Her husband neglects his family because of hobby of sea fishing[Hello Counselor ENG,THA/2018.10.15] 

I can never be on hello counsellor. my automatic response would be "leave him sis"

I hate it when they use "stress" as an excuse. Who doesn't have stress?!

how does he spend $200 on a shirt but get mad at her for spending $3 on hair pins?? where is the logic

I have been watching hello counselor for years and what yeongja said was true. Dongyeop has never been this frustrated, he's usually calm listening to the concerns, but in this one, he just spit it out. You can see how frustrated he is

the 33 people who didn't find this as a problem....are a problem.

I can't stop my tears knowing poor hanbyeol diagnosed with depression at a such young age ! I'm so heart broken :'(

Wtf did I just watch !!!! Since 3 years I watch hello counselor and this concern is one of my top 5 the worst !!!! Poor the kids and the wife

I'm happy that they actually consulted the psychiatrist and confirmed that she had depression, to make the dad understand. Hopefully the dad will change.

He is not only a bad husband, he is the worst person ever. Please people if you feel like you are not ready to show love & spend time & money for your own family stay on your own.

it's not hello counselor without husband drinking or fishing issue.

Working at a hospital, I see countless female colleagues working 18hr shifts, high stress jobs, and they still go home, cook food, do household chores, send their kids to school, etc. I have NEVER seen them neglect their family due to stress. Stress is not an excuse, and if youre burnt out, seek therapy, take time off from work, dont make people suffer.

Such a little girl has to deal with depression already :(

when the little girl said that the tree wil die end that it cant be helped i broke down crying!!!!! thats absolutely not what has to be on a childs mind!!!!!

I will never understand how fishing can be so fun and addicting lol

Her drawing make me sad. So lonely ㅠㅠ

I’m always so scared for the people who requested help on this show because what if something happens to them once they get home and no ones there to watch what action the problem maker makes? He sounds really controlling and abusive even towards his kids.

The tree picture was the scariest. She said the tree will die and there is nothing that can help it. That's really scary. I can't imagine what her world must look like. I'm wondering if she had suicide thoughts yet or violent thoughts :O or convinced her sisters to do weird or scary things.

Nope no nope. I know it would be extremely difficult but she cannot freaking stay with this guy. HE KICKED HER IN THE STOMACH. She needs to leave him immediately. For her own safety

I've never wanted to get married or have children, but after watching "Hello Counselor" for the last four years, that feeling has increased one-hundredfold. This show is like birth control. Some of these spouses are a hot mess. If they're not alcoholic, then they're selfish; if they're not selfish, then they are (verbally)abusive; and if they're not abusive, then they're just so, so incredibly immature. 🤦‍♀️ I almost flipped the table after his remarks @18:26.

I rarely type any comments but this case really really upset me. I doubt that this man will ever change. The poor wife that has to go through all of this and he keeps blaming her/ not realizing that he is wrong. It really is sad that the little girl at the age of 8 is going through depression. Depression is hell and she shouldnt be experiencing this at such a young age. He should get his shit together and finally care for his family. Help his daughter to get the necessary treatment and be there for his family. This is so sad.

I'm refraining myself so much from writing here. It's been a long time since I left one but when it comes to kids, I can't help it. Little Hanbyeol is surrounded by her little sisters that I felt a bit relieved because they look like they get along well. As someone that used to be depressed, isn't it possible for him to empathize more of her and run to her when the result came out? Be more attentive of her actions, words or thoughts? Because once you're in a bad place, you'll be everywhere to stop any of your beloved ones to be in the same state because you yourself felt of how horrible that place is? She isn't as cheerful as the other kid, she only speaks one word at a time, being asked. She won't be able to start a conversation if no one approached her first. She's probably the one walking by herself when mom's hands were occupied with a fishing rod and her two other kids. How scary would that be because you have no one to hold, walking on the street with a lot of harmful things with her mom, could be yelling for her to walk faster or walk closer to them. And at home being the eldest, she's probably entrusted with a lot of things to do, as little as playing with her other siblings when she wasn't feeling like she want to. Hearing your parents unlimited fights and shouts, it tore a kids' heart more than anyone could imagine. When he said that it's too expensive for a $30 treatment/therapy cost, I died inside. How could you as a father is soooooo selfish?! You worked hard, yeah, props to you. But where all the money goes? $2500 a month for fishing trips and $30 therapy you called it expensive. Then you expected your kid to find her own way out of the situation, herself, an 8 years old little daughter. I could fit 80, $30 therapy sessions in that fishing cost. Which could help an innocent kid breathe a new life and have faith that life is a beautiful thing and feeling loved by the closest people in her life. Please protect her after this, Mr Dad. Then I'll give my respect to you.

What is that stupid smile he had during the process? Shouldnt he be embarrassed for what he did?What an a****** . Keep making excuses.

Those 33 people who don't think it's a concern are my concern

Women should pay more attention to their education and have financial freedom. So they can leave, earn and live their life on their own when they end up with a jerk like him.

_"You almost failed to be a human being"_ HAHAHAHAAHHAAHAHHAAHHAAH

The wife have seen a red flag on her first pregnancy but still have more kids. The sad part is the kids are the most affected of everything. If that was me if my husband did not help me on my first pregnancy, I would never let him touch me and get pregnant again, i dont care if he will divorce me atleast my priority then is my child...what a b....rd husband .

These 'hobby' obsessed people should pay for my college tuition instead of wasting their money on these things.

When the child told the professional that the tree would die over time.... It's true, but it made me so sad that it was the first thing in her mind. An optimistic child would've said it'll grow or make fruits over time. I hope she gets help and lots of love.

That man is a creepy person i think, with his innocent intonation explaining his bad behavior without feeling sorry doing that. Omg, so creepy. And.. Just stop having kids. Your man isn't capable being a good husband and a good dad.

He said the kids are his future. That is WRONG. They are his PRESENT.

Trigger warning: domestic violence situation with a child diagnosed with depression.

some people should just never get married and die alone

Their kids are so adorable! They are so cute! Protect them at all cost!

Their kids looks so much a like i thought they're triplets 😂 they're cute!✨

Their daughters are so lovely. I just hope their situation gets situated fast. They're too precious. Them _and_ their mom for having to _be_ in such a position!

If he's stressed from work, why won't he destress by bonding with his wife & daughters instead? :/ I always look forward to going home to my family after a long day.

Her husband good for nothing

My heart hurts for her, she deserves a loving husband and a loving dad for her kids. I would never wish anyone to have a spouse like him. EVER.

im really sad for hanbyeol.. Im glad her mom come here fast, this can turn into disaster.. hope she will get better soon

when hanbyeol mentioned about the tree dying and not being able to fix it... i was so shocked.

He can't be call as a husband and a man if he act like that.😠

Sometimes, watching this show, i just wanna slap a husband.

i'm so heartbroken for the kids :'(

27:55 Thank you DongYeob,so glad he said this to him.... dad needs to pay the money for his daughter's treatment! Please don't have kids if you're not emotionally, financially, mentally ready

That little girl should not have depression in a very young age. She deserve better future. 😭😭😭😭

The little girl drawing hit me like a truck

those kids is so precious and pretty. i hope he can change his attitude and his craziness for fishing because he actually hurting the whole family. i cant stand this guys even for a while i dnt understand how his wife cope with this for 8years already

I hope they come back to this family later and that things have changed. The most heartbreaking part was hanbyeol’s.

This man don't even care about himself, he needs help

I appreciated that a professional was consulted for this concern. After seeing the clips of his daughter's session, the dad was able to see that something has to change for his children to thrive. I hope that this family will go to counseling.

My mom have 8 kids and she clean the house wash the dishs do the lundary cook us food take care of my small brother and sisters and you know that my dad never sayed thank you he say (is that what you call work) so I started to help my mom with work even that I have homework so I really feel how she is feeling

I don't wanna have kids if they were gonna just suffer like that especially if the husband is crap like this one I really feel bad for the mom and her kids this show made me hate something called fishing and drinking i swear!!😥

What kinda husband says “you deserved it” when there wife is at the hospital in pain?! And then he had the nerves to say that it was a “joke” like pft

I got a real goosebump when hanbyeol said her tree drawing "it'll die"

I have never seen a more despicable, pathetic, immature, irresponsible and selfish human being in my life. Hearing him just while watching the video is so frustrating-I don't know what I would have done had I been there in the audience. I just wish this woman understands where this man stands in her life and walks out of this marriage because this man clearly shows no ounce of remorse, sympathy or respect for his family🤬

WHEN HE GETS OLD ..SURELY HIS CHILDREN WILL NOT TAKE CARE OF HIM...BEC HE DONT CARE OF HIS FAMILY..UNLESS HE WILL CHANGE...

This is one of the saddest episodes I've watched this year. Watching the wife cry resonated with me because I have been there. Raising one child can be difficult but, three with one on the way is quite overwhelming especially when you don't have help and support. Also, I may be wrong but I believe the father still suffers from depression and this is why he has invested in fishing as a way to escape reality. He seems miserable and in return he is making his family miserable by his selfishness. This couple needs family counseling and I pray that they can provide a stable, loving home for their precious daughters.

She should’ve left him after the first child. I don’t understand why she keeps staying n having more kids.

OMG I hate him😑

Their daughters are beautiful and it shocked me when Hanbyeol just said that she won't live in the house she had drawn and the tree would die. I meant, normal kids would happily draw their family members in the gouse, flowers all over the place and they would cheerfully added 'the tree will grow so big in the future!' with cute eyes drawn on the tree. I really hope Hanbyeol gets treatment and the parents to reconcile. Childhood life is very important and once you ruin it there's no coming back. I hope the husband don't waste this second chance.

I was married to someTHING like that once. I divorced his butt.

I agree that your work's stress could be really fatal that you tend to lose your mind but did you try to get rid of it? Indulging yourself in to something so trivial like fishing is nothing but turning a blind eye on your responsibilities. Again, if you are not ready for stress of being a good parent, then please use protection. These kids don't deserve to be on the receiving end of your 'stress'. How are you so confident of raising 4 kids when you are not even with your family when they need you the most? Seek professional help to relieve yourself from your goddamn stress and be a responsible parent.

정말 심하네요 결혼은 왜...하신건지.. 이런말하면 안되는데...

People seems to forget that being a stay at home parent = 24/7 job without rest or vacation and without any paycheck. These people work way harder than those in the office and are more noble than most people. 😤😤😤

I don't think I've ever been so upset about one of these concerns before now. Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of concerns on the show that frustrate me to no end, but this takes the cake. I honestly have no idea where to start. I would have looked this girl straight in the eyes and said, "Girl, leave him. Run for the hills because this is gonna get worse." The two things that struck me were the costs between his spending habits and the spending habits his wife had. He spends around $2,500 on fishing alone, not including extra expenses like his clothing purchases and God only knows how much on alcohol. But he gets pissed when she buys hair clips for their daughters, inexpensive clothing or anything else. He's even monitoring how much she's spending, which concerns me too. He even had the audacity to say that his child's treatments for her depression was too expensive? Like seriously? Which brings me to number two, the little girl. Hanbyeol is only 8 years old in this clip in Korean age, which would maybe be like 7 internationally if it wasn't already converted to that age on the show. She drew a house that she wouldn't want to live in, with no family inside. She drew a tree on a beach that will die and said it wouldn't be able to survive. Typically, from what I would see from other kids drawings when I was younger, even today, are full of color and life family members and friends, maybe even a sun in the corner. I would imagine that kids who drew trees would say they would make lots of fruits or would be able to thrive. She didn't. She went straight to that tree is going to die. There's no saving it. There's nothing that can be done. That broke my heart. Sorry for the rant but things like this just upsets me so much.

a kind, overly patient and low self-esteem woman with a manipulative and selfish man ...

I cried so much, because this is exactly how my family is. I literally hear her talking about my father and I see my mother when she talks about herself.

Lol dont worry guys remember after the episode airs everyone will bash him haha even his family and her family and will treat him like shit

I think she put up with him, hoping he'd change and that's sad.

Why did she marry such a vile person? Why did she even have more kids with him? I can't believe his parents didn't go to the hospital to see their first granddaughter

You know what situations like these stress me out so much because in American society we will divorce our husbands for any small reason but in other societies such as Asian or African it is still such a taboo to do so it doesn't matter how badly he treats you it's still frowned upon if the woman leaves...you get this title of used goods almost like you can't find another spouse and this is why so many women stay with their husbands and it frustrates me to my core because they don't deserve this type of treatment man or woman but because of the way that their culture will view them they stay in these toxic relationships that is not only toxic for them but is a very toxic environment to be raising children in and it's beyond frustrating

The husband seems like a sociopath. The children are adorable, and I hope their situation improves.

I think the husband maybe psychotic? No emotions at all. And when he does, obviously faking it.

i honestly think the husband think that highly of himself because he's the one who make money in the family. he think he can do all of that because he's the one who provide the family. how come his parents didn't talk to them? he's so full of himself.

Girl shoulda left when she could :( no dude is worth this much stress

All the guilty guys try to make excuses with their problems of money, stress, work etc... and wait to be on this show to apologize Damn why you care about fishes when your daughter is depressive ??? Why you spend more money on fishing than for your family ??? Why you do children when you can’t raise them ????

This is not love. To everyone watching this and similar episodes: know what you deserve and don't settle for anything less.

I really feel for Hanbyeol since I went through the same. I had childhood depression, severe social anxiety and a very low self esteem because I was also ostracised and bullied when I was 7. I also didn't have anyone to talk to about because I saw how my parents were struggling being new migrants in a country where we didn't know the language and my mum was going through post natal depression. I hope Hanbyeol gets the treatment because she needs it. I didn't and I've only recently been working through it all and I'm 27.

Shin dongyeob being angry makes me laugh😂

Just divorce the guy be financially independent

Im crying when their daughter diagnosed with childhood depression. She's too young 😭 ohmy..... Need to alert my self so that i wouldnt burden my child with depression 😭

he obviously showed signs of being a butt when they were dating....smh....that's some blinding power that love has :/

This is such good evidence and reason for a divorce. Take it to court end get your own money through maintenance and keep the house. As a law student I think this is very reasonable grounds for divorce if you want out of the marriage because this doesn’t seem like a problem that can be fixed on a show.

He's really a jerk! and what is he smiling for when he watching the video abt her daughter???! OMG

Don't mean to sound ungrateful but I noticed that there's alot of delay in the recent updates . I hope that KBS would look into the matter and update on time . Thank you for the hard work .

When she said her daughter had depression tears started flowing, I know it feels when parents fight and it's not a great feeling at all...

The fact that it was his day off on her first pregnancy was even more reason to go to his wife. It wasn't like he was missing anything important. IT WAS HIS DAY OFF.

I feel so bad for her. Her husband is a living piece of trash . Edit: I just saw the whole thing and I saw their daughter psychology test part (god I can't stop crying) I feel so bad for her childhood .

He is worse than the drunkard father from the GOT7 episode. This year, we had many terrible fathers and husbands, but he is over the top.

PROPHECIES RECEIVED FROM AN OLD WOMAN OF 90 YEARS - 4 keys to the timing of Christ’s return . Prophecies given long ago in Norway An old woman of 90 from Valdres in Norway had a vision from God in 1968. The evangelist Emanuel Minos had meetings (services) where she lived. He had the opportunity to meet her, and she told him what she had seen. He wrote it down, but thought it to be so unintelligible that he put it in a drawer. Now, almost 30 years later, he understands he has to share the vision with others. The woman from Valdres was a very alert, reliable, awake and credible Christian, with a good reputation among all who knew her. This is what she saw: “I saw the time just before the coming of Jesus and the outbreak of the Third World War. I saw the events with my natural eyes. I saw the world like a kind of a globe and saw Europe, land by land. I saw Scandinavia. I saw Norway. I saw certain things that would take place just before the return of Jesus, and just before the last calamity happens, a calamity the likes of which we have never before experienced. She mentioned four waves: 1. “First before Jesus comes and before the Third World War breaks out there will be a ‘détente’ like we have never had before. There will be peace between the super powers in the east and the west, and there will be a long peace. (Remember, that this was in 1968 when the cold war was at its highest. E. Minos) In this period of peace there will be disarmament in many countries, also in Norway and we are not prepared when it (the war) comes. The Third World War will begin in a way no one would have anticipated - and from an unexpected place. 2. “A lukewarmness without parallel will take hold of the Christians, a falling away from true, living Christianity. Christians will not be open for penetrating preaching. They will not, like in earlier times, want to hear of sin and grace, law and gospel, repentance and restoration. There will come a substitute instead: prosperity (happiness) Christianity. “The important thing will be to have success, to be something; to have material things, things that God never promised us in this way. Churches and prayer houses will be emptier and emptier. Instead of the preaching we have been used to for generations -like, to take your cross up and follow Jesus, - entertainment, art and culture will invade the churches where there should have been gatherings for repentance and revival. This will increase markedly just before the return of Jesus. 3. “There will be a moral disintegration that old Norway has never experienced the likes of. People will live together like married without being married. (I do not believe the concept ‘co-habitor’? existed in 1968 - E. Minos.) Much uncleanness before marriage, and much infidelity in marriage will become the natural (the common), and it will be justified from every angle. It will even enter Christian circles and we pet it - even sin against nature. Just before Jesus return there will be TV- programs like we have never experienced. (TV had just arrived in Norway in 1968. E. Minos) “TV will be filled with such horrible violence that it teaches people to murder and destroy each other, and it will be unsafe in our streets. People will copy what they see. There will not be only one ‘station’ on TV, it will be filled with ‘stations.’ (She did not know the word ‘channel’ which we use today. Therefore she called them stations. E. Minos.) TV will be just like the radio where we have many ‘stations,’ and it will be filled with violence. People will use it for entertainment. We will see terrible scenes of murder and destruction one of the other, and this will spread in society. Sex scenes will also be shown on the screen, the most intimate things that takes place in a marriage.” (I protested and said, we have a paragraph that forbids this kind of thing. E. Minos.) There the old woman said: “It will happen, and you will see it. All we have had before will be broken down, and the most indecent things will pass before our eyes.” 4. “People from poor countries will stream to Europe. (In 1968 there was no such thing as immigration. E. Minos.) They will also come to Scandinavia - and Norway. There will be so many of them that people will begin to dislike them and become hard with them. They will be treated like the Jews before the Second World War. Then the full measure of our sins will have been reached (I protested at the issue of immigration. I did not understand it at the time. E. Minos.) The tears streamed from the old woman’s eyes down her cheeks. “I will not see it, but you will. Then suddenly, Jesus will come and the Third World War breaks out. It will be a short war.” (She saw it in the vision.) “All that I have seen of war before is only child’s play compared to this one, and it will be ended with a nuclear atom bomb. The air will be so polluted that one cannot draw one’s breath. It will cover several continents, America, Japan, Australia and the wealthy nations. The water will be ruined (contaminated?). We can no longer till the soil. The result will be that only a remnant will remain. The remnant in the wealthy countries will try to flee to the poor countries, but they will be as hard on us as we were on them. “I am so glad that I will not see it, but when the time draws near, you must take courage and tell this. I have received it from God, and nothing of it goes against what the Bible tells. “The one who has his sin forgiven and has Jesus as Savior and Lord, is safe; our Lord Jesus is coming back Repent now.”

My heart aches for Hanbyeol. No child should ever go through that, I couldn't help but tear up when she drew the picture of the house and when she talked about the tree. I wish her and her sisters the best including their mom.

Yes, the husband is the worst of the worst but he's been like this for 8 years since their first child. Yet she continued to have children with him up to 4. I'm sorry to say that but she chose this.

What a sad excuse for a father and a human being. You don't deserve to have a family if you are just going to neglect and mistreat them.

남편 그러면 죄받아요 ㅡ아가들도 예쁜데 ㅡ장담하는데 저남잔 전혀 부인을 사랑하지 않는것같네요

This woman is so beautiful and her babies omg 🥰🥰🥰 hope she's doing well tho 😫😫😫 it's just too heartbreaking to watch especially when her daughters had that psychological test and she started to cry 😢😢😢

The little girls' hair looks like printer running out of ink from eldest to youngest 😍❤ The fourth baby will have ash brown hair at this rate 😂 How can you have three lovely daughter in front of you and not want to give all your love and show your best side in front of them only. The father and the mother doesn't need to work through their problems if they bith dont want to, but he needs to realize that his lack of empathy and maturity is affecting his precious babies severely.

It broke my heart to see the little girl and how she answered the questions about the drawing. She shouldn’t have to go through depression at such a young and innocent age 😔

Please don't have kids if you cannot handle the responsibility. This is not only financially. Emotional aspect too.

“Before we see the results today, I’d like to say that you lost today.” 😭😂

The wife’s actually so strong I have mad respect for her