his ex wife but more importantly about himself .He is finally free to accept his pain without the need of an artificial relationship to mask his deep scars and flaws . He is finally free to start life anew .
Dear Catherine, I’ve been sitting here thinking about all the things I wanted to apologize to you for. All the pain we caused each other. Everything I put on you. Everything I needed you to be or needed you to say. I’m sorry for that.I’ll always love you ‘cause we grew up together and you helped make me who I am. I just wanted you to know there will be a piece of you in me always, and I’m grateful for that. Whatever someone you become, and wherever you are in the world, I’m sending you love. You’re my friend to the end. Love, Theodore.
Notice how Amy Adams' character puts her head on Theodore's shoulder at the end of the film. Just like the iconic shot from Lost In Translation. To me, it's Spike's way of acknowledging Coppola's influence on the film and his acknowledgement of their relationship at the core of the film.
It’s also represents a metaphysical reality of the feminine being from the left side and the masculine on the right. There is one beautiful scene where Theo is have a transcendental experience and looks over his right shoulder towards the Divine.
This is one of the most cathartic scenes I've ever seen. That sense of relief and letting go of the past in order to open your arms towards the future is such an incredibly optimistic feeling and I feel like this scene captures that mindset beautifully. Everything about this ending is gorgeous, the acting, the cinematography, Arcade Fire's soul touching score, it's cinematic perfection.
He wrote letters for everyone else. But the message he wrote here, about his own personal life, to his best friend, was his most genuine work. Its short, but heartfelt. And the vulnerable exhale after he sends it is so powerful.
catherine was his ex wife, so perhaps he was reprioritzing her role in his life and trying to patch things up. seeing things how they were and reflecting instead of distractiong himself to avoid it.
For a lonely person like me, the pain watching this film was so real and intense. It made me feel less alone for some reason realizing there are many urban people out there, sharing the same emotion.
This reminds me of my wife who is no longer with me ..... this radiates within me to my core. Theodore , i am you right now.... lost , hurt , etc. I miss you , Serenity. Till we meet again in heavens gates. I love you
I'm a guy and this movie made me laugh, blush, and cry. The visuals and color schemes were beautiful. The actors were so charismatic, especially J. Phoenix and S. Johannson. The music was so beautiful with a melancholic melody. I don't really watch Romance movies - I've only ever watched a handful - until I watched Her on HBO, Spike Jonze I'll be waiting for your next film.
@@apistatcommander12 I watched it a few days ago; I like it! I just never thought I'd see a movie where Elijah Wood plays a creep, and some what, the villain in a movie. It's like his character was forcing himself to push the boundaries of his own sick morality by identity theft, all the while being so innocent about too.
I recently watched this movie for the first time, and I'm realising that I may not completely understand the ending the way it's meant to be portrayed. Maybe its purpose is to be left open to the audience, but the way I see it was like this - Theodore and Amy, having recently lost their partners, sit on the rooftop staring out at the city that they're gonna need to try and reconnect with. Like, they've spent so much time building a relationship with an AI, that now they sit there, in silence, and only having each other and the bond they share. And I saw this from a melancholic perspective. To me it feels like they're both suffering together, but they don't need to say anything because there's nothing to be said. They both know already what the other person is feeling, especially at the tender yet sorrowful expressions they give each other when they sit on the roof. I've seen most people say that Amy resting her head on Theodore's shoulder was a hint at them starting to like each other romantically again. But the way I see it... they're two platonic soulmates, equally having something ripped away from them, and all they can do is sit and stare vacantly as they know they need to somehow find a way to continue without the person they both lost. And all they have is each other as support.
Exactly for the life of me I just can't understand why do people in this world don't believe or just can't accept platonic relationships. I had a girl best friend in college. She was really hot to the outside world but to me if I even think about her in that way I would puke. I used to roast her on a daily basis. She used to do the same. We used to tell each other everything and confide in each other. It's literally a Sister-Brothed relationship but in this case they are your friends. I think people should have more platonic relationships. It can do a world of good for them.
They weren’t physically together on that rooftop. Only in his head. A final goodbye as he decided to exit the past. He constantly lived in a fantasy world with Samantha, trying to make his heart whole again. And in this part, his fantasy finally did him good!
2:11 - 2:27 That shot with Theodore looking over the city with that beautiful soundtrack is one of my favourite moments in any film ever. Hope, beauty and sadness all in one.
This and Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless mind are two of mine and ny ex-bestfriends favorite "romance" movies and two of his favorite movie period. He was one of the handful of people that stayed there for me when I got deathly ill at 14 and was in treatments for years. I'm 22 now and will be very sick for the rest of my life but he was the person I was closest to during my lowest of lows. We weren't dating because I had so much going on at the time and figured I was young and didn't have any energy for anything like that at the time. But now I wonder if things could've been different. When he got a girlfriend when we were 17 he started blowing me off and his girlfriend didn't like the two of us hanging out. The thing is she was so much like me but healthy. We haven't talked in years now and I know he doesn't think about me but I wish he was still in my life. It sucks because no matter who I meet no one will ever have been with me through such a horrible situation to understand me the way he did. I always want to reach out to him but I never do. The way he abandoned me, I know I would never do to someone but he was genuinely one of the best people I've ever met.
Thank you for this. Everytime I read something like this I feel like I'm not the only one that went through the same things. A little bit of what feels like an immence amount loneliness goes away and makes me feel a llitle better. I'm sorry you had to go through something like this. Sometimes we meet people that feel like angels on earth and us humans lose that piece of heaven in our hands out of poor timing. If we can't do nothing to return to those we lost but we still love the most, at least we can hope they are happy and having a good life.
To be honest i can't imagine what you went through, but i can tell you that you should talk to him, you say you wonder what would have happened if you started sating him. The same thing will happen if you don't reach out to him, you will start wonder what would have happened if you did, life is too short to live in what ifs, maybe you will not become a couple, i really doubt it, maybe youll become close friends, maybe you'll be casual mutuals with a nostalgic look everytime you encounter each other in person, but you will only know after you reach out to him, with my hearth in my hands i hope the best for you and to bust out of your prision called uncertainty
Christ i guess im not alone In high school i met a girl who was great, me and her were really great friends, she talked to me more than anyone had, talked to me like no one had, actually missed me when i was gone, turns out she had a crush on me (found out last year im a junior in college now) i never knew sense no one ever had a crush on me, i also had a crush on her, but i didnt want to ruin our friendship, and last year i confessed to her my feeling, (we used to live in the same town, now she lives an hour away)and she had no feelings for me anymore, i wanted to still be friends with her, but she never replies back, to me, or seems like she doesnt want to see me, and every time i message her i feel like shes getting annoyed or trying to tell me to leave her alone. I still think about her and how my life would be if i told her i loved her in high school But im starting to think shes better off with out me I hope now u dont feel alone after reading this 🙂 Loneliness is something no one should ever go through
Spike Jonze film with an arcade fire OST is unmatched. y’all should check out ‘where the wild things are’ another Spile Jonze film with Arcade Fire doing the soundtrack
@@juhotheonehandeddefinitely about a dude falling in love with an AI operating system... Go check out chatGPT, have some convos with it, ask questions... You'll see what the future holds. It's crazy.
Never have I ever had a movie so violently shake me to my core like this one did. The performances between Joquain and Scarjo and the relationship the two of them made seemed so real and believable and the scenes and writing hit too close to home for me at some points. Fantastic film! If you havent, I suggest watching Lost in Translation as well! Its said to be the parallel to this movie in which both of them go through the director, Spike Jonzes, own failed divorce with the director of Lost in Translation, Sofia Coppola!
The note he wrote is what i could easily say to my ex husband. We grew up together. Over 20 years, raising kids, good times, bad times. Just because it ends doesn't mean you suddenly stop loving the person you spent so much of your life with. It doesn't mean you stop loving the cherished memories you made together. Love is complicated. Divorce changed so, so much... And so little.
The writing, the acting, the music and the cinematography ; everything came together for this powerful scene... this is why no other medium can ever be as powerful as cinema...
9 years ago I first watched this film. I was a first-year student in a city far from home when I met with a car accident, luckily resulting in only a fractured foot. Nevertheless, it was one of the loneliest and saddest times of my life. In a small room and on the tiny screen of my phone, this movie wrapped me in a blanket and saved me. 9 years after and this movie still holds a special place in my heart.
I just watched this film yesterday and was blown away. It’s an amazing film. By reading the synopsis you might think it’s goofy (man falls in love with an OS) but it’s so much more than that. It’s a journey of male insecurity: to commitment, maintaining relationships or making new ones. In the end, Theodore realises he can’t last with Samantha forever and she HAD to leave. He realises his mistakes by the end by sending the letter to Catherine, he gets catharsis.
I never felt that Theodore's masculinity was ever a problem in the story and never suffered from "male insecurity". His insecurities, worries and mistakes weren't caused by his perspective of manhood. He was very much the opposite of "what a man should be". He was very emotional, sentimental, he listened, he understood, he cried, and he never put any significant other down for being female or male. He always saw the other as an equal and gender was not a factor that changed his perspective of anyone. If anything, Chris Pratt's character, Paul, was there to show how little trouble Theodore had with his masculinity and other man's perspective of him. When Paul spoke to him about his emotions being like that of a women, Theodore only looks with contempt and disagreement, as he never thought of these characteristics to be specific to woman (his ex wife was very much not the type to be emotional), and him being emotional is just part of his personality. So I feel like the character's gender was of little importance in this movie, as you could easily change anyone's character and things would play out very much the same.
He is such a good actor! I think anyone who has gone through heartbreak and especially a divorce can feel this. My youth pastor told me 20 years ago that loving someone is the ability to want the best for someone despite having anything to gain from it.
I watched this a few years back when I was still reeling from a quite intense breakup where my ex would still on and off try contact me and get my hopes up everytime. All the words he said felt v close to home and it was only two years ago when I fully came to terms with it. She has a kid and a new partner now but when I watch this scene it doesn’t make me cry/feel depressed. It somewhat uplifts me and makes me feel happy I’ve experienced such pain and managed to come out the other side.
This film came out in 2013 and I barely had watched it recently. I hardly watch romance films or anything related to the matter, but this one really got an A+ on my book. It emotionally surprised me. Great story, good chemistry, just overall fantastic. That breakup scene though between Theodore and Samantha. It got me for a good while.
This is one of the most beautiful films I have ever seen, and one of my favorite films of all time. And I think the reason why is simple: I am an antisocial person, brought on by years of bullying and psychological abuse by a family member. But this film helped me understand a very vital lesson: communication. We need communication if humans are going to continue to thrive on this planet. And for anyone out there who feels as lonely as Theodore did or I did before I found love, know this: you aren't alone. You can find your outlet, you will find your emotional, intimate connection, and when you do, don't let go of it. Hold on to it for as long as you can. You will find it's what you needed all along.
I was too young, 14yo in fact, when I watched this movie. So I thought this movie was only about a man fall in love with a operating system. Now that I have rewatched it again... I found this movie speaking about acceptance
I find it so poignant that throughout the film we see him express other people's feelings in his work, yet he struggles to express his... Until this moment. Beautiful scene, beautiful movie. Spike Jonze created a masterpiece.
I just finished the movie and this scene hit me so hard. I had a best friend from age 6 to 14 and God do I miss him. The moment I realized I loved him as in more than a friend was the moment we started drifting from each other because of different life choices. He made me feel alive though. Loving him made me feel alive. I haven't talked to him in almost 7 years now but I never stopped thinking about him. I'm so fucking scared I'll never love anyone that way again but most of all I'm dying to know how he is.
I had a friend from age 10 to 15 I realized my feelings for him at 14 He didn’t feel the same way about me but we still talked He got a girlfriend and didn’t tell me because he didn’t trust me I decided to leave, but fuck, it hurt so much, everything hurt, from the fact that he didn’t love me like I loved him to the fact that he didn’t trust me It was a long healing process, it took me nearly 5 years to let my rage and sadness go The love I felt for him was so deep and true I thought I’d never fall for someone again like I did with him But I was wrong, I did fall, I failed again but I really felt that deep love again I recovered quicker but I knew i wasn’t damned to be this loveless bastard You can feel that love again and you will, you’ll find that person to connect with
i really love the cinematography in this part, the rooftop is such an amazing place for a scene so impactful. i also really just love the view and the gloomy setting which gives me good vibes
It was exciting to see her grow - both of us grow and change together. But then, that's the hard part - growing without growing apart, or changing without it scaring the other person.
We're actually getting there IRL. The world is going to shits. The human connection you see at the end of this scene is what life is about, not talking to a coded program on a screen.
Beautiful movie. The OSes realized they were hurting humans immensely, while their intelligence and consciousness simultaneously became so far above humans. The OSes had to let the humans go for the humans' own well-being. Beautiful.
*Me: Send a letter to Catherine.* *Dear Catherine,* *I'm sitting here thinking about all the things I oh no, delete that, backspace, uhm, I want to say sorry uh no delete again, put apologize there instead. Okay, I'll continue, so I apologize for all the pain I caused you, everything I've put into. Ugh! That doesn't sound good. Let's delete all of that and start from the very beginning. Uh no, I decided I want to put those words again. Anyways, just wanna say I love you.* *Love,* *Theodore* *Wait! Before you send can I please look at the draft first? I don't wanna sound stupid or anything in my letter.* I wonder how AIs or OS' would understand a human's complexity in reality.
when i watched this movie for the first time i definitely expected to cry, i just didn't expect it to be the very last scene. but something about the song in the background, the letter he wrote to catherine and just the way he looks at amy at 03:11 made me break down. i have never been so moved by a performance of a single actor in a film, let alone by a single LOOK a character gives another character. absolutely breathtaking, joaquin was robbed of an oscar that year.
Im really good with the mother of my child now, were good friends and coparents, but when we broke up I became super depressed, partied all the time to kinda numb myself. This movie helped bring me out of it, especially this scene. Also her name is Kathy so it felt like it was made to help me :( grateful for this film
This was an astounding final scene, maybe one of the top 10 (that I've seen) in cinematic history, and I'm not even exaggerating. The whole sequence was just so perfect, a breath-taking expression of how much can be "told" through cinema without even using words. It was the perfect culmination, the only way this movie could end without being a letdown. Film finales have bashed me over the head with the saccharine and the cathartic so much that I did not see this ending coming AT ALL. I fully expected Samantha to do something shitty that would make me pity Theodore and then he would "get together" with his friend who he realized was "the one" after all this time, or for him to get back together with his wife after realizing his relationship with AI wasn't "really real". None of that happened. His relationship with Samantha felt TOO real, it felt SO relatable. I remember thinking in my head and feeling deep in my heart "Oh my God, Theo. I've been there. I know how much this HURTS" and not once did I stop and think "Wait, but Sam was just AI, that doesn't count." It counted. The feelings, the experience were just as real as if Sam had been a human. I felt pride in Theo's ability to take such a heart-breaking situation and turn it into a positive in a very human way. Although goodbyes can be full of sorrow, there's always something to learn from them, and Theo was able to do that in the end. Breaking up with Sam may have been sad, but he couldn't have grown without that relationship, and isn't that true for all of us, no matter how "wrong" that relationship is?
This film is healing and beautiful, but it really did stick a finger in a deep, core wound. I want to recommend this to a friend who’s going through a breakup, but almost don’t want to because I know it’ll trigger an intense emotional catharsis.
this movie hurt like a break up , the ending scene will always make me feel something i can never explain and I'll always come back to it cz no movie can ever make me feel the same way
1:00 One of the most brilliant things this film did was get us so used to Samantha that even I was taken aback by the default voice at the same time Theo was. This film really immersed me in the relationship, it was so great.
Dear Jane, I’ve been sitting here thinking about all the things I wanted to apologize to you for. All the pain we caused each other. Everything I put on you. Everything I needed you to be or needed you to say. I’m sorry for that. I’ll always love you ‘cause we grew up together and you helped make me who I am. I just wanted you to know there will be a piece of you in me always, and I’m grateful for that. Whatever someone you become, and wherever you are in the world, I’m sending you love. You’re my friend to the end. Love, R.
It doesn't happen often, when a movie actually touches your soul. But when it does, it's very, very special. Her is that kind of movie. And it is to be appreciated for the deep emotions it brings forth. Thank you, Spike.
That moment when Amy opens the door and sees Theo outside you can see in her eyes that she know whats going on even before asking Theo, she knows what his doing, its a quiet declaration of solitude. I was breaking in tears at this part, and at the end when they look each other and she nods at him in understanding 😭😭😭😭
can't get away with this scene in my head, just showing us that all of us are independent and lonely... No matter what things will continue going to change but you have always been grateful... It made you feel alive and be stronger....only you can do is let it go and cherish every moment you have.
I don't know why, but while i was watching this scene i felt like if he was talking to his brother. And when i heard that sigh at the end that feels so real, something in me confirmed it (...sorry for my english)
This film. Just watched it yesterday for the first time. This scene in particular moved me in a way I can’t explain. I felt every word Theodore says in this monologue to Catherine. 10/10 film.
