Hidden Struggles of Female UPSC aspirants!  

खुश नसीब है वो लड़किया जिन्हे अपने हक के लिए लड़ाई न करनी पड़ी.....जिम्मेदारी और परिवार के नाम पर लड़कियों की खुआबो को उनके सपनों को दबा दिए जाते है....😓बाकी नारे तो लगते रहते है की नारी और पुरूष समान होते है....😐

आज तक समाज में लिंग् समानता नहीं आ पाई सर, क्योंकि माता पिता ही इसमें भेद कर देते हैं

Chalo.... atleast kisi ne baat to rakhi...iss topic par....thank you so much sir....

सर लड़कियों के साथ ये होता परिवार और रसोई संभालना है और परिवार का सपोर्ट भी कम होता है

Even though I am a boy but I can feel the situation of a girl😞😞😞

Married.. taking care of my 2 yrs old kid. preparing for next pre ....... Thank you for raising such topics

Sir, I am working hard to get good job but my parents are forcing me to get married soon so that they will be from my burden. Our financial status is also not good. Now I am fighting with the whole world to achieve my dream but the stars in the sky are not in my favor. Sometimes I feel so hopeless but no one is there to get me up. I am the one who is giving myself hope and luck to raise and make the stars in line on my hand.

बहुत ख़ुशनसीब होती है वो लड़कीया जिन्हे अपने सपनो को पूरा करने का मौका मिलता है।....so lage raho bahno....👍👍👍

समाज कभी नहीं चाहेगा कि एक लड़की उसके ऊपर आजाए, आज भी कई लोग है जो लड़की को उतनी छूट नहीं देता जितनी एक इंसान को मिलनी चाहिए , भूल जाते है लोग के जिस माँ ने उसे अपनी कोक में ‘९’ महीने तक रखा है और उसे जन्म गिया है वो भी एक लड़की थी । लड़कियो को समाज को दूर रख कर आगे बढ़ना चाहिए और कुछ बनने के बाद लोगो में जागरूकता लानी चाहिए… जब गाँव में कोई साइकिल लेके आता है तो पीछे छे लोग बाते करेगे लेकिन वही व्यक्ति जब कार लेके आएगा तो उसके सामने हाथ जोड़ेंगे और उसकी बात मानेंगे समाज में रहना है तो उस तरह की sakti चाहिए ताकि लोग आपकी बात सुने … आज नई तो कल लोगो को समझना ही होगा कि ना पुरुष आगे है ना महीला दोनों एक ही है वो है मानव ,कितने में भी बड़े हो जाये अगर मानवता नहीं होंगी तो लोग कुछ कहेंगे चाहे लड़की हो या लड़का ।।

Mai ek maa bhi hu job me bhi hu aur pcs ki taiyari bhi kar rhi hu But kbhi haar nhi maani aur na rukungi ap jaise log bhut jyada inspire karte h Aur har din mujh me apne sapne ko saakar karne ka junoon aur badh jata h.

😢🙄इसमें केवल परिवार की बस भूमिका नही होती की लड़के और लड़कियां के रूप में तैयारी करना अलग है , किंतु इसमें समाज की भी बहुत अधिक भूमिका हैं । वैसे मेरे parents के पास तो बाहर भेजने का विकल्प ही नहीं है , ❤️bcz i am from middle class family, समाज और परिवार दोनो का कहना यही होगा कि जितना पैसा यहां लगेगा उतने में विवाह हो जायेगा 😢। Hn agr beta होता तो कहीं से कम से कम online कोचिंग का अरेंजमेंट तो हो ही जाता🙏।

Right sir ji 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

मैं इस पूरे lacture से summary nikalu और सलाह देना chahu तो Ladkiyo ko apni shadi बंद कर देनी चाहिए Select होने के बाद शादी करें। इस bat se या तो Ladkiyan upsc ki preperation nhi करेंगी या फिर माता पिता और समाज बदलेंगे 🙏

Me rajasthan se hu .... 7 years old Saadi , 12 to 13 years 2 bacche 6 years mentally and physically bimar , fir study start abhi ba 1st year me hu upsc ki preparation kar Rahi hu . Jitni ladai ladi hai apne adhikaron ke liye shayad btaya nahi ja sakta ab bhi lad Rahi hu family ke sath padhai bhi . Par ab apne dreams complete karne hai

Every Point is a Truest Explanation of the situation. Amazed

Thanku Sir 🙏🙏🙏🙏....sir hmare desh ki sbse bdi problem ye h ki ek accha career bnane aur shadi ki time same h....isliye distraction bht hota h....ek traf hum apne career k baare m sochte h...vhi dusri traf parents shadi k bare m.....itni pressure m rhkr hum girls ko preparation krni hoti h....hum middle class vale to upsc k bare m sochte hi nhi...itna khrcha ata h....isliye hum log phle one day exams ki preparation me hi khud ko lga dete h....aur na form time se aata h aur n hi exam time se....agar exam ho v jata h to ...paper leak ....isi me age nikalti jati h 😢....

Ikdm shi baat hai sir Hum sb kosis kr rhe smaj ko ik nya mod dene ki

Abbosulltly ryt 👍😞 guru ji ❣️🙏

धन्यवाद गुरुदेव। आप उन विषयों पर भलीभांति चर्चा करते हैं जिन पर बहुत कम लोगों का ध्यान जाता है।🙏🙏🙏

Thank u sir 🙏 jo bate ap ne batayi hai wo bilkul sahi h patriotic soch abhi bhi jinda h Aur gender ka bhi prabhav jarur padta h

100% agree with u sir🙏

Very very true sir , it's a harsh reality of our society

Thankyou sir aapne bilkul shi bat boli ❤❤❤

Absolutely right sir

What a great speech, your every single sentence in this video is absolutely right because this is the reason I'm also facing in my preparation journey.

Finally the truth. Irrespective of airy things which everyone says out loud. Respect to you sir for your teachings. You impact the next generations in a very good way.

Absolutely right sir🙏

Thank you very much sir for keeping this important thing here.

There is someone who's thinking and talking about us. Thanks a lot sir🙏🙏❤️❤️

finally someone said it. it is hard to dream being a girl. but we do. we have to, if we do so our daughters will do too.

Great Episode Sir 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

Mai bhi Ghar se taiyari kar rahi hu mere paas sirf 2 saal hai bas Mai bahar nahi ja sakti prepration ke liye or Ghar me bohot Jada distraction hai😢

Ye reality hai sir Mujhe lgta hai ki mahila - sashaktikarna hmare ghr se shuru hona chahiye na ki narebazi se.......

Being a Chartered Accountant, I can say that every word said by Sir is true for not only UPSC aspirants but other professional services and whether they go out of town to study or study from home.

Sir first time itna detail me kisi ne openly vedio bnaya h actual me sb kli smjhta h but koi awaj uthane ki himmat nhi krta but hat's off you sir 🙏

Yes sir you are right

Sir u missed some more female aspirants problems 1. Periods ki vjha se hr month 4 din minimum hr ladki k khrab ho Jate h us time vo nhi pdh pati irritation pet dard kamr dard , mental health khrab rahti h physical k sath sath 2 . Unmarried h to society ka shadi ka pressure to h hi agr married h to fir pregnancy ka pressure hota h use sb bolte h sasural mayke me bhi bacche k liye 3. Agr married h to husband sasural sb k according chalna or unke kaam ki zimmedari uthana or mentally presaan kyuki sasural me sbki sunni pdti h vo negative also So ye cheeje preparation ko bahut jyada effect krti h . I'm married 2 saal ho gye shaadi ko or UPSC k liye prepare kr rhi hu limited time hota h hm ldkiyo k liye 2..3 saal maximum Agr nhi hua to ghar baitho bacche palo or ghar ka kaam kro thats it.

सर आपने दिल की बात कही❤

Thank you sir for getting my point 😢

सर आप की बात बहुत अच्छी है आप के सोच बहुत सही है

Hattssss offffff sir 🙏🙏🙏 A big Round Of applause for U sir 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏200% sach Bola h Apnee... I am very very Thankfulll ki apne es Topic Par Video Bnaya H sir Coz pata Sabko Hota h sb Kuch but Koi Bolna Pasand Ya bat karna pasand Nh karta H ase topics Neglect Kiye jate h

Thankuu sir for raising this topic This is actually true what u say

अभी तक मुझे भी नहीं समझ आ रहा था कि हम लड़कियों के साथ ही भेदभाव क्यों होता है लेकिन अब जब शादी का समय आया तो पता चला कि दहेज मुख्य कारण है। मां बाप जितना खर्च लड़कियों के पढाई के लिए करते है उतने में शादी कर देंगे। अब समझ गये लड़की के जन्म पर मातम क्यों मनाया जाता है।

Thank you for saying our side sir... pranam sir...

Sir AJ apne wahi baat boli Jo m Bachpan s feel kr rhi hu..... Tysm sir.... Jisne itne micro observation s apni bat rkhi... 🙏🙏🙏

Sir thank u so much apne iss topic pe baat kare....I am going through the same process....mein yahi sab Karan k wajah se bhi bht stress hoti rhti h

Respected Sir you are really really true 🙏😔😔

Absolutely sirrr💯

thank you sir hmare liye bat krne k liye..🙏🏻

he is so right

sahi kaha sir

True Sir ji

Love from kashmir...you are looking cute sir❤

Thank you sir

Thank you sir 🙏🏻

Absolutely true sir

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Absolutely you are right.,,,मैने भी महसूस किया है

Thank you sir for sharing such kind of videos 🙏 humare pass to option hi nahi hota hai dusri city main jakar padhne ka 🙁

Ryt sir

Absolutely right pooja ji

Right sir

it's true..

Jai hind sir jee 🙏🏻 😊

Jii sir😮

Yes sir that's true I am also preparing for it

Yes it's absolutely 100% right.. Gender is social construct so all the duties and life are also predefined by the Society...A girl or women is not born as it's birth..but as born by Society mentality...it is the universal truth...NoOne cany deny it..

Right 👍 sir

Yes Sir! It is very important to understand hidden struggles and situation of female not only in UPSC preparation also in other sectors jobs which required more time and effort. In my case, I left my well settled job because i was in different state and my husband was in different state. In that job, leaves was very few only 20 days in a year, i have to travel between one state to another state for my work. Leaving job was completely my decision because i feels that i was not able to give proper time to my Son and my husband too. After leaving my job, I joined a CBSE school as a contract teacher and it was not a good place to work for a long time again I left that Job. Now I am preparing for some state Govt teaching exams. My family is very supportive they love me very much. At the same time, my husband telling me(Indirectly) if a female takes care of their family it will be great family ....children should be very successful in their life. he is not forcing me for anything. Sometimes you can't understand what happens around you.

Jai Hind sir

Sir jo pdne mai achhi hoti h ...hmesa top krti h ...unki b Sadi jldi krdi jati h...or Sadi ke bad spno ko with family achieve Krna muskil ho jata h

Love you sir ji 😊🤍

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Yes sir

conditional support💯

सारे पैसे केवल लड़कियों के ही शादी में ही लगता है, हमारे भारतीय समाज के अनुसार / लड़को की शादी में पैसे नहीं लगते हैं यहाँ पर 😔😔😔

Health issues arising during preparation, and overall, is different too. We are required to be more precautionary. The treatment reasons, timing, costs, process, no doubt they are delicate and time taking. Not that we should be given some extra time, but recognising this side just makes a mental and social difference. Thank you Sir.

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Yes sir its totally right bcz i am a girl ,i feel it .😢

Learning process of girls will not be entirely same as that of boys🙏🤍 What a great thing you said SIR... I can't even express my feelings in words.,The way You have understood & elaborated everything about that how gender actually affects the lives of women...🙌

App ne bilkul sahi kaha sir 😮

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Same condition

सर मे आपकी बात से सहमत हू आज मे यूपीएससी की तैयारी कर रही हूँ मे सेल्फ स्टडी कर रही हू मुझे भी घर परिवार वालों से लड़ाई करनी होती है अपनी जिंदगी की इस लड़ाई को समाज परिवार से लडे रही हु 💯

Aisi baatein honi chahiye. Akhir kab tak samaj m aise soch chalte rahega ????its really suffocating.

Respected sir Your this video is giving the reality check that samaj mein barabari hai nhi agr hai toh sirf samveedhan ki keetabon mein hi h Women's are suffering since birth till death this.... And it's all because ki past mein se jo chla aa rha h usko follow krne k karan ......sab badal jata h sir Prantu ek stree apne jeevan mein sadaev sangharsh hi krti h Kyunki usse apni zimeddarrion se kbhi vanchit nhi kiya jata ; jeevan k har mod pr usse logon ki aashaon k heesab se karya krne k liye kaha jata h jo ajj tk nhi bdla Condition of women's are still same in our societies but the difference is that they are performing 2 roles at a single time one according to the society the other of her self that it how she has seen herself

news ya RU-vid per dekh kr aisa lgta hai ke girls hi jyada officers banti h

सिर्फ तैयारी में ही नहीं, अच्छे पद पर आने के बाद दोहरी जिम्मेदारी में उनकी स्थिति और अधिक ख़राब हो जाती है।

Meri bhi November mein shaadi hone wali hai engagement February mein thi meri fiancee bhi job krti hai aur i think ek ldki ko bhi job krne k azaadi milni chahiye chahe job sarkari ho ya private hum apni taraf se pura support krne k koshish krenge

M preparation k liye 2013 Kota gyi thi for iit mera nhi hua 8 know mere bhaiya ne 1.5 lakh ko aaj 5-6lakh ginate or wo itna chubhta h then I decided ki ek baar graduation hone k baad bhaiya se koi Paisa nhi Lena h or maine graduation k baad khud se coaching pdhakr or khudse railway loco pilot join Kiya now I m preparing for upsc but time management bohot jyada difficult ho gya h

thank u sir🙂 somehow,i get to understand where the problem exactly lies. anyway...i want you to know that you the only teacher in the drishti interview panel from whom i'm afraid of. anyway ..thank you for today's topic :)

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meri ankhe nam ho gyi mujhe esa feel hora jesi meri hi bat kr rhe ho... mene bhi apna head shave 🪒 kiya or jo kuchh sir bolre sb apply hora...🙃

Sir please ab aap ak video girl's startagy ka bhi bna dijiye ki in tamam problems ko kese handle karke padhai ki jaye

Sir ..same sitution is happning with me since i am neet aspirent from past 3 years..

Mai middle family se ho mgr society me girls ko shadi ka tana jyada sonna pdhta hai😢

Thanku sir for forward these all things. I don't know why those such things are also still 😕 ki ladkiyon ko pdhana aur job karana ek Ehsaan kara Rahe types thinking exists hain . Then fir bolte ki yeh ldko ko dekko Kitna successful bni h but yeh ni smjhte ki us successful ldki k peeche use parents ka support Tha.... 😢😢

Yes sir very difficult hota h sab Kam kre fir prepration kro vrna Mt kro

Bilkul shi sir m bhi aise hi apne time ke liye apne ap se ghr ke Kam upse ki preposition se lad rhi hu ldkiyo ko jayada sgharsh hote hai Jada to after marriage