Imagine in 20 years time this guy is the one up on stage giving the seminar, passing on his transformation story to the next generation. He’d even have this footage of the ‘old him’ to show them. That would be something.
I used to be just like that guy....and now I'm swimming. The good night's are getting more frequent. Took me over 10 years mind but had no other option haha
THIS is what it's all about! So many of us have been socially conditioned to HIDE, HIDE, HIDE and stay in the safe zone. I've been that kid. All in high school and years after I was that kid. I was in the center watching everyone else around me live life and truly not care while I put so much effort into pretending I don't care. I'm so glad this video is on here.
He's only 20 years old. By the time he's 30, I'm sure he'll be in a much, much better place Granted, if he takes all the lessons he's learning now to heart.
That’s basically a copy of me up there. I have never seen so much compassion and encouragement for super shy guys like me outside of this channel. That isn’t the occasional “wheelchair” fake niceness. It feels like getting out of this situation is impossible. Thank you so much, 5 years of watching without action is too long.
This guy i have tremendous respect for. Even though he might be shy, he is staying cool, calm, and collected. YOU got this brother! We are all in this together 🙌🏼
Breaks my heart to see my dude like that on stage. Made me tear up cause I can see myself in that just a few years ago. Things can get better but you better fucking believe you're going to have to go through the fire. Hope nothing but the best for the dude on stage 👏
Man if you're reading this I admire you for having the courage to step in and change your life, I know it ain't easy but seeing you in this video with Tyler inspires me
Tyler is being such a masculine guide in this video. We are so feminized that we believe we want to stop this kid's suffering, tell him "it's going to be alright." Tyler is just bluntly going against it, saying what this kid has never learnt his whole life. We need men to guide us boys into men. Be tough, stop placating loser behaviour, be harsh. It's so refreshing, and I'm so sure its shit this kid has never heard before! It's what I wish my dad did with me, and what I know I need to do with myself.
A A I really don’t know if it would’ve been better if your dad did it to you because my dad did and funny enough it did the opposite. He might’ve just not been good at it, but it made me even more self conscious and go into a shell. I think part of it is because he was such a scary guy and demanded respect that I was submissive, so of course I wasn’t going to speak loudly and with confidence. This video really was kind of therapeutic though to realize that you’re just trying to stay safe.
As someone raised by mostly my mother this comment really illuminates how much of my inner dialogue has been plagued by this lack of masculine balance. Well put my friend
@@SharkAcademy but having a masculine father that leads by example can and will help. The top comment was right, alot of boys/men have been feminized for some odd reason. Nothing wrong with being "sensitive" at times but you need that edge.
A A a teacher that’s strict vs kind is literally dependent on the personality of the person who is teaching. And you’re the type that needed a harsh teacher that applied pressure, u r a sub 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
"torching the island" worked wonders for me....im 6'6" but always got bullied and picked on for not playing sports...i started playing sports to gain acceptance, then got bullied for not being good enough...i started practicing and got good but then got bullied for not being physically strong...i started lifting and got physically strong but then got bullied for not being mentally strong...i started meditating and reading, got mentally stronger than my opponents and NOW im in the position to do the bullying....sports helps a ton...this is bully self help and it works
Owen I’m 32. I have a lot of things in my life I’m simply not happy about. Stumbled upon your page in November. Just signed up for a free call. I need to take action.
You can do it man. I was once in your place (am now 28) and have experienced a lot of things (break out of shell, sex with hot girls, girlfriends) and even though I am not where I want to be, I am working towards it and you can too. Stay strong, brother
@@jeremycalhoun6783 First I embraced a stoic mindset: Focus on what I can control and knowing that everything comes to an end, including any form of relationship. Working out which gave me a confidence boost and it even gives you some leverage when going out on dates (you can show her before/after pictures and she will be impressed), and ACTUALLY approaching women.I highly recommend reading the dating advice in this blog which is free: realkylemilligan.com/category/dating-tips/ The core advice is to be confident when approaching women, be Direct (e.g. Don't see a girl at a party, not approach and add her on facebook to talk to her. That is a chump move) and be congruent (own who you are, talk about what you like yet don't try to impress.) You also have to let go of limiting beliefs (I am not tall enough, handsome enough, wealthy enough, etc. therefore she won't go for me) This advice helped me out a lot when I started and I tend to go back to it. I think that 90% of problems are in your head (what is she thinking of me, am I ugly, what if I say something wrong, am I good enough) If did it (a little bit above average looking guy) then you can too. I did get rejected too but when I actually scored it was totally worth it. There are points when I get overwhelmed with talking to multiple girls that I don't have time to see all of them and have to cut some off. Going out there and getting actual experience is the best advice rather than spending hours, days, weeks, months, years gaining knowledge through books or videos. (Analysis Paralysis) There is good advice that Tyler gives and it can be inspirational but Action always trumps studying.
Haven't listened to Owen in a good year or so, this was one of the more intense grillings I've ever seen him do. God, what I would have given to have this lesson at 18. This kid doesn't realise how lucky he is, hopefully he will soon.
its a shame that the school system dont teach people like this. when owen asked the kid if he was angry he said he was. he did really say how angry we was but i joked to myself that he is probably very angry and wants to shoot up a the school. when the schools emasculate boys with their transgender agenda that is the result. if the schools taught more social dynamics i bet the school shootings would be reduced significantly because guys would be much happier out their getting laid than playing violent video games
@@kyler4836 funny you said that. i get harassed by these girls across the street. their dad is well connected with the government and they 100% support it. they know i dont support the system for similar reason to what you just wrote. anyways one of the girls just came outside and she looks absolutely miserable. i think its sad, i really do. when i was in a drug treatment center the staff would tell us they could tell who came from the most traumatic environment because the teens would never smile and they also looked sad or blank faced. that is exactly how she is. its wide spread! there is a rise in suicide rates and opioid related deaths. the very foundation of society is falling apart and people support it. like crabs in a bucket
First I thought that it is cruel and evil what Tyler is doing with this poor kid, but then I thought: you had to give it to him: he had a plan. And it started to make sense, in a Tyler sort of way. No fear. No distractions. The ability to let that which does not matter truly slide.
Awesome super recommend to do it soon, the price will go up about 3X. It's currently priced about 25% all other events from our team, so needs to be made congruent to the rest of the events catalogue. Trust me on this, do asap if you're doing it -Tyler
My favorite, and perhaps the best part of this entire video is 11:23 when Owen says “you’re not trapped, all this is is a contraction, that’s all” and the kids eyes light up.
Owen I love your classic "how are you doing" to test people. Especially with people like uber drivers and cashiers. Works like magic. You talk about it in "coping vs thriving".
This is my first day as cashier , been two weeks and, finally am getting in this zone where I can relate to Owen. It’s a weird place, it’s addictive, it’s feeling alive. You just got to keep going, don’t stop, be loud, rewrite the code, your life, your reproduction, depends on it. Grab some air, deep as fuck, talk. Keep going, once more, keep going, every single time, even if your talking for yourself. Focus
Wow. I feel so much empathy for this guy. At my low, id say I was a minimum of 20 times worse off than this guy, probably worse. Went through years of insomnia to point where I literally couldn't socialize. Lost essentially all of my friends as well. Game and a lot of Owen's advice has been something thats helped me get on track since coming out of insomnia. Currently, I am already dating 7's and 8's and have many friends again (which I know you would say isn't important, but its an indicator of internal success and me pushing myself mentally... and its enjoyable ;)). Thanks a lot for this, really cool to see as it reminded me of my life situation a lot.
have social power is so much more importent then dating. Having the guts to work on your self is what matters and also being okay with not being perfect all the time. Learning to distance your self from your self is also powerful to not take things so personal. Also to forgive your self when things dont go how you want it to. Just keep going you will get there at some point.
This video made me look highly of Tyler. He actually cares (at least on some level) about what he is doing and about his fellow human. Kudos to you Tyler.
I feel a ton of simpathy for this kid. Notice how, even when Tyler is speaking right next to him, his mind is somewhere else. You can tell that by the blank look on his face, and by how he's staring at nowhere. He's so anxious he can't even be reasonably present when people are speaking. Another sign of his anxiety is how he's always twitching his fingers. Watch since 24:00 to see what I'm talking about. I'd love to see him get some work done. He needs is desperately.
This is sad. I feel like you should tell him he needs to grieve. He needs to have a deep emotional realization of how fucked up it is that he isn't happy. It's what we all need . We all deserve happiness, life can be Soo beautiful
Major hardcase, but he spent 5 YEARS watching your videos with no action?! This proves that information junkies should put down the laptop and go outside.. Tyler, if you're reading this, please address this issue of non-action taking and help fix this horrible disease. Implementation is the the only way we can change the world. 💪
Well, you don't know his life or his background. Maybe he was even worse off before he watched any videos. He had the balls to go to a seminar and the balls to go up on stage so I think he deserves a bit of credit.
I learn the most from these videos where someone goes on stage and Tyler points out the specific things that hold us back, using the person as an example. It may be scary in the moment to be on stage, but no doubt this video is helping loads of people. I see those qualities in me and it makes me take action to fight against the social conditioning that has affected me.
Yoooo I was there that day! It was such a good talk glad I get to watch it over again! I also met that girl about 6 months later and didn’t realize she was there that day until now. Crazy. Thanks Tyler!
Tyler, you literally got me more excited to go out this weekend after watching this... The part about going out and getting hooked on it, I’m definitely starting to feel that.
I've been following you for years and never commented on any of your videos but man, this was so painful and yet so eye-opening and mind-blowing to watch at the same time... I can see my younger self in this guy. I've since come a long way thanks to you. Thank you for all what you do. It's time to finally come to the US just to attend one of your events.
I can fucking relate to this, being raised in Pakistan but as Mayank says, we don't need to use this as an excuse ! we need to fucking forget the shit conditioning that was taught to us and instead open our minds to newer, progressive beliefs !
@@smyasir0 That's it. One has to realize that one is the true king if his own kingdom and that everything can be built there. Just create your vision, calibrate consistently and make it into your own personal reality.
Wow Owen I am so amazed that you were able to pick up that he was genuine when he said 'I rate myself a 3.' I saw it because he didn't blink that time he said it but you weren't even looking at him and you hit it!
I hope this kid breaks the shell of shyness, he seems a smart person.. Because we are the right to be free of our mental barriers...Greetings from Colombia 🇨🇴 South America
WOW! RSD has matured. About 6 years ago I got deep into this stuff but it in comparison to what Tyler is talking now... it seems shallow. Tyler, you helped me so much. After watching your videos I began taking action, taking control. Thank you.
I've had a hard time categorizing this type of content but I think I have figured out where it belongs, it's a new category I want to call practical existentialism, the philosophy of how to live embodied and practiced, love it! it's historical!
Wow yes. One of the most powerful points made about where society is at today. This guy is so fortunate to have this pointed out at 20. Lots of work to do collectively though but this direction is lit 🔥
The first line, when he is talking about reading people via their pupils, Owen is referring to the ability for your emotional system to tolerate the intensity of the experience he is sharing with you when he looks into your eyes. That's what eye contact does. Rather, that is what focus does. Your brain is way smarter than you think it is. It is picking up on the most invisible of social cues, emotional expressions which is how our bodies are interacting with each other on this necessarily invisible primal level because if the animal nature of our humanity were to be free to unleash, as we have seen with the infields and as Owen has himself admitted, it would be chaos. The purpose of smallness and ego and so on is for survival. Not just survival from the outside socially, but even more so survival within, emotionally, the intensity of the emotions you can handle. That's why some people go out and most do not. They can not even handle the intensity of the environment out. This is just my extrapolation from the first sentence out of Owen's mouth. I am very freaking intelligent. It doesn't help me get laid necessarily in the sense that I impress women with my intelligence like some sort of status symbol. But *my* intelligence, or as Owen would call it my 'ego', the 'little me', does help *me* make sense of intense experience so I can progressively increase the intensity of my emotional experience. And the necessary ground for this socially amenable approach towards intense experiences, referring again to the truth about the first line in this video, is the amoralization of emotional experience. Morality is the lowest form of relating to your life experiences. It will imprison you in shame. Which is okay because that's just your shame doing its job given your life experience thus far. But, as we've seen in the phenomenon of 'CRAZY HOT WOMEN', I don't know if there is no metaphysical limit as Freud and Lacan would indicate, but you as a man certainly have to be able to tolerate an even MORE intense experience than the woman can in order to tame her. I think Zizek would validate that there is a limit but it is a virtual limit that exists only insofar as it is posited and necessarily never reached. This is the dimension of forbidden divinity. But me, as a materialist, I transcend divinity itself by recognizing its virtuality and assuming the Neitzschean call to the Ubermensch, which I believe is the exact same call to action that Owen makes!
You're a good man tyler, this video reminded me of how one of my older brothers friend used to interact with me to bring me out of my shell when I was a kid. Sadly we lost him in a car accident. He was a misunderstood guy but very real and caring and he was a ginger too so I often think of him when watching your vids.
This guy in black has so much potential actually. He's in great shape, looking sharp (besides being shy), has no physical condition that prevents him from talking normally (which I did have at his age). He'll do great in couple of years
Groundbreaking dude. Crowdwork is some of the most difficult content to find (and create in my opinion) thank you for putting this up. I am amazed that I haven't found much on the internet (relative to other content out there)
@@HolisticHealthWithHarry I get where you're coming from and we all wish him this I guess but you can not know what the outcome will be like. It might be or it might not (yet/ever) be the case. Just like Owen said, you have to make the realisation and then change will happen. Without the realisation you might stay stuck forever.
34:29 - The winner effect in social momentum, unlock your genius, assume familiarity (everyone is your friend), stop micro-managing, stop self-judging, stop self-qualifying, expect it will go well, and for your own enjoyment.
I can watch a tyler video the day on a breakup and start laughing, thank you Tyler for giving me that hope and future that I can still game regardless if relationships fail
Tyler, I am almost like that young guy. I'm broke and my country's economy is shit (Brazil)... but I promise I'll save money to, one day, can afford the 4 day live event and have you as my mentor. you're the best. love you! -Gustavo
That burn the island down to start swimming analogy is awesome!!.. it reminds me when I moved to LA with no place to stay.. I started hustling and breaking past my comfort zone like crazy.. because it's the only choice I had and I couldn't go back, I had to make it happen.
Props to our bro pulled up on stage. I can relate alot especially when i was that age. I wouldnt have had the boldness to be fully honest with the questions tho so fck ya man!✊ if u read this i wish u luck i bet youll kill the game soon
He is making that guy a BEAST in heart. One day, he’s going to be the MAN I can bet you that!!! We all need this for correction and motivation to be our Highest Self!
Props to that kid for staying up there while dude was putting the heat on him. I've got respect for his humility and courage. Also, the wheelchair thing is legit. I'm a paraplegic and people are always super nice to me. Recently I went to an event with a big sign that said "absolutely no weapons allowed inside." I actually told the checkpoint person I had a knife and she was like, "Oh don't worry about it." The niceness is mildly annoying but also works to my advantage. Like he said, you gotta own what you can't change!
Beautiful video 👐🏻 I was like this kid in high school and college. A living nightmare, you can barely think straight, you don't know what you like/dislike, the smallest negative thing can ruin your week or month. It truly sucks, up until I was 22/23 I started practicing self amusement and realized I could make myself laugh and realized that I was really funny, even if I was "shut down" I could still be creative and make others laugh. Along with self amusement I got other positive habits and found moments where I'd feel "free" (find my voice, my true self). I'm far from done with my transition but I'm waaay better than I was before.
I remember around 10 years ago when I saw Owen for the first time and that was the spark that made me face my fears, one step at a time, now I am a completely different person, I am a social catalyst wherever I go, I make myself seen and heard and I inspire people, just like he inspired me. I am eternally grateful to you, peace brother!
The best part about it all is that the attempt is what counts. You can’t accomplish it you don’t try at all. The more positive we see things the more positive our outcomes will be. That’s part of the self-fulfilling prophecy.
Everyone go out, and challenge yourself to do stuff. It´s the chance and action which counts not the days lasting here. Do it . Guys break the chain of the hatred and learn to fuel the engine.
Oh my god !!,u can see at I rate my self at 3 he don't move his hand and Owen felt that without even looking at him , this show s Owen have worked with men like him hundreds of times
"does he even make it to 40" - wow this is brutal. Hahaha insane! I will say: The guy is 20, and he's at a seminar like this. He may feel insecure, but he is doing a DAMN good job to grow. Kudos to this kid
Not gonna lie this made me cry. I see myself in this kid so much. I was pretty roughly abused as a young kid which made me say "well fuck people" and isolate myself. Throughout my teens and early 20s I preferred to just be alone. Obviously that had me miss out on years and years of practicing interacting with people. To the point I can barely hold a conversation with people. I can totally see how it should be done but it feels so out of reach. Just in the past year or so I have started feeling confident in myself, not caring what people think, putting myself out there more etc. But this state where you can totally see the fun and light energy flowing back and forth between between people, and you have some fantasy in your head about how you could do that too, but you just can't get there because there's something blocking you internally is a fucking hell. I mean not to minimize the abhorrent conditions many people suffer in the world. I guess this can rightfully be framed as first world problems, but you get what I'm saying. I'm stoked that this guy got this lesson. He may have wanted to sink through the floor and disappear in that moment because the pressure was just too much. But I'm certainly not laughing at him, I sincerely hope this was a wake up call and he can break out of this prison of his own mind. I wish for him to be able to express himself freely and confidently. I'm really rooting for him, and at the same time my heart breaks for all the kids that are stuck in this mental state and don't see / have no idea that there is a path out of it.
This kid reminds me of myself a few years back. I'm still pretty shy but getting out and talking to people has helped me out a lot also working out and fixing my appearance. I think my biggest motivation right now is not ending up a 40 year old virgin that's too shy to talk to women. I've come along way, but I still have along way to go, but stumbling on your channel today is a blessing and i Am definitely going to apply a lot of the things you talked about, and stop being a wuss. I can't take this crap anymore I'm a good looking dude with a decent personality, but I'm just too god damn shy and awkward around people. From today on I'm going to push myself as much as i can. No more damn excuses
Respect for this guy. I'm sure he wanted to get the hell out of the spot light the entire time but he trusted Owen and just went with it. I respect that. Owen is so right about the intermediate improvement period. Damn we've been brought so low as men; so out of our natural state.
Mate he didn’t leave the spot light not because he trusted Owen but because he didn’t have the voice to say no and get back to his seat. I used to be like him. I spent years from middle school 7nd grade till 10th grade as the quiet, shy guy. I didn’t have a voice to speak up. Many things happened that required me to say something and I didn’t say anything. I found my voice latter on. I watched many videos about powerful body language, how to have conversation skills. I had to learn many things. I faked it till I made it
First time seeing your channel and watched the end result , amazing thing you did with this guy ! Own your authentic self because there is no other option! Great points as well , I`ve also came from that place and exposure therapy (coaching) really helps , it´s a rush to get out of the comfort zone and you no longer notice is... priceless !!
The needing to swim past the halfway point is where I stumble, very often pushing myself to go beyond boundaries but always falling back into their safety soon after.
Man, I totally relate with Tyler and the poor guy, I am in the between phase, escaping hell and tasting the fruits of heaven, it's like an obsession to me but not in a neurotic away, it's a passion and I feel just pulled to that stuff, I hope one day to help people like us be in a better place. I will attend to one of those events with Tyler.
