As a man who struggled with lust, once I found my faith I instantly turned away from my old ways on how I viewed sex. I told my gf that I cannot have sex anymore because she is too important to me. So we’re waiting till marriage. I’ve never felt more free and happy. Praise God.
Exactly the same. Me and my partner were together for 3 years living in sin as I tried different spiritual philosophies, ultimately. going nowhere. I was working too much, and getting irritable often. With a men's group, I started fasting to destroy some of my vices, and god came in. Similar to you, my girlfriend and I joined the catholic church and god, and we are waiting until marriage now. She is more radiant, I am happier and our relationship is so much deeper and richer living in alignment with God's will. Within two weeks, my priorities became clear, we are to build a family, so I will propose before Christmas. Praise god.
You’re so brilliant. Haven’t kissed a man in twenty years due to past relationships, not interested. That’s a beautiful analogy Jackie. Right on ...self control for my soul mate. You’re such a passionate soul and I’m truly grateful for your inspiration and courage and so much more. Thank you, Doll. Peace be with you and I’ll be praying for you and yours. Hugs. God Bless you and the entire @Ascension Presents Team. Super like (super)...califragilistic style or however you spell that super dipper of a word...Thank you, kindly. Lots of love and prayers for you all.
I have a weird reality where I sometimes listen both to catholics and to non-christian sex educators. I was confused, why do ones say that society encourages us to have sex at the first date, while others say that society shames us for having sex. But actually they are just fighting each other... It is quite difficult to live in a society, where we are praised and shamed for the same thing. Oh, I would like to take this contradicting and enormous societal pressure from people, so that we could make our own free conscious informed decisions without being judged for them.
Definitely guard yourself from being used. The only thing I would like to add is that you can't really teach someone to respect you. If someone doesn't treat you with respect, run from that person and don't look back.
Why does nobody talk about this like THIS? So well put, so easy to understand. I wish I had heard this advice when my husband and I were dating, it just makes the lines so clear and simple. Filing this away for when our son (and any future children we may have) need to hear it. God bless you!!
Imagine how strong your love will be for each other if you actually reserve sex for marriage and strengthen your bond through getting to know each other in and out.
People who have sex can and do love eachother. Sex can dominate a relationship sure but there’s no rule that says that has to be the case, it’s not all or nothing.
Lol I know, pretty sure most married couples wouldn't even be comfortable doing it in front of the Pope or their grandmother unless they like having an audience lol.
Seems to be a bit of a misleading barometer. If you are married what do you conceive children with your wife in front of Francis or your grandmother? The idea that privacy always equals shame does not really hold up. (When you go into the restroom to relieve yourself, you close the door for privacy, yet everyone knows exactly what you are doing in there)
Did y'all miss the audience she is talking about in this presentation? She's not talking to people who are married. She's talking to everyone else and what the world says is acceptable behavior before marriage.
@@MarcillaSmith I don't think that's what is meant. But reminding yourself someone is a human being is not a turn off but it reminds you that that which you are doing is not appropriate.
I totally agree with all of your thoughts here. I am 26 at present and up until now patiently waiting for the God-given man for me while honoring my body. Others call it as old fashioned or traditional, but I don't mind being labeled this way. Ladies out there like me, indeed true love waits. The moment they ask you to have pre-marital sex, that signals you have to leave the relationship. Let's keep being well- reserved and live a chaste life holistically.
This is the first time to meet a woman (beautiful woman) so open and sincere about her temptations, her feelings, emotions and even sinfulness. It helps us men to understand how women think too and their own struggles. I know my sin, it is always before me from the past but we need to know how to "change" and become like a child so we can enter the Kingdom of God already here on earth. Thanks for bringing up Holiness, and that each meeting is a chance to come closer to Jesus Christ (and be Sanctified) or to go away from Christ and into our selfish desires of the flesh. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You.... Personally recommend the Holy Rosary, was set-free from many bad and sinful habits. Especially the Scriptural Rosary!!! Help us Blessed Mother Mary to be pure of heart and more and more like you and your Son Jesus Christ.
yes, the Rosary has helped me to overcome bad and sinful habits. Also, praying to the Holy Spirit for the gifts of Chastity and Temperance (self control)
It's okay to let the bird fly over your head. Just don't let it nest in your hair. This is for people that struggle with sinful, lustful, impure and unholy thoughts. As a man, every time I see a woman who is very attractive, I thank God for creating her. I glorify God for His beautiful creation and move on my own way. You can't help the fact that you saw an attractive person. But YOU CAN help what you do with your thoughts. Prayer, giving of thanks to God, self examination according to Gods word, and rebuking these thoughts will help you accomplish this.
How about the ugly person not so attractive How can you pray to God about that? Would you still appreciate God for it and thank God that God created him/ her beautiful but For God and for me,all is Equal no one is ugly God created us all good no one is ugly in God's eyes All is beautiful. yeah for human standards they are many attractive man and woman that is only human standards but For God All is the same but for me All people is beautiful God is created us beautiful no one is ugly.
This was so well presented, thank you for expressing yourself so plainly, openly and honestly. A must share with my friends who have teens, and young adults. (My family included.) God bless you.
I've unfortunately lived my life as lukewarm and lazy. I wish that in 8 years of Catholic grade school and a lifetime of Masses someone would have had the guts to teach right from wrong. There were glimmers of Truth but no one wanted to lay out the explicit do's and don'ts. Thank you!
Aw thank you for this video. Dating has been on my mind a lot recently and it makes me a bit anxious thinking about it, because I've made so many mistakes in the past, and I've never dated "the right way". But these videos help me alot because if God is calling me to marriage, I want to do it in a way that pleases him❤
I really don't like the presumption that if I'm asking this question it means I want to use somebody for pleasure. I'm a convert without much experience with relationships. I'm not in a position to get married right now, though I hope to be there soon. Still, I'd like not to close myself off from meeting women and potentially finding my future spouse. I think the question of how I can share physical affection with them without it being an offense to the Lord is a perfectly legitimate one.
But she does adresses the question in the video, she just says that that question must be asked from a particular mindset (a Christian engagment) and not another (lust).
@@sandyjeannette4617 I agree with you, though in fairness, presentation is a problem almost everyone faces. Honestly, I tried explaining it in this comment, before giving up.
Truly am in awe of any couple that succeeds in forgoing even "passionate kissing" until their honeymoon night. Nothing but the deepest admiration if you and Bobby honored God so completely during your courtship. :)
Not helpful. You're injecting bad intentions on people who ask it in good faith. It's not "how much can we get away with?" it's "is this ok to do?" Is it ok to kiss someone you've been dating awhile? There are catholics out there would say "no, only if you're engaged" or "no, you're first kiss is on your wedding day at the altar." People who really want to know what's ok and what's not ok fail to get a clear answer. Some acts are clearly not ok ("petting" et al). There are trads out there who say no hand holding. Only group dates (hows that work over the age of 30 when everyone you know is busy with marriage and kids? Where is the line?
Come Holy Spirit, fill the hearts of your faithful and enkindle in them the fire of your love. Send forth your spirit and it shall be created, and you shall renew the face of the earth. Oh God, by the light of your Holy Spirit you have taught the hearts of your faithful. Help us to know what is truly right and always relish in its consolation. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen
Totally agree - I was in the same boat. Didn't even know what Chastity meant. Fell into the way of the world 25+ years ago. Had no religious friends and thought I was the only one who wanted to wait. I am just learning this NOW - after making SO MANY mistakes in my single and even married life. Thankfully, my husband and I are now on a journey back to our faith and now that I'm learning what the teachings are and why they are it ALL MAKES SENSE!
I think you have a misunderstanding of the male body and mind. Arousal can occur by a holding of a hand, a hug, or a kiss. That doesn’t make those things bad. Also, arousal itself is not wrong. It’s acting on your impulses outside of the sanctity of marriage that is wrong.
i dont think it has anything to do with gender though, ryt? The trigger may be different for different people/ situations etc. I think by giving that example of her friend, she made clear the importance of communicating what our limit is, so we avoid arousal. Arousal itself may not be a sin since its involuntary, but if we truly are trying to stay holy, it makes no sense to willingly do things that we know will lead do arousal. Would be like taking an alcoholic to a bar and saying there's nothing wrong as long as he/she doesn't actually drink alcohol.
100% agreed. Thank you for saying this since many Catholics attempt to provide guidelines for dating on the criteria that Jackie holds. She's on the right path, but "arousal" is a very blurry line. This video is an encouraging reminder to us who are still dating nonetheless.
We women can also experience arousal with little things and slight touches. And I don't think Jackie is saying arousal is sin. She's answering a question and that question is asked by people who usually go far. So, she's only explaining people that they need to control that and how to communicate with your date or fiance(e) things that may be dangerous.
I appreciate your advice very much, however we must keep in perspective cultural differences, I'm from South America and coming to the United States has been a huge adjustment, we are definitely more affectionate and what's okay there isn't okay here, but there seems to be more hypocrisy here, as in people engaging in sexual behavior we'd never dream off and it's okay as long as nobody sees it.
This is very true - my mom Colombian but I was born in the USA. That's why it's Sooo very hard to date a Latino. A hug is a friendly greeting & a kiss on the cheek is a sign of friendship... However, I can only do that a few times before it starts to "turn me on". Then, we start intentionally trying to arouse each other while passing it off as "affectionate" until your in a closet making out lol
Yes, this is something I think about. My family is from the Philippines, also a very affectionate country. My mom would tell me things that seemed like they were acceptable there, but not in the U.S. So this cultural difference definitely clashes with my understanding of Catholicism. Idk how to be at peace with both cultures and how they both integrate Catholicism.
@@poetlover30 yes keeping in mind that things we would do as South Americans and from what I see people from the Philippines, in front of Pope Francis are different than things a Norwegian (my husband) would do. We can be sensible to cultural differences but must also keep them in mind and refrain from judging 😊
We are ALL sinners theirs no such things that a person cannot stray from temptations maybe not lustful temptations but they committed Other sins in 10 commandments like Revenge from your neighbors, murder, telling other people about their bad reputation, Pride bragging that they don't have sins, consulting a Satanist occult practices like voodoo, spirit of glass, etc.
pray the Rosary! It helps in staying away from temptation and makes it harder to sin. I speak this from my own experience. God bless you and may the Blessed Mother keep you ❤️
It's hard to stay away from temptation, but it's hard for everyone. The people who resist temptation don't find it easier than you do--they've just fought it harder. As the Bible tells us, there is no temptation you've encountered that isn't common to all.
I really needed this reminder, I’ve found the girl who I hope to be my future wife and I sure don’t want to do anything to derail our state of grace together. One of the greatest joys in dating this wonderful girl is that special holy feeling of truly bonding in faith! God bless you Jackie!
The reason why we abstain is because Lust is a sin, we love God and therefore we want to obey him. Sure, I absolutely want the person I'm dating to go to heaven, It's just not the main reason we should be careful around one another.
There is nothing wrong with saving that arousal for marriage...you put it nicely ....save that special bond for marriage - it will be beautiful❣️ When you still get that fuzzy feeling when you see your spouse from a distance - you know you’re blessed😍
I think religion has taken this topic to a place where everything is restricted and extreme. I mean putting my hand on my mans leg has never gotten him aroused or even close because he is not under this pressure of i need to keep my instint and thoughts represed in order to go to heaven. We are free to do whatever we want because we love each other so much and i think thats enough. Marriage is such an superficial process, you are literally the same person the day after. I, today, love him with all my heart and if i get married i would still love him the same way. Thanks for taking the time to read this ;) leave me a comment with your thought on this
Belen Grove So standing in front of all your friends and family, taking a VOW to love and care for this one person, committing yourself to them through all the struggles of life, for the rest of your life, till your death doesn’t mean anything? I’m sorry, but that is purely your own personal feelings. Not the opinion humanity has had on marriage for centuries. If you don’t value vows or somebody’s word that is your problem.
But like... there's a time and place for everything. Just because you feel the need to go somewhere private doesn't mean it is a sin. A great example of this is prayer, we should feel compelled to pray in private, our Lord tells us to do so actually, and yet this is not a sign of sin, it is a sign of great humility. How is a kiss, an embrace of the person you love a sin? How is it falling into sin when in reality it is the right response. I'm not arguing for sex before marriage but I am confused about how the actions leading up to the marriage bed are considered sinful before marriage. Answers greatly appreciated!
Just because someone wouldn't do something in front of grandma doesn't mean is inherently bad. I also wouldn't blast my metal music in front of her, but that's just out of respect, not because listening to music is wrong. Second, holding hands and kissing is a step towards arousal itself, so I think that's an awkward metric by which to determine an act's rightness or wrongness, if you're going to allow those. Unfortunately, I think it is a gray area, and one needs to be mature about his or her own tendency to push what is acceptable, and then work back from there.
I'm sorry some people didn't like this video because it's awesome. It's an excellent piece of advice for people who didn't know. But it also makes people like me, who have done everything wrong, reflect and consider how evil we have been especially because we KNEW it very well. I am paying the price of not listening to God. If I had tried to follow what God and the Church say about sexuality, I wouldn't be heart broken the way I am and suffering because I allowed others using me while I used them (even people I thought I was going to marry). This video is gold. I hope more people try to understand why this is so important and avoid not only sin by itself but its consequences. That's something that will return to you sooner or later. No matter how long you try to hide it, if you really want to follow God's path, your sins and their consequences will come to the surface when you wanted them the least. Only God's grace can help us. Thanks a lot Jackie. God bless you, your family and your ministry.
Amen! I’m right there with you! I was raised after the sexual revolution, which has harmed so many of us so deeply. (I didn’t know it was evil at the time, though; only lately after I converted and learned about the Church’s views on sexuality and marriage.) My heart was broken plenty of times, too. I hope you find healing and peace with our Lord.
Sex before marriage is better than marrying someone you are not sexually compatible with. Think it's not important? You will after 10 years of marriage.
Where have you been all my life. I wish I was told this earlier. I will not let younger ladies and gents fall into the sex tradition of these days. I am going to share your advice with so many people and I hope I will change their minds on the current dating tradition.
The story about the friend in the mall is very inspiring. And his technique sounds like a good one! I think Jason who also does videos for AP once said that if looking at a beautiful woman caused him to lust, he would say a prayer for her in his head, asking God to look after her and her soul. I thought that was a beautiful sentiment and I've tried to do the same myself (with men). We all need help and it's not shameful to ask for it and lean on God's mercy. Thank you for this video!
this is really stupid and totally unrealistic. a lot of generalities and some good old humble bragging. good way to make perfectly fine people feel guilty about themselves.
There was a guy who I dated who really fastforwarded the relationship very early on. We didn't have sex but it did feel too physical for me. He didn't ask to kiss me, first red flag, second red flag was when I would bring up objections to being too physical he would complain that I hadn't told him before or that he didn't think any of it was wrong or sinful. (To his credit, he did pull back a bit). Ultimately the relationship ended just a few months after I asked to keep the kissing to a minimum. After a while he would no longer hug me and would have a morose look on his face and would complain more and more, and I also didn't feel as happy as before and was becoming more and more stressed out in the relationship. I have no doubt in my mind that had I known him more before all the kissing, I would not have dated him. (It was the second date). I don't want to seem disrespectful talking about him as it all was rough on him too both before and after the breakup. Point is I do wish it had never happened, I just want a casual friendship type relationship before marriage from now on. (The breakup happened years ago, it was terrible though and sometimes I just want an eraser to erase my mind of the memory of the relationship).
I was in same situation. The guy gave me an ugly look when I told him my values and he didn’t wanted to touch me. He ended up doing witchcraft on me and hating me.
I’ve experienced a similar relationship like that. I wish I can erase it but we learn from our mistakes and now we know what boundaries we must have for the next relationship.
That story about your friend who said that they give women they don't even know a name and say how they are someone's daughter and granddaughter really was a eye opening idea. I struggle controlling my gaze at times and that definitely is going to help in controlling it more
While I agree with the core of the video I have a problem with viewing your boyfriend/girlfriend as a future spouse of somebody else. Becuase they are more than that. Even if you´re not physical intimate with them you are personal/spiritual intimate with them. And I have to deal with that, that my future wife will have been in love and personal/spiritual intimite with a guy who is not me. But it will be ok, becuase that will be the past.
The problem with this is that difference you pointed out about men and women. I’ve known guys that get aroused simply by a smile of their girlfriend. If we get so closed off to the point that we cannot bond properly we will simply not be able to find a suitable partner.
What binds us is Christianity, we are all one in the lord and if that's what he commands us to do, we should try to do that, not basing on our cultures,races etc,,,
Definitely agree with all the points in this video; however, is it possible people ask the "How Far?" question because they want to know what NOT to do and help themselves become better people? Just something that crossed my mind.
Oh that is so sweet I love your honesty and your integrity and sweetness. I mean personally I have had to learn the hard way, by becoming a single Mum never married although I would like to one day and I wanted to live by these ideals but I didn't have faith and I didn't really know anyone else who was except some evangelical Chrisitians but somehow I struggled with faith and couldn't live as a saint. Please say a prayer for my son who is a teenager now and me. Thankyou
Well, Jackie is right, sometimes what a girl considers as a sign of affection, can actually turn a man on; any innocent joke, smiling, laughing, dancing when you re on a party or a date, for example, they might think you do it just to show your avaiblity or even desire; and then if you say you didn't mean it, they say what an hypocrite you are .😠...why did you get out from your house if you don't want to get ***d, why did you dress like that, why do you look that good, etc... You know în my own country, by the time of my grandparents, if a girl was invited in a man house and she accepted she couldn't claim any more if she were sexually abused bc her presence there was considered not only her accept but quite her wish for...
Absolutely true; and I wish that this was taught time and again realistically, like you communicate, when I was in eighth grade through high school, late 1970's - 1982! Unfortunately, the false ways of the world fought even against these truths even back then, so we have learn - "Army" "be - know - do" fight the good fight concerning these matters, too!
I think even kissing and cuddling while dating are too "far" it goes back to Jesus saying even merely staring at a woman lustfully you've committed adultery
Gosh, Jackie is such a great person! I thank her for these lessons because I am one to judge others and I compare myself to other women. This was a great video. I pray that I can see people as brothers and sisters and with love. I'll also have to start giving strangers fake names to respect and love them.
When I was 20 and after reading the Gospel, I used to scare my friends who were going Use someone by Saying if You use Her someday, someone will Use your Sister and Daughter . . . Guess what they prevented, but some never did. Yes, we must not forget that Our Organs are parts of Holy Christ, so respect them. Also, when people who commit such acts before marriage they might enjoy the pleasure with free tickets and Not value the holiness of marriage. Rest is well explained by Jackie Angel, who isn't my Sister just Kidding :)
As a young girl this touches me so deeply. Since a few months I'm studying in a foreign country and in 2 days my boyfriend will come to visit me and will stay here for a few days. I'm religious but he's agnostic and I'm afraid our points of view on this matter are different, but we have never talked about it before, and this is the first time we are this far from home together. I don't really know what will happen, but he's a fantastic person and I don't want to loose him.
What's up surprise me I was watching an alien movie I just little girl and she grew up very fast because she was Alien So fast she was a groom woman And she was naked That's a prize me I did not expect that Some movies you don't expect to show shopping that you're not looking for.
What about couples who love each other and have that need to make love? but they have not yet married for reasons such as age or money ... would that be used as well? ... if the purpose of life is to be as holy as possible to go to heaven, what happens to people that for reasons of life they did not receive a Catholic education, those who act on their impulses, who make love because they love, not necessarily to use the other person. not knowing that they are doing something wrong, are they not going to heaven?
FORNICATION or Premarital sex is NOT LOVE. Sex outside of marriage is ALWAYS MORTAL SIN. In order for them to know that Premarital sex is wrong if they must BOTH KNOW that it's a sin wrong. second if they are BOTH CONSENTING allowing the act of sex and not by force or rape. If the Boyfriend and girlfriend have Both Consent allow the act of sex and not by force and did not know that premarital sex is Sin wrong because they they did not know Catholic teachings because no one teach preach them then it's time for YOUR OWN to TEACH, PREACH THEM, proclaim THEM the BIBLE that Jesus said in Bible and Catholic Church said that Premarital is MORTAL SIN WRONG. All Baptized Catholics have the authority given by Holy Spirit to Teach Preach the Gospels of Jesus. Encourage them we must Go to Confession as soon as possible. Encourage them not to be afraid to ASKED FORGIVENESS to God through Confession, encourage them that God will help them to asked forgiveness to him because God will forgive them, He is Merciful when they asked forgiveness Encourage them God will help them to Turn away from their sins by trying their best to turn away from their sins, avoid their sins.
Even though they did not know it's sin or wrong then You Yourself must still TEACH, Preach them the Gospel that Jesus tell us Premarital sex a MORTAL SIN so that they will not do it again.
Being sexually attracted to someone is not lust. Lust involves obsession. Looking at a picture of a Victoria secret model is NOT lusting. It turns to lust when you willfully start imagining yourself doing things. And yes, it's nuts. Just holding the hand of someone I'm attracted to gives me arousal. In your words, no one would actually get together and no babies would ever be born. We'd all be priests and the religion would die.
I would have to disagree about the last part -- she is saying -- don't do anything sexual that you wouldn't do in public -- it gives you the opportunity to know a person without your hormones making the decision for you. Once you marry -- you have the rest of your life to 'discover' each other.
This is rediculos.. it's normal to lust after members of the opposite sex. The issue is acting on it. But it is nuts to suggest no sexual activity before marriage..
May Jesus forgive you for saying to Jesus is rediculous. Premarital sex or Fornication is always MORTAL sin. Jesus teach that on Bible. Premarital sex is not man made rules it is God Commandmends Rules Jesus and his disciples said that on Bible that Fornication is always MORTAL SIN.
I got a kind of a personal question, I've recently did a testimony video here on RU-vid, my question is, with my sinful even if I'm forgiven, also with my physical body conditions (getting older and lost my teeth *no more French kissing for me*),yet I got a kind of a crush on someone. I'm starting to fight with myself (arguing with God in thought) about me being broken and 47 years of age and times, why even look for marriage in this life, I know most of my life I asked God for a wife that'll bring me closer to God kind of a "godly wife". I know she's out of my league yet to how she treats other people and how she minister to people, she's a deep thinker. So much I agrue with in thoughts about marriage yet I fo need some kind of human interaction (a wife that cares), for some reason I yern for gentleness and care into my own life. So of all I mentioned here and if you look at my testimony video why am I struggling like in thought or how come have I allowed myself to become so broken to kind of be afraid and argumentative when it comes to being in a normal life (completing of a family picture)?
so when I understand you correctly, when you are married you will have sex in front of your grandmother? We will have sex somewhere else bec we want to do that in privacy, married or not married.
What qualifies as “making out” though? Like how many seconds qualifies as a “passionate kiss”? Like if a kiss doesn’t tempt someone to lust, then does it really matter how long the kiss was? My priest doesn’t seem to think so, but “passionate kissing” as people like to refer to it has made me absolutely paranoid because like any faithful Catholic, I want to avoid mortal sin but like I’m not marrying my girlfriend any time soon. I’m 18, and yet I know I’m GOING to marry her (she’s literally my best friend) so what’s the matter with a kiss on the lips that lasts about ten seconds if it doesn’t tempt me to lust? I just don’t understand, but I can’t get a clear answer from anyone bc once again the church is divided on yet another issue. Idk I’m lost, and my priest said “passionate kissing” was okay as long as I didn’t lust so I’m going with his advice.
Facts! Don’t use people for sexual attention or action. Harden you’re spirit of God by holding on and waiting until someone is worth becoming unpure with...
I saw this couple while I was in line for an attraction in an amusement park... They were doing *a lot* in broad daylight... I just couldn't believe my eyes, my parents truly believed that they were probably in some drugs to be able to do that in public. I, not so much... I think they really didn't care about their surroundings anymore, way too dependent on their sexual desires to not care AT ALL. Amusement parks ---> Kids. Not even that, I'm not a kid and I didn't want to watch!!!
Good video! But we def need to say he/she is a Person Loved by God so much that Christ died for him/her too to help us think purely and lovingly. When we say shes somebodys sister, daughter, future wife etc. we are not giving the value straight to that person,right?because She Is a masterpiece of God. The end.
EXCELLENT BRILLIANT KATIE LEADING YOUNG PEOPLE IN CHASTITY...TRUE VIRINITY FOR JESUS CHRIST & FOR THE THE ONE TRUE LOVE...IS DIVINE. PRAY & ASK THE HOLY SPIRIT TO CHASTISE ANYTHING THAT DRIVES YOU TO IMMORALITY.. IT WORKS BUT YOU CHOOSE FOR IT OR NOT!! PRAYERS IN MEDITATION AS MANY TIMES AS POSSIBLE ASKINK THE HOLY SPIRIT TO LIBERATE YOU FROM SATAN...
I think some balance is needed. If I saw every woman as no different than my biological sister, then I would NEVER want to marry and start a family. Marriage would be nothing but disgusting incest and no one would ever want it. Also, even if you do remain a virgin until marriage, that's not going to guarantee you'll never feel hurt or disappointed in the marriage. I'm not saying people shouldn't save themselves for marriage, but EVEN THAT is not some magic ticket to Disneyland.
