How He Copes Part 2 // ANOREXIA RECOVERY

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We got some questions & topics in response to the previous video, so Ryder and I sat down to try and address them all! Please feel free to keep sending suggestions/questions regarding how he deals with my recovery from anorexia. We are both very much learning and adjusting as we navigate this journey but at bare minimum will do our best to be as open and honest as possible.
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8 авг 2024

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Комментарии : 16

@bria2021 3 года назад

Thank you for answering my question! It was helpful

@rachaelerinrecovers6099 3 года назад

Absolutely! And I'm so glad that our answer was helpful 👍

@katespalding2134 3 года назад

Thank you so much for doing this. I sense this was tricky for both for you. Thank you xxxx

@rachaelerinrecovers6099 3 года назад

Absolutely! Not tricky per se, but it felt a little funny to talk about things WITH each other and not TO each other 😂👍

@katespalding2134 3 года назад

Thank you for your honesty and humility I’m so glad to have discovered your channel xxxx

@rachaelerinrecovers6099 3 года назад

Grateful to have you here 🧡💛

@terryferlita6162 3 года назад

Thank you for answering my questions too. These are hard conversations and so thankfu you are providing a supportive place to discuss and share. I can relate to the corn tortilla recipe!

@rachaelerinrecovers6099 3 года назад

Absolutely! Ask and you shall receive. 😉 And yes, that was quite the "breakfast" lol

@brittanylutz7742 3 года назад

I really wish my husband was more supportive. He wants me better but his way of supporting me is to yell at me 😒. It’s not super helpful but I know deep down he does care.

@rachaelerinrecovers6099 3 года назад

Ahhh that's so difficult for you both! I'm sure he feels frustrated, helpless, and scared but when it's expressed through an outburst that's hard to receive. Have you two ever talked about it in a lower energy situation? Aka not like... During a meal or something lol

@mercegomar 3 года назад

Thanks for sharing, i'm sure it's not easy. What helps one, doesnt always help another. My partner knows, he even initally went to meet and speak to my therapyst - his initiative that really won me over. However, he struggles supporting me on a day to day basis, calling my bullshit and things like that which i would find helpful. I also get very self contious and part of me thinks that intimacy between us would suffer if i fully open up about it. But thats just me. Things i found helpful was that motivation i have to cook and eat with him, push myself to go to restaurants, try new things and be more relaxed around food. I also let him cook for me on weekends which was soooo stressful initially and even now i dont really look what he is doing, i turn the tv on, bite my lip and keep repeating how annoying it would be to have someone circuling around me while i tried to do something nice for someone. And surprisingly it got a lot easier over time to let him do that for me - really recomment you try :)

@rachaelerinrecovers6099 3 года назад

Indeed, each relationship is so unique. That's actually what makes me hesitant about sharing related to this specific topic, because I know that what pertains to R and I might not be feasible for someone else. As for wishing your partner would call you out, have you chatted with him about it? Maybe he's afraid of how you'd react if he pointed things out. Or, given he's blessed with a non Ed brain lol, maybe he doesn't even see the behaviors for what they are? ALSO, mad props for letting him cook for you!!!! That's a huge feat and so inspiring 👍💞😽

@mercegomar 3 года назад

@@rachaelerinrecovers6099 thanks. You can try to let your husband cook sometimes too, its actually quite nice once you get through the anxiaty lol. As for my boyfriend, he is deff blessed with a non-ED brain and i dont think he even notices those behaviours as ED related. Plus i got so experienced at trying to act normal that it is difficult to notice it. But you have a good point, i should tell him. And dont hesitate sharing your experince. Even if it doesnt work for everyone, it will work for some plus just talking about it and raising awareness helps :)

@rachaelerinrecovers6099 3 года назад

For sure, a little more representation of adults with EDs certainly can't hurt! I feel like there's this belief out there that once a person hits a certain age these things magically just go away lol. Idk if you've seen "Arrested Development" but it sometimes reminds me of when Tobias says "There are dozens of us!!!" 😂🤣

@misskatooshka 3 года назад

This was nice to watch as adults the relationship side of things is so tricky. There is less support for couples. We did couples therapy because I wanted to make sure the relationship wasn't falling into anything co-dependent and to encourage open communication. He still isn't 100% committed to a life together because of the uncertainty and he is thinking about whether he can live with me not recovering. Which is scary and sad. Do you want kids? I didn't use to but as I get older I want a family and I don't want to miss out on life. Take care guys!

@rachaelerinrecovers6099 3 года назад

Gosh, that breaks my heart and makes me so angry on your behalf. This disorder is cruel, such a life and happiness ruiner... That being said, I'm impressed by your ability as a couple to have such an honest and open conversation about it! As for R and I, we have no plans for kiddos outside the furry kind. 😜😹🐈