HOW I ESCAPED MY NARCISSIST 

FOR THE PAST 6 YEARS SHES BEEN ACTING LIKE THIS AND IVE KNOWN HER FOR 10!! FRIENDSHIP BREAK UPS CAN BE SAD BUT THEY ARE ALSO NECESSARY TO GROW.. IF YOUR SELF AWARE AND SEE ANY OF THESE TRAITS IN YOURSELF.... JUST KNOW.

If she ever unalives herself please note it will never ever be your fault. Narcissist love using that line to keep themselves in control. It's truly sick.

Narcissists don’t unalive themselves. They can’t. They’re too perfect to themselves and think they’re just too awesome to ever do anything like that. Narcissists are the worst type.

This was so relatable. Narcissistic women are so common and you don’t realize you’re friends with one until it’s too late

My father is a narcissist and his ultimate weapon was being kind after the explosive fits. I’m the only one he is “afraid of” because I yelled just as loud. Called him out for being cruel to my mom and siblings. And never stopped, never let him get away with it. I am lucky because he was never violent to me, there is no right answer to escape and no matter what, dealing with narcissists can be traumatizing. I still have my father in my life, but my version of escaping was moving out as soon as I could. I went through hell trying to survive with 100 dollars at 19 but I was free. At 23 and created a privileged life, i have no regrets of the absolute pain and trauma and poverty I went through when I left. I am happy, I have supports and a home. I created myself a home. I found peace. Even at the times you feel the most trapped by someone you quite literally rely on, freedom is possible. You don’t have to stoop as low as I did, I got on his level until he realized he couldn’t win. I lost myself and my own kindness. But no matter what, you can heal and everyday is an opportunity to refresh. It’s not too late, you got this. We got this.

I dated a narcissist and one of the most outlandish lies he told was how he joined the military and became a military police officer and one day, he single-handedly took down a cartel boss who then turned around and murdered his whole family in Brazil. Then he told me he was working undercover for homeland security on a top secret operation to take down online pimps. 😂 this dude was a character. And if you didn’t accept his lies for truth, he would rip your head off

I was unfortunately raised by a narcissist. It’s been 12 years since she passed away and to this day I still question my self worth and my abilities to even be a good mother because of how I was raised. I hate it and I’m so sorry you dealt with this!

Whew. Narcissist 101. She's the definition of it

Friendship break ups don’t get talked about enough

omg, Paris, please! We need the next storytime about this! So sorry you had to deal with a person like her...

This video was so cathartic.😊🤩My ex had a lot of narcissistic traits. To put it simply, a narcissist does not care about anyone but themselves. They think they are the smartest person in the room, and think their thoughts and feelings are the most important in the world. They cannot see past their own perception of the world. and if you don't agree with them, they will spend all night trying to change your opinion for their own view. Add compulsive lying and a million other things. If you are dealing with someone like this, its most likely not worth it. You deserve better. Thanks Paris. I loved the video. 🥰

That’s called dark empathy , it’s when you give them the exact treatment they did you , you are naturally an empath , which is why she leached onto you , but balancing your empathy with light and dark energy you used your dark energy to free yourself back into the light where you’re comfortable . Good job Paris , high key you’re a spiritual warrior 🤟🏾

Yep! Textbook definition of a narcissist! One trait of a narcissist is being overly possessiveeee, and that's clearly how she was with you. It is not easy distancing yourself from a narcissist, especially if it's someone you've been close to for years or a family member. My best friend came to me once and told me about the way her mom used to treat her for years! I told her that I learned about narcissism in nursing school, and her mom sounds like a classic narcissist. Lo and behold, she found her mom is, in fact, a narcissist. She tries to distant herself from her mom's toxic behavior, but a lot of people tend to judge her because they don't understand what her mom puts her through. My friend always comes to me to rant and express how she's feeling about her mom because I'm the only one who seems to understand what she goes through while everyone else make her seem like she's the bad guy. I am glad you are out of that situation Paris because it's not easy to escape it ❤️

this made me feel so much more sane about a friendship i’ve experienced before. same exact energy

She’s literally one of those boys they show in movies in a high school health class about dating violence/abuse

I hope she gets the help she needs. Narcissistic personality disorder is something so serious that can ruin the relationships around you. I dont talk to my mother bc of her being like this

As someone who has a family member that is a narcissist it is literally IMPOSSIBLE to get through to them. They live in their own world and they expect you to go along with their bullsh*t, it's exhausting.

Girl as a narcissist survivor cause yes we do survive them after we get out of the relationship, it is a struggle. And my ex had every single quality and plenty honorable mentions. One of his honorable mentions does included making my pregnancy as lonely and miserable as possible at home due to the fact that he couldn’t one up me with that and I got so much attention from mine and his family. Anyone going through a narcissist relationship y’all as hard as it’s going to be please please please leave. Life will never be easy with them, they won’t completely change and when they do show signs of changing it’s only to wheel you back in and then it goes right back almost immediately. They won’t harm themselves trust me learned from therapy that ain’t no one a narcissist loves more than themselves. Sending love and prayer to everyone out there.

Anyone else 100% need the storytime series about this girl? 🙃

When you are ready to, please share the breaking point with us Paris. You have been so helpful with the range of experiences you share on your platform. As we say in Jamaica: good riddance to bad rubbish.

I had a “friend” like that. I finally got rid of her. First time I tried to break away, she sent me emails saying she was harming herself and how that makes me feel good? 🤦‍♀️ finally saw a change to give her crap back to her, and I did. Haven’t talked or seen her since. Life is better now. I’m so glad you are free from it. They come across as good at first, then it’s pure hell. You deserve better then that bs they do.

Thank you Paris for making this video! I cut off my narcissist ex-friend two years back and all you just mentioned is exactly what I had gone through!! Just to let you know, even if she DID try to unalive herself, it would NEVER be your fault! It is a tactic narcissist will use to guilt trip us; during my own relationship with my narcissist, when she had threatened to unalive herself, I told her that I’d call the police and send them to her address as I don’t take threats like that lightly, tell me why this girl said she was just “joking”? That’s when I knew enough was enough, I cut her off with no warning or sentiment and now I sleep better at night! It’s never easy, but girl peace and sound mind over chaos and disorder!

Paris you described my dad which makes so much sense from the trauma he put on me during the years to the point where I do not feel empathy for him at all at this point. I had to watch what I say because i didn't want my mom to come see me crying when she got back from work. He always got offended when I didn't buy him food when the food I buy isn't what he likes but it offends him.... when I'm crying or get mad he laughs at my face and calls me mentally and emotionally weak. I wish good luck to the people who are currently dealing with this type of person and remember what they do is not your fault in no way.

Girlll I feel you. I’ve had those irritating type friends before and I had to learn the hard way to cut them off. Some of my biggest pet peeves are people with inflated egos that think they’re better than everyone else, people who brag to impress others and live in a delusional fantasy world, one uppers, controlling people and phony friends who sneak diss a little too much/ are secretly jealous on the low. This girl would give me a headache every day. Oh and the unaliving threats? That’s sick smh I dealt with a dude who was a friend would threaten that same thing if I didn’t date him and it would stress me alllll the way out. Unhinged. Since dealing with these types of “friends” my tolerance has gone way down and I legit no longer want new friends because it’s exhausting. Sometimes you have to give them a taste of their own medicine to get rid of them sadly but I am glad you made it out 👏

I was holding my breath until she said Cameron was not a narcissistic thank god bc they’re relationship gave me hope when I went through my first real break up I remember thinking one day I will find love like that but I am so sorry you have to deal with a narcissist in any way shape or form not cool at all

My ex bf was a terrible Narcissist & gas-lighter!! God this is awful! I can totally relate. Glad you are raising awareness on this important topic♥️😘

I'm very convinced my friend is also a narcissist. She gaslights than hoovers, than gaslights. And also victimizing herself a LOT or makes herself look like this all amazing person by exaggerating everything and lieing as well. 🙄

My own niece is a narcissist and I only just realised that until now (she is a few years younger than me so we grew up together) I cut her off a while ago because of most of the points you made! 1. She would get jealous that I had other people in my life apart from her 2. Every time I told her my plans and goals she would first seem happy for me then immediately make me feel crap about it like it’s unachievable 3. She would always blame me for her self esteem being low 4. During my wedding she didn’t want to help or offer any help yet she was pestering me during my wedding events about taking my decorations and other things for her OWN wedding 5. I knew I couldn’t trust her at all but she always finds a way for you to be comfortable enough to tell her everything 6. Her mum (my sister) is also a narcissist and they would tag team all the time.. I also cut her off too

Been in this situation 7 months with my boyfriend, every time i tried to leave he threatened to kill himself with a knife in front of me and even while being outside, Ive called and filed reports to the police 3 times so he could get help and i still can’t get rid of him, no one seems to understand what that’s like so thank you for this ❤️ also.. the fact that everyone just tells you like : it’s not your problem if he kills himself, at this point you’re choosing to stay and basically calling you dumb for it is extremely discouraging and makes u feel alone 😢

My mom is a narcissist we had a rough upbringing to say the least 😅 complete chaos… anyway I sincerely believe narcissists are created from severe neglect and various problems as a child… it is definitely best to stay clear of their behavior but sad how they got this way

Wow, i dealt with a similar situation. The friend would constantly text about how she was gonna unalive herself and was constantly “saying her last goodbye” or always had an emergency and then the emergency would never be anything important. Those types of people prey on good people because they know you care enough to entertain their BS

i was nodding my head throughout this entire video because my EX-best friend was exactly like this, always made me feel like i was the problem but what i’ve realized is that you can grow from being around a narcissist but that person will continue to be how they are. it’s not easy getting out but once you do you feel so free and realize what they did was a reflection of how they feel about themselves! i’m glad you shared this with us paris and i’m happy you’re free from that toxicity💕 i been watching you for the past almost 7 years and you have taught me a lot🩷

I'm glad you were able to free yourself from that. It's so hard to deal with! Also sorry you had to be in that kind of mindset to do It must of been taxing.

In case anyone is dealing with this and they are threatening to kill themselves call the police tell them about the suicide threat and then contact their family. Take their ‘threat’ seriously and then just leave their life

I live by two rules when it comes to dealing with people: 1) Treat others how you’d want to be treated. BUT, always keep in mind 2) people teach you how they want/should be treated

Oh sooo relatable! I had a friend just like this! My mom will ask “is she gay?” because she was obsessed with me! She put her name as “My Forever ❤” in my phone, she would be mad if I had other friends or hung out without her, she called me probably 10-15 times a day! We were only friends for 2 years and it was THE WORST!!!

Giiiiiirl! I would’ve been ran. At my grown age I find myself being able to tolerate less and less from people. There’s a lot of mental illness going around. Stay safe 💛

I would be very interested to hear about how you acted like her to get rid of her. I've heard of greyrocking (basically not reacting to them ever), but this is a new one for me!

I have two narcissistic friends. They hate each other, unsurprisingly lol. One of them is like a master narcissist. When she tries to manipulate me, gaslight me, villainies me, etc etc. if I don’t react the way she wants me to she then will bring her 5yo daughter into it and be like “I don’t care how you treat me, but to hurt my little girl, how dare you” like ma’am, how dare I? You’re the one who tells me non-stop you wish your child was never born, but then when I don’t want to see YOU all of a sudden you’re texting me saying your daughter misses me and wants to see her auntie? (She refers to all of her friends as her kids aunt/uncle to further guilt trip) I have tried multiple times to get her to act like a regular person and not like she’s my nagging wife. Hilariously enough the reason I’m unable to fully get rid of her is because of our husbands.. our husbands are best friends so in order for them to stay friends that means I have to keep dealing with her bullshit

I am so sorry Paris that you had to go through with that and super glad that you finally got rid of her girly! I would totally love to see the process of how you got rid of her by acting like her and how creative you had to get to remove this toxic quote on quote "Friend".

omds the video only made me just realise that my best friend all throughout secondary school was a narcissist she would do literally everything you said😭all i knew was that the friendship was making me anxious and i’m glad i broke free🤣she’s made a few appearances since but i’m happy i had the strength to nip it in the bud it’s so good that you did the same😭🙌🏾

Paris is so kind for sharing this with us. It's so hard to tell when you're so close to a person like that. "Fish don't know what water is". My mom fits the role and I'm no contact.

Glad you cut the toxicity girl! Stay safe!!

That's how abusers keep you around when they're desperate. Disengage and don't let that BS wrap you back up. If she unalives her self she unalives herself. It's not your fault.

Oh my goodness Paris. I watched your storytimes every SINGLE DAY throughout middle school (2018-2020) and you were my absolute role model. I remember you being so real, funny, and charismatic I just loved you so much. But I forgot your channel name and I always wondered how you were doing and I never forgot about you. When this video popped up on my feed I was like ITS HER!!! I'm so glad I found you I really hope you see this comment. You look amazing and congratulations on the baby I'm so proud of you

we need those story times asap girlllll

i dated someone like this & i was miserable all the time. i knew it was bad when i realized that i was physically ill the entireeee time i was with them. the energy never lies smh

I knew this couldn’t be about your husband! Still got at least one amazing couple to root for. I’m glad you posted this, it’ll be helpful for so many people. Once you take away the narcissistic supply you’ve been giving someone like this, they don’t have a use for you anymore. I’m glad you got away.

I knew a narcissist online in the past who I’ve only known for a month or two and he already became obsessed with me and wanted to date me and marry me and started planning our future together and making promises and such even tho I didn’t say yes or showed interest that I wanted to spend my life with him 💀 it’s been like 2 years now since I cut him off and I’ve moved with my life.. but to this day he’s on a mission to ruin my life and the life of those who are close to me! he’s been going to witches and has been casting love spells on me to try to bring me back to him and to sabotage my relationships with my people and partners.... y’all cut ties with any narcissists you know as fast as you can and block them everywhere! These fuckers are CRAZY 😭

Girl you’re back I’m obsessed w u. Been obsessed since twelve I’m 22 ceo prolly bc of u I’m in love w you no one has high energy like u and whenever I’m down in life I always come back to u you heal me and you change my life every time god bless you so much

Hey Paris, I can totally relate, to be honest as I've dealt with a narcissistic family member and I've dealt with narcissists who I wasn't related to, by blood or by marriage and I feel you. Narcissism knows no bounds, just as it does not regardless of the narcissist being a male or a female. I've dealt with narcissists who have been both male and female and not only are they freaking scary and stressful besides toxic, they are so annoying, to include childish and immature. I would like to add that, there's nothing wrong with being 100% real honest and speaking our minds freely but with a narcissist, they will say the first thing that comes out of their mouth and are very self aware of what they say right before and as they are saying it but they don't care and it's all intentional and for attention. Narcissists are attention seekers and take being loud and obnoxious to a whole other level. Narcissists are all sociopaths and psychopaths and they're all equally sadistic. Thank you for always speaking the truth and for speaking up. Hang in there and I hope you're doing okay. I've been through years of counseling and therapy and the healing process never ends, as far as trauma is concerned. You eventually get to the point where you're strong enough to move forward in your life. It's a marathon, not a race in other words. Oh and another thing that is so annoying about narcissists is that, they're so needy and so co-dependent. It's possible that your former friend could be into women or both men and women but not all narcissists are gay or bisexual. It's understandable why one would think that about these narcissists, because they're so insecure, immature, and fully unsure of themselves and are constantly questioning themselves and who they are, as part of the lies, the manipulation, it's a vicious cycle of toxicity, for sure. Also it's so important to know and understand that, these narcissists rarely ever seek therapy and counseling because they don't register it in their mind that there's something wrong with them. To them, everyone else is the problem and they're flawless and perfect and can do no wrong.

Oouuu Paris the pregnant statement when she mentioned you can’t drink with her. When I found out I was pregnant with my son I had a friend that literally said “what about my(her) birthday” I immediately hung up on her and I never spoke to her again. My son is gonna be 5 this year. I’d tump up har bloodc…

Oh my God this is really giving me flashbacks to someone I was friends with from 6 years old to maybe 22 years old. (I'm 30 now.) She would never be happy for me when good things happened, she was always the victim, she was controlling over what I said, ate or did, she would constantly talk shit about EVERYONE even me, she isolated me from other friends constantly, I could never confront her about anything without her breaking down and acting like I hated her and her lashing out at me. I did all that I could to make her happy because she felt like a sister at the time but enough was enough and I had to cut her off. It really did feel like she was a jealous, crazy girlfriend. I think it all comes down to them just being unhappy with themselves and envious that you're in a better place and they want to simultaneously live vicariously through you and drag you down. I really pray that she's in a better head space. I still genuinely want the best for her but I just cannot be friends with her anymire.

Thank you for speaking on how confusing the dynamic can be with a narcissistic people. I thought my narc friend was in love with me too..just obsesssive.

PLEASEEE with the story time girl that is insane. I had a friend JUST like that and there was an add bonus of trauma bond😭

I’ve lived with a narcissist. Yikes. I’m sorry you’re going through that.

Girl she was a narc & an energy vampire whew!! 😂😂

Unfortunately I had a narcissisticly abusive mother but thankfully she realized how much she hurt me and is at least trying to change

“I did doja cats nails” ts was funny asl but the $50 raise took me out, cuz whaaaatttt?? 🤣🤣🤣🤣 she got her 6/mo review, got a .50 raise, an said “lemme just move the decimal over” 😂🤣😂🤣

Nobody should have to deal with a narcissist person I hope anyone dealing one safely gets free from them asap

Wow I pray for ppl to heal. To be accountable no matter what their trauma.

Its so freeing to finally be done with people like her. I always wonser why i didnt do it years ago.

Proud of you. Frfr.

This video was well needed as a reminder but on a side note…your makeup looks amazing😍

You said nails made me think about cosmoholic anonymous. Lol i wish i knew who you were talking about probably as do we all. God bless anyone who deals with a narcissistic person.

“THIS WORK looks like a LOT OF WORK” Paris please😭😭😭😭

I recently just had to rid myself of a friend that was like this recently. Its crazy how i was dealing with that and then you made a story time lol. Thanks for that! Im hoping i can hear what your breaking point wass

Had a friend like that. My last straw was she lied about her grandma having a heart attack so that she could sleep over cause her “parents weren’t home”. She was in her 20’s.

Whew! I was praying this wasn't about Cam before I watched this!! I'm glad you got rid if her

I relate to this video so much. I have had 2 friends like this now.

Thank you for sharing your story and experience, Paris. We would love to see your other video about your breaking point. Please do share when you’re ready to do so ❤️

My severe experience with multiple narcissists. In my life. People who GENUINELY have no remorse, lack comprehension for what they do to others or simply don't care, etc.... alot of what you said were red flags, esp the "lying, deflecting, overreacting or faking anything RATHER than simple communication". Also the "using people/gaslighting or making you feel bad when you've done nothing wrong", etc. So she has alot of the signs, however I've dealt with MUCH worse from these types of people, on many different levels. So even from this video I can't tell if she's a narcissist or just a very annoying/self-centered person. Only you can know from experience of the person or them being diagnosed with it. But I can say, it's better to just cut off ANYONE who drains you in any way or your intuition tells you to stay away from them. I've learned to NEVER ignore intuition. Not even alittle bit.

You explained How my Dad is Smh. It's hard mentally.

It was very difficult to get out of my relationship with a narcissist! Even when I broke up with them, in their head we were still together and the stalking and carrying on lasted about a good 5 months after the breakup 🤦🏾‍♀️

Working with a narcissist is hell too. Like I didn't even choose to know this person and I can't get rid of them unless I quit this job.

Yesss I would love to see a video on more detail about this narcissistic friend 😭this "friend" sounds a looooottttt like someone I cut off from my life a long time ago

Definitely want to hear how u got rid of her in details. The way u tells a story is so good

For anyone who needs to hear it someone close to you threatening suicide towards you is a form of emotional abuse. Also props to anyone whose had to survive being raised by a narcissist.

50 $ raise baffled me bc i quite Literlly save lives and i ain’t ever heard of that typa raise 😭😂

Paris yes do that storytime sis. It's entertaining yet helpful!

Im gonna tell you something my grandmother always told me. I refused to believe it for a long time but her accuracy was on point. When someone wants to die, they don’t tell anyone. They don’t want to deal with the drama, attention, and attempts to prevent it. The only people that publicize it are either A) manipulators and/or B) people that don’t actually want to die but want attention because they’re sad. She actually said this to me during a point in life where I would have considered myself suicidal and it pissed me off; but she was right. I wanted my circumstances to change, I wanted my pain to stop, I wanted people to be nice to me but I never actually wanted to die. Years later when I actually became suicidal and made several attempts I never spoke a word of it to anyone. So if anyone every threatens you with taking their life, know it’s not a threat but a bluff.. a Hail Mary if you will. Even if she really did do it, god did not put you on this earth to be responsible for someone else’s emotional issues. You were not made to have your life force drained trying to keep someone happy. Your purpose is way larger than that, and If god forbid she really tried to kill herself than her issues went way deeper than whatever was going on with your friendship. There was nothing you could have done.

if anyone ever threatens to unalive themselves just call the police on them and see how fast they switch up if they really arent about it.

imagine growing up with a mother like that , just to be 18 and now comprehending who she is and even her showing me through actions i still hoped and had talks with her but i dang near had to tell her what to say. she never apologized for anything and its soo much more i can say but shes is definitely a narcissist.

Woo Chile! I'm glad you escaped that one. I had a narc in my life and it took years to get free and they still pop up every now and then smh. Hate it!

I'm glad you broke free. And yes I would like to see/hear a Storytime about this situation. Oh, by the way, I broke free of my narc "friend" too.

I’m glad you got her out of your life, she needs to seek help real bad bc that sounds like a lot of different things but i am not a mental health professional anywho i wanna hear that story of everything you did to get her to leave you alone

Honestly so proud of you Paris that may have been hard but truly needed to be done you should also be proud of yourself

yes! i’d love to see another video on this bc i have a narcissist sibling & omg it’s not easy. && also can you do a video reacting to this years met gala looks?

She reminds me of a character from the Webtoon Marry My Husband. It’s crazy to think that people actually act like whole ass characters irl. 😭 Glad you got out safely Paris. Hope she never tries to claw her way back into your life. 🙏🏻

Do the part 2 parissss I wanna see how you got rid of her and what she did!

They don’t like being treated the way they treat others. But Paris, don’t allow this person back into your life. They will try. Don’t let their words or actions manipulate you again. Also, if this person ever does self harm again and says that you caused it. Don’t believe it. Because that’s how they are going to sneak back into your life. They will guilt trip you or blackmail you. Know in your heart and mind that you were not the cause of ANYTHING. They are responsible for their actions. Even if they say “you caused this” “you lead me to do this” don’t believe it. They are harming themselves to gain control over you. Don’t give them that power over you. Im sorry you had to endure this kind of relationship for so long. It’s very toxic. You don’t need that kind of energy in your life or around your family. I hope you overcome this. Overcome any unhealthy mindsets this person caused you and continue to move forward in life ❤

I am glad you got away from her---this is heartbreaking that your grandmother died. I lost my grandfather last year--and I can definitely relate. That's pretty heartless of this girl to be pissed that you're not the in the mood to go anywhere with her because your grandmother died.

Yeah ima need another story time cause GIRL😳

I'm close to a narcissist. His childhood was very traumatic, he has PTSD and he was in therapy for years. But some parts of him are just "broken beyond repair". It's hard to deal with someone like him. But I would never give up on him and most of the time he is a sweet person.

I know this is an old video queen but the birthday bit got me fr😂😂😭xx

Early Gang!!! Lol why are some people like that. It does make sense. Glad you not friends with her anymore. Definitely want to hear what was the breaking point for you!

Honestly, I feel like I’ve been dealing with a narcissist but I’m so discombobulated that I question if it was me because i have had moments where I cried at everything. Every time I tried to create a boundary, he would “solve” the issue. I.E. if I didnt want to talk to him for the moment and said ‘I just don’t want to talk right now’ he would ignore me for extended periods of time (multiple days) and say he was just giving me what I want. He would help me when I wouldn’t want to ask anybody and as soon as a disagreement came up and I pushed too far, he would run down the list of things he did for me to show me how he cares about me even though I told him over and over again I hate that.

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With dealing with a narrssist you cannot tell them you are leaving you just have to leave theirs no reasoning with them and they simply dont deserve an explanation.

I also had an ex turned friend that was a Narcissist-- and one of the clearest memories I have is when I went to get surgery and the day of my surgery she made it about herself and FREAKED out-- and I had to comfort HER for MY surgery hours before I was to go in.