'His Mistress sends me messages of body shaming me. I have lost my breast to cancer' - Judy 

For a long time I blamed my sister for not giving her husband a second chance, she complained of emotional abuse, psychological abuse, body shaming, education level shaming but there was no assault, he never touched her and to us as family thats what we know as abuse so we always asked her to bear. Of course kids were in high cost schools, my sister was designated driver with allowance of 100k+, manager of family finances but she left all that, looking back she was deprived of high life but she says now she can sleep from 8-8 nonstop-peace of mind she has! From grace to grass!! Listening to mama wachira now, I salute my sister, shes a hero she could not tolerate abuse. Heko my sister

This is the reason i bought my own house, i live my own life, sitaki stress za mtu,...mum, you will rise again above where you are.

I'm too angry already.. I'm breathing fire like a dragon. This story is a replica of every other woman's story. Wasted 15yrs with the devil and I was left with scars that will never heal. I have lived to regret. I gave him the best of everything and how did he pay me back! My fellow girls, these things don't work anymore. Don't expose yourselves to violent demons in the name of marriage. It's about time we started a women's caucus to deliberate on the way foward regarding these matters. This madness from men has to stop!! Period!!!🤗

She had the kind of man I had, at 30 years married for 2 years. Left the marriage last year since I could not sit down with my husband and discuss anything. 'Matiathagwa niatumia' used this phrase regularly. I thank God am good n raising my 3 children. He even told me he is doing me a favour to raise my child I came with.

If Judy is this beautiful after all she have been through, imagine akiwa msichana alikua aje, and I never understand why women with big dreams always end up in manipulative relationships 🤦🤦

We see people out here looking fine but we do not know the struggles they are going through in their homes. It's terrible!!!

The minute she mentioned "you felt like walking on eggshells all the time", Narcissist No.1 trait. He is one big one. An intelligent lovely lady...

Probably those that body shamed her are the one who who disliked this video ...

Dear God I pray for everyone who's fighting a silent battle 🙏🙏

Madam MISTRESS, read my words carefully. Because that man has known you carnally, Mark my words!! You will PAY every single of Mama Wachira’s tear drops with your blood. MARK 👏🏾 MY 👏🏾 WORDS! Baba Wachira, right now it is only God who can help you because the thunder that is going to strike you is doing sit ups. Utakufa kifo cha MBWA 🚮🚮🚮

Madam Mistress. It's true mama hana matiti,,,. But ata matiti yako, ni mungu ameiweka n you don't know about tomorrow. Kanyanga pole Pole.

God of mercy remember this lady,you healed the woman who was bleeding for 12 yrs

Wooii,Judy my classmate back in high school.The most,outgoing, humble,polite,intelligent,God fearing lovely gal I ever met then.Jehova Rhapha grant you full recovery.

Ngai ukahura mundu niundu wa kugura plot maguta maguta, Those Red flags... Kiura Ruga

Dealing with a narcissist is the most painful thing in life, better to walk out

This story is heartbreaking. This lady is just a queen. She says it with gentleness inspire of the so much pain. You are blessed mama Wachira.

He was a narcissist , they make you feel so much drained and you start to believe that there is no better life than what he is offering. Take heart madam judy God is in control. Please ladies lets stop swiping matters under the rug for the name of marriage and relationships. Look at her now 27 years wasted by a damaged man.

So sorry my schoolmate Judy (Saintee Nyeri) you are still beautiful and composed as ever. May the Almighty God heal you. May your children overcome what they went through. Have peace and feel loved.

Monica and all of us have power to pray for this woman.woiii hugs mama

Whenever you notice a red flag, 'kiura ruga' . This is a sad story. I left my marriage after one year six months and I don't regret.

Judy I pray that you be healed and be free from cancer. You will live to see your great-grandchildren. May Almighty God bless your children to be great people in our generation and may their father be alive to see all these things happening. Amen God bless you

Even him he can get prostate cancer he is not beyond it, he is in this world and those his mistress.

My friend Judy, may God's peace be with you and may He expand your territories that you may never lack and may you soar high and high like the eagles. Hugs hugs sent over ❤️❤️

Judy, you have been through a lot and still manage to hold your head high. May you get full healing and may victory be your portion. You are a fighter.

Adu arume aya nii nyamu theri. I visited a potential boyfe and got sick visiting. He dropped me off annoyed at the casualty - I couldn't walk straight, I was in pain he didn't walk me in - he drove off 🤷🏾‍♀️ and told me to catch public transport back to his house whenever released. Weh, hawa watu. I returned home after my visit and never picked up his phone calls again. Imagine whoever ended up with this narc 🤯

This is the saddest story I have watched on this channel. Courage Judy, God loves you.

I can't imagine the trauma the kids went through at young age. They missed a happy childhood. Hope they will heal someday.

You're so beautiful mama wachira,no one knows about tommorow,no one kneels down n ask for a problem.leave it to God,he will revange on your behalf.

This is my close cousin and she cannot deserve this humiliation .God will be your provider Judy.

I can say she is a very beautiful woman, just natural. My grandmother used to say ''kama hujafa hujaepa chongo'' so the mistress has childish behaviour, she sees only where she is seated, so she doesn't know what future can bring her! God is not blind, he sees everything she is doing to this humble woman.

Abuse is bad and can reduce even the most intellectual 😢😢😢 lakini sielewi wanaume aki 😢😢 when they become sick the women stands by them but if the opposite happens most of the men they forsake the women. Huyo mzee angojee karma it will serve him a good portion and bonus. Hugs mami

What a beautiful, pleasant person. May she find joy for the rest of her life. May God grant her every desire.

"BE KIND " One in a million woman you deserve nothing but blessings follow unto you dear.

The Lady is still cute despite the Pain....The Hairstyle is Natural and Cute

I am so so sorry Judy. May God grant you victory in every battle. You are a beautiful and strong woman. Thank you for sharing your story.

Why should one person go through all this? Judy you are a great soul. It's not yet over, the future is bright.

The house is very beautiful.mum Judy you're a great lady. You will make it by Gods grace

Marriage is so overated, let's protect our kids from these agents of the devil in the name of marriage.

This woman has been married by a beast, he is just waiting for his judgement day,live long mama.pole

the man should confess and ask for forgiveness because her wife didn't ask for the sickness n to the lady who keeps on calling you wait until your turn your will know God doesn't disappoint kiboko ya mungu ya wagojea

some of us were brought up by narcissistic parents,some knew that they were narcissists, some knew not what they were doing to their children

What a wonderful woman, strong and powerfuI am feeling shedding tears when am listening but am telling u mum, trust God there is our father in heaven who pays..God bless you

You're a strong woman!Yaani ume narrate iyo story without a tear!I understand you have cried enough but God will come through.Gia na thayu thiini wa ritwa ria Jesu nigukorwo HE knew you before you were formed in your mother's womb!It is well🙏🙏

I walked out of my abusive marriage after 25years . It’s now 2 years. You cannot understand what abuse is unless you go through it.

What goes around comes around. He will know there is a God in heaven who does not play dirty games

Thank you Judy for being a voice to many.... Abuse is real and has taken many to an early grave, Lets break the silence and speak out. Judy The Lord is Our Battler, Let us hold on to Him, His word and alliw Him to carry us through. Be encouraged with Psalms 91, 23, 34, 37 and know that i love you and God loves you even more.

Hallo school mate (Saintee). Thanking God for you, Judy. You remain a victor not a victim, girl. Wewe in wetu!!!!!!

This woman's life is a mirror of my mum's except that she never lived to tell her story. The abuse led to lots of stress related illnesses, high blood pressure, a brain tumour that eventually killed her. Women, why do you stand this??? Never beg a man to have you.

A great woman indeeed...The story resembles my mother's life..she has been through such too and she is a cancer survivor too..grace has been sufficient ...

These girls (mistress) where do you get guts to abuse a woman with her illness yet you hav a breast na hujui kama hizo matiti zako ziko na ugonjwa 😭😭😭😭😭

Parents,relatives,church, police failed her and she also failed her children in the name of marriage that wasn't working..May God restore your wasted years

She is such an amazing and intelligent woman mum may our good Lord heal your wounded heart and repay u back by fulfilling ur heart desires

My sister stand tall coz you’ve been a strong woman, let neighbors talk, laugh ignore, the best is you know God and you’ve a home to live in , all the best

Honestly, I don't know what I can say to this woman but sending prayers.

Uyo mzee iyo pesa anasema ni ya future zitakuliwa na slay queens atabaki zero...strong mama wachira

This lady is soo beautiful, intelligent,forcuseed and strong...take 💓 Mama..malipo ni hapa hapa duniani

I totally understand where she's coming from. I bought a house which I am currently living in 10 years after the separation.

Women, we are our own worst enemies. As sad as it sounds.

She is a very very strong woman. That She didn't cry during the interview.......Kagoni almost did on her behalf. Pole sana mama, God sees, just watch space.

Waaaah......oooooh no,arume Kai mwendaga atia?🤦🤦some words sio zakwambia mtu especially a sick one, what goes around comes around, ya Mungu ni mengi ,ajui ata yeye anaeza left the world mbere ?hugs mum may God bless u with many years 🙏en give u peace 🕊️

this woman says the truth.most men from Neri are very thick now Onder they are beaten by their wives.my ex too was from Neri and he really ruined my youthful time exactly what this lady is explaining.you tell him you do something he doesn't want,you do it yourself he brings trouble.very abusive

Arume Nikii twendaga? By all standards this lady is very good. One day this man will surely regret his action. Not a curse but the reality.

A very strong lady. After the test comes the testimony. He will look for you and your children. His downfall will be thunderous.

This question they keep on asking "kwanii unamfanyianga, it hurts very much.

These marriages, just imagine if these two pple were on the same page,thy would be wealthy couple,this woman sounds industrious, focussed,some marriages kurudisha mtu nyuma!!

If it's Virginia kamotho ali smile, even Judy God will fight for you Nothing Impossible to God coz what you goes through it's similar like Virginia case

This lady is so beautiful and strong

Sometimes people fail to understand the value of those close to them....it is sad what Judy and her children have had to go through. There is a God in heaven....May He heal her completely from cancer. She should consider starting a group that can provide support and help to people who are going through similar situations....

I love the fact that she mixed with English and Kiswahili and so I enjoyed thank you

Waaah😥😥,,Why would a husband utter such words really? Kwani yeye amejegwa na cement??,woii,he might die before her,,aki those sidechicks😰😥😥,KARMA is doing exercises.unakaa na Bwana ya mtu alafu unamtusi waah,,God let this woman live long

Ooh my goodness......thiz mipango ya Kando nikama wanaendanga Kwa waganda inorder to win our husbands

Uyu muthuri ndimui....no ndamutigira Ngai..even those women calling you...he doesn't have the capacity to love them.

Someone who disrespects your family should not be given a chance

My comment may sound a little bit weird but once you agree to be someone's mistress you should never contact the wife,both of you are in different lanes which should have boundaries. So sorry for what you went through.

You are so strong my namesake,may God be always be there for you and guide you.I won't judge but you have made a good decision,it's better to be alive than dead to please others.Osinanchi gone through but now we are mourning her when it's too late.May God keep you and heal you completely

Wow, you deserve a medal dear..abuse is real .all the best in your healing journey both phyically and emotionally. It shall be well.

Lord I pray for everyone going through such a battle...Judy you are a strang girl...

If stupidity and ignorance were names. They would fit those concubines and that man very well. Some people are just stupid. May our good Lord avenge for you Judy.

She's soo numb...the pain has really numbed her ...

Pole Mama Wachira.. May God restore u! Nyeri, Mweiga Iko shida

Understand her if she can't express herself fully in Kikuyu, depends on how she's brought up.

Hi Judy my sister"a best maid. Thanks for sharing your story. You are an overcomer, God has won this battle for you. You will surely see the goodness of the Lord in the Land of the living.🙏🏾

Judy may you receive total healing, may our good Lord give you peace that surpasses all understanding. Your children are blessed... And your latter days will be greater than your former days Amen 🙏.

Ngai me i can't hold my tears,😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Kagoni this is very, very painful.

I feel your pain mama wachira. God will be with you and your sweet kids and what goes around comes around.

That man sounds exactly 100% like my father. Such men are not worth to be fathers

Ngai mwathani Jesu.kae guthiaga atia maa!Wooii Judy niukanyuireire maa bt I thank God,niakuigite muoyo niguo utuhingure maitho atumia.Judy Ngai Akurihe miaka iyo 27 ambayo imekuliwa na hiyo Nzige ya mwanaume and I wonder after all I have hear,huyo ndiye mwanaume anafanya wanawake watusiane juu yake??Shame shame shame to those daughters of Jezebel who thought that wamelipa mungu au wao ni perfect cancer hauwezi wapata.may all that pain that Judy has passed through be there portion in Jesus mighty name.

I love the smile on her face despite going through all that.....there is sunshine ahead mummy you are a victor in Jesus name 🙏🙏🙏

Ooh my the saddest story I have ever heard,it's similar to mine,being married to a beast actually I used to call him Hitler 😬 luckily I left for good and he passed on four years later like a dog!!I feel your pain mum,you are very beautiful and so full of life,may God always favour you and protect you and your kids,you are an iron woman,nakuoera Ngai Indo ciaku ciothe iria ciariireo ni ngige Ngai akurihe na akuhe deliverance,and Divine Healing in Jesus Name!

Beautiful lady, may God comfort you mama wachira..

Speaking up is a big step towards your healing mum.. Usiweke kitu kwa roho mami and you will live long to see your grandchildren.. It is well..

Recently a pastor mentioned that even pre-marital is never enough to deal with underlying personal issue. He recommended that before we all decide to be in another person's life, can we learn to deal with our wounds and not hurt the people around us that were not part of the hurt...... Therapy should be a vital tool in our communities to help us deal with mental health. That man was/is broken.

Watu wa Benjamin Zulu who can relate with pre 25 marriages.. This woman grew to be a greater person but the husband didn't like it

Judgement and invalidation from family and friends is what really kills a victim of violence.Judy you will be and are victorious.Keep on my dear

I wish you could post pic of that narcist . Am tired of visualizing how he looks. Sorry Judy for all you have gone through. And you are so beautiful.

Thank God you have given this lady a big heart,even to smile,yes you're God of another chance,,heal recovery is your portion Mya sister

At this pace am just afraid of marriage.......the rate at which abuse and killings in a marriage set up is taking place it makes you wonder what's the furure

A narcissistic personality disorder causes problems in many areas of life, such as relationships, work, school or financial affairs. People with narcissistic personality disorder may be generally unhappy and disappointed when they're not given the special favors or admiration they believe they deserve. They may find their relationships unfulfilling, and others may not enjoy being around them......

I concur with her, sometimes when under abuse you loose yourself, talking through experience

This story is so heartbreaking. God Loves you so much Mama Wachira, he will Never Leave nor forsake you. Trust in Him, you are a Brave Woman Mungu atakupigania malipo ni hapa hapa duniani tu.