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I relate! At this point in my life I don't want kids and I have the implant. I don't get periods so I have to take tests every now and then just to assure myself!
I’ve been thinking about getting the copper IUD myself, but I’m scared of the pain! Also, yeah, if I see one more story about how someone was on the pill AND used a condom and got pregnant, I’m going to lose it! When are they going to put out hormonal birth control for men? 😅
Haha honesty even if they put out hormonal birth control for men I would never feel comfortable relying on it since I’m the one who would have to go through an abortion. I’m sure my partner would be careful, but that doesn’t change the facts. I never ever want to be put in the position of needing an abortion due to my partner’s mistake. I’d rather rely on myself.
I have a copper IUD and my insertion felt like a normal period cramp. I took the recommended pain medication before I showed up to the appointment and I didnt experience any of what Katrin experienced in terms of nausea or lightheadedness. I sat up afterwards and felt fine, just slightly crampy. I’d recommend going to see your gynecologist or midwife and ask them about any concerns you have. I’m personally SO HAPPY to have my copper IUD.
Dont worry, my IUD insertion was like 60% of my worst period cramp ever and it lasted for about 10 seconds. I took some pain killers before like they advised and it wasnt that bad. 10/10 would do it again :D
Thanks for always giving us updates, please make a video in the future about how you're doing with the IUD! It's super helpful since I relate to a lot of your opinions and experiences regarding birth control!
I'm so glad you talked about you experience with having the IUD put in. I had the same experience. It felt like a massive cramp and maybe a small shock. I had one placed in first but flinched so it had to be taken out otherwise it wouldn't have protected me. Immediately ofter it was taken out I had another one replaced in, but fortunately it didn't hurt as much because I knew what kind of pain to expect and was prepared for it. Can't recomend it enough, although the acne is a huge pain in the a**! 😔
Try to cut out dairy.. acne definitely can be hormonal but some foods can cause acne as an acute intolerance. We are adults not meant to digest newborn baby food.. which milk is. I love milk... But I cut down on it when I'm close to my period... I already get acne on my face and back. Bleh.. but I can't quit milk! >
I got the Skyletta (hormonal) IUD almost exactly a year ago and honestly, if childbirth is more painful, that just strengthened my resolve to not have children.
Right??? I have always though that pregnancy and child birth seems interesting and cool, it has never been a factor in me not wanting children. But now.... oh my god. No. I have completely changed my mind. 😂😂😂
I’ve heard something about the brain making you forget the pain of birth so it doesn’t hinder you from having more children. My mom said that it happened to her with both my sister and I. I don’t want kids now but I do later on in life, so I kinda hope the forgetfulness of the pain is true.
Well if it is any consolation you can get an epidural during birth and many other options to stop the pain. I guess the IUD there are no pain relieving options?
In fact, it is a hormon, I think ociticin that has the effect oft "forgetting". It is also responible for the bonding between you and your child. Of course, you don't really forget, that it was painful. I have two kids and I KNOW it was very painful, very hard, almost the feeling you can't stand it and just want tot gett rid oft the baby somehow. But it is just the knowledge, I can't REALLY remember the feeling or compare it to something. And when the Baby is out of you, you get really floated by the hormons, being so freaking happy to hold your baby, and all the love and feelings you have for this new life , that just came out of your body, it's the most awesome feeling I ever had and THAT I definetly remember more than all the pain! I don't want to convince anybody to have children, just wanted to explain, that the "forget the pain" thing is really true.
Having a baby would hurt a lot more than getting an iud, believe me 😂 I'd love a follow up video on this! I'm considering the copper iud for when I'm done having kids
Everyone’s experience with copper IUDs is different so I wanted to share my story. I had probably the OPPOSITE experience as Katrin in terms of side effects. I got my copper IUD (also in Sweden like Katrin!) in December 2018. The midwife told me to take aspirin AND ibuprofen at higher doses than normal (cant remember exact dose) 2-3 hours beforehand, because the meds block different pain receptors. They measure your uterus to make sure the IUD isnt too long for your uterus (mine was 8.5cm). When my IUD was inserted, it felt like regular period cramps. My midwife was very sweet and explained everything she was doing as she was doing it. I didnt feel dizzy, I didnt get nauseous, I wasn’t lightheaded. I felt completely fine. Just felt like period cramps. The IUD insertion kickstarted my period and i had a slightly heavier than normal period right afterwards (7 days instead of my normal 4 days). I used to have cramps only 1-2 days during my period before I got the copper IUD, and for 6 months afterwards i would get cramps for 4-5 days during my period. My period was also significantly heavier for the first 6 months after I got it. But now that it’s been almost a year, my periods are pretty much back to how they were before I got the IUD and I dont even notice that it’s there. I hope this helps for anyone who is considering getting the copped IUD! I feel like a lot of people only share if there’s a horror story, and I hope this can give some insight into the fact that despite how it seems online, studies show that most women do not have issues with the copper IUD.
Thanks for sharing! I got the same instructions. I was on my period when they inserted it, and after it was in, I barely bled at all and that was my first day. I usually bleed for 3 days approximately. So I don’t know what to expect next month but we’ll see. 😅
Taking pain relief beforehand probably helped a lot. I wasn't told to do that and the dr acted like I wouldn't feel anything so I was not at all prepared!
I went in for the copper IUD about 8 months ago (my first birth control// I'm 23) because I was afraid of the hormones but I ended up taking the hormonal IUD because it's the equivalent to just 1 hormonal pill spread throughout a month, so very little! Also it's localized so the hormones don't go through the whole body. I'm really happy with it because it's secure/ something I don't have to think about for years and it made my cramps go away and periods lighter:) i 100 percent recommend it
I was so afraid of getting pregnant and because I never felt comfortable with the birth control options that are available, I almost just stopped having sex for a few years... I'm thankful that my partner has always been very understanding but it was hard. I then decided to try the implant that goes into the upper arm and SHIT that hurt SO BAD! I had it for just over one year but my fear of getting pregnant never went away... I then decided, because I am childfree by choice, to get my tubes cut and burnt and had the implant taken out and only then could I feel safe and comfortable and not at all worried about getting pregnant. It's been just over a year now since I got sterilized and I feel amazing!
Have you had any negative side effects as a result of this procedure? For me personally I’m looking at having my tubes removed completely, but I’ve read some women have experienced adverse effects including worse periods/cramps, mood swings, depression, etc. I’m trying to determine if these symptoms are directly related to this surgery or not.
@@adriannadenslinger9215 I know two people that got this procedure my friend after 3 kids got hers and now she has a really bad period she told me now she has to use diapers because of how much blood she has and has to be changing constantly and my mom got hers and she has normal periods no cramps and very very normal 3 days period with little blood it depends on yo and your body my mom also had 3 kids
I have a copper IUD and I've had it for over a year now! My gyno said I could keep it in for up to 12 years! I'm sure that depends on the brand/type but so far I've had no issues with it 😁
I also have an IUD... I needed to have it removed everytime because it changed its position everytime After like half a year so the protection was Not given anymore. It was a horrible pain for me to get it inserted, too. So now I‘m bot going to get another one anymore. I just can‘t take it. Luckily both me and my bf have the same fear of me getting pregnant as you have and we both don‘t want children ever, so he decided to get sterilized. That will finally be the end of this horror trip aka finding a contraceptive method for me.
I had a copper IUD for 10 years (At least at the time I had mine they said 5-10 years max). It was one of the best health decisions I've ever made. Never had to worry about getting pregnant. It made my cramps slightly worse sometimes but whatever. I sing their praises every chance I get! I don't understand why they aren't more popular here in the US. Edit: Oh the pain of getting it put in. Like nothing I've ever experienced. It's not just you.
Thanks for sharing your experience with the IUD and I would love to see updates in a few months about how you like it! Have you considered or are you considering female sterilisation in the future? I think I want it when my family planning is done. Also, the fear of getting pregnant is so real. I hate my period cramps but it's such a relief every time I have it.
Hey Katrin! My experience with my IUD was pretty much the exact same.. and I‘m absolute happy with it 👌🏻 I have mine for about a year now and no horror storys with my menstrualcup to tell :) wish you all the best, greets from Germany 👋🏻
I NEEDED this video ♥ I've been on hormonal birth control for 9 years, the pill for 6 and an IUD for 3. I was also having worries about my mental health and not having control over my body because I do have depression and anxiety and I feel that the hormones do not make it any better for me. In two weeks, I get my copper IUD and I've been very nervous about it. I'm already aware of the pain that comes with the insertion and the cramps afterwards, but regardless, it was nice and reassuring to hear you explain your situation and experience. Thank you!
Have you experienced any negative side effects as a result? I’m also looking at having my tubes removed completely, but I’ve read that some women experience worse periods/cramps, mood swings, depression, etc. I’m trying to determine if these symptoms are actually related to this procedure or not.
@@adriannadenslinger9215 I have never heard that any of that would be possible because of only removing the tubes. If the ovaries were revomed that would be completely different. But I've been feeling so good and my periods are minimal, I bleed for a day and that is it. I was going in to get my tubes tied but my doctor recommended that we completely remove the tubes because it is known to decrease the risk of getting cancer in the ovaries for example. Highly would recommend! :)
Thanks for this video! I found it really helpful. Just a side note, if someone has their period during their pregnancy that is a major red flag. It could be life threatening.
Well yeah it's probably not good but I have heard SO many stories about women who seek help for stomach pains and then whoops they leave the hospital with a baby hahah... my biggest nightmare.
Katrin Berndt oh gosh haha well that is shocking! I completely agree how terrifying that would be especially hearing from people you know. I have only seen that on reality type shows myself. I have been pregnant twice in the past five years . In all honestly, its a completely mystery to me how they could ignore it! Even belly size aside! 🙈. Symptoms demand attention in the most annoying ways at times. Intense Body aches ( mostly hips and spine actually shifting) , peeing every five min. intense smell super power, puking for months on end, walking differently, hunger that leads to extreme nausea if you don’t eat etc. how women endure everything completely oblivious until birth would be nearly a denial of reality.
Mandy Andree I recently had a “chemical pregnancy”/very early miscarriage. I only knew I was pregnant (HCG 27) for about 12 hours before the cramps and bleeding started. I stuck with my 48 hour follow-up quant test, but had to take it on a Friday afternoon and wait until Monday morning to get my results. My OBGyn’s staff told me to take it easy and not freak out because my level of bleeding didn’t necessarily mean I was having a miscarriage. I did A LOT of reading up on all the possible ways to have period-like bleeding during a viable pregnancy and there are actually quite a few. One that stuck out to me is that it’s possible to have light to moderate bleeding on an almost period-like schedule for quite a ways into a pregnancy, and if you’re a lady that doesn’t have heavy periods to begin with, you might not notice much of a difference. As far as baby bumps, there’s a lot of variables about if you show a bump or not. I happen to know of one woman who is fairly tall but also very thin who hardly showed her pregnancies at all, even late in her third trimester. My grandmother knows another woman who is very short and very thin who also didn’t show a bump. It isn’t common, but it is possible to be pregnant and not know you are pregnant, even up to childbirth. Every woman and every pregnancy is completely unique. Edit: I agree that if you know you are pregnant and experience bleeding, call your doctor and see them as quickly as possible. If you are bleeding so bad that you saturate a pad in less than an hour, go to the ER immediately.
Two questions for anyone who had a copper IUD, Did you have any issues with hair loss? When taking it out, did you experience any pain and/or bleeding?
I've only had one. I've had zero hair loss. I can't speak to how it feels getting it out. I think mine hurt so bad because they down played it way too much. Usually my docs over exaggerate the pain levels so since they said it would be a tiny pinch, I was like "oh this is gonna be so easy then."
For the record, I've had no issues using a menstrual cup with my IUD. I've been using both for about 5 years now. I know that's anecdotal, but the number of women using a menstrual cup is probably pretty small. I'm not sure how they collect data on that issue! I also agree that having regular periods is better than having it mysteriously disappear. Wishing you well from America. :D
Oh I miss my copper coil. Had one for 5 years and then a second after. Had to change to the pill tho as my periods made me anemic. Doctor's orders I hate being on the pill I constantly take pregnancy test because I'm not regular and I completely get the mental health issues. I couldn't agree more with you. Hope it all goes well with your coil. Honestly the copper coil it's brilliant and I used my cup with mine (at home due to being heavy) never had a problem.
hey long periods can be related, but the thing is cell receptors are the same for iron and copper, and since u have something popping copper into ur body u can see how iron absortion can be fucked up by the UID...along with zinc and magnesium, sometimes, which also explains common things as hair loss (zinc) and worst cramps in general (magnesium)
My IUD insertion hurt really bad as well, so I feel you! My body actually went into "birthing mode" and I basically lost control of my body while it was being inserted. I too felt nauseous and just had to lay there. It was so embarrassing! Three years later, I am glad I did it in the end but I cannot wait to take it out and have periods again. I am just SO SCARED of it getting removed because it hurt so bad going in.
This is so important, can you please make an update un a couple of months, how cramps get and blood flow if any changes with the copper IUD, it would be very helpful there's not much real first hand experiences shared. Also may I ask if Sonny has ever considered a vasectomy?
I have had mine in for more than a year now, and I experienced the same violent pain you described. I stopped the pill (which I had been taking for almost a decade...) the day before I got the copper IUD placed, so I don't really know if what happened ever since was due to the IUD or to stopping hormones. My acne came back on the lower half of my face and it is also very sensitive to my mental health, so when I am stressed out I have massive breakouts. Regarding the period itself, I'm quite regular (I find tracking apps quite useful) but I bleed much more than I used to, and the pain is most definitely present. To be honest, I'd rather deal with all that than go back on hormonal contraception!
So glad you talked about this! I had a similar experience, I don't think it was the worst pain of my life but definitely the most traumatic. I have to get mine replaced in May and I'm absolutely terrified.. They didn't even check on my after to see if I was ok, i'm pretty sure I drove home in shock, worst experience ever. I wish it hadn't been so bad though, I love it as a birth control, just don't think I can put myself through that again.
Hej do! I got my copper IUD in April this year after I talked to my doctor and two friends of mine who had gotten it too. When they put the copper IUD in, I experienced pain I didn’t knew existed. Then I fainted... It took me several hours to get back an my feet. The following weeks I (and also my boyfriend) also had some difficulty but all in all I am good with it now. I use a menstrual cup too and it works just fine. But I am not sure I get it replaced in 5 years. My point here: Would recommend it but be prepared for the worst pain of your life. -_-
I wonder if it's possible to use a diaphragm with an IUD 🤔 probably not cause it has a string but you can use an iud with a tampon, so maybe it is possible? Cause I wanna get the copper IUD, and use the diaphragm and just in case take a regular progesterone only pill and always ALWAYS USE A CONDOM EVERY SINGLE TIME condoms should be your best friend
Had to laugh about the thermometer. When I got married in a Catholic church, you had to take a family planning class. The couple teaching opens with 'We have 7 children, all planned.' I started laughing so hard. We lived in one of the most expensive areas in the US at the time and they were both teachers. No f*cking way would I go the natural planning route.
My experience with getting an IUD was exactly the same, except I got a hormonal IUD instead of the copper one. Worst pain I’ve experienced tbh, I too had to lay down for 20 minutes after the whole thing. I get nasty flashbacks thinking about it now!
I also have an IUD (mine is hormonal though) and I relate to your experience so much!!! When my GP measured my cervix length, it only came out as 4cm and he said ''that's impossible, and we need atleast 6cm to get the IUD in'' so that made me so nervous. Putting the IUD in was so painful that I even had to throw up afterwards, but as soon as I got some fresh air I felt fine! I even went to a job interview a couple of hours later 😂😂
Hi gorgeous, I love you hair. ~^^ I used to have combined pills, mirena, and paragard. I had each of them for about three years. There are some pros and cons. So far..I experienced a bit of nausea, anxiety, mild cramps, and headaches. The main thing I liked about those IUDs and pills are their effectiveness at preventing unwanted pregnancies. Although, there were some pregnancy scares. Stay beautiful and God bless you 🥰❤
I got my copperball in 2018 and it fucking hurt soo bad. But since that everything is all good and I don't regret it. But yes, the pain and the afterpaincramps were extremly BAD. ❤ No more hormones and depression since!🥳🥳
As far as I know women who get pregnant with IUD are advised to get an abortion anyway. My mom was actually STRONGLY advised to get an abortion when she got pregnant on IUD cuz it can fuck the baby up. I’m not a specialist, that’s just what I heard. When I was on a pill I too wanted to keep my period. And if I would tell that to someone, they would look at me like I was insane 😂 “I’d love not to have periods. That would be amazing!” Well, good for you, but let me keep mine.
This can be an uncomfortable conversation to have with your guardian. Much of todays youth goes to youtube for knowledge. Thank you for sharing your experience. I feel listening to your story may help others more knowledgable about the choices they make on this subject. I would also like to use this opportunity to include ive been on the depo shot for 15 years. Around age 28-30 i noticed issues with my hormones (emotions/ random spotting/issues with alcohol and the most awful gut issues) everyone is different judge for yourself after doing yalls own researxresearch
Smart of you to stop taking hormone based BC. I stopped taking the pill the beginning of this year after being on it for two years. I’m a nurse and I feel passionately about the harms of hormone based birth control. Being on any female hormone (estrogen and progestin) for 5 years or more SIGNIFICANTLY increases your risk for female cancer!!! Ovarian (the most deadly), breast (the most common), and cervical (second most common) cancer. It’s really scary. Also being on birth control for 2 or more years can cause blood clots such as heart attack, stroke, deep vein thrombosis, and embolisms in your lungs. Besides the mental health aspect you pointed out, it’s a good idea to stop taking hormonal BC!
I've been doing IUD + menstrual cup for over 5 years, it's amazing and I wouldn't want anything else. And oh yeah I also have pregnancy nightmares, fuck you hormones or whatever
I habe a copper IUD for almost three years now. I had no problems with inserting it, just a liitle pain and some cramps for a few days. No more Problems after that. My period is a bit stronger and the cramps a little bit more than without any birth control (in the times I wanted to get pregnant), and way more than it was with estrogen birth control, which I had when I was younger, and much way more as it was, when I used Progesteron birth control, after my two kids, where I had no period at all, but I gained wheight and I lost my Libido, so I wanted an alternative. And the copper IUD is! You feel nothing and you don't have to think about it. Like you said there is always a risk of getting pregnant when you have sex, but it is acceptable for me
I’m also paranoid about hormones. But I didn’t dare to try pill. I also was paranoid about forgetting about pill so I asked something else and was offered patch. I guess I’d taken injection had it been offered. About this one I had my thoughts but I wasn’t recommended because I’ve never had baby. She said maybe not the best option. But I am also paranoid about pain this bad so I didn’t say anything else
Died at "how long is your cervix? Comment below!" I've been told by the gynecologist mine is really short so...should I brag about it or not? 🤔 Thank you btw for sharing your experience with us ❤
My cervix is 7 cm! :D When I had my copper IUD put in, the doctor couldn't insert it because of the crooked angle of my cervix, so he had to call another doctor in to redo the procedure. Which meant I had my cervix measured twice in one appointment... I still remember the pain.
I had the copper iud and they either inserted it wrong or my menstrual cup fucked it up, but my doc told me i was having unprotected sex since it was fucked up. Scared the shit out of me. I started using a hormonal birth control called the nuva ring.
I've had a copper IUD for almost 5 years now (will get a new one this month) in combination with a menstrual cup and it really changed my life! Highly recommend!
Please keep us updated! I’m on hormonal bc right now and it is the absolute worst. I’m so emotional and always nauseous, but I also don’t want to be pregnant.
I have an IUD, I almost passed out taking it and had to lay down aswell, haha. But im very happy with it! Been trying out everything and this is definitley the best birthcontrol I've had. All the pills made me feel shitty too. It took a year for it to stabilize tho, so just be patient :)
@@Katrinberndt Yes! Sorry, forgot to mantion that part, haha. It's not as strong as regular periods either. On me personally at least, it's much lighter. 😊
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Same with not wanting to get pregnant and fearing it, but I am scared of the IUD too. I am taking pills for 6.5 years now and don't want to anymore (mental health reasons mainly), so I am also looking into different non-hormonal contraceptive...and I am very scared of the change and those options not working for me either. Also, my period was very very bad before the pill, IUD can make it even worse I heard, so that's not even an option for me I feel. :(
My cervix is about 4cm. Never having a IUD again btw. The pain was awful and never stopt. So after 3 month I gave up. But I also have Endometriosis so..
I was curious, are there some countries that allow woman to get sterlization? It SHOULD be fully legal for woman to get sterile surgically, just like men are allowed to get vasectomy... it's SO unfair that woman are not allowed (at least in my country that is unfortunately full of religious bullshit pushed into the law and politic). Woman's body is just her to decide, it's not damned public property!
I got a Mirena last year and OH BOY was that the most painful experience. So glad to actually be getting it out soon. Hormonal BC was definitely not the best option for me.
Ugh that sucks! I chose the copper partially because I don't want hormones but also because once you turn 26 (which I did 1 month ago), the price here in Sweden for the Mirena goes from like $10 to $130, and the copper is way cheaper. ^^
@@Katrinberndt Oh jeez. That's crazy. It's like they're effectively reinforcing that you should be making babies at this age and not looking for BC 🙄 (I doubt that that's the reason for the cost hike, but it's what immediately came to mind lol)
Did you ever worry/how did you avoid worrying about condoms breaking or falling off during sex? I'm currently using barrier method because i briefly re-tried pills after my copper iud came out and was reminded that hormonal BC is NOT for me. I think i'm going to get another copper IUD, but the conditions under which the last one came out were a bit traumatic, although on the whole it was a great method for me.
I used natural cycles for a year and didnt get pregnant. I personally use the pull out method with my boyfriend and let the full thing happen when I'm on my period. Done it for 4 years now with the same guy and havent got pregnant. Maybe I'm infertile. Keep in mind I'm 18 now.
I've had a regular UID that changed position in my uterus, so that it stopped working! Two times my doctor re-inserted it, but my body wouldn't let me have it, my body pushed it out of position (NOT out of my vagina, still up there!!) so the hormones stopped working ;-( I'd have my period so I knew it had fucked up. Ended up with a copper UID because it's smaller, and no problems so far, but I'm kinda scared story is going to repeat itself and I won't have a chance this time knowing.. You cannot be sure it will fall out at all!! And I must say I'm sceptic of using a menstrual cup - even though I really want to- because of my body rejecting the UID so easily =((( When is men's birth control coming to the market!!!!!!!!?!?!?!?! UUUGH
I chose an IUB! Its just like a copper IUD - but it's a ball. That means it can't get stuck somewhere or wanders of to where it shouldn't, which was a big fear for me. Inserting it was horrible, just like you described, but it means 3 years of peace. Like everything with copper the flow increased a lot. Cramps also increased at first, but after a few months it felt like when I was taking hormones. And... idk if its copper related, but my cycle got longer from ~22 days to ~30. So I have to say I love it! Sadly its pretty expensive (probably because it's only around for a few years), but everything about this matter is expensive...
I got a gynefix placed in my uterus when I was 14 because I hate the thought of hormonal protection. That was the best solution for me :) Its still quite knew and also made out of copper. But other as the IUD which just gets placed inside, the gynefix has a knot which is poked inside the muscle. And if you ask me THAT HURTED SOOOO BAD. But it can stay there for 5 years :) I also use a menstrual cup for a few years know and it works perfectly fine :) if you're curious you should definetly inform yourself bout it!!!!
I really hope you'll tolerate it. I actually have one and I'm doing tests right now, but it's hurting me, I must reject it or something, I really feel the IUD is the problem (I have it since 10 months, I always had a king of pain from times to times). I really could'nt tolerate hormones, that's why I wanted to have a copper IUD... but doesn't work for my body either... I don't know what's left exept condoms... so annoying!
I had paraguard for 4 years (copper IUD), my exact words to my doctor was get me the longest term, idiot proof contraceptive I can get. Anyway after carefully keeping track of it, getting well woman checks every year. I had the IUD fail and ended up pregnant. I had thought I was done but my 2nd daughter came along and now 100% I'm done. I have the arm implant and I like it. I like after three years I update it. But now im even more careful. And I dont end up in the 1% margin of pregnancy failure. While I had the IUD I liked it, if you dont have too frequent sex it works. But it is a spermicide, copper kills sperm so take that information as you will
I also just got one. I took ibuprofen before and it didn't hurt so much, it just felt like a medium period cramp when she inserted it, but when I was on my way home I also felt dizzy, nauseous and sweaty for a few minutes. The rest of the day I also felt like I had my period and was bleeding very lightly.
Can you tell me what kind of hormonal contraceptives were ruled out because of your UC? I follow this RU-vidr Hannah Witton who also has UC, and she had a flare-up close after inserting her hormonal IUD. She had an emergency surgery to remove her colon. Her doctors told her that there hasn't been enough research done to tell her if the flare-up was related to her IUD... but I wonder if maybe in your country it is different and the hormonal IUD wasn't even an option for you because of your UC...
Yeah I saw her videos on that. I asked my doctor and they said the same thing. No scientific proof. The ones that were ruled out contained a specific substance and honestly I don’t even remember what they were. 😬 But a hormonal IUD was an option for me. Only some specific pills were ruled out.
I also experienced this terrible pain when a copper iud was inserted AND it came out due to my menstrual cup. Birth control is SUCH A PAIN IN THE ASS (and the cervix apparently)
I can relate to some of this, because I've never wanted kids, but internally I thought kids were something you had to do. I knew I was willing to fight any authoritarian figure to avoid having to do this, but I didn't know you could just choose it, until I was told so. I was way younger than you (10 years give or take), so the realisation was nice, but not as relieving, as I had not come to a conscious conclusion that kids was a must-do. It was more of a social construct in my head. Beyond this, is a damn essay, so I hope the ones reading this will find it interesting. When it comes to birth control, I am demisexual. This is related because it's on the ace spectrum (You don't feel sexual attraction towards people), and quite literally translates to half-sexual. It means that you don't feel sexual attraction to someone before you have developed a bond with them first. So I was into my twenties when I found someone I wanted to do the devil's tango with. This is good, because I knew more (thanks YT). However, it as also bad because it meant I had a very small window of time between getting active, getting comfortable in the whole process and making a choice before I was too old to receive support fromt he youth places. We stuck to condoms, but then one day it hit me that it would cost money if I ever decided I wanted to try. This didn't really hit me the first time I was advised to considering a secondary method of contraception, because it was too much at once. As the poor lady I am, I decided to go ask if they would let me get the coil for free (I was a few months too old by then), because I might as well try it for free. They were very understanding and said yes. Because my uterus is tilted / flipped, the lady tried to get the thing in 3 times before she went to get the guy with the most expertise. It hurt like hell, but I focused on breathing so I could at least control the pain a little. I forgot to control how fast I was breathing, towards the end, so I ended up hyperventilating. I didn't pass out, but I couldn't feel my hands because they cramped up. My body seems to be taking the coil well, so it seems that pain was worth it. I don't want to get my tubes tied, because my body is very weak. I have a feeling a surgery like that would require a longer healing time for me than for the average person, so I'm not into that. I am also a very anxious person, who constantly doubts herself. I know I don't want kids, but I still have worries. Like, am I just so aware of how messed up I am that I know I wouldn't be an adequate parent? Am I scared I'll fuck up any potential child because of how shitty *my* parents were? Am I just aware I'll never have the extra energy to parent and am psychologically fooling myself to think I don't want kids go avoid the heartbreak from knowing I can't do the whole thing? Is it because I'm poor and mentally broken and secretly worry I'll always be in that situation? The list goes on and on. So it's easier to just potentially have 5 Kyleenas and let them eggs run out, you know? Thanks for listening, whoever read all of this. Til Katrin, jeg fant deg nettopp, så jeg sitter og plukker opp tilfeldige videoer YT foreslår meg av deg nå som jeg har abonnert. Pluss alle de nye da, for du virker som en super kul chick. [Insert "obligatory," but stupid Swede and Norwegian joke]
