PART 1 PART 2 TO FOLLOW *Please remember nobody’s experience or journey is the same and there is not a one shoe fits all approach when it comes to recovering*. I hope you enjoy listening! Sending so much love x 💌 #real
love this video demi! for me the mental part of recovery has definitely been the hardest, it just feels like im stuck in this mindset which sucks but all hard work will definitely be worth it in the end ❤ sending you love and thank you for your videos!! x
Thankyou so much, for sure it’s super hard with the constant thoughts and reminders of things, I am so proud of you for fighting! You can do it ❤ sending all my love x
Thanks for this video....on my own recovery journey (again 😢) & always nice knowing Im not alone It's actually scary how many of ur answers were exactly what Id say if I was doing the Q&A 🥰 keep fighting hun 💖 xx
Thankyou so much, I’m so sorry to hear it but remember how strong you are and you can and you will do this ❤ I’m so glad the video can help to make you feel less alone also! Never give up lovely ❤️
I think you are doing so well!!! I really relate to you as i am currently trying to recover from anorexia which has haunted me for over 20 years! You literally listed all my favourite RU-vidrs! Im going down the emily Spence/Tabitha route as literally nothing else has worked for me personally. Its been really challenging but at the same time really freeing! I feel like the greater the challenge the less fear in a strange way?! Like having an extra banana a day would cause huge anxiety but added peanut butter, cereal, butter, bread ect would cause the same stress so i may as well enjoy it! Im trying to listen to ky body ehich again is a challenge! Like you i gravitate toward 'healthy' foods. But when im honest with myself i just want five guys burgers!!
Hey!! Sending you so much love and strength on your own journey you can do this !!! Emily and Tabitha are so sooooo helpful in recovery when your having a bad day i always listen or watch one of their videos and it really is helpful ❤️ I get this sometimes too !!! like having 2 bananas in one day would be criminal so i can completely relate to you on that one. Eat the things you want and love you deserve it. 🦋
I cant tell you how much I loved this video. it's so nice to kind of listen to someone you relate to. I was sectioned too without knowing and it really betrayed my trust, so I can understand your pain. it's honestly horrible, as we had no choice or say. Also im so sorry that "professional" said that to you, some people just aren't trained with eating disorders. anyways, cant wait for part 2! and the challenging meal deal videos as thats something I struggle with two. also we are twinning on the oats! idk they are my safe food too lol
forgot to mention the period thing is so relatable too its. hard when you feel like its almost your fault" that you failed your Body. atleast I think that, but if we continue to fight and have enough day by day, at least each day we are one step closer. I think of motivations and how we can tell our children hopefully how much we had to fight to get there. it will all be worth it one day I hope x
Thankyou so much, I really hope it has helped in some way 🫶🏻 also I’m so sorry that you also went through a similar situation it’s awful when you lose total control, I’m sending you so much love on your journey and hope that your doing okay, never forget how strong you are! Also yessss oats for the win x
@@lifeyogafunfoodandfitness for sure I totally hear you!! It’s the worse feeling but we have to push and give our bodies all the nutrients and energy it needs and it will bring it back for us ❤ it will be so so worth the short term uncomfortable feelings.
hi, appreciate you answering all those questions, find it really helpful and interesting to get you know better, so please do another one like this video :) recommend challenging more pre-made/ready meals and foods, maybe you could challenge that for a week or mon-fri to eat a takeout/pre-made meal at lunch time?... would be fun to watch too!:) even local sandwich shops and cafes are a super good alternative as usually they have the unknown calories so you really can get the option your true self really desire and not the lowest calorie/safest option:)
Heyy!! Thankyou so much I’m so glad you enjoyed it ☺️ I will definitely be doing a similar video soon. Thank you so much for your suggestion also I love the idea of this and think it would be super helpful for me to break some rules that are still engrained! I’ve never ever been to pret before either I need to try for sure 🤩🤩
I am so sad to hear your trauma in care. I also have that, and the damage it did, linger decades after it happened. One doctor recently said "the abuse you where put through" about it, and that was such help to hear a DOCTOR saying that. Everybode before her, just said "you needed" or "they would not do anything that was not proper or needed". But yes, in psychiatric care especially, it is common. I got severe bulimia and worse anorexia from my inpatient "care": Mentally I was changed and ready to eat, after a experience that woke me up. I was so badly treated, given such wrong amounts of food (I need over 3000 kcal, and got 1800, did not gain weight and then was accused to lie lie lie lie lie lie - even though dietician said they had to give me more food than needed for some 80 years old telly watching lady - I am over 6 feet tall and really active with my dogs). I got blod cloths from not beeing allowed to move a lot (coming from that active dog sports life). They let me go for 4 or 5 weeks with obstipation, saying laxatives was abuse (what were their behaviour not letting me poop AT ALL for 4-5 weeks then, threatening with force feeding when I simply just couldnt fill my poop filled stomach any more?) Such a relief after all these years to hear a real doctor calling my "care" for what it was, abuse. When I got home from that ED care long time ago, I was still anorectic, but also bulimic, and had lost my will to get better. I always wonder what would of me now if I did not go to that care. Please, everyone who read: PLEASE try help yourself 100 % If you succeed with that, you wont get that damaging trauma. You will also have to deal a lot less with illness benefits like "health care, the system, therapists just cares about me if thin enough" The latter is why I am not talking to people at all about my ED during my relapses. I want to get out of it as fast as I can. Those weird illness benefits are powerful, and we have to recognize them. It took me many years to realize this even existed and was a real problem for me.
Hey, I’m so sorry you experienced a similar thing too. This is awful to hear and it should have never happened to you but remember it’s only made you a stronger person (but should never have happened) I know sometimes it’s hard to take a positive out of something so negative but I’m so proud of you for being so brave and resilient ❤ I hope you are doing a lot better now and I’m sending all my best wishes!!
Regarding your answer about "always liking" whole/real foods ... consider that you've been ill since you were a young teen. Quite a lot of your life. Maybe this is a great time for you to challenge yourself with trying those other foods: more processed items, fast food etc. They are more highly palatable (read: easier to eat and digest), as well as being higher in fat/calories which you need right now. Remember that no food is bad for you compared to what anorexia and maintaining a restrictive eating disorder doss to you. Life means enjoying all the foods! And you deserve it
So true, needed to hear this and I never thought of it that way it has been so long since having the ed that it has become almost the norm now so I should 100% challenge it ❤️
How do you structure your meals and snacks and how do you decide weather something is a snack or a meal.. around how many kcal do you aim a snack or meal to be and how long should there be intetween to classify something as a 'new meal/snack' rather than part of something you had shortly before' . I struggle with this like if I have a coffee with soy milk I feel I should count it as a snack but of course for normal people it's not a snack.. Or if I have what feels like a meal, for a normal person that would be a snack kcal wise. Or if I have eat something but then reasonably soon after have something extra do I count that extra as part of the meal or is that a separate snack? Like if I have a coffee with milk in the morning but don't have breakfast until like 45-1h later then I feel the coffee was it's own 'snack' and therefore it feels to soon to have breakfast (bc two meals to close together), but it feels to far apart that the coffee was part of breakfast if you know what I mean.. Same if I have coffee before lunch or so I get in this pickle that it feels like I'm having 'snacks/meals' to close together but too far apart to belong together as snack/meal.
Thankyou for these questions I will add these into my next q&a 🫶🏻 I completely understand how the coffee almost feels like a snack I used to also feel this way but now I don’t feel that way, keep on challenging it over and over again and telling yourself it’s not a snack. You deserve to have what you want and honour your cravings / snack choices whenever you want them (I know it’s not that easy) but you can do it I’m so proud of you!
Thank you! Yeah its so annoying and difficult if I have too much in at once it feels too much either mentally or physically or both. But if I spread things out then I feel like I'm eating too often or too soon after each other etc and ugh it's just so hard to figure out how to structure things xx
here's some questions: what's one thing you wish you could tell your past self? what's the best thing recovery has given you so far? what's the worst food inpatient served you as once I got served this green pie which had like lentils and cheese It was so random lol. any goals for the future? how is adult inpatient services as im nearly getting transferred from cahms as im nearly 18. and what's your favourite food since recovery?
Thankyou so much for the questions, I will answer all of them in part 2 🫶🏻 ps I’m sorry you had to endure eating the green pie that doesn’t sound the best hahaha I had some random things too 😆
Good question. I don’t like to share too much about exercise at the moment because I would hate to give out the wrong message and it be harmful to people. I have found exercise incredibly hard to tackle so far in my recovery and it’s still a major work in progress. Yes I did stop and try just walks for a few weeks but it’s been super hard! x
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