So interesting. I watched a Masterclass last night with Anna Wintour (The most influential woman in the fashion world), and her advice for success: "Act like no-one will ever tell you 'No'", and "Make decisions without hesitating". Now I know why! Thanks Chase!
@@traveljunkie1324 Totally! Don't know if you've seen or read 'Devil Wears Prada" but she's a total drill sergeant in that (Meryl Streep's character). In her Masterclass she tries to soften it which made me smile. Either way, a coincidence to see this video, literally the day after, explaining why these techniques work. She calls it a 'leadership style' but it's clearly about confidence... but hence why confidence breeds success and vice versa!
@@rosebyanyothername6710 yes, I love that film! I’ve already read a ton of book and ‘collected’ a ton of knowledge over the years. However, the bit I struggle with (as a female project manager, working in a very male dominated industry) is remembering to put any of it into practice at the point I need to in real life situations- like most people, my natural instinct and deeply ingrained automatic response unconsciously kick in like most people and I don’t think to use my knowledge -so I want to learn how to put Chase’s tips into practice.
I used to be confident especially in my job. I could feel the power of it when I gave presentations. All eyes were on me listening to every word I said. Then I lost myself when my husband passed away. I haven't got back to the place I was but this video makes me believe I could if I really try. I don't think I will be the person I was but i'm sure I could be better than I am now. Thanks Chase I love these videos I have been an avid fan of the Behaviour Panel for a while.
I used to be very happy with my confidence level. It kind of was 'born' when my children were born. My precious son died, and I never came back either. 💔
You could be the same or better. I believe you can. Sorry about your husband but I am sure nothing would make him happier then to see you the old you. The same person he always loved. Go make him happy. I believe you can. My belief is that everything is mind. Master your mind…master your life. I myself have A LOT 😂 to work on but I have belief I will win one way or another.
Personally I started becoming more confident when I started thinking about each interaction with others as something super tiny in the scheme of my whole life. From there, things became much easier.
I love these tips Chase. They explain how I was able to get a 6-figure position at a tech company with no college degree-in fact with only a few college credits. I’d learned my field, and KNEW I knew based on experience, so just ignored the whole question of a degree. It may also explain why-when someone stole my friend’s purse while we were out one night-I hiked up my skirt and chased after him. It was a subconscious reaction. However, my confidence shrivels when I get depressed. It’s the bane of my existence.
So, we’re all playing our parts in this game called life. Some of us get their roles handed to them, others pick and choose precisely who and what they want to portray. Absolutely awesome, thank you Mr. Hughes
Mastering these skills within your family is a good place to start. Raising three sons, I taught them to take charge early. Nobody will give you permission, you need to take it and prove yourself. Make your own decisions and deal with the consequences. Nobody gets ahead alone, so be kind. These things build trust and trust is essential.
From a dance world perspective Chase's idea can be tested and ok I can save you the time--it is the perfect advice to give shy people i am encouraging to dance but who are afraid of being stared at/lack confidence in a public setting. Dance is a contagion Once a confident dancer kicks off on an empty dance floor they are soon joined by others... I can attest first hand
Surely this is back to front. People that succeed gain confidence, they have a history of success and therefore continue to expect it. There may be a positive feedback loop but it is wrong to suggest that just appearing confident will lead to success. It doesn't matter how confident Leo was in the film, if he had tried to actually fly the plane then it would of been a much shorter film. In contrast a pilot would have gained confidence to fly the plane due to training and a proven history of successfully flying planes. Success will build confidence however unwarranted confidence will ultimately lead to failure.
Can someone be supper confided in one environment but not so in other? Like be an alfa at work but be timid at home around family 🤔? And greetings from Poland 🇵🇱🇵🇱
You get better care as a patient and as an advocate. It’s really easy to get steam rolled by the medical field. If you enter that office knowing about your condition, and knowing what you need, you will get listened to. I’ve had to learn this the hard way.
I don't know if I always have confidence, but I have moxie. I'm scared as hell most of the time, but for some reason I push through it. I definitely don't assume permission. I usually assume that I don't have it, only it was not anyone's place to give it. I believe in God and that is where I believe my authority comes from. I don't really have a lot of self-confidence, but I have a lot of confidence in my Higher Power and know that it moves through me. That's why I can be bold. I respect authority within appropriate boundaries but aside from God, I am my own sovereign. I don't know if I have confidence in the way that is described here. Its more like audacity, I think.
Giving permission to another. I love that. In my work I have a tool to assist the individual to 'hold' the other as 'able', or holding oneself 'able 'to be true to themselves. It is a step towards disengaging from co-dependency. Permission is a great word though as it is an 'invitation to be confident....the next step out of co-dependency LOL
This explains a lot. My brothers are confident idiots that have always had more luck and success with people and therefore business than I do always questioning and second guessing myself.
This is great info. Really practical and useful. Looking forward to the Phrase Seven tv series (if that's what it'll be called). I plan to brag that I knew your work beforehand! (What UP Behavior Panel). If you care about body language this guy's brilliant.
I haven't listened to this entire video yet, so I may be premature in giving my opinion. Throughout my working life, I have observed many successful people who are not particularly smart. However, because of their confidence others often assume they are smart and reward them with promotions, bonuses, and perks.
I love these videos Chase, thank you so much. I watch them with my teenage son who has anxiety issues. I had terrible anxiety as a child myself, until I worked out basically, what you just explained in this video. Then I faked confidence until it became real, to this day I am still amazed at what you can do if you just act confident. I am looking forward to watching this with my son, as it reinforces so much of what I discuss with him. Thank you for your amazing work, I will be sharing it with everyone I know as usual! Happy holidays mate.
Hey Chase, I'm a bit late to the party but would love to download the worksheet. Getting a 404 error. Any way I can still get the worksheet? BTW: Love the Behavior Panel and look forward to digging into your other videos. Thanks!
In my experience those with the most confidence had the least ability and those with the most ability were low key..In nature you have camouflage not the real thing.Confidence is a cover-up in many cases
I have no problem with confidence. I know that I can do anything I put my mind to even if I have to do it a couple times before getting it right. But that's okay
What if it’s not that you aren’t confident but rather, you aren’t a douche bag? Like, even when I know I have the authority and/or permission, I’m not a piece of shit when interacting or socializing or going through the motions within any situation that would require some kind of communication of confidence?
I wish I knew this in my 20s. But I absolutely disagree with your use of the word "Unfair" here. Nothing unfair about having confidence, just when it's use as a "con".
Doesn't the con in conman Stand for convict and not confidence. If someone is an ex-con, they're not exconfident. Complete guess, big chance i'm wrong. No hate, all love Brother.
Your claim that "confidence" is an unfair advantage" is an over generalization because it appears to be based on the false assumption that people with confidence don't actually have a justified reason for being confident. Yet we know thats not true because many people have skills, abilities, talents and characteristics that allow them to stand out because they perform at a significantly higher level then the average person in their field. We see this with the best athletes, performance artists, doctors, scientists etc. and thats based on tangible measures of performance. Naturally when someone has proven record of achievement they will be more confident. Which is why Barbara Streisand would be much more confident singing in front of a large audience than me. But since I'm a pilot I suspect I'd be much more confident flying an airplane than Barbara. But what gives Streisand an advantage over me in singing is not confidence but rather that she is blessed with a beautiful singing voice and I wasn't. So typically confidence is a byproduct of being competent at something not a cause.
Why is it that your links are never any good? The links in the 6 Minute x-ray book are no good (I eventually found all of the items promised at various places, but not your website!) and every video of yours I've watched on RU-vid has a bad link! Your material is always good but you keep promising something extra and it is NEVER available, even on recent videos. Maybe just shorten your videos and don't promise anything! Either that or I should stick to watching cooking videos. They promise a recipe and always deliver.
On the good side you (Chase Hughes) give a tiny bit of lip-service to deeper human history, to the part of human history that was before the "modern era" (which is everything since the advent of agriculture, just a mere 12,000 years at this point). That's a start toward understanding. But failing to see that once our human evolution reached the point where we were becoming fully and successfully societal every evolved human characteristic/facility was evolved to aid SOCIETY, not about aiding the individual. This discussion about confidence and your list of elements of confidence is completely backwards. What you're describing are the effects/consequences of being born with CHARISMA. If you have charisma you have it from birth, so by the time you reach adulthood you have become acclimated to the effect it has on the people around you. If you were trying to create a species that is fully societal you would have to create a personality characteristic that would aid/induce group action, group cohesion, something that would cause self-interested individuals to be willing to do things together as a group, to do things that might not immediately benefit the individuals. TO CREATE A FULLY SOCIETAL SPECIES YOU WOULD ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO INVENT CHARISMA.
Saw this and it immediately caught my eye! I am slowly being ok with telling people I’m happier NOW than before covid and this whole fabulous year! LOL I felt sorry for myself and got tired of that! So I worked very hard and have so much more to go, but this pushed me to do better! Every single day I’m more and more excited because I pushed myself into new ways of doing things. I was forced to learn new skills because I had needs more longer met by others. So I’m learning everything from fixing a toilet, cutting hair, and decided to try creating a silly channel. Fear kept me stuck! But as I age I find myself BEING ok with being corny and different! I don’t do it foe others when it comes down to it. But when I’m happier with myself, it’s a ripple effect! I can be a better wife, mother, sister or friend! Sorry this is so long. I am just excited to finally just be me!! Not asking anyone’s permission! I made a fool of myself and my channel reminds me of Stuart Smalley from SNL but... 🤪🤣 It’s liberating even if others may see me as unstable! I’m far from perfect but that’s not my goal! To be better than yesterday is fine by me! LOL Have a fabulous Thanksgiving and thanks for putting up with long novel comments. 🤷🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🦃😁🙏🏻👍🏻🤗
The surest way to feel good is to constantly produce more than you consume. That's how you get ahead in life and if you do that over time, it will make you feel better and better. The best way to produce (money) more than you consume is to start business. Or, you can do what most people do and get a job but jobs can get old within a year or two. The politics of working in a company is a soul killer. Or, you can do what most females do and find a man that makes lot's of money and hangout with him, but that can get old too. If you love freedom and not having to kiss someone's ass to keep the money flowing your direction, then having your own business is the ticket.
As a younger kid with little confidence, I spent a lot of time observing popular confident people. I was particularly listening to what they had to say, as other people always seem to agree or find it interesting, but I soon realised there was nothing in their speech that was particularly interesting or clever. It was the way they delivered, acted, held themselves. So I did copy it and in very little time, I became popular. However, it was not enjoyable, as I realised it was just a kind of trick that people would fall to. But I learned to listen to what people really say, rather than being influenced by how they behave.
Incredibly interesting and insightful Chase😊. Thank you and looking forward to seeing more content on your channel!! Also appreciating the behaviour channel 😊
Coming at good time for me. Question though>what goes wrong for the people that you can see their confidence is fake? They think they know/have it all but you can see thru it and just see b.s. is it a mismatchbetween words and behavior? Or are they missing one of the key steps?
I think that those types think that they are all that because they have a hard time being honest with themselves (and can't face the fact that they haven't become the person they dream up all the time) and though they might fool some people, most will pick up on their facade fairly quickly..
Hallo Chase. You have the ability to explain concepts in a very practical and logical way. Often using " trance" principles as well. Seems like you are a saying : giving yourself internal permission for any positive change is the most important part.
Sometimes I want to say so much after listening to you but come back to saying Thank You! I’ve been sharing with my friends what I’ve been learning from Behavior Panel and now your talks. 75 and I’m still learning so much! Thank you!
Thank you Chase. I'm watching from Reading UK this will definitely help me to get my Pilates Studio clients back on track. Many of them like myself have lost confidence in lockdown.
Hey Chase! I have been following u for a while, your Manual 14 , blogs, behavior panel etc. U have suggested The definitive guide to body language for body language, just completed your Eric Huntley interviews with behavior panel, any book u would like to suggest for hypnosis too. IDK if you will ever see this, but Thank you for everything!
You know what is so great about true confidence? It's very attractive and doesnt play into anything like jealousy or arrogance. It's good in it's own right and that shows without having to say anything to prove itself.
👏👏👏. This. I've always seen TRUE confidence as having nothing to prove. It's a quiet self assurance ( which IS super attractive) rather than cockiness or bravado (which to me always looks like an overcompensation for insecurities the person doesn't want to admit/ confront).
Agreed. I always think of this as someone who is comfortable in their own skin. Albeit, that has not always served me well romantically. You can be very confident, very comfortable in your own skin and give no hoots about anyone else. I think discernment is key.
I'll give you my opinion. LOTS! I wore one uniform and felt so good about myself and my abilities which seemed to bloom as fast as weeds. In another position we wore t-shirts, and the 'hire-ups' just called us "the shirts". Doesn't exactly boost any level. That was a good place to get away from.
@@ldolan4051 It is good to know that you feel empowered by wearing a uniform. I wondered, if attitude was just as important and not because of the uniform.
@@kferguson614 Herold, K, Attitude is definitely the important part. I was happy, had a great support system, and encouragement in the first. I had none of the above and way kiworse in the latter. That was truly influential as well.
I struggle with the fear that my confidence is perceived as arrogance. I don’t have proof that people see me as arrogant, it’s just an insecurity I have. Can you recommend a course or book which talks about confidence in the workplace? Or more specifically, how to exude confidence and be influential without putting people off? (Maybe these insecurities mean I’m not so confident after all LOL)
Loved this! I listened to it twice and learned a lot. I know someone that lives his life this way. He definitely has assumed permission but it's usually not in a productive way.. He influences others and it's interesting to watch. He also assumes authority. I know the people he influences are not stupid people ( they are immature) which is why it's so interesting to watch. It will be interesting to see how life turns out for him as well as the ones that will do and say just about anything he tells them to.
Ooooo you are using a rattle hiss 🐍 sound to get our attention on your graphics. That really says Wake the F 🆙 LOL 😂! If I don’t pay attention I’m going to get bit . If you’ve ever listened to Bob Proctor , one of my mentors he uses increased volume to get and retrieve attention back to him. It feels like you are in trouble with the teacher but he emphasizes neutral words like And which is in itself a hypnotic attention grabber. Live this stuff 😀👌🔑
what's the difference between being confident and bossy? I personally would love to be more confident considering I am more of a meek person and yet when I see people who are bossy and insensitive it pushes me away from wanting to be that! would love to hear your take on this Chase!
I had my 14 year old neice listen to your words if wisdom here. These shorter videos are great for teens. Thanks and thanks for your work on TBP videos. Love them! 👍🏼💙
Thank you Chase for another excellent video. Only watching with what confidence you speak gives me confidence 😃 I am working on my confidence and that mainly to pass my confidence on to my children. I feel that if my boys have confidence then they will have a very smooth happy life. Thank you for all your great videos, books and BTE :) 😊
Really interesting to see this video. And its made me wonder how can we efficiently teach to our children to have better confidence. If it is difficult to learn it to myself imagine how difficult it could be to teach it to someone else.
My confidence is in Christ Jesus, and by His Holy Spirit He makes me bold as a lion, total opposite kingdom of satan's world , which is (CON MAN) confidence in self....or self righteous....WEARING CHRIST'S RIGHTEOUSNESS WINS ...
