Thank you! My mom was schizophrenic. Anyone who stops and tries to help someone who struggles with mental illness well, I can't thank you enough. The VAST MAJORITY of the chronically mentally ill will hurt themselves before hurting others.
As a behavioral therapist, there are several points here i might share. Many of you feel that the mother was not performing as you thought she should. None of us know the back story ON BOTH ENDS. Why did it take so long for her to see him? It may have been because HE was not at that point where he was comfortable seeing family. That is common. There is a lot of pain, guilt, shame, and fear. Everyone has to come to the table at their own pace for great things to happen. John seems to have some physical/emotional concerns that also may play into this. I think you can see that as he walks out and moves across the stage. And again when he speaks. KUDOS for this woman using her heart and soul to decide to step into this young mans life and offer grounding, safety and something that for all we know, he did not get at home. The family has work to do, let's hope things go well for all of them for their future.
We need more understanding people like you. Everyone in the comments is bashing the mother for not "reacting" like she should've. We don't know the whole story, and honestly we should just pray for the family and the guy's well being.
as a mother, to me it looked like she didnt want to overwhelm him and have him feel smothered and maybe change his mind if she got too eager, like it was too good to be true so she was trying to play it cool. i have an adult child who would hate me being all soppy and over excited towards her, i see that in this mom.
Yeah I was thinking the same things. He seemed quite uncomfortable based on his body language. There's definitely a lot of truth there that still needs to come out and a lot of work that needs to be done. Addiction is a life long struggle but I wish him the best and I hope he gets what he needs.
Thank you for your post. How can I help my 23 yr old son who seems to be addicted to pot? We had a pretty awful life due to an abusive marriage. He's angry and hurt and I think this pot makes it worse.
I lost two brothers to addictions. I couldn't imagine what his mother must've been going through every waking moment not knowing where he was or how he was doing and the fear of getting THE phone call. This is definitely a story that deserves updating every so often. Can we get an update, please?
This must have been a bittersweet thing to watch for u. I hope that John is going to be fine and w his loving family from now on.! They all deserve it. What fine people.
God bless you. So sorry for the pain of losing your brothers. Stay strong and mighty in the Lord. Live a good life and continue to love others. Peace and a prayer, Lynne 🍃💜🍃
I lost my brother this past August to Heroin OD. Having a family member with Addiction is like mourning someone who is still alive like they are dead. Everything this mom said about hoping to not get that death call and never knowing where her son is are then same things my mother stressed about as well. My deepest sympathies are with you and your family. 🧡
He's doing just fine I think if you know how yo-yo feels that's kind of coming out of this what it feels like I guess but if I lose any more weight I'll fall out of the end of the needle I have no idea what I weigh now but it's nowhere near what I used to weigh and that and I dropped 100 pounds or more
@deb mohagheghi We don't know.. They both were on the path of success with owning their own business building houses. Both of them had wives, young children and owned their own homes. To all of us, it just seemed like they changed to drugs over night. They both died when they were 41 years old four years apart.
I spent years in active addiction, I'm grateful to say I'm going on six years sober and I'm living a beautiful life I never could have imagined. I've put my mom thru hell (the only thing worse than being an addict is loving one) but she never gave up on me and ALWAYS had my back and I promise I wouldn't have been able to beat my addiction without her. Mom's of addict's deserve the world!
My parents had the same phone number since I was born ( I'm 50 now) when my dad sold his house and moved into a retirement home he was worried that family and friends would no longer be able to get in touch with him anymore so my brother got him a cellphone that has his original landline number on it :)
Exactly,I mean people change phone numbers,like changing a shirt,he got lucky that hers had not changed,plus lucky to find a person willing to take in a guy who was an addict.
I think the mom was scared that if he came home, he would revert back. She seemed off. I don't blame her,,,, we don't know everything that happened. God heal their family.
Rey Carl Apprentice parents should tray to help son to get good and long treatment for addiction.He needs help and support.It happened with children sometimes addiction.
As a mother of an addict, most people can’t even imagine the heartache of not knowing where or how your child is doing. My other child is in the military and when he was gone at war it was the same heartbreaking feeling of not knowing how your child is doing. God bless the parents of the addicts that sit and wonder daily about their child.
LisaMarie I totally understand. I lost my son to fentanyl 7/4/18. He was only 21 and a shining light in our eyes before the drug took over. People don’t understand these drugs are so addictive they take over the mind and your free will is gone
Its not just addicts.My older daughter has severe mental illness from a rare illness at 14.Shes 38 now.I haven't seen or heard from her in 7 years. She can be violent and nasty,but has never done drugs or alcohol.It seems if you have an addiction people are more understanding then of mental illness.She didn't ask what happened to her,but even my family blamed my husband & I for her problems. I almost wish she had an addiction versus mental illness.You can over come addiction,but mental illness is a total different book.It scares people more than anything else I discovered over the years.people believe as she grows up it will just go away like most childhood things do,but.mental illness or what my daughter has (brain damage) doesn't diminish with age.In fact it can actually gwt worse due to the knowledge of the patient.My daughter is exceptionally bright and knows how to use it to her advabtage when she chooses to. IT'S A vicious cycle. Nwver having met anyone else who has this illness we were actually accused of making it up..to cope with our guilt. Those were words from a social worker at Duke psych department whwn they accused us of abusing our daughter.Even though she and we all proclaimed our innocence. They then stripped us of our parental rights so we had zero say in ANYTHING and told our daughter.He she could stop lieing now. I SWEAR THEY WERE THE ONES WITH MENTAL ILLNESS,BUT POWER THEY ABUSED!!! IT WAS SO SCARY!! I put my younger daughter in hiding to protect her when they threatened to remove her from our home. When they couldn't locate her they had police watching our house and me 24/7.thats when I knew I had done the correct thing in hiding her,but she was only 8 and didn't understand what was going on.our life was tured upside down all due to a strept infection!! À infection that DUKE HOSPITAL REFUSED TO ADMIT IMO BECAUSE THEY DID NOT FIND IT.A SMALLER HOSPITAL DID after SHE WAS DISCHARGED FROM Duke. Duke psych dept for adolescents sucks!!! All they ďid was blame parents for everything. Always the parents faults no matter.due to them wasting so much time,by the time the infection qas discovered it had been in her system too long to reverse ,so her issues are permanent!!! No lawyers would take on Duke so they got away with it.I despise Duke hospital!!!
I cried through the whole thing. We are all our mom’s babies. I miss my mom so much. She passed away four months tomorrow. We all have hardships. Hug your mom. Forgive and call your mom. What a lovely video. 😢
My eyes are sweating profusely! I used to work in addiction treatment and I’ve seen how sometimes the smallest gesture can make a person battening addiction’s whole day, but to do what Stacy did completely changed his life. I hope we be more like Stacy
I feel like there's more to this story than meets the eye. I didn't feel like the mom was thrilled to have him back at the house, but of course, I hope I'm wrong about this.
Yeah, I mean what could she say on television.. no? Lol I was wondering why he hadn’t gone back to his mother in all that time, and even while living with a stranger who took him in, why even then his mother didn’t ask him to just come home? If that was my baby and had not heard a word from him I’d be searching for him to make sure he was ok. Or trying to bring him home with me. BUT! At the same time, they are adults and that decision would have to be their own, you can’t simply drag them and forced them into recovery. I have a half brother who also suffers from addiction and my mom will go weeks without talking to him. He won’t come to get help. He lives out of state somewhere.. and it’s hard on her. Not too long ago we heard from a family member he was in the hospital. I had to track down the hospital and called to inquire about what was going on with him. Thankfully he was alright but he was lying to my mother about having a “procedure” saying he had surgery. And the nurse confirmed no surgery had occurred. I think he really is suffering from mental illness as well but again, he won’t accept help. And he’s in his 40’s. It’s very sad
@@diannaperkins3334 I suspected the dad as well. The mom seems nice, but you never know what home life is like. They didn't explore what led him to addiction.
I hope all goes well.... But didn't I hear someone's son was a Detective? There may be more to the story... And his past ??? Well he has from today forward...not to look back. Im sure it's tough being he had an addiction... Burned a few bridges.... And I pray he does well... 🙏🙏
Oh my goodness! This is an AMAZING story of love and kindness that brought tears of joy to my heart. My soon-to-be 33-year old son is a struggling alcoholic who has been living with a woman by the name of Kelly. He knows he has a problem but is afraid to get the professional help that he so desperately needs. I’m truly thankful for Kelly, but I certainly pray that my son Darren gets the courage to go into rehab soon.
Being an addict in recovery myself I CRIED through this whole thing. It made me so sad to see the torture we have put our families (and ourselves) through. I also got sad because at the end the mom is SO happy her son wants to come home but I got sad because I know it is not an easy happy ending. I hope that John is clean and sober still today but unfortunately it is a hard hard struggle and I pray for all of them. The desperation of his mom kills me and Stacy seems to know that hurt as well. God bless them 💕
Please know your worth. I know that the hardest thing is to resist those drugs. You are not alone. My son is a heroin addict 5 years sober. You are so worth the fight. So much love, hugs, strength being sent your way.
@@marimullan4012 awww thank you so much Mari! I am THRILLED for your son! I wrote this comment 9 months ago, you’ll be happy to know that I am still doing great! In fact April 27th will make it 4 years for me 😃. God bless you and your family.
@@KoriEmerson i'm sure it is. I don't have any children, but I know my late sweet mom would have walked every single street to find one of us, no matter how hard, and how long it took, if one of us were missing. I'm not judging this mom, but there's no way in hell I would just go on with my life if any of my family members were homeless or missing. She was worried that she might get "the call" but she still didn't do anything about it. That's just strange.
Does anyone understand what he said at the end, before his mom said, "seriously?"... Def more to the story, none of our business, but odd to have her on while we all wondered why he wasn't asked to come back home. I'm glad the first woman is still there as a true caretaker. Weird that no tears were shed... I hope Kelly does a follow up.
Click on the Closed Captions icon (CC) under the video. That will enable you to read the transcript of the episode in English. Yes, John sometimes spoke rapidly in a low voice, at the end of a sentence. Plus I imagine he was also nervous, of course, so hope this helps you understand what he said.
He is so right. No matter where you go good hearts find good hearts. I wish everyone all the best. He seems like a wonderful young man. Hope he gets his life in order.
I loss 13 years with my sister due to addiction. I googled her name several times a year and it took 13 years but she was looking for me. Unfortunately it was because she had cancer and wasn’t expected to survive long. I had two years with her in my life and I am so thankful I did. She got to know her nephew and nieces. My kids were young but the older two remember and my youngest says she remembers because we talk about her a lot. My sister passed away the day before her 3rd birthday. My daughter says it makes me feel close to her. I love my sister more then anything. I wish addiction didn’t get a hold of her and caused us to miss her for 13 years. My sister had a guardian angel just like Kelly. My sister called her her street mom. I could never be more thankful.
I wish something good would have happened with my Son he was an addict as well but my son was going into a program but he never made it and took his own life in jail in 2019...I love him and miss him dearly 💔 😢 God bless this Woman...
My family was affected similarly. My sister didn’t have options for her mental illness. It was horrible and then as a homeless woman she was struck by a train. My mom is a faithful woman. There’s no explanation for her getting on after all of it. It’s easy to be numb to dirty strangers. It’s quite another to see your sister in another’s distressed eyes especially realizing they won’t get the help they deserve either. Much warmth and prayer to other survivors,
I love these stories of growth from addiction. They talk about the wait. Days turning into weeks and weeks into months months to years. That’s what it was like for me only the opposite. The addict was my mom. The last time I’d ever talk to her was in 2008. Flash forward to 2021. My aunt who normally makes “dates” when she calls someone called me out of the blue and I knew something was wrong. My mom was in the hospital going through withdrawal. Addiction won this round and she died like a month later. I want to believe that maybe she will beat it in another life. Or at least get closer to beating it. So these stories of growth soften parts of my hardened heart.
People all over are going through similar things. The chances of meeting someone whose life parallels yours is not that big of a stretch. It is wonderful that there are still people that can come out of their lives and care about others.
You’re an amazing soul, Kelly. The good you do for others cannot be measured. Don’t ever change. I lost my brother to alcohol last year. Keep showing there’s a way for them to get out. Big Scott, Findlay Ohio
This is so surreal to see this kind of thing on a show like this. It's beautiful! I ran away from home and lived on the streets as a teenager and lost many friends to addiction. I also remember a couple times when people would help me out and those experiences stick with you. I have a video of some of those memories and being homeless in San Francisco on my profile. I didn't share all of the experiences. A small act of kindness can go a long way!
My mom always has the door open no matter what...I do not have to ask...and how come he only meets his mother now live on national TV? I would like to know the real story...
The only thing worse than losing a brother to cancer is the fear of losing my youngest brother to drugs. It's heartbreaking, but I pray for healing for him and so many others who struggle with this illness. It's like watching them committing suicide slowly and painfully.😭
Ok, not a regular at all, but had to subscribe after seeing this incredible story of kindness. Amazing things happen when humans are at their best. Thank you for posting.
I am sure they’ve been through a lot. And they may need to set boundaries, which has to happen off camera. Both moms were warm and loving and I wish them all the absolute best. Addiction is a beast, but so many have overcome. Hoping he’s been able to keep it up!
Such a great story as a mom that has two sons and one that was in same place as john and now clean like john I'm so happy for his mom and thankful for the woman that help him great story kelly I loved it!
EVERYBODY FIGHTS THEIR DEMONS. THIS YOUNG MAN IS AN ANGEL AND SO HANDSOME !!!!! FROM MY HEART, I HOPE HE WINS OVER EVERYTHING AND NEVER, EVER LOOKS DOWN - ONLY UP FROM HERE ON !!!!!!!
im sitting here addicted crying. i cant even imagine.. i know hiw amazing life off booze feels so why am i here. im 29. ive been drunk for 5 days. i just found out i have 4 tumors in my lungs and i cant cope. i was recovering. i was good no im not..
TheRealDealAly, I hope and pray that you ask God for help and find a program that is good for you. Your life is worth living. God has beautiful plans for your future. Peace and a prayer, Lynne🍃💜🍃
TheRealDealAly Do you have family or a friend to lean on? If not, where are you? I will come get you. I'm not a perv. I'm a 66 yr old woman. Are you ok?
I loved that he got to talk to his mom on the phone and got to see her in person and finally get to come home . And I live like a hour from Portland Oregon
It starts from infancy. Do not let your kids "cry it out" before sleep. Wear your babies and treat them as babies until 4 yrs. old. This sets the child up for trust and fulfillment/needs met so they will be whole as adults. Baby the baby and you get a well adjusted teen and adult.
God bless the lady who took him in and helped him we have 2son in laws who r addicts my husband is a pastor and were trying to help them I know how those mom feel God bless ❤💔
I noticed immediately that He had physical problem walking and talking I also felt the mom was not too happy him coming home. I wish him luck and a awesome woman to take him in
We all have our own struggles/bumps in the road, but love conquers all, especially a mother's love. I hope everything works out for you John and that you live a happy life. And, you're quite handsome as well ;)
she thought he was going to tell her good news, like that he was getting his own place or had a stable job now or something, but instead he just asked her if he can move back in lol..... i can see why she was disappointed and was totally put in a super awkward position on TV
Wow... amazing story!!! Got tears rolling! Thank you Kelly for getting them back together!! This shows you that there are wonderful people out there. And as a mom; I wouldn't know what to do if I haven't seen or heard from my son in years. I don't think I couldn't handle it. Thank you again Kelly for this great story!!!
