Hey. I have three kids with special needs, including twin 5-year-olds, one with autism and one...we haven't figured him out yet. I haven't scream-cried alone in my car in almost a week. That's pretty good for me. Thank you for saying "It will be okay." It helps to hear that.
You’re not alone! Find your village cry when you need to and do something for YOU! That’s the hardest part taking care of yourself when you know your child needs you 24/7 ❤❤
I fell into a hole, I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, I got referred to a psychiatrist, who taught me the lightbulb moment of “I had forgotten myself”, and the importance of self-care, Me-Time, and finding something to do that was meaningful for myself, that was for me. Yes, I had two out of three boys diagnosed with autism, they will always have autism, but I have to let them move forward in their lives, just like I have to move forward in my life. So, working was out of the question, with two lots of therapies, paediatrician visits, a lot of full-on high needs attention when they get home from their special disability school at 3pm... so, I’ve gone back to university, online, part time, for those school hours just to be devoted to me and my interests. I’m basically re-designing My life, so that I can be there for them, and do something meaningful for myself. So, my message of the day is: we learn how to care for our kids, but we don’t learn how to care for ourselves, and sometimes we need some professional “prodding”. Go see a therapist, for those struggling with life. It helped me turn around, and enjoy my boys more, enjoy life more.
I had a rough few nights with my 3 yr. old and couldn't help but cry when I heard you say "its okay to cry". I'm constantly trying to hold it in because I don't want to admit or for him to see how much it breaks me down sometimes. Thanks for posting ❤
My brother was diagnosed with Autism around last December. I am trying to learn as much as I can about it so I can help him get better and also to know how to treat him better. Your channel has helped me immensely. Especially this video. :')❤
Thanks soooooo much for your transparency, honesty, unembarrasedly truth🙏🏽. My boy is 18, and I would have felt less alone if your vlogs were around when he was younger. Amen to this video, I am just now taking up self care routines after years of erasing my needs for the family.s needs. I’m an American mom raising Franco-American son in Paris, who was diagnosed at 15....😥! Your vlogs in English are my safe havens. If you visit Paris with Dylan, let me know! Hugs to you, T!
Catherine Marcha-Bisson hey there thank you so much for your lovely comment. Well done you! There was hardly any support 18 years ago. I’m so pleased to hear you are finally taking the much needed time to look after you! Will def look you up if we come to Paris. Hugs to you! Xox
I am beyond grateful I stumbled across your channel. This video hit me hard. I sometimes find myself crying and Feeling defeated at times, and I feel so bad taking a mommy break. Because I also feel overwhelmed with all the love my little boy asks from me as well. He has taught me so much and I am still learning. Thank you for sharing with us. 🙏 I look forward to your next video 🥰
I'm a mom of a 3 year old little boy on the spectrum. THANK YOU for sharing your journey. your videos inspire me and give me hope. sending all of our love.♥️
Our son was diagnosed at 18 months and got his therapies a month later because my wife was so persistent and driven! He is thriving and amazes us everyday, whether its a rough day or the best day. Thank u so much for your videos and your experience.
Thank you so much for sharing. This is so inspiring. I have a 9 yr old daughter with Autism and adhd and some days I feel so unbelievably overwhelmed and down! But this has helped a lot. To see others who know what I’m going through and who handle it well is giving me hope! Thank you for your channel, it’s really a blessing. Ps I’m also a new subscriber 😃❤️
Tara . Me too im an autism mom struggling between working part time and being autism mom to an amazing boy . Just want to say thank you and i love you! And thanks for being here !!
This video was posted some time ago but has been a huge relief for me. I felt like I was struggling alone. I’m a single mom and my son is 3 and severely autistic. He’s so lovely and loving but the outbursts and frustration have me next to tears almost every day.
Thank you so much for creating this channel. I am an autism mom as well and it is so wonderful to know that I’m we’re not alone. It’s been a journey with lots of ups and downs and as hard as it may be sometimes, I wouldn’t change a single hair on his head. Thank you and your lovely little family for sharing all of your battles and victories. ❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing. ❤️ All of these things I have been struggling with. My husband is in the US Army and deployed and my 6 year old with Autism has been struggling, who am I kidding, I am struggling. But love your videos and you are an inspiration. Thank you, I feel hopeful.
Brittany Vosika sending you so much love. Your doing an awesome job. So hard for you that your husband is away. I hope you have a support network around you xo
You are such an inspiration for me, I needed this video so much. I need to find time for myself, I have my husband but We don’t have family around to help. We are from Venezuela and we live in the UK. We find hard to find time for us as a couple or just time for me. I will take your advice and plan a holiday for myself which is quite hard as you said we just think of our little one. But I have to try your advice and repeat to myself “he is going to be okay”. I will try to find information about respite as that will really help us. Thank you again. :)
Andrea Ollarves hey there. He really will be ok. And as long as you have support for him and you do a little picture story line of how many days you are going to be gone and when you coming back.And when you come back on that day put a little present down so they get excited. It will do you the world of good xox
Coming Home to Autism that is a good idea, thanks. My husband went to Madrid for couple of days and my son kept asking “Daddy coming?” And I didn’t know a best way to how to explain when was he coming. I told him “ he is in the airplane” and “daddy coming soon” as my son had travel by airplane before so just trying to use something that makes sense for him. But I will try an story line. My husband got a present for him when he came back and he was so excited. Thanks.
I can’t believe I was reminded of this video today after 3 years. I needed it.I’m finally going away by myself next Sunday for a week! I’m so nervous but excited too! So glad to watch this video again and at this time! ❤
Tara you are a wonderfully therapeutic presence, thank you so much for sharing your journey and your story. Your candidness and down to earth approach is so inspiring to so many people. I'm a person on the spectrum working to become a speech therapist, and I'm excited to work with parents like you and refer new parents of children with autism to your channel! It's such an amazing resource, you're on the directory of videos I refer people to all the time!
I love your videos. Thank you for sharing so much. It really helps moms that are desperately trying to find someone to relate to. My favorite thing about technology.
It's a daily struggle. You won't get it right everyday or even every hour. Cry, make mistakes, apologize. Take time alone whenever you can It's necessary parents. It's natural to say why, and I wish I wish but you are where you are your child will always be what they are. Hard to accept, letting go of what is normal and acceptable and routine and perfect and what a child should be doing is A REQUIREMENT❤ and keeping up with people that understand and can relate is vital and keeps the disappointment at bay. One minute at a time❤ we will be okay and our children will be too✨️
This has made me feel so much better, there has been times when iv had those thoughts about normal kids and then sent myself on a massive guilt trip for it.
I think the most important thing about this whole journey is to be honest with yourself just because you have feelings or thoughts it doesn’t mean it’s bad or you should feel guilty about it in fact it’s all part of acceptance and that’s what we’re all striving for is acceptance for our children x
Thank you Tara. I often cry while watching your videos. In a similar situation. I’m in Canada and suddenly feel like have found a friend that’s helping me out. Thank you again for everything you share here 💜
oh sweetheart thats so hard. is there anyone who can help? are their services in your area that can help? I didnt have any help but with my best friend Ayan who also as a son with ASD we helped each other out even for an hour. meet up with local familes in the same boat can give such relief .. sending you love
It is true that we should have some friends who are on the same page as we are but as for me I live in Finland and my son was recently diagnosed and it felt like my whole life changed. I don’t know anyone who is in Finland who has an autistic child that I can chat with. But I found this channel and another channel called live on purposes tv on RU-vid and these channel really helped me to cope with the stress and anxiety that I was having. Am very thankful that I found them .
Love this video. Helped me so much . There’s not a day where I don’t come back and replay one of your videos . I think I’ve watched this video 50 times now
Thank you for your response.. It means a lot for me.. May i ask you something if you know of course : have you ever heard of the son rise program? See, here in Greece it is very difficult for our Kids..
My son wouldn’t wear wellies and coat at some point and we also live in England🙈 I am thankful we are over it 😊 I think part of why I love your videos is that I actually find your voice very soothing and calming so I am looking forward to the meditation video. Take care Xx
Thank you for sharing this video! I feel the same , having this challenges with my son also is not easy...through your videos im learning a lot! Self care is essential so i can take care of my family as well and be the best mom for them
I understand the shoe thing, my little girl wore shoes until one day when she was about 5 she just refused and had a complete meltdown if you put any shoes anywhere near her. It took us a year of OT and de-sensitisation to finally get her to wear a pair of shoes. We still have no idea why and probably never will as she still doesn't communicate.
I always say these same thing to my Jack "I adore you". He's 4 and was diagnosed in January. As difficult as he can be, he's perfectly himself and I would never change him either. ❤❤❤❤
I just ran through your channel and I am so happy to see other people go through my same day routine and your tips are spot on thank you from Africa Libya
My daughter has been diagnosed aged 7 as a level 1 autistic 18 months ago. 9 months after our move to the Netherlands. We are currently home schooling which is not fun; many meltdowns. I am reading this after just being kicked by my daughter on purpose going into melt down. I fully agree with what your saying in this video. thanks
Hey,, just to say I've learned so much from you, just by watching your video. Aye, I sense a very close and loving bond you have with Dylan and that you will not change Dylan for the world and who can blame you for that? And that Dylan, too, loves you very much indeed in return, and again who can blame Dylan for that too! You are one incredibly amazing devoted mum! PTGL Amen Amen!
Hi Tara, I think I’ve only commented once before on Dylan’s birthday video (how was his big day? I hope he had fun 🙂) my son’s gonna 5 in June and we are waiting for an assessment for ASD. The school psychologist thinks he might be on the spectrum. Yusuf always exhibited some signs but to my limited knowledge at the time he was under 2 I never thought they were something alarming, I always thought every child is unique and that’s his way. Of course being an only child and not having another one to compare him to was another reason maybe.. anyway I just wanted to say thank you to you and your lovely family 💞 it helps a lot seeing you and how you approach things. And yes I agree with you our little ones are amazing just the way they are. I know you have a lot on your plate already but it would be great if there’s a Facebook group page for your followers, this way we could make an online community and share our experiences and support each other too.
Om Yusuf hey there that’s such a great idea. I do have a Facebook group called you guessed it “ coming home to autism” I just let my followers know that it is actually there! 🥰
I am a dad and I suspect that my child has autism. I love him so so much. He is turning 2 in December. I'm honestly worried and overwhelmed. I just want to say that your videos have been a great help. Thank you!
It's so had for me, I have cardiomyopathy only 25 to 30% of my heart work, my son just got diagnosed with the spectrum I was devastated 😭 even though I'm married I don't have any help, I try to hide my feeling they say ask for help but anytime I do is a issue so I do everything by my self. Only with the strength of God I get through everything.
so helpful your video thank you so much for sharing xx I am struggling at the moment my little has autism & cerebral palsy and this video has helped me a lot thank you xx
As a single mom to non verbale. I break down every other day. Its scary to be alone. Sometimes it scares me.. what if something happens to me... he cant even call for help. He would literaly die of hunger.
Will you by chance be writing another book as we follow the adventures and continuing evolution of your family? Of you as a parent? Of Dylan as he grows older?
Pitty my wife has not any friend like you who feels her and help her! She struggles so much with my sons autism issue! Sometimes she cries sometimes she is dissapointed! Sometimes she hates other people who have such a normal life! The worst thing is not my sons autism but to see that she is sad !
Thank you for sharing 😊. I just wanted to ask, what techniques do you use with Dylan for regulating his emotions? Things seem so hard right now. Everything with Dylan is a meltdown, triggers huge anxiety. Even his safe and familiar places are triggering these responses. His aggression has increased and it just feels we can’t do anything or go anywhere anymore with him or as a family. He frustrates me so much and I get so cross with him. I get cross with autism, SPD and PDA. My partner and I are arguing all the time, always frustrated with each other. It’s just a mess x
hey there i feel you i really do. In my last vidoes i talk about what i do to help dylans anxieties. Its tough and not easy hormones do make it a lot harder. You really need to take care of you and your relationship. its so hard i do get it .. getting out with dylan is so hard as well sometimes we battle through but now i am also looking for a one to one career to come to the house once on a saturday morning so we ( myself andrew and the two little ones ) can do some "normal family" activies. it wont always be this way. what age is your son? x
When I change my son's diet he stopped hand flapping runding around staiming champing on bett he sleep like anormal He stark say mama papa water and some litell words iam so happy of that I can't wait when he talk he's 2 year now he can brush his teeth he make more deference just in 3 months
I know it may seem that way but when I had dylan we had nothing. I had no family around me and I had no money. That’s why I say if you can connect with a mama who has a child on the spectrum too like my beautiful friend Ayan who I got talking too at a specialist play Center . I’m not sure which country you are in but is there any government support? Or local special needs charities ? We have one here where mums and dads who have children who have grown up and are on the spectrum donate an hour or two of their time to come and help others ? Maybe you could look in to this? Sending hugs your doing an amazing job it’s not easy I know. X
