Hey Steve: Waiting Until Marriage || STEVE HARVEY 

Did you marry him when you were born bc your profile pic sure looks like a 25 year old?!

@@lisasmith8007 We were 20 when we got married. That picture is about 3 years old, but I don't look much different now. I will be turning 55 in April.

@@antonetteallen2194 that's amazing, stay blessed

@Antonette Allen Wow, amazing!

Amen. tjs for sharing your story. that gives me hope.

Same here, about to be 24! Saving myself. People be so shocked lol, it's my decision though

@@melissalitus8879 Stay strong sis i waited untill 25 when i got married😊

@@nothingisimpossibleyes5396 thank you I will :) wow that's great you waited until marriage, that's my ideal plan

🤮🤮ain’t nobody lining up to hit that.

Besides the fact that I'm 21, we're in the same boat. This was very reassuring.

29 and still waiting. We got this

I’m 26 and also waiting. I’m glad I saw this too.

52 and still waiting. We got this

@@yagomiotto7164 ahhhh

Emerald Collier I wish there were more women like you ❤️

How is your marriage?

Yea, they are this non virgin guy who was trying trick me into marrying him, I would marry a guy who does not hold the same values as I am and not waiting for marriage. Imagine marrying a guy who had many women eww, they think they are cool and Chad, they only just a place for diessae,

@@hkjjuju2352 exactly my thoughts, imagine both boy and girl to be virgins and pure and then sharing that wholesome experience with themselves, no third person involved, just the two of them for a lifetime...

How do you really know that though? If you had some experience beforehand there is no shame in that!

She's Indian.

1:05 The 'only' goal for waiting an entire few dates before telling someone is to use them. Nobody's waiting until the third or fourth date to ask whats your religion, direction, what are you looking for, family, what does loyalty mean to you etc. Steves female writing staff design responses like "sit back and wait for your soul mate to walk up to you." Dont even try. Its as cruel as teaching a 16 girl that doesn't know any better 'you're about to be courted by a prince and live happily ever after in castle without fundamental life experience' in this dating climate.

Jeffy Mathew she looked black

Sierra LaFaye she ugly

His advice is always on point!

Well done,much respect to you

Same story. 10 years strong. 2 beautiful children as well. It's possible.

Nice. People give marriage a bad rep because they don't get married to.the right one

How long did you both wait to bring that topic up while dating?

@@dudleysquibbles6366, it was the first conversation we had as a couple. We were best friends for a couple of years, and the first time he took me out, that was our conversation. We also discussed what we expect from each other and where we see ourselves in the future on the first date.

Best gift for your husband

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SwishEnterTainment 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 right?

And remember that respect doesn't end once married. Both must have respect for the marriage and each other...by not cheating as well. But even if that happened, you still did it with no regrets.

@@englishmadeeasy6141 hunny what's wrong with being a gift?🌸

Did you get married

Isn't it interesting. I've heard of many instances when the guy is waiting to be intimate as a sacrifice to God, they usually date a woman who isn't doing the same and vice versa.

@@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect this is true because my boyfriend is waiting and I'm not, lol

Amen there are so people that will honor God plus you bring God blessings to the family doing it his way.The reason why it so many broken homes, unplanned pregnancy, & diseases.

Iam 😊..am waiting too

@@mounta1nflower lol what y mean u not so u cheating u have to if u not oding nothing u waiting as well lol

Absolutely!

My husband respected my decision to wait until, but sadly I ended up not waiting but he was fine with waiting, and he was a virgin anyway.

True...but it's really hard

@@dolly8081 ofc its hard. Great things don't come fast

Dang you FOINE

God bless you as you abide

True.i know He has mine

First time I see the man speaking fairly about a woman's sexuality... read his books I didn't agree with his 90days rule of someone else's property hell no!..I see it as giving men power and men like to possess what doesn't belong to him especially a woman's body he can make 1001excuses to penetrate a woman mind and body..I believe a woman must be 100percent ready mentally and physically and holds the power.... not under pressure of the language "men needs sex".men breathe sex.irritates me to my gut"..why not throw out your oxygens..women deal with their sexuality every month and every childbirth..its no joke for some people..people should learn to handle their bodies without having to frustrate the opposite sex or rather walk away peacefully and find their species or type....a woman's body is not man's world!!he needs to own up for his own..and people who hunt sex are not marriage materials..they are just sex materials..marriage is the last thing they wanna be bothered with..when a woman respects her body ..virgin or no virgin as long as she is putting a respect on that I don't wanna hear any further rant about men having dominance.....I hate when the public or the world start deliberating seriously over it why she shouldn't own it by making threats ..hello...nothing to loose to a total stranger..at least..am glad he mentioned born again Christians and respects their beliefs instead of the world system that are just messing around hoping they will put a ring on it after 90days. Or make it spicey to keep him around BS.even married couples after 100days of courtship can't cope..you don't hand out things to people less deserving of you or your standards and values..it is your responsibility to protect your sexuality.. Let people want what they want..you hold on to what you want...

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Why didn't GOD/JESUS HEAL MY SOUL?

That's bs. God is imaginary. Life is just life. It is not fair. It is just what it is and once you accept that you will feel love in your heart. If you fill yourself with the false narrative that an invisible man in the sky will make things right then prepared to be disappointed!

Me too!! There are some men who respect themselves and want to do things the right way... You will know one when you see it 😎😎

Same here! I'm 25 waiting for marriage as well. Best decision I've ever made for myself.

I’m 25 ! Still going strong ! 💪🏾

Almost 25 and waiting 🙏🏽

Almost 25 and waiting😊😊

That proves nothing there are swinger couples happily married.

@DavidAlvarez why are you hating on her? Leave her alone you're so pressed that she's happy let her be, if you don't like what she said keep it to yourself there's no reason to spread negativity

god bless u have a beautiful life

That’s impressive. Thank goodness there are still some clean and pure women out there.

​@@Time4aKiss I mean as a virgin at 27 this comment is misogynistic as hell. that's not a compliment sir.

Arnold De Wet You are blessed 😇

❤

Arnold De Wet Amen

Until u two divorce and then u will feel u can't live without her😂😂once u two die together will your marriage be a success 12 yrs in a lifetime to go

How are you still on honeymoon?

That's what's up!!! More power to you sister. I'm proud of you. Love from another sister from England

Same here

Stay strong and stick to your decision until marriage and you will know the true taste of love

Exactly! Sex just makes things more complicated. Keep minding your own business and trusting God!

I'm 17 and the same and I'm so shy and I've never really talked to guys.

❤Amen

If a woman isn’t sexually attracted to a man, she makes him wait 😂

I AM ONE OF THESE WOMEN...DEFINITELY WAITING!!!

Stacey Palmer I’m really happy for you, and I wish you all the best and I hope you find the right guy for you

And men too!!!

Men as well. We need to stop with the double standards.

There are plenty of women like her. What we need are more men who hold the same values (abstaining from sex until marriage).

I’m 34 & single, ready for marriage & waiting until marriage. This is encouraging. Thanks!

Pit School 🥰🥰

This gives me hope. I cry a lot thinking why do people not understand. I chose to be a virgin to honor god and respect myself. I hope I find a virgin husband. I’m 27. I want the special moment together.

@@amanwithoutlimits Thanks so much...I am proud

45 still waiting. Waiting does not always work. You got lucky.

Excellent! Good for you. The right one is coming one day.

TheLiving TestimonyChannel Amen

I wish people who thought like this had a place to meet up so we can avoid the others who won’t accept us waiting

jill mont Exactly me too

Will M marriage is a covenant between the couple and God. Your comment is ridiculous

Yahuah Is My Everything amen

AMEN!

Gotta do more than just have faith. Its a LOT of old and older women that's been sitting back for 8.. 10.. 15+ years having faith and waiting on God.

T G T G It honestly depends on your heart’s disposition. I cannot speak for other women who have been waiting for a long time and there’s still no sign of them finding love. But what I can say is that if you take The Most High seriously, you spend time with Him in all sincerity, you are working on yourself, you have a genuine, natural desire to get married one day and *you are being led by the Holy Spirit* , then you are guaranteed to meet your soulmate.

@@eugeniyah8078 Well THAT I agree with👍. I didnt agree with all u need is Faith'

Same and PREACH! 👏🔥❤️

@NzuriMoja Agreed!

@Independence In Mind waiting til marriage is a part of being moral. So the idea you can still have morals and have sex is a double negative. Youre either moral or your not. And morals encompass all facets of life...honesty, sex, respect, work, family.

Beliefs and morals are guidelines. Not a goal.

@Independence In Mind not having sex till marriage is a moral and here's why : First for both women and men they give value to themselves by refusing to be an acess to many people . A woman is like a queen not everyone should be allowed to touch her except her king. and second and most importantly alot of women lately are single with a child , now imagine a child getting raised alone without the presence of a father and having the thought that he abandonned him and he s not loved by his own son, it will affect him mentally . Third and most importanly some wild ladies prefer to have fun to much than "normal" and in alot of cases i ve saw when she gets pregnant she doesnt know who s the father ..

Yes exactly!!! We gotta let the bad toxic ones go so that the right one can come in.

It has always been known that women are the gate keepers to sex and men are the gate keepers to marriage, commitment. I'm glad that there are women who wait. But once married, waiting is over, or at least it should be for the marriage to stay strong and healthy. I'm glad you're planning for a strong marriage now!!

me too

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Eboni Armstrong You look so cute,how old are you?

Hi

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Lol and a cousin like Devon Franklin

@Ann Vo Yesss

How was the dex after you got married? assuming it was good becuase it has been 31 yrs lool

@@chukaokonkwo8642 still good, no complaints...children are now grown ups...more time for ourselves. We just need to watch our old photo albums and we are at it! We can talk all night when off work...so many old stories to share.

wow this is so beautiful and inspiring. love that for you two

Love this so much! You have a beautiful wife!!

Coming from a man, I love love this comment

That reminds me of fever pitch. How cute!! 😭

Omggg Why do I wanna cry rn!!!😭😭😭

They met over a Dodger Dog! 🌭😃

❤️❤️❤️

You hit the nail right on the head.

She should start looking for a man who wants to wait till marriage too or it will be very hard for her

i believe a man can wait.. sex is only one part of a healthy relationship.. now that being said.. if the man isn't a virgin and the woman is there could be a problem... because a healthy sex life is also, like i said a part of a relationship.... i have mix emotions on this subject... but im open for discussion on it.

that's right!

@@ericangiolillo3488 at the end of the day, we're human. I believe in enjoying the moment. People get too stressed about the future, getting married...... If you can't have fun and you dont enjoy each other's company, what's the point?

Wow. Nice

I agree

I kept thinking about this comment from I heard it.

THIS 👏🏾

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Lol

Yessss he doin the Lord's work right here.😊

😊

@Arcadecharm Maybe God is speaking through you like right now.

mona lisa you right

srt hellcat I knew there were going to be someone that would get triggered with your comment 😂🤦🏾‍♀️

@@blackmermaid1 lol yeah i wasnt goin to comment.but people need to realize not all women are hoes she came out on natioal tv and admitted to being a virgin and holding on to have sex till marriage that isnt easy to do in 2019. So she obviously is a girl worth it for someone looking for serious relationship..and im 27 and im also very serious and its hard for me to find a girl with some self respect . So i think she would be a keeper 👍

She is half Indian half black

Well I don't know why you would minimize calling her a queen by including her color?! Why can't she just be a queen? What a disgusting thing to say.

@@KyleHurd im not black if your wondering, im european and i said black queen because she is a black queen..if u see a nice yellow lamborghini what are you gonna tell people you seen a nice car or a yellow lamborghini? Thank you

Preach !!!!!!!!!

what if you have sex to feel connected, to feel close to someone, to Express love or to satisfy a basic human need. as a woman?

@@anacuskova8563 its your right to do it but not everyone is going to respect that

@@anacuskova8563 I'm sorry, but if that's what it takes to firm a connection you're pretty shallow. My hubby and I have been married almost 35 years and to be honest we have not had sex in a while. I have been chronically sick for a year and sex would be painful. We kiss, cuddle, hold hands, snuggle, and spend lots of time together. He still makes my heart race, but at least for now that's what we do. No loss of connection. In fact, we're closer more than ever. He's my hero, my best friend, and I live him with everything I am.

@@etf42 why isnt respectable though, to be intimate with the man you love ?

Are you a Christian and where you from ?

Read the book and it really put things into perspective for me with regards to my Wait

Yes I have that book. I also recommend "You Are A Prize to Be Won" by Wendy Griffith.

The Bible is man made all the rules in the Bible are designed to control women’s sexuality NOT men’s. A man can have a wife and several concubines (sex slaves) the concubines only use is for sex she would be there to get pregnant if the wife couldn’t have kids or to take care of the husband if the wife was sick or just for straight up pleasure. No where in the Bible does it say a man has to be with one and only one woman it just says he can only marry one woman. And it also says not to fantasize about a woman who belongs to another man. That’s it.

very true

Glad u said if u desire to it.... I know people who waited but also having terrible terrible marriages. Its not about the wait.

You assume he waited

Beautiful!

Why is there so much virginity talk in Christianity? And why are men allowed to have more than one sex partner and women can’t?

@@hughjanus2781 They aren't? Chastity is a virtue in both sexes.

God allows men to have sex slaves and wives 😂

i am a man 35 wating for marraige

Will M that’s boys that aren’t ready. Real men are

men have always been impatient. It’s women who are coming down to the same level lately lmao

Y'all crazy

Yeah but y'all want men to act like husbands before marriage....AKA Provide,Pay for this and that🤦🏽‍♂️

@@anthonybutler2001 I've also noticed this: when a woman doesn't want sex in a relationship (or wants to wait), everyone thinks that's okay. But when a guy doesn't want it (or wants to wait), that's a red-flag and the woman shouldn't be in a relationship with him, because suddenly relationships are all about sex. The double-standards, man.

You know there's something wrong with the world when being a non virgin is a bad thing, a thing to be ashamed of.

This‼

@@iamsobeautifulomg that's just in india

@@iamsobeautifulomg I’m not a virgin and I am ashamed of it. I think of the men I’ve wasted my time with and ultimately wish I waited.

@@natalieh8023 so everything that didn't finalize in your life must be a waste of time for you then.

Sorry to hear. There are better guys out there!!!

Sorry

@Marco Static thanks, and queens girl

@@fromspace7 thanks, I agree. There are really amazing guys out there, they are in high demand. Not really meeting many that I'm interested in tho.

@Joi Powell which is so messed up and defeats the purpose. Then you get married and guess what the cheating will not stop. I never thought about making a guy get tested before I marry him but I think that is very important to do and will keep it in mind. Thanks ☺

Absolutely good news that you chose to wait -- as Steve said, please never lower your standards for someone who doesn't deserve you.

Exactly girl 💯 The Creator rewards patience and faithfulness.

You got it, sis!

I’m 37. Did that a looooong time. Good luck.

It's worth it! I avoided so many no-good, lousy men by making this decision. I hope it helps you all the same. Also, just an aside: God doesn't "bring" you anyone. You have to get out there and find what you want. God "brings" us things by giving us free will and the ability to create change.

انه الاسلام الحمد لله أختي

God allows for men to have a wife and several sex slaves. Prove me wrong.

Intriguing Blk Beauty I didn’t either before I met my husband. And lemme tell you there is such a peace in being able to give your entire self to someone who is committed to you for life. It made me upset that I ever gave that up before marriage, yet and still I appreciate the lessons learned from the experience.

Thanks for being honest

@@DelishaPowell beauty isn’t attached to a skin tone.

@@DelishaPowell I relate to every word ❤️

This world is getting destroyed . Nvm

Thank God there are still traditional women like you left out there and congrats for finding a guy who respects your decision

الحمد لله💐 الحمد لله 💐

41 and still haven't found the right one 🤔🤔🤔🤔

Brooooo 😹😹😹😹

​@@SeanK1684 Admittedly I passed up a lot of good men in the past due to my fear of commitment in how I was raised witnessing abuse and trauma, now totally healed through prayer + therapy I encourage women on my channel to not miss your blessing by passing up good ones and to get help early! Now I"m currently dating a wonderful man. To God be the glory! Thanks for your concern ❤️

God bless you sister! Your words have power! Nothing wrong with waiting but start declaring and decreeing and thanking God for your husband! #ClaimIt

@@jasminealexia Amen! And you're right, been doing that for twenty years, and actually I've passed up I say would 5 'husbands' who would've been good men for me due but due to unhealed trauma and brokenness I didn't recognize them when God brought them, since then I got healed in my early forties with prayer and therapy, I no longer attract and entertain toxic relationships, and more than anything have fallen in love with myself so much so that I won't settle! I'm ready now! And will continue to declare and decree, however I'm content either way 😊 Thanks for sharing. Much love in Christ and continued blessings! ❤️

Being a virgin means nothing

@@hughjanus2781 to you.

Respect bro!

so refreshing to hear this from a male perspective, as a female who is 21 and literally the same as you, its nice to hear that :)

@momo bb dd Not every boys are the same thing ... Its just hard to find unique guys, but trust me they exist.

Me too. I'm 18 saving my self until marriage

Keep on this path. Blessings come in abundance when you wait.

@momo bb dd I'm not like everyone else. The Lord's word has taught me a lot, and I respect what Christ says.

You will get a beautiful young lady, have a blessed marriage and family!

lyricisible May god bless you with a good woman

God bless you on your journey and praying you meet the right woman in due season!

Beautiful!

Bad news for you: women do not find inexperienced men attractive. If the ones in the comments weren't dishonest, they would tell you that. They can't help seeing you as a loser that no woman wants, whether that be true or not.

So beautiful

Non-natural hair

@@plantecsmiths1622 who cares still beautiful

Amen! 🔥🔥 I know I can find me a man who will put marriage on the table!

Steve is right. Listen to him, MEN WILL ASK 99%

NAILED it!

It can be the other way around. Usualky very religious ppl try to influence others and change them acvording to their standards.

Exactly, her friends are wack for saying she’s ruining her chances by being upfront about waiting until marriage. It was going to come up eventually and why should she just have to put out in order to be in a relationship? I don’t feel she should have to sacrifice her standards because we as a society have lost ours.

Thanks for sharing your story, very encouraging. I finally had the courage also to leave a very bad abusive relationship and now im patiently waiting for the right Godly man to show up in my life. God is good and i know he will bring the right man in my life, one who will now respect me amd cherish me for the queen that i now know that i am. God bless you ❤✌

Lord I tap into this grace !

Hi

Thank you for sharing beautiful love story!

Exactly 👍

Natasha Jarvis and He will give you the desires of your heart!

His desires. If it's not the will of God for you to get married then you still have to do the purpose he ordained for your life.

Niecy Harvey Psalms 37:4

Exactly! I don't even get the shock there, it is my value, my decision, you don't have to like it or accept it!

Amen

Not necessarily

A good guy will still respect you if you wait or not

That’s kind of a flawed mindset. Nobody is safe from disrespect, virgin or not. Any REAL man will respect her anyway. Kudos to her!! If it works for her, then awesome! But to automatically think that she’ll get more respect than another girl is.. nah, lol. You see what happens when they find out she’s serious. That’s not respect.

What luck! Congratulations!

Omg did she find her soulmate yet? :o

Hey man what's her @?

You know it when they aren't right. Waiting can be hard, but don't settle. That's coming from a man.

update?