HOMEMAKING A CHRISTIAN HOME | LET'S TALK ABOUT ENVY! 

Well said!

You are so welcome!

Well said!

Yes! Very well put. This helps me see my situation more clearly, thank you ❤

Awe! The beginning made me giggle, your sense of humor is great! Thank you for the kind words and encouragement.

Thank you for sharing this, Lynn. I truly appreciate it. I do agree that if the person envying is a Christian they should be approached first in Matthew 18 manner. I should do a follow up video expressing this.

Thank you for sharing!

That is so sad!

Almost worse than an envious friend is an envious 'stranger' who literally knows nothing about you. Myself & another lady from church are trying to start a women's fellowship group. there is a gaggle of older women who do.not.want.it.to.happen....period. They have tried quite a few tactics, out of jealousy, to get it to cease, before it has even begun! They have called my home to dissuade me. They have tried to get the church office involved to put a stop to it. They showed up en masse to the first mtg and tried to commandeer the whole thing. They are envious that another group, that has kind of lost its purpose, they belonged to is having trouble gaining attendance. So their thought was to funnel all the women from our new group into their group. But we don't want to do what they used to do. It is hard to keep going in the face of this kind of jealousy & intentional gate keeping. BUT...I DID see it coming, because I have tried to organize things with in the church before - so I was prepared & just killed them with kindness. My poor friend tho...🤣She is jus the sweetest thing ever & just doesn't get it....she can't understand why???? why???LOL. I said, "they are just jealous" - THEY are in the wrong, not us. LOL

That is legit brilliant! I love that idea, thank you!!

Yes!!! We gravitate towards people with character traits we are familiar with too and unfortunately this can include abusive people if that's what we became familiar with early on. This comment is helpful, thank you for sharing it!!!

Thank you so much!

Exactly

I hear you. I think it is a mild form if it. Good point.

Thank you, Mary!

You are so welcome!

Glad it was helpful!

Thank you so much!

Yes, He is present and good!

Thank you 😊! The dress is from Walmart 😀

You are so welcome!

I hear you, Sara!

Thank you SO much for recommending my channel to your friend! And you put me in the mood for strawberry Rhubarb pie, lol!

I had a girl do this kind of thing in the 3rd grade. My father told me, "imitation is the sincerest form of flattery". But being flattered is not too good either. What I realized many years later was that this girl came from a very bad family situation & just probably wanted a friend.

Great idea!! I'll include that in a video soon, I wrote it down to do!

Awesome!

If I have the land and means I would own chickens and goats!

Hello Rachel. I'm sorry you are going through this! I do think most of us have been here though, especially bigger family mama's. I think the first place to start is by sitting down and having a very honest conversation with your husband. Also, I do think you could benefit from some counseling. Do you have a church you could look for counseling in, or any programs in your area?

I, too, have struggled with envying my husband. But I will tell you, that all of those 'tasks' are somewhat the job I signed up for when agreeing to stay home. & while it doesn't look 'fair' right NOW, it does get easier for the mother as the kids get older. We literally sat down & reviewed ALL the tasks I would be taking on, like job duties, when we decided I was going to stay home. All the things you listed are the tasks that I willingly AGREED to & therefore, I check myself when I feel complaints coming out. My husband has had to put up with some crappy things in his job (like 2 hours of driving time daily in NY weather, 14 hour workdays on the regular to afford me being home, vindictive bosses, hard physical labor, very, very little sleep, afternoon shifts, midnight shifts, roadside repairs in freezing weather; he is a tractor trailer mechanic), that I have largely avoided by being home. Now that the kids are older, I have much more time to myself. If you raise your kids to be fairly independent they will take care of things for themselves. My kids are young adults (17 &20), have jobs, cars, activities, do their own chores, banking, etc...They don't 'need' me that much now. While my husband's job is as demanding as it always has been, I now have time to go visit friends, read a book, sit & knit in the afternoons, take walks, etc...I've tried the whole "get a part time job to have independence" trick. It NEVER worked, it always backfired; my husband was very resentful, my kids were not happy, & I was more stressed out by all that was not getting done in my own home. I actually envy my husband for different reasons - it seems like everything comes so easy to him & I struggle so much with anxiety, at times, that certain things that others take for granted (driving somewhere or leaving the house) can turn into big obstacles. It seems like everything he attempts works out, or is successful & people ALWAYS like him. He is a huge people person & is usually the life of the party, and I often am left off to the side due to not being sure of myself. We actually went to couple's counseling for a year, because this was one issue that was tearing us apart after 20 years of marriage. What I realized was that #1 we just have some different kinds of personality traits & #2 his 'outgoing' response to everything was his OWN way of responding to situations where HE was anxious. weird? And as for people always liking him...he can be somewhat of a chameleon - so people are not really getting to see the real him, as he hides his flaws & I tend to be a 'what you see is what you get' type & people either LOVE me or they HATE me. And I am okay with that now. Getting stuck in pity party mode makes it hard to see WHY you are feeling what you are feeling & it makes it hard to approach your spouse with a willingness to solve the problem. Everyones' defenses get up & nothing gets resolved. Ultimately, it took an outside party to help us meet each other in the middle & to see where some expectations were not being fulfilled & where some were unreasonable.

Thank you so much 😊

I'd love one but it's not in the budget at this time.

@@mountainmamashomewe don’t have one either.

That is rough 😥.

I am really sorry about that. I hope you find a circle of friends who pour love into you and you feel you belong.❤

😢 My two adult children are astranged from me. (their choice not mine)

Yes, but we live several states away from each other, which helps. Your comments on envy really helped me, thank you.

That is an interesting thought, you are probably onto something with it too. Thank you for pointing that out!