Men mainly never want to talk so a lot of time things just get put on the shelf and the only time those boxes get opened up again is when we argue I know from experience most of the time it's called the blame game you never this or you never this but when we are angry and hurt we bring up past feelings and in the end the cycle repeates itself and everything goes back on the shelf an apology goes a long way but if the person is not willing to change what is the point because in the end they are going to do it again sometimes it's the trying that wears you out the most
Definitely Pastor Keith, your old friends from Little Rock. Arkansas (Pastor Kaderick & Debra Michelle Jones) would definitely love for you to do this!!!! We’re in & our church as well!!!!
Canada kane, i feel hurt still too, because i think its because my husband keep apologizing but keeps doing the same thing over and over again. That pain runs really really deep boi 😪
I’m in I do want to say this...I am a man who has been a villain. I was the one who was wrong. Listening to your response makes me feel like that the only way that we can ever stop arguing about a significant matter is if I completely understand how my mistakes have impacted her. But, she is always saying that I will never understand how it impacted her. This is unfair to me if I am doing all I know to understand how I made her feel. Is there ever a time that the spouse has to deal with her own “feelings” in order to get beyond the problem? Or, is it all on me?
This is what my husband does as well…. Maybe just stop altogether and let her see the change in you… my dad used to say actions speak louder than words. If this had been going on over and over it’s hard for someone like me or her to believe that you’ll (or he) will change… really and never bring it up. Actions speak louder.
Bless you Pastor. To add to your vast wisdom and knowledge, do check out the 5 Apology Languages. The same author as the 5 Love Languages. Bless you and thank you for mentoring millions.
