where the heck are all the videos though??!?? I NEED THEM IN MY LIFE!!!! what is happening to this channel??!!! please Rick!!!! bring them back!!!!! pleaaaaaaasssseee
Fantastic advice! My biggest problem has always been my keys, so after 30yrs of being late to pick up the kids or get to work or whatever I finally bought myself a giant lobster clasp & I *TRY* really really really hard to remember to clip my keys to the strap on my handbag & when I remember to actually do it I feel like I’ve achieved greatness!! Unfortunately tho, having put the clasp on my keys doesn’t actually mean I ALWAYS remember to clip them onto my bag.. it’s kinda like writing out your shopping list but either forgetting it or losing it or both & coming home with a car full of groceries, all your money is gone only to realise once you get home that you spent all your money on everything but the 4 items that were so essential you went to all the trouble to write a list for…
Tip: purchase multiple refills at once, otherwise you may forget to EVER purchase the refill, rendering the label maker useless. I *might* be speaking from experience. ...adds label tape to shopping list...again. 🤣
@@thatclothgirl yeah. Ran out of labels this past weekend. It's on the grocery shopping list. Hopefully my husband (who does most of the shopping) gets the right type.
Hi Rick, Thanks for the motivational tips; Losing ‘stuff’ is the bane of my life!! which, sometimes when I’m trying to get into the car and leave the house, can drive me ‘almost’ (very nearly) to implosion. A few useful tips like this can really change a persons world. Sorry a can’t afford to become a patron (i live in the UK lol , enough said!) but please dont stop sharing . Loads of love, and gratitude xx
Hi Rick. You’re a treasure and I thank you. I was just released from an voluntary psychiatric stay at a major hospital on NYC. My mom, sis, nephew have been treated for ADHD. I slipped by, made a modestly successful career as an actor until it came crashing down. I brought my family history, thorough evidence of executive difficulties throughout life. My family history never made it into my chart, they stopped my current meds for anxiety (maybe good), adamantly diagnosed me with bipolar II (eh, maybe, definitely anxiety disorder), and gave me the ultimatum of taking an anti-psychotic or they’d send me packing. I packed and now my team is on the case to find better informed experts to see the whole picture. I’m still suffering, I’ve built lifelong strategies to cope, never abused or used stimulant medication. But I still have hope. Thank you, Rick. I’m sending you my love and gratitude through frustrated tears.
My family members found relief with stimulant medication but still lack the support systems and coping mechanisms and substance abuse and comorbidities are rampant and often I effectively addressed. We’re all learning more now thanks to my struggles and it’s bringing a once severed family back together to support each other. Blessings, Rick.
Hi Rick! I got a swift, double-verified second opinion of my diagnose. The initial diagnosis was found to be inaccurate according to these patient clinicians. Now diagnosed with ADHD combined type. I was prescribed my first dose of stimulant medication ever. I shared your trepidation but took the dose. I looked into my fiancé’s dazzling eyes, and we wept. We have a long road of putting in some real structure and modifications together. But I got my glasses today. I can see better. I really can. You will remain dear in my heart for the entire rest of my life and front row seats to any show I’m ever in when I return to the NYC stage. Blessings, Rick.
@@Dancestar1981 My fiancé and I are going through the house and I’m creating discrete labels for inside of drawers/cupboards/general closet inventory. I’ll try to remember to let you know how it goes, and if it doesn’t annoy my Nuero-type fiancée and step-son.:)
I have places for most everything. The problem is, I get distracted and don't often put it in it's place. I drop it wherever it's convenient. Baby steps lol
@@HareKrishnaPerth omg. same. sometimes. if i dont make an thought and look at where i put things. it wont register in my mind and soon after i can be "where the h... did i put that? its no longer i my hands!"
Same! I am about to take it one step further in my new place and organize everything so that I can throw things back in it's place as convenient and fast as possible. No drawers in closets and cupboards I use often, just lots of small shelves, for example. Because open closet AND then a drawer? "Naah that t-shirt will be fine in the pile of all my clothes that accumulated on the most accessible shelf"
Place for everything that makes sense to me. Great advice better than,"put in the same place everytime." "Uh huh" right...a good example my purse, the one that has multiple pockets. Perfect right a place.for everything. NOPE because when I go to look for my valet ticket in my purse I forgot the perfect place from the day before and when I find it inevitably I will find another perfect place. The perfect place I will find first try everything, perfect place. Ha ha Living with other people. I FUCKING LOVE labels. Craft room, draws labled: Sharp things Sticky things Paper things
Hooray for labels! If I can't see something, I don't know where it is, so all my drawers and cupboards get labelled. And... Thank goodness for the labels on the spines of books, so they can be stored end-on on shelves 😀
Placing a stylish, framed mirror with two large hooks on it, _where I could hang my keys as soon as I walked in the door_ , has literally changed my life for the better. :) I think Rick's on to something, with whatever holds your "important items" needing to be appealing to the eye, to work for us, knowing how many of us are attracted to (or distracted by) novelty. That way, it becomes a special place to put our things.
I love the ashtray for emptying pockets as soon as you come home-idea! I just really dislike locking my front door... So I hope I can make up a spin off that keeps my valuables reasonably safe! It makes sense that you have experience in keeping attention, because I managed to watch a fricn 11 minute video, one thats not a part of hyper focus research, without jumping out of my own skin
When someone tells you dont need ADHD meds. Tell them this.... It dont take skills to start a car. A 5 year old can learn that. But driving the car after its started yes. Thats takes skill. But if meds or lack of cant start your car? Whats the use of learning to drive? A car that dont run dont need insurance either! Duh!
Rick - I watched a whole heap of videos of yours a few weeks ago. And I’ve come back to your channel and they’re not here ! Loads of ones about symptoms of ADHD. They were the original ones I watched which made me so happy because I felt such relief. Do you have another channel? Or ANYONE know?
Oh brother. I just spent five minutes hunting for my glasses so I could write this stupid comment about loosing my keys inside the car after opening it. Happens to me all the time. .....and I still haven’t found my glasses.....grrrrr. Edit: Good news....just found em....two days later under the bed. Bad news....lost my favorite pair this morning....grrrr!
Ill paste what I found one of the same kind of question: Unfortunately at this time the videos are not available anywhere. Rick no longer has any association with TotallyADD, all content on that site is managed by Dr. Umesh Jain (the videos were shared on TotallyADD's site + RU-vid). David - Customer Support I just dont know wth is that Dr,but I Think all the work was Rick's, this is so sad
I just wanted you to know you helped me to recognize that something was wrong, and at the age of 52, after a month of seeing a psychologist, I was diagnosed with ADHD. Obviously I've had it my whole life and just "got by". They just started me on Adderall. On my first day, I took it in the morning and went out in the garage to work out. In an hour I came inside, very emotional, crying. My wife asked me what was wrong?.. What was it? It was quiet...Almost completely quiet. I'm talking more than audible sound waves. I'm talking about all that white noise constantly flittering around the edges of your attention, competing for your focus. They all got really really quiet...It's was scary quiet. For the first time in my life..
42 and was diagnosed last month .. I had the same exact experience ... it ... was ... quiet. Even my arms "felt quiet" and I didn't know how not quiet they felt before
@@greetonsmith6350 idk I don't think he would gain anything from this .. he's only gotten like 3 or 4k views on this video when he used to get a lot more. This would not benefit him in any way
I'm confused. I searched for adult ADHD and was recommended this channel. There are over 90K subscribers, but only 3 videos. There doesn't seem to be a 2nd channel. I can't explain the mismatch between number of videos, total views, and subscriber count. What am I missing?
@@greetonsmith6350 Thanks for the explanation - I accidentally discovered that the old videos were private but couldn't work out what happened or remember the name of the channel. I was worried something had happened to Rick! I'm glad he's ok, but sad about all those great videos he made being locked away.
Great tips, Rick. My husband and I both have ADHD so you can imagine what a Gong Show it is at our house on a daily basis. Frustrating! Now, if we can only organize our thoughts... speaking of cherry pies, I just made a peach and blueberry tart. Oh, man is that good! And I can tell you I know exactly where THAT is. Gee, if only everything needed refrigeration...It'd be a lot easier to find things. But then you'd have to have multiple refrigerators. And then you'd wonder which refrigerator did I leave my car keys in? Oh never mind.
@@RickHasADHD Okay. Are the videos from the previous youtube channel going to resurface somewhere else? Currently the website seems to have none of them since they were deleted off this channel.
@@greetonsmith6350 Aww that's a bummer! I just discovered this channel in the last few weeks. I really like the videos I've seen, and was looking forward to watching the rest. Thank you for the update.
@@greetonsmith6350 it's so odd, but why remove the videos? And why isn't there any post anywhere about it, besides the banner on the homepage that doesn't explain anything?
Hi Rick, I just sent you an email about something else a few seconds ago but one thing I have had a problem finding is ,Where is the Totally ADD SITE, ? So many links there are not working.
What happened to all the other videos on your channel?!?! I'm so sad! I struggle with searching for things... even moreso because of the Welbutrin I take. Ugh. It messes with my short term memory. It's a daily thing to search the whole house to find out where I set my phone down last. It's awful. I'll set it down to do something then I finish that task, walk away, realize I need my phone for something... let the search begin. Doesn't help that my phone is always on silent.
My dad has ADHD as well as I do, and he loses stuff as often but he drilled into me since I was a kid to keep stuff always in the same spot. That solves it, but hell breaks loose whenever someone non-adhd decides has had enough with the mess and orders everything. Then I cry.
Just when I start second guessing...here comes another unquestionable description of my ways..lol..I feel better about my challenges that vex me, since I really appreciate, respect, enjoy the "teacher" here, that I relate to so much. So accurate!
I can really recommend minimalism! I pushing it in my family for some years. My ADHD son loves to clean up his room, he needs just some minutes, even if he played with everything in his room and it is all over the floor. It is so easy to maintain, he just have 5 categories of toys. My ADHD husband also like our easy to maintain house and that the things have a place. But when he is going to the store, grab quick a few necessary items... Ya you know it, I have a bunch of things again in our house we don't really need :'D
I need pie. VERY TRUE My ADHD dad labels EVERYTHING. Even on the vehicle control panel so there’s no frustration on how to use the canopy light control rolly thingy.
What happened to your other channel. I was looking for your unofficial adhd test vid. Lost , cant be found? Its my go to party trick vid . For shits and giggles. Anyone that thinks they " might be adhd" i do the quiz with them and i got the paper and pens .. im the one diagnosed... lol My last score was over 400 . My mate , 28 ...and im like" go hard or go home .. lol your playing with the big kids now! Adhd ... pfft. Lol . And NO, you cant have one of my dexies" Where is it . It would come up to easy anytime i went looking for it. Bring it back please. Or re make it if it belongs to someone else now.
🔑 My dad said that he got tired of going through multiple pockets every time looking for his keys (pants pockets front and back plus jacket pockets plus coat pockets) so he decided to ALWAYS put them in his right front pants pocket so that they don’t get lost even if he takes off his jacket. Problem solved.
The one diagnosis criteria box that I didn't tick was 'do you often lose things?' and that's simply because my mum's neat and tidy mantra; "a place for everything and everything in its place" was drummed into me from a very young age. Keep things in the same place, where they always are, and you never have to look for them. However, do I forget to take things with me when I'm leaving the house, getting tools together for work, packing for a trip.... Oh yes, EVERY time. :(
I remember one time a month ago I lost my 10$ reward via a lottery ticket . I thought I was losing my min and since then it’s like I can’t win anything else on the lottery. Crazy.from now on I put all my tickets in my wallet or on my dresser.
I have special places where I keep a lot of the things that I use or need, but often, I fail to put them back where they belong. When I discover that something is missing and not where it's supposed to be, and I don't know where it is, I ask myself, "When and where did I have it last?" The answer is usually, "I had it LAST LAST NIGHT!" But I don't know where I had it last! Why? My mind was out there, when it needed to be HERE as I point to my hand. I feel that minimizing distractions and concentrating on the task at hand in everything I do is the key to avoid incidents of missplasure. As a general rule, I save music and TV for when I have time to sit down and relax, and don't have anything else to do. When I'm on my feet and going about things, I TURN MUSIC AND TV OFF! That's my effort to minimize distractions, and CONCENTRATE ON THE TASK AT HAND!!!!!!!!! I tell myself that the task at hand is as SERIOUS AS FLYING A COMMERCIAL AIRLINER!!! I need to keep my mind OFF OF AUTOPILOT, and in MANUAL FLIGHT! My conscious mind needs to do ALL OF THE WORK! My subconscious mind needs to TAKE A REST!!!!! When it's time to go about things, my subconscious mind is the thing I wish I could turn off along with music and TV. I wish I could switch off the subconscious mind like the autopilot in an aircraft. That would do two things for me! One, it would prevent my mind from producing distracting thoughts. Two, it would force my conscious mind to do ALL OF THE WORK!!!!!
Wonderful video, "where it always is"😂😂 This is exactly what I need. But where did your unofficial ADHD quiz go? I use to recommend it to people, but now I can't find it.
My problem is that I lose things when I’m out, like I leave my wallet or my charger somewhere outside of my home. Any advice for that? Others have recommended making a list every time I leave the house.
So what am I trying to do...leave things in the room belong. Nothing that plugs in on the bedroom it's for sleeping. Sleep is important. When because of course I will take things outta their place BUT when I am..done/bored and ready for something else I take whatever.im working on finished or not back to its place. Progress not perfection.
I always loose stuff while using it. For example when wrapping gifts, after I find all the stuff and use it for a moment, suddenly the scotch tape is missing and nowhere to be found. Have to look everywhere after some frustrating minutes it magically appears somewhere, where I placed it so I can easily find it again.
I've lost a vacuum cleaner, one of those black, shop vacs. Still looking for it & everyone swears they haven't seen it. #&%@§Ω!!! Rick, sorry to see you leave us. 😯
My organizational dilemma is utilizing space most efficiently vs. having things accessible and visible. Logical locations for things is easier to maintain in the long run.
I adore u! Ur so considerate of us/our thoughts, feelings, actions and obsessions! Every single video I watch of urs is me vigorously nodding my head along with whatever thought ur sharing at the time, lol! It doesn't matter if its logical, intellectual, off topic or "super squirrel" "brain fart/ senior moment or whatever,... I catch myself continually agreeing, lol-ing and (literally) saying out loud, "GET OUTTA MY HEAD RICK"!!! Its so uncanny that it's a little awkward and strange. However, this place.of awkward weirdness- appropriate or not- thts where I thrive, relax, enjoy myself... so, thanks so BIG!! I'm gonna warn u right now. If I ever.see u in person, im hugging u a squeezing ur cheeks, ao-k? Hahaha, yeah...I'm not going to do that (of course) unless a few different circumstances were to randomly , shift! I want get into it now. So, just know tht I appreciate u taking time to share ALL OF UR INFO/CONTENT with us! I am a lifer.😆😆 Recently diagnosed bcuz my 13 yr old just happened to ask the right question to her pediatrician. And, like any.good physician/#1mom would do,.... I butt in with my uber.experienced solution! Nobody asked for it- lucky them!!! I just volunteered it. So, in this scenario I did.not practice the Golden rule. Y? Lol! Bcuz a lot of times I hv.no restraint or boundaries. I know I'm just.spewing. but I do hv questions... Every time I start getting things donated or sold or trashed, I begin yet another organization attempt. And in tht process alone I notice tht perfectionism kicks.in and I then hv a BIGGER EFFING MESS but, even more disorganization happens bcuz I get distracted with the specific things or details of organizing 1 particular item or small area. Then I've completely forgotten the 1st thing I started,.along with my initial motivation. Thts another gross defect of.my adhd- 2 steps forward & organized and then sliding 4 back! Then the spiral of death. A really big reason I feel like I slip more than organize is due to my husband whom doesn't really take time to understand my way, adhd behavior and how he can be supportive. Tht truly causes my attention deficit to go into hypersensitive overdrive! Do u hv any videos or pointers on how to better get my partner to appreciate & respect AND, MOST IMPORTANTLY SUPPORT ME rather than shaming me & unnecessarily and unintentionally retraumatize me. Whew! I hop i kept ur attention and u understand what I'm saying . Thx again!
Isn't this method something most people do? I often feel like a "defective" ADHD-haver, because I don't often loose stuff, and then someone discusses this like it's a revelation, but I was raised doing this and kinda assumed that most people do this.
People who don’t have adhd don’t have to “have a place for everything” because they go “where’s my keys, oh I set them down over here” People with adhd thats undiagnosed, or who have parents who have it and never got treated for it usually grow up like this or learn it early, because they develop or are given coping mechanisms for their adhd symptoms. I have some awesome coping mechanisms. But I lose crap all the time. /:
HAHAHAHAHAHA NO. And that's the point. These methods seem so obvious to people who are naturally organized. But, just because you have ADHD, doesn't mean you're an automatic slob. I have a friend with ADHD and he's meticulously organized. I do think, tho, that many disorganized people have ADHD, diagnosed or not. And for those people, these methods are very helpful.
I've been trying to apply this for quite some time. The biggest problem is that what's a logical space today is not a logical space tomorrow. It's like my brain keeps resetting what feels right so it's always "suggesting" a new place to look. Labels makes a massive difference though in general, will try doing this as a temporary thing as well to see if that helps me remember the areas.
Rick, You Rock! Not officially, yet hinted at, according to the criteria, plus, taking a questionaire in counselling (for depression & anxiety)... looks like I have it too! Your vids more than others, especially helped me. At 60 yrs., I had the Mom listen to your Unoffical Test. She smiled, and nodded - it was nice, but not sure it made up for the shame that was laid upon me thru the years. Hey! This is a start, no matter if I feel it's overdue.... Thanks again!!! I Love your humor on the topic! That helps to no end!!!!!
When I saw the set of labels, my brain thought the first one on the top left-hand side said, "hitlers". What a weird thing to put in a draw. And not just one. Oh, "hiliters".
So I’m still a bit confused on how I locate the thing that I just had in my hand a few minutes ago. I get distracted, put the thing down without any real conscious memory of doing so...so finding it becomes a maddening challenge. I was hoping to learn how to switch on the required conscious memory so as to avoid the loss (and lost time). I do find myself often purposefully creating consciousness when I put something down...as long as I’m not distracted. I then repeat (ad nausea) the item’s location to firm it up in my brain (sometimes to the point it becomes an intrusive thought). Did I just answer my own question? I don’t know. I just know the frustration is daily, multiple times each day, and regulating the accompanying frustration is a massive challenge.
I now have Rules for myself. Finally I realised that some things, like car keys, have to go in the same place all the time because it makes life so much easier. So my "Rules" are completely internal (I live on my own, so that helps) and as soon as I walk through the front door the keys go back on their hook, which is actually the thing the safety chain is held in, but it's far more useful being my keys' special place. Whether I keep these Rules because I know how much anxiety and frustration *not* keeping them brings, and I'm terrified of that, or because I've now not lost my car keys (in a serious way) in more than, oh, about 15 years I suppose, and I've learned how lovely it is always to know exactly where my car keys are, I'm not sure. A bit of both, probably. These Rules have come entirely from within me: I have decided that x y z is the Rule, and I follow it because I want to. If I'm out, and the keys can't go in the door, then the next default place is my right hand coat pocket; if I'm not wearing a coat then I'm probably at my fella's house so the keys will be on the coffee table. They can be in only one of these three places, or, as the ultimate last resort, they'll be in my handbag, but they always fall to the bottom and are (deliberately, if you ask me, grrr!) difficult to get hold of, so I try not to put them there. This makes life so much easier and calmer and less adrenline-fuelled; it's been a long journey but now I have given certain things a place to be in and they are *always* put in that place. Woe betide my (adult) children if they don't put one of these designated items back in its designated place! So what I'm saying, is if You can come up with a few "Rules" that you need to implement, about specific situations or objects that currently cause you grief, and that seem eminently sensible to You, go ahead and start using them. Tweak things until the system works for you. It's very satisfying when it works, because you got something Right at long last, you're not wasting energy and time hunting for stuff, and you know exactly where to find x y z or car keys. You have the power of choice! I hope this helps; onwards and upwards! Katherine from Kent 💐
Lol! Shoe polish. I have real leather shoes that I have to actually take care of. So my shoe care kit is in a box under my sofa and I pull it out once a week to use it. Before I started doing that, my shoe care supplies were.... somewhere?
Are you sure we haven’t met? You described my life to a T. My most recent screw up was leaving my wallet on the porch railing overnight. I live in Cambridge…on a busy street. I now believe in angels because it was there in the morning.I got rid of a lot of stuff and that’s been most helpful. This video made a great start to Friday.
I know for a fact that if I didn't need to wear my glasses all day, I would be losing them all the time. My dad lost and/or destroyed several prescription pairs, and my mom keeps a dozen pairs of cheap reading glasses all over the place.
This is amazing! I want to just have a place for my phone. I spend an enormous amount of time trying to find it everyday 😑 Label EVERYTHING. Thanks Rick for making our lives a bit more bearable. Did you eat the cherry pie finally?
..so here I am watching, what may be a life saver for me, yes I have a chicken in the kitchen(not a real one!an egg storing one😂) that we all put our keys and bits in ….I have ten pairs of cheap glasses that can be anywhere and three phones that are mostly in a drawer but sometimes they escape..and I think to myself, this Video is really going to help me and then I end up reading the titles of all your books in the background! 😂 Thank you Rick (you are a life saver even if I have forgotten everything you said apart from the cherry pie which makes me want to make one, if only I could find that recipe 🤔
Having a get-home dumping spot for keys/wallet etc has been a life changer for me! I also really try and catch myself when my brain is just like "oh I'll just set this here for a second..."
So. The only item that defeats this system is my glasses. I take them off without being conscious of it. I am very, very near-sighted. Cannot drive without them, cannot watch TV without them, cannot see across the room or yard without them. But in order to see anything close than about three feet, I have to take them off. And--before you say it--bifocals suck. I'd rather live in a blurry world. I have "safe" places I put them. At the end of the day, I generally leave them on my desk at the base of my computer. It looks like the computer is wearing them and this helps for some weird reason. In the middle of the day, if I sit down to read in the living room--I put them on an end table where my cell phone and kindle live (Oddly, I rarely lose my phone or kindle). The rest of the day? Doing dishes, working in the garden, cleaning the bathroom... Your guess is as good as mine. I've left glasses hanging on tomato cages, stuck in the top of flower pots, dangling from the fence, resting on tree trunks... One pair went into the burn pile during fall clean up one year. The only good part of getting older and blinder is that I take them off less often. They need to make tiny sensors for glasses that you can track with your phone or by saying some obscure word or whistling a tune.
I’d suggest a cord to hang them around your neck, tuck them on your head like the cool kids do with sunglasses, or maybe get or make something you can add to your clothes a Velcro on loop or pocket so you can just tuck them in there. If they’re attached to you it’s kind of like the pen on a chain. Harder to get lost. 😂
I love what you do for our ADHD world Doctor Rick 😉! I’m a better person because of the amazing work YOU do and how you present it to the world 🌎 Thank you for every single second of your precious, valuable time and energy and all that it takes to continuously create SUCH AMAZING content. It’s truly magical medicine!
I actually made a thing that goes under my desk, hanging on the 'table' my computer is sitting on that has pockets for rechargeable devices. As I result I know where they are, but still forget to plug them in.
I love this!! I think this is why I get so upset when my people don't put things where I said they should go. I'm not very organized with paperwork, I lose school papers, prescriptions, etc. but I have very specific places for my hairbrush, my purse, my notebook that I need to function and be a mom. Thankyou!
I worked in manufacturing for a while and they're big on "5S". The bureaucrats take it too far and treat it like an opportunity to become police doling out punishments for not having a tape boarder around where your keyboard usually is. But it is, otherwise, an incredibly valuable way of thinking to use in every day life: Have a place that everything lives. My keys are either in my left trouser pocket, or on my bed side table. No other option. I would lose everything without a 5S mindset.
I find that works for me most of the time... till my 3 year old rearranges the house. One thing that has helped me massively is putting a little “orbit” on my glasses and a “tile” on my keys. I also have a cord on my keys so I don’t leave them in the front door.
