Its an inner strength and confidence which can be as easy to switch on as a light. As you say, believing in one's self, but also, to understand one's self and not to feel those around you all have it sorted out better than you. We all compare ourselves against others, which is fine, but we shouldn't get hung up on it. This person is better looking, that person is smarter, another is more athletic, a flash car, clothes, place to live, more friends, more money, such a good life. Well, good for them. There'll always be someone who is better blessed with some of this than you. But that doesn't automatically mean they are in a better place within themselves. Most of us wear a metaphorical mask in life. It allows us to act out our best character in life and shield our vulnerabilities. It's a means of defence and we defend ourselves when we feel exposed and scared. For some, this will manifest itself in trying to dominate others and being bitchy and one-upmanship. In my opinion, the best way to be is to just be nice. Have a calm confidence in yourself and know you have to deal with people who are not as secure and confident and you don't want to make things worse. At least if you're nice, you will not be seen as the one who is an a'hole. This is just an open statement, I am not directing this at you Torie.
Thank you for your input. It truly means a lot to me 💕 I agree with you and social media can make it so much easier to compare and can lead to potential envy. I think the first step is being aware that there’s always going to be bigger and better but you’ve got to appreciate where you’re at right now, every single moment.
