Hey Amayi, as a wife and mom I can relate to you so much. No one gets married to live a single life. No house or decor will fill that void. My home is over 4,000 sq feet but it is nothing without my husband in it with me. Pray about it and watch God work! Great vlog sis💗
Amayi we need a segment to have these chats with us often because when you talk, SIS!!! Even my boyfriend that was eating beside me was shaking his head like “Yup, preach” 😅You are sooooo relatable & inspired!!! 🥰 Thank you for just be YOU with us 🤍🙏🏽
Amayi, you don’t need to explain. Your feelings matter and are very valid. My husband and I have been married 27 years, and our kids are grown and college graduates. When our kids were younger, I felt like a single mom. My amazing husband worked extremely hard to provide for our family, he often was away from the kids and I. I basically raised the kids alone. I cooked, cleaned, facilitated learning, went to school events, volunteered at their school, helped with homework, took them to athletic practices, academic games, to the doctor/dentist, was the primary disciplinarian, and took them to the movies, dinner, skating, laser tag, Etc….. It was extremely hard sometimes, but I’m so grateful we were in the financial position where I could be home and present for my children. Mothers sacrifice so much, and we do it all from love. It’s normal to feel alone, overwhelmed, and even unappreciated at times. We are human and have the right to our feelings. You are doing an amazing job, it’s normal to feel like you are doing everything on your own, even when you have a loving and supportive husband. Sending you a virtual hug. 💗
Babbyyyyy!!!! My husband and I are BOTH in law enforcement, when he gets off from night shift I go in on the day shift. Talking about seeing each other through passing is OUR life. I ride with everything you said because I too feel that way and is LIVING that life. We are a community just know you’ll always have my support 🥰🥰
Amayi, I COMPLETELY understand what you are saying!!! I, too am a MARRIED SINGLE WOMAN!!! My husband of 28 years work in a demanding job. He works overnight and on the weekends as well, therefore, when I'm up, he is asleep, vice-versa. I'm off on the weekends and he is not so, I completely get what you are saying! It does get lonely and you do feel like you are single! Luckily, for us, our kids are grown now so, I don't have the single mom role anymore but every thing couples do require hubby taking time off or me declining invites etc or simply going alone and saying hubby is at work!!! In his absence, I occupy my time by doing self care things such as massages, facials, shopping etc. Which my husband gladly support and pays for! But after, its over, the loveliness kicks in!!! I said ALL of that too say, YOU ARE NOT ALONE and there is nothing wrong with the way you feel!!!
Hi Amati you are such a refreshing breath of air on RU-vid!! I absolutely love your very down to earth kind demeanor! I just stumbled over your channel and I am so grateful I did. Love Love Love your home! I love the way you connect to us your viewer’s! I too had a husband that worked literally 7 days a week 24/7. I completely understand your feeling of single parenting. It can be very difficult. I love your family’s realness. The kids and your Mom and your hubby are all adorable especially Ms. Penny!!!! Sending you and yours much Love ❤️ ❤️♥️🏡♥️❤️🙏🏽♥️❤️
Beautiful blog!! Sis, you shouldn’t feel bad at all for expressing how you feel! I agree with you 1000% because i have felt this way for a very long time!!
I love going to the beach it's always an adventure and lots of bags to pack lol. I agree with adding the picture lights. The art already looks great but the lights will showcase the art.
Don’t cry sis! I feel the same way because my husband work long hours then come home exhausted. When he’s home we’re home and his off days he prefer to rest
I love to see families get together like that, you guys had a great turnout. Keep cherishing the moments. ❤️❤️❤️ Your feelings concerning your husband only shows that you are human and you love and miss his support, there’s nothing wrong with expressing that. Just pray on it and God will make a way!!! HUGS to you from me sis!!!
Sis you spoke straight facts and gave some good tips. There's always outsiders looking in and ready to speak on your life when the have no clue of it. There's nothing like family...love it❤️❤️
Thank you for that pep talk at the end. Many won’t be able to understand especially if they’ve never experienced that life before. My husband works all the time and although I know he’s building a great life for us and our children, but it definitely gets hard when you are doing the grunt work in the home. We have four kids all under 5 and it’s challenging! So I understand your feelings. Also, a great RU-vid channel called “the Bible project” is great for trying to understand the Bible. It breaks everything down by book and verse and it’s sooo helpful. Have an amazing week, always love your channel❤️❤️
I am 100% with you! Coming from an ex military wife I physically raised my kids like a single mother! I been married 20 years and my husband worked day and night for 16 of those 20 years . It is what it is, but I also felt exactly how you feel.
Amayi I appreciate your transparency and totally understand your feeling. My husband works in Sales and only has Sundays off it’s a lot and can be lonely. I always feel like my cup is runneth over because I handle all the home responsibilities. My kids are older now but when they were younger it was a lot. Stay strong and prayed up girl we do appreciate you.
I can most definitely relate!! I’m so glad I found your channel with the morals and values of creating a home for your family. No it’s not many that look like us on here speaking these facts with the class and elegance!! Keep it up because we are watching 😝👍😳
I get it 100%. You miss and need your other half. It’s a feeling that is natural and doesn’t take away from your appreciation of what he is sacrificing. I’m sure he wants to be home with his family more.
Amayi, your feelings are valid and I can appreciate your transparency. This is one of the many reasons why I love your channel. Thank you for keepin it real. ❤
Please no more picture lights. People are overdoing them and they don’t belong over every hanging picture. You’ve done a beautiful job with your home and restraint goes a long way
It’s great your whole family got together for a beach day! Love to see it 😍 also, love the transparency it’s definitely possible to be a married single mom it happens but you know your why and you do what you have a plan! It’s soooooo important 🤗
I was an army wife. I felt every bit of what you said “feeling like a single mom in your marriage”. Your feelings are valid. Stay strong. You’re doing amazing ❤️
I fully understood the “loneliness” but in a relationship! For some reason, society has us made it taboo for us to be honest about our feelings! I’ve been watching for awhile now and I love the transparency! Be you day in & day out and don’t apologize for it! Be great!
I get it! I feel the same way! My husband works a lot too, so alot of things I take care of because he works so much and he’s tired! I understand Sis! No need to explain. I know he has to work and he works very hard to provide for our family and he wouldn’t have it any other way! I’ve been married for 15 years! Love you and your channel!😘
Love the family picture at the beach. Super dope! If you do picture lights think about the ones you have in your room. Maybe install them vertically using just two. Hard to explain.
Thanks for sharing your family time at the beach that was so beautiful. You looked amazing in your swim suit and I love the color. I also think the pictures look beautiful just the way they are but it’s your home and it’s up to you. Blessings to you and your husband he is providing for his family and you are his help mate and it’s a team effort. To whom much is given much is required and things will balance out eventually. I love watching your videos. Thanks for sharing 🌹
Awww... Amayi I felt you on this. I totaly understood what you mean by the single mom/ single wife thing. Nothings wrong with expressing your feelings. I love how real you are on here people need that! Very inspirational and motivational. We love you and we got you ❤️
I think 3 small picture lights would be cute, or sconces on either side of the art pieces, but I wouldn't do hard-wired or expensive ones in case u don't like it long term. At night it would be beautiful.
Babbyyyy.....I needed to hear this message this morning! I'm going thru a phase right now n my life where my motivation is falling and I know that my faith is wavering.....I need to get back into my word ! Each of ur motivational messages touch my heart and I've been sharing them with my friends as well. Thank you ❤️❤️
Under no circumstances do you owe us an explanation on how you feel. I feel what you're saying about being a single parent but married. You're telling your truth and yes doing content and everyday life is a lot.Keep doing you and ty for sharing.
Hey Amayi, let me start by saying you have a beautiful family and home! Thanks for sharing your story. I personally know plenty of spouses (men and women) who share your feeling in their relationships. I can definitely relate to your perspective. My husband and I were a dual military couple and one of us was always deployed or preparing for deployment. We both missed out on family events and It's not easy but it takes a strong foundation to make it work. There is light at the end of the tunnel and things will begin to get easier as you may already know. It's great that you are able to communicate to him how you feel. Trust me, he knows and feels what he misses out on with you and the kids and I am sure he can appreciation you being the foundation for your family and home! Your strength is evident through your videos. Again, thanks for opening up to us. Hopefully, it gives you some relief to know you are not alone. Good luck on your journey!
Ooo-la-la @ your beach fit 🔥, tell mums her fit was lovely as well, go mums. Yes @ pic lights over mud room art work 👌🏾 Penny Penny too cute in your new sling, yuh GT
Hi Amayi, Facts, you just spoke About my whole life, theirs a lot Of mother's that share your inner Feeling's and theirs nothing wrong With crying it out, it's look releasing The pressure cooker, beautiful family Day at the beach 🏖️🤸🤗 Thank you for sharing family You are appreciated by me Brings back memories of A young lady with children Wholden it down for the family You love, and then they leave the Nest and fly, that's another empty Nest feeling, you'll really need to Keep it busy and 🙌 up .
Yes....there are tons of women who are single parents and married... you not alone and people don't always get it 💯 you good luv....God gives you all you need when it's your TIME
Preach Amayi! “My personality is what keeps people here”, you are so right! RU-vid and instagram is full of people flaunting, and faking so I agree you are definitely one of the realest on here, and its rare to find without finding someone who is whiny about it (no offense to others, just my opinion). You been giving that real from day 1, your beautiful home definitely brought me here, but your personality, energy and spirit keep me here, you are like one of the girls! I also love the babies and their different personalities. You can tell your husband be tired and trying to unwind but he still tries to show up. You are on your way to 100k, I can’t wait, and I’m glad Im here from the beginning to see you prosper and grow! I don’t think picture lights are needed, I think you have it perfect right now.
This channel will do really well Amayi. You have a way of expressing yourself that resonates with a lot of women. I’ve only watched you a short while and I could detect the sadness at times and I didn’t understand why until now. You have such a sweet genuine spirit about you please don’t ever let anyone steal that from you. Keep sharing your journey with the world because you never know who is listening❤️
Hey! I have been subscribed for a short time. I have been binge watching your videos lol. Our style is so similar! Love it and it has me excited to start decorating our new home. The chit chat portion of this video 🙌🏾🫶🏾. I’m a wife and SAHM trying to get back out into working and balancing everything else. You also just motivated me to keep going with my RU-vid channel. I started it a few years ago and then I stopped because life was overwhelming. But now I’m about to start back! So thank you ❤
Hey sis and welcome to the A.P.Gang Community.. so happy have be apart of our lil family 🤗🤗🤗🤗 thank you for all your support!!!! And yes sis keep going with your RU-vid. There will definitely be challenging times but push through them 💕💕💕💕
💜💜💜 thank you for including us on the last beach day… I didn’t get a chance to go to the beaches this year.. so it was nice seeing it through your vlogs 💜💜💜
I found your channel through the house to home 🏡 updates because we were going through the same process but I definitely subscribed for you and stayed because of you! I love the community you’ve created and your energy and personality resonates with me . Thank you for being real and sharing your life with us and encouraging us and bringing us along your journey! I know it cannot be easy and I see and appreciate you for it!
My husband is in law enforcement and I felt EVERY SINGLE thing you said! People will always judge but will never know what you went thru to be where you are today. I’ve learned to distance myself from negative miserable people and only stick to people that support me and understand my struggles. ❤️
Love your channel Amayi...and I would like to say to people that's concerned about being motivated...you have to have Discipline, Remember guys Discipline\ outweighs Motivation. You can lose motivation but if you have discipline you'll be fine.
Amayi, I can relate to you 100%. My husband works 12 hrs graveyard and I do feel like a single mom. I appreciate him for sure but it is tough to say the least. I love your channel because you keep it real. You are a friend in my head. Lol. Wishing you nothing but the best and continued success.
Hey babes your feeling are your feelings and no one can tell you how you are “supposed” to feel. I think you do a great job as a wife, mom, daughter etc. Keep pushing forward and thank you for being so vulnerable with us. 🥰🥰🥰❤️
Sis, I understand your pain. The rolls was reversed and I was working the long hours. I had a 3 month old at home and I was nursing. The job called for 3 staff meeting a week. I had to quit salary, commission and bonuses. My family needed. You recognize the issue and y'all work to deal with it. That alone is a blessing. Stay as strong as you are.
I truly understand what your saying i always say I’m a single wife, my husband travels for work. I haven’t seen my husband since July 25th, yes the money is great but i really could use the help and a break to myself. We’re in a state alone so the last few weeks it’s just been me and our boys(7,9) all day long together and i am burnt out lol. Hopefully my husband will make it home this weekend so i can get a little break 🙏🏾
Girl I feel you. I’m still working on being okay. My husband is in politics and it takes him away from the family a lot. You saying this makes me feel seen so thank you.
Late post. I appreciate you being honest about your relationship and yes, I totally understand where you're coming from. I have been there before having an ex husband who was in the military and had 3 tours where I did everything my self with my kids. From going to family gatherings, grand children being born , doing yard work myself, grocery shopping, etc. But I never once under appreciated my ex husband for sacrificing all to provide for his family. Things turned out differently for us due to him getting PTSD and we got divorced. We all have sacrifices to make. Some people more than others but I can totally relate to you situation. I'm happily re-married again and don't have that situation anymore but I really want to commend you for be open and being strong for your family. You work and do it all and I want to do the same more for myself too! Thank you ! For the motivation you give women and for sharing your life with us and give us advise .
Hello Amayi I do like the picture light idea however I also agree with you that it may be too much but you really won’t know until you hold one up there and look back to see.
Girl!!!! I felt every single word you said, I too have my kids all the time because my husband works so much. It definitely affects your mental state. I’m so glad you are being transparent and speaking your truth. I feel you sis 💯
Well Spoken!~ Your Family Gathering Was So Beautiful!~ AMEN, AMEN & AMEN To EVERYTHING YOU EXPRESSED!~💞💞~DO YOU, BE YOU, LOVE YOU~🙏🏽🙏🏽 Yes; Picture Lights Above Artwork. *Once again, Beautiful Home & Thanks For Sharing~
@@amayi_pernecia ~I Can Relate To Your Truth (Story). *41 Years ago I Enlisted In The Military. A Year Later I Had My Son. 3 Years Later His Father Enlisted, Leaving Us For 7 Years Off & On; Tour After Tour To Fight In The Wars (Saudi Arabia War)! *I Felt Like A Single Parent As Well (In Reality I Was), With Emotions Everywhere; As Tomorrow Isn't Promised To Anyone~💓~We Were Very Well Taken Care Of; But As You Stated So Eloquently; "MONEY ISN'T EVERYTHING", Parenting & A Piece Of Mind Is~🙏🏾. *It's What You Do Mentally, Physically, & Spiritually To Keep Yourself Together As A Mother, Woman & Queen~💕🙏🏾💕~ There Are So Many Like Us; But Society Has A Lot Of Women Not Able To Relate~ If You Ever Feel Down & Out ; A Good Book To Read Is *Queenology* By Pastor R.C. Blakes~ *Keep Your Head Up Queen; God Bless~💞💞🙏🏾 #Queen #Mother #Grandmother #Nurse #Veteran
Amayi, I can relate to your chat. We are all human and we go through different stages in life. Honey I am not going to knock you I really respect you for sharing that with us. I really love Pennys travel bag it is so cute. And yes the picture lights would be fabulous. Thanks for sharing
Amayi, I can definitely relate to you. I'm a married single parent. You, I, and all the others feeling this way has NOTHING to do for the LOVE we have for our hubands. People tend to look at the material things and want to be prejudice (to prejudge) to the reality of the situation. It's okay to cry and live in your reality. I'm sure you have touched and helped sooo many women who feel or have felt the same way. Marriage has a lot of demographics and what is poured into a marriage is what is put out. Yes, being "taken care of" is good, however, it doesn't replace the reality. Keep living sis and keep motivating.
Hey love it's been a minute. Let me just say the home is looking beautiful, kids getting big everything seems to be flowing as it should. Definitely nice chat I've been off social media for about 5months now ....just needed the break have so much going on in life and sometimes we just need to rest and get focus again. Your family day out looked so fun..nice vibe. I've binged a good amount of vids today. This the only one I've commented on but wanted to let you know I'm still here and love everything you have going on💕
The swimsuit is nice your daughter said Kermit 😂 Beautiful beach day. Sis the fact you have to do everything and more what your expressing isn’t hard to understand ppl be weird what’s not to get. Continue pushing your impacting and motivating a lot of us❤️🤗
Sis stand in ur truth!!You are growing and learning ur house is beautiful ur family is beautiful speak whatever is on ur mind!!!!may God bless u and ur family🌷❤️🌸
I love your sincerity and your openness! I love your videos! Peace and Continued Blessings to you My Sister! New Subscriber! You, your Home and Family are Beautiful.
Hi Amayi!! Thanks for taking us along with you guys to the beach 🏖 You have a big lovely family it’s so important to make time for family love it..love you guys stay blessed 🙏🏽PS. I’ve gotta say this to you never feel guilty or apologize for what you have accomplished in life you deserve the best and as long as you and your husband have unconditional love for each other and a good understanding to why he’s not at home a lot because of his job so bid you don’t owe anyone an explanation except yourself and your husband.
Girrrrrrl my husband is a factory worker he works nights and sleeps in the day.( married 24 years) I attended every school activity by myself It was hard but I know that he was making a living for our best selves.( we have a very good life thanks to him) I have always have felt lonely and guilty about feeling lonely. Man did I need to hear someone say this years ago. Thank you for being so honest.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Yes I’m early 😌 Amayi so happy yall had a great time that’s me in the water as well scared always setting boundaries for how far I go my daughters always laugh at me 😂😂😂so beautiful to see family doing this it’s not a lot of that nowadays … #REAL AND AUTHENTIC 💜real life things 🙏🏽🙏🏽💜💜💜
Thanks for sharing! I feel the same way. I have to take my daughter to all her cheer events plus I have to be at work at 4:30 in the morning. Seems like I'm always exhausted! I would leave the pictures in the mudroom how it is without the picture lights, I think it might be too busy but I'm sure what you choose will work for your home. OMG, Penny's carrier is so stinking cute!!
Thanks for your resilience. It’s unfortunate some choose to not understand that made it even necessary to elaborate. In all honesty I believe they get it but somehow assume those that share a particular content for the most part (home decor etc) don’t still deal with real life normalcy aside for the content. On a positive many appreciated and understood.. OAN:: my 2 cents on hall lighting over the pics - no.. lol seems team too much for the size or area in particular. However none of your choices have proven to be a bad idea so if you decide based on how it feel in person I’m sure you will love it most importantly and we will find it 👌🏾 Have a great rest of the week. Thanks for videos we look forward to. Beautiful home included! Oh family beach day was awesome 🌊🌊🌊
Thanks for the energy and love that you give in your vlogs. I jumped on as soon as I saw your name. All of your children are so beautiful. Tell Samiya not to hide that cute face.
Another great blog sis. It’s the chats for me… glad yo see your doing what you have set out to do. Love it. Yes the lights will give it a nice ambiance for the night time. Xoxoxo proud of you and your consistency. Thanks for the tips/motivation. Sis be ready to give up!!
Love your transparency and thoughts you shared on feeling like a single mom. I can relate and have felt that way at some point in my marriage so I get it. This is my first time watching your channel so I’ll definitely be tuned in. I’m not sure if it’s your style but maybe skip the picture lights and add a wall sconce on each side of the middle picture. Just a thought. I’m sure whatever you decide it will be beautiful.
I like the carrier for penny I had one and I returned it because my daughter said I looked crazy with it but I liked that one that you got it super cute ♥️🥰
I pray your channel gets y’all to a place where both of you are home and y’all can have that time back🤍 Also, I’d say skip the picture lights. But if you like the look go for it sis!
