@@RepublicTeaRoom are you asking what to me or the person that originally wrote this comment?.... If you're asking me I made the comment that I made because I think he is an awesome man but he is not a God and he is definitely not the god which is the only God I believe exists from the Christian Bible the God and father Jesus christ.
You scream "Idiot" attempting to diagnose someones mental health from a screen. "No one gives a damn about your opinion and thoughts, it's all invalid." Better advice.
@@CommanderXevon A guarded person describes the insecurities, not the actions. A guarded person can be nasty to keep others away. A guarded person can be kind and clearly puts everyone at a distance. A guarded person can be a silent type. The outward persona manifests differently depending on the person. She is very much guarded, she hides away her true self in fear of hurt. How she does it, however, is through a nasty persona because she falsely believes men like it that way.
I truly believe that Marjorie should have been on that episode with Valintina. There is a REAL difference between self-esteem, self-confidence and empowerment; and just plain thinking that you are just "it."
I find this interesting when men do the same thing to women. "Be mean to her, act uninterested, women don't like nice guys". Now, that the role is reverse it's a problem.
I think your confusing being a “bad guy” with being mean there’s a difference being a “bad guy” is maybe letting her go to voice mail sometimes or not answering a text as quick but no man is ever going to accomplish anything but just being mean, talk nasty to her disrespect her is probably going to get him in jail
This woman has a very specific mindset that will never be changed until someone truly hurts her. She obviously has never respected herself enough to realize you shouldn't have to be rude to someone to get them to like you. Betcha she wouldn't like it if someone did that to her
This might not be the public opinion but she ain’t wrong. I have been nice to guys and been ignored and then been rude and they come running back. Someone needs to explain why that’s the case.
I understood the first girl. I loaned like $500 to a friend/ roommate. I moved out, asked for my money back and I was the bad guy. Like how dare I?! To say I lost a friend and $500. Hell, maybe that was a cheap price, but I learned no more loans though.
It’s really nice to see that somebody took this guy outside and had a talk with him. And that he actually listened. I wonder if he really means it, or if he’s just saying the right thing because he’s on television. The fact of the matter is, somebody thinks he looks 35 years old, and perhaps he does, and they’re encouraging him to stay the way he is. And maybe there’s validity to that. But when he gets to be 55 or maybe 60, and he’s still living like this, that’s gonna get old. And when he’s a senior by himself in the home with no visitors, that’s not gonna be terribly fun either, when all the people around him have visitors and people that love them, looking up to them as elders and asking for the advice, for family histories, want to come get them and go do stuff together. But for all his claims that looks are not so important, instead of seeing opportunity, this guy sees obstructions. He actually complained that some girl’s feet might not look as pretty as he’d like. Well that would be a great opportunity to take her out for an afternoon of spa together. That could’ve been a really nice experience together. Because who knows but that poor woman can’t get at her feet properly. As for wanting a woman who’s got her own money, yet complaining if she has a career, I wonder if this guy knows he has no chance whatsoever with an heiress. I know it’s not the fashionable thing to say, but the whole idea of settling down and maybe having a family, means that everybody’s got something to do that makes sense and is meaningful. Most of the time, the women have the babies. Because they’re the only ones who can. They’re also the only ones who can breast-feed. After that, she usually spends her time teaching kids to walk, toilet training them, giving them some early education. That’s a full-time job. Most of the time, our nice big strong men, are the ones who develop their careers, to do that part of things, so that if they can do it at all, they have somebody at home with the children who will not beat them, and who will take them out and do things with them to develop them. There is no substitute for this. She may be trained to do something else, and she may practice that, and let somebody else take care of educating and raising kids, but really traditionally, if he can make enough money to support his family, and still have time with them (which is really important), then why is he demanding that she have money, but that she doesn’t have a career? That’s just crazy talk. This man needs to do some serious growing up. I hope he has, and that he is well on the road to a life with some meaning, with the potential to have life beyond his own.
Lol yep that’s black men for you, always stating their desires of what they want from women but making a bunch of contradictions. See these men these days want a woman to help pay bills and go 50/50 with them but at the same time want a woman to still cater to him and the home as if he’s paying all the bills, and that’s why he said he wants a woman who’s not broke but not too career oriented and keeps a clean house because he wants a woman to not depend on him to be a provider, he doesn’t want the responsibility of paying all or most of the bills but he does still want a woman to cater to him & clean the house and have time for a relationship..that’s what these dusties want nowadays lol. Any woman foolish enough to be interested in dusties like him deserves the foolishness that comes with it
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a woman thinking she’s special on her own. But I think she’s afraid to show her true self because she doesn’t want to be rejected. I hope she can fluff that off and be happy and live her life the way she wants ❤️
Valentina is a little extra. But baby girl, who ever hurt you in the past Isn’t letting you heal. Let your heart heal ❤️. Don’t be afraid just be cautious.
I agree... She has experienced real trauma either to herself or someone dear to her... Steve almost got through to her... You could see the vulnerability in her face by the end of the segment.
That Valentina person really doesn't understand men, or relationships in general. There is something called compromise. What some people don't seem to understand that a relationship is an agreement between people. If I have a girlfriend, there are obviously things I dislike about her, and there are obviously things she dislikes about me. That's just the way things are. The same is true for that guy who was far too picky. That doesn't mean we shouldn't be selective, but removing options because of arbitrary reasons is a problem with you, not with them.
Wow the gentleman who was talking about the dating apps is so handsome. Why is he not in my country? And my town. I totally agree with Steve, I would walk out too if i was in his situation.
The 50 year old dude with the mailman shirt 👔 got a whole nerve. How you gon be picky & you ain’t even it. Then he laugh with his tongue out of his mouth 🥴
@@lnb252 nah chances are she would’ve said that to anybody. I bet my money she’s the type of person hating on anyone for anything, yet regards herself as a high value woman. Guess what, girl? If you need to put others down and puff yourself up in order to seem better, then you are NOT. A high value person doesn’t shit on others. When another person shines, they’re not stealing your light. They’re just living their life, which doesn’t include you. Making insensitive comments like the one above won’t make you any happier and it won’t bring the other person down. A truly evolved person can’t be dragged down by ego blinded folks. Good luck with that karma.
@@terriajohnson5937 lol ikr the way he laughed seemed effeminate, that dude kind of seemed like he was in the closet. & nothing about that dude was special but yet he was acting so picky lol I mean he really came wearing a dashiki which just seemed out of place for the show, that dude was corny
Behind the hilarious personality is a very wise guy who knows how to win people over and challenge their worldview at the same time. Probably didn't see much of this side of Steve. Your title baited me though.
You can tell the lady that acts like she’s mean is really not a mean person because when Steve started talking to her she looked like she wanted to cry. She just need a real man to show her that she’s special and that she doesn’t need to pretend to be mean to be loved by a man
Regarding the lady that is mean to people - When he was honestly telling her the truth, didn't she look like she was using ever force to not cry. I hope she found a real group of friends and some people who treated her with respect so she could, in turn, treat them with respect.
I have met several men who if I treated them like a dog, they followed me around like a puppy, but you never get anywhere with these types of men, you can never be nice to them and never get close to them. Dead end streets.
“People are taking advantage of your kindness”... that’s a lie! They’re taking advantage of her lack of spine! If you don’t have a spine to stand for yourself when needed, please don’t exercise “kindness”. You’ll only be a doormat and end up jaded and bitter. Kindness is for strong people who know how to say “WHERE IS MY MONEY?”
They go together. You literally said it yourself, *"If you don’t have a spine to stand for yourself when needed, please don’t exercise 'kindness'."* They are taking advantage of BOTH your kindness and your meek behavior. It's not a lie when they say "they are taking advantage of your kindness." The kindness part is you accepting to offer something to be repaid back in the future. The meek part is you not asserting yourself for the payment back. They take advantage of both because they know you will give it to them, and they know they can avoid payment because you are too soft.
Harvey always layin the knowledge on his fans. Love what he said that to woman. Her pettiness is definitely a defense mechanism. She said "well i believe if youre not mean to men then theyll walk all over you and they like it. They said im spicy/fiesty." Steve: "no they put up with it to get what they want (sex) the real you is in there somewhere. You need to get you some friends that will tell you the truth. And she started crying too
13:00 Nope. That "If you love me, then accept me for who I am" mindset is so damn toxic. Swear. If you love someone, you have to control your attitude. You can't expect people to be understanding to you and you aren't to them. It's a give and take relationship. Humans aren't robots, we have also our breaking points.
