How I Surgically Enhanced My Body | Unpacked with Relebogile Mabotja - Episode 103 | Season 3 

that true

Very true.

Lord help us...A harsh world this is.. insecurities from bullying, parental neglect, lack of family love & affection... yoh!

I agree with your statement. My mom gave me daily affirmations as to how beautiful I am and smart & capable of anything. Those words stuck with me to this day...never once did I doubt anything she said even when my weight fluctuated during my undergrad studies. You really need to start early to encourage kids. Not sure if I would be so confident now if my mom hadn't made me feel like I was perfectly created in her eyes.

We need to learn to keep our opinions about other people’s bodies/skin colour to ourselves. And instil this principle to the minds of young rising generations who look up to us; that’s where they get the influence of bullying, body shaming and colourism.

So true not only in SA but in Africa on general

If you actual check , those body types are not common, maybe a bit more common than other countries but not "common".

Very true. I didn't know she had a bbl. Like these bodies are so common. My sister us built like this and every other woman in my life.

True hey

Am Kenyan and I admire South African women ,,like youalll are naturals even the teenagers!

Very true

So true,I agree

Yes it’s like a psychology session

So true in the 70s 80s our parents drilled it into our heads that black is beautiful and we never looked back. I did it for my youngest daughter and I got her a black doll, I don't regret. Good luck ladies.

@@xoliswanengudza5877 you’re lucky. Growing up my mother used to tell me that I don’t have good hair and that she regrets giving birth to me. My father is biracial and I came out with my mothers hair type and darker skin tone but my fathers face. My father wasn’t in my life growing up and it’s another reason she took her anger out on me. She hated my father and she hated that I wasn’t the ‘mixed’ child that she dreamed of having.

So annoying right?!🙄I hate it when black people do that.

We get her point yazi 😀

As if English confirms their intelligence....and it's always black people bashing other black people for not being fluent....

Nothing wrong with her English perhaps the accent perhaps y’all want her to twang

It’s funny because you’re complaining about English and typing in English What a contradiction 😹💔

She’s amazing. I can’t get used to it ♥️

Thank you!

Plppllpp

I'm so sorry hey.

Sorry . It's well Sending love and light.

Condolences to you and your family. I would like it BBL but am terrified. It's dangerous, the most dangerous cosmetic procedure I can't risk it. Rather stay with my shwapha...🤧

@Kokiinieze.r it's the most dangerous cosmetic procedure in terms of the risks associated. There's a lot of the main veins that go to heart located in your bum and because they're operating on so many parts at once the recovery isn't easy. The use your own fat and if that fat dies inside you before it attaches back into the new area things are messed up. The biggest risk is the veins or arteries and the fact people usually travel very soon after getting it done. They are at risk of blood clots etc. Do your research. I'm not trying to scare you. I may not have the medical language and I'm trying to keep my comment accessible but if you just look at some BBC interview and look at the statistics from independent sources you will find out. It is a fact that this is the most dangerous procedure though. And most people have to do more than 1 round because after you get the surgery if you want to lose weight we'll your bum loses some and also if the fat was burned by your body and didn't attach properly to the other fat cells already existing then you have to go back to try and get it bigger and get the shape better. The risk increases.

@@myspiritualsafari8814 lol shwapha lol you killed me

She is just amazing hey. Extremely smart lady.

She's one of thee best 👌🔥I LOVE HER♥️

Yes she is perfect as the host of this show nyan nyan

Truly one of the reasons why I enjoy watching/listening her interviews.

Its ouk to admit that society plays a huge role in our self esteem. It does. You were not confident because in the eyes of society you were not beautiful, but now that people say you are beautiful you feel confident. Its all about what people say about us, we can deny it all we want but its true. There is nothing like improving your looks for you, we always improve our looks for people.

@@melmel7011 💯 No matter how much we want to claim it's for us, we were influenced by other people to think there's something wrong in the first place

758 In this area code, spaced teeth is considered beautiful. A woman with spaced upper central incisors is a much sort after woman.

Hallelujah, tell them sister, what He thinks is all that matters and He thinks I am to die for

@@gugudladla1046 yes my lady...cheers

Amen. And then the physical glow also follows.

Accepting Jesus u accept urself who u r

I honestly feel like loving and accepting yourself isn’t realistic for most of us. The environment we grew up and still live in… it’s much easier said than done

I honestly get what you going through with the boobs, given the chance and finance I would remove mine.....they heavy and bras don't last long

@@michellemantsoko2561 I hear there are public hospitals who do it for free. Bara is one of them I think. Do your research

@@katlin1615 Only if you can prove that they're making your life difficult, eg, chronic back pain etc

@@Yassmiinn. yes ma'am its only for medical reasons... thanks for additional information!

She's sooooo purrrrrfect...am jealous kkkk

She knows her stuff and the execution is simply flawless

Smooth flowing....👌🏻

Khanyi Mbau

@@tshephangnelly960 I used to admire her but with lighting and make up she looks good. Without that you can see her skin isnt good

Mandisa mputsang her skin is great

@@kwenzekilempofu9575 her knees are dark though. And you've never seen her in real life, without make up.

I think skin bleaching is as much addictive as any other cosmetic surgery so that's why you find people over doing it in such a way that it looks weird 🤔 so I think if you do it from a professional it would be ok but they also can't control what you do outside of their counsel 🤔

My mom too. Me2 I don't put makeup and am also teaching my daughter that.

Lol I am sorry I was going to laugh 😂

@@obakengmothokoa918 😂😂😂

It was more than once tho

That was my face experession 2

I also didn't see that one coming, MJ was PALE...

She really is. I don't doubt that a lot of preparation and hardwork goes into her interviews to make it look this effortless.

Underated comment. I actually love tht Rele asked how ws ur upbringing like . Parents play a major role shame. Um so glad ur mama did her part. Also learning to be intentional abt how l raise my kids

Complimented myself mna and I've always been the babes with the most confidence. Noba bangandibuza do I eat na

@@nangafubesi2154 hahahaha my kinda woman. To be honest um super insecure but some days you gotta be ur own cheerleader and do the Naomi Campbell walk. Life is too short to live it in a shell. Love your comment will also be intentional abt hyping myself🤣

You have the best mom

That's what I'm practicing with my daughter, she's chubby naturally like since she was born so I want her to love her body the way she is and she's a beautiful caramel skin (like her mama) It took me 25 years to love the body I was in..being a mom really helped me love the body I have

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I laughed too I was going to burst out laughing if I was sitting there 😂 🤣

I'd also laugh shame

For us who know Miss XO hayi shame we get her, we relate with her, nobody is perfect. What the lady said is funny even she smiled and saw everyone’s response, even our response.

I laughed so hard 🤣🤣🤣

I spend too much time here as well

Data eaka ea fela hle

Agreed. It damages a child's mind..

I agree, it's so damaging. Even comparing looks, saying one is prettier than the other .

Tell me about it 😪 my mom's friend constantly comparing my complexion with my sister's

@@ronicakuntes9562 like honestly some comments are unnecessary , our parents wow

Your mom ? Sorry 😢

Keep it up girl! ❤

Thank you for this comment. Same applies for people being accused of being “desperate “ .. it’s a natural human emotion

True. And insecurity is not reserved for just women. We all go through it, men, women, black, white, wealthy and poor

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I love your comment ❤️ insecurities should not be weaponized against anyone, it's a normal feeling that can go away with just reassurance from ourselves and other people. Being kind to others is important since insecurities are often triggered by what someone else said

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25:26 😂😂😂

@@SuburbanZulu 🤣🤣🤣🤣

That's not how a woman as old as her should behave so disgusting

@@SuburbanZulu i can't stop replaying this, she killed me

@@tondidiamond8743 true but its so funny

Pls English is not the African language they forced it on us. Why don't the English or white people learn our language instead. She spoke better English than some English people.

@African Royalty that's the point I'm trying to highlight. That she's bright and that this foreign language that was thrust upon us is not a defining factor to intelligence

That's how she speaks

@@FirstLadyG 💯🙌

@@FirstLadyG Lol she spoke better English than most English people? Haaa! Amanga.

Mina even now they still have comments with me being tall and I'm like the fact that I'm tall it's non of your business

I doubt it’s about proving a point, it’s more about how you feel in your skin. If getting a BBL will make you happy then so be it.

@@Orahh_xYou are absolutely right.

@@f2v179 Basile! You just have to set boundaries

I also think bathing everyday is a sign of insecurity. Going under the knife is goin under the knife. Do not link it to anything

@@pointa2b388 hahah bathing?? You could have used another analogy fam

@PointA2B Daily bathing of some sort is necessary to avoid odors, infections and germs. Now that is the reason we bath everyday. I think You are confusing the two all in the name of trying to be defensive. Going under the knife you are opening room for those infections. Nothing wrong about what any of beautiful ladies did though, just saying.

Girl, honestly nobody cares. Surgery isn't a problem honestly, if it makes people happy let them be, so what if they have insecurities

Well we all have insecurities really, for some it’s physical, some it’s psychological My mantra is, as long as nobody dies, do what makes you happy

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣her facial expressions are killing me

Laugh at what?

Ey that's me🤣

She wants to laugh and her makeup! Ayifani ne skin tone 😅

Oh she’s gorgeous xoli

I'm pretty sure you mean the lady in the black dress. Xoli.

@@Yassmiinn. No dear, she does not. She clearly said the lady in red and there are 48 ppl who agree with her

The woman in red, I also feel that way

Emotions aside the lady in red STRUGGLED to express herself. She couldn't even construct a sentence properly. Vernacular would hv been better for her. Asiyekeni ukuqakazela into engekho

@@gush3645 that’s your opinion. I understood her perfectly.

If Khanyi achieved the pale light skin, so can she. All it requires is money and good products

@@lungilekhuzwayo8516 😂😂😂

Haaa I'm also shocked. Michael Jackson phoo. Hayi kunzima emhlabeni.

i wouldn't be able to keep a straight face

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Xoli sometimes hey

I can imagine how Xoli feels having to hold that laugh 🤣😂

Xoli's face killed me🤣🤣🤣🤣

Her face? Priceless😭😭😭

@@ongeziwecokoto3043 🤣🤣🤣

How did you lose 30kg sis? And how long did it take you?

@@mphomohlabula8164 hi sis. I got a personal trainer at Virgin Active train 4 times a week and I started eating healthier( no diets! just eating more fruits and veg, less junk and cut out fizzy drinks and less alcohol) and gradually lost weight over the course of 1 year it actually took me 13 months in total. I refused to rush the process. And i till this day have a personal trainer & eat healthy. Slow and steady especially if you looking to lose alot of weight❤ Enjoy the process❤

@@mphomohlabula8164 also you dont need a trainer, i got one cause I needed the accountability. You can walk or even jog or even find outdoor bootcamps in your area and join. Just stay active

I also perceived Xoli as petite, I am surprised to find that she's actually big boned.

As a child was bullied for having a big bum and small waist. Even now I prefer loose clothes because I just don’t want to draw attention to myself.

@@nondumisobuthelezi3964 she's always said on her videos that she's big boned.

But most of the time she said it in her videos that she is big boned, since from childhood. Unless you didn't pay attention to what she said.

@@Yassmiinn. she always said it in some if not most of her videos.

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Thanks for saying that Nothando. It's sad

Thank you for watching and commenting!

Thank you

They go under the knife and come sell us waist trainers and tea's!

@@nellyburu7322 😅😅😅true story

I'm definitely doing it too

That is true.

Are you a South African?

😂 😂 😂 😂

She wanted to bust 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂Gosh Yoh literally took words out of my mouth 😂😂😂

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She wanted to say 'Heyy please what's your P'🤣

@@ntokozozulu4284 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Yeah I agree.... she was trying to sound smart you know🥲

Or narcissistic 💅🏾

She lied😏

She lied😏

🤣🤣Zpejeje

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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Neither am I however she looks good now I think she must just maintain the complexion

You can use local anaesthetic (cream) to numb the area to avoid the pain.

@@phathyladyb4578 it's really just a shortcut from gym. That's the exact reason I'd do it.

Those who knew her body before would see the difference but if you never did you wouldn't.

@@RayOfLetsatsi true.

@@RayOfLetsatsi I know her body from before and I still look at the before and after namanje.

@@RayOfLetsatsi my point is not that there is no change but that because she didn't do too much it looks like she just went to gym unlike most BBLs we see where you can tell even if you don't know the person before ukuthi they did something to their body. Hers looks 100% natural. That's my point not ukuthi there is no difference at all.

I didn't even find it funny, just weird and shocking really.

It made me sad, looks like she doesn't love herself enough, even though she's trying to convince everyone that she loves herself.😓

I do believe that they are confident now since they both got what they want or atleast the lady in black did and the other lady can be considered confident that before her skin lightening journey 🤔 maybe she'll be more confident when she's MJ complexion level but I'm more worried about her because she actually said 'It's never enough' which shows signs a possibility of addiction 🤔

That could be one factor, but there’s beauty standards marketed to women as well, beauty is currency in our society.

As a dark skinned person it’s not as easy as this, most dark skinned people if not all, had to know more or “develop a personality” because they were not chosen from the start. And it’s not as easy as dating, it’s in class, not being the first option for any team, nobody wanting to play with you etc, you get older then see how people ignore you like you don’t exist so you send your lighter friend to go order for you, you see the differences in how you are treated. conversations were your beauty is centred around being “dark skinned” whereas everyone else is just beautiful. Why must a dark skinned person say something smart before people notice them? You being attracted to dark women does nothing for the person because they are still existing within a world where they are constantly reminded their inferior.

@@irenemosasejake89You make it sound like a disease. I'm trying to say it's a strength. Bullying is a problem, but it happens regardless of how you look. I speak from experience, avoiding people my own age when I was younger allowed me to focus on my education, which I'm grateful for. It is a strength, I'm saying natural hair, dark skin is the first thing that attracts me to a woman. Once I've approached her it's all down to chemistry. I'm not basing my love on a phenotype, it takes more than being attracted to each other on a superficial level. Irene, I'm sorry people treat you poorly. I'm sure you're far more interesting than them after having to develop a personality and knowledge.

True. Nami I am light but I am aware that the bulling would have been worse if I was dark. I am not surprised that I come from Limpopo a province where a lot of women bleach.

Hahahaha your comment just made my day. True in high school noone goes skot free oneway or the other you get teased for something. So its up to you how you take it and all

Hahahaha your comment just made my day. True in high school noone goes skot free oneway or the other you get teased for something. So its up to you how you take it and all

The abused become abusers. How we treat other people is the reflection of how we were treated, how we feel inside. Belittling Awelani wasnt on.

We r realy confused believing that being beautiful u need a lighting skinn

@Dorothy Lerato I asking myself because she hate herself that much for being block what as she going to do if she's gonna have kids and turn up black like her original skin? Will she also bleach them? This low esteem thing and self hate is on high level.

Some black people hate themselves for being black now u have to go to the graveyard an explain why u look the way u look because u know the ancestors won't recognize u,such a shame or maybe she won't have kids at all and I think she hated her father for being dark.

Me too hey, good to be back.

Same girl. Welcome backb

@@jaydee6178 welcome back babe

@@kgalalelolala6963 welcome back to you babe.