How I survived middle school mean girls 

There is a woman who once told her friend “don’t let your hurt childhood self make your grown up decisions”. And those are words to live by

This “just ignore it” stuff also primes little girls for assault. It’s literally the same arguments. Got assaulted? What were you wearing? Getting bullied? What are you wearing? “Just tell them no!” Same thing there. Surely it’s something YOU’RE doing. I’m telling ya, we get girls convinced their suffering is their fault REAL early.

I really hate how much we've stigmatized "snitching". People make it seem like a bad thing to speak out against something that's wrong.

"Just ignore it" was the worst advice I got as a kid. That didn't result into the bullies getting bored, like the adults claimed, but the bullies getting more creative and also more aggressive. The attacks got worse because when "you don't achieve something in the first try, you try something else", right? To this day I don't know what I would say to my younger self. I have no advice because I still have no clue what would have stopped this nightmare. But what I learned is: "don't believe them. YOU are NOT the problem. And even when it doesn't feel like it now, but things will change. Keep your kindness, because some day there will be people who appreciate you for this " and at least for me, when school was over, this nightmare was over too.

Especially when it comes to teachers, "Just ignore it" actually means, "we don't want to be bothered with your problems."

"Just ignore it." That is actually the dumbest thing a teacher could say to a student, ESPECIALLY regarding the circumstances mentioned in this video

Bullies: *Exist* Teacher: *I’m a pretend I didn’t see that* Victim: *Rightfully defends self* Teacher: *Now you have officially carried it too far buddy* 💔

As a teaching assistant, I’d never tell a kid “just ignore it”. I always tell bullies to stop what they’re doing and if they chose not to stop, I’d send them to the office.

“Stop bullying your friends and apologise.” *And that was when she yoinked the final straw.*

“Just ignore it” makes my blood boil. I’ve been told that so many times, even with physical bullying.

Adults at school : *tell me if you get bullied* Also Adults : *TATTLETALE , STITCH*

“Just ignore it” makes the bullies try harder, because “if you want to achieve something, you won’t give up first try.”

i wish we were friends in 6th grade bc 6th grade me wouldve ABSOLUTELY thrown hands oh my god ?? middle schoolers are the worst im so sorry (and it looks like the teachers arent any better)

This is something everyone needs to learn, especially adults: ignoring doesn’t do shit. It makes it worse because it gives the false impression that bullying is okay, because no one does anything about it. I was bullied my entire life in public school, not an exaggeration, and it only stopped when I stood up for myself and told them to stop, and when I gained confidence out of spite. Then when I graduated high school I was free. I just wish I had the strength to do it sooner than the very end of school.

I was bullied a lot in school but it eventually got too far. This one kid had found out about my home life and sexuality so he used it to make rude jokes about me. He would say things like “You’re gay, you’re going to hell!” Or “she doesn’t know what a mom is!”. I was really upset because it was a constant thing and I was scared that no one would believe me about it. Thankfully, the nice administrators heard me and actually did something about it. But I had always been upset about the jokes because I felt like my mother’s absence was my fault and his joking about it didn’t help, which made me dread school. It’s much better now though :). Thank you for speaking up about bullying, illy! It’s important to know and bring attention to!

Back in school I was bullied relentlessly for my red hair. Nobody will read this or care because I've said this on several places without an audience, as though they know and feel guilty or hear these things and think it was fine. The anti ginger thing became an international issue so I wasn't an odd stick in the pile for this one. There was a red haired solidarity happening, so these shared experiences led to lasting friendships. Some of the stuff that happened would get people in prison. I was thrown in to a fire, lit on fire, beaten at the back of the school and had my stuff taken, had my clothes torn off me to see if the curtains matched the carpet, secsually assaulted, pushed down stairs, smashed in to poles for no reason other than people thought I was subhuman and my existence was an offence to them. Each year there was this Kick a Ginger Day and EVERYONE GOT IN ON IT. The news asked if it was okay to violently target a group of people for their physical differences **as though that hasn't been a topic of contention in the world for the last two centuries**. The teachers told me it was my fault for having red hair and the internet told me it was fine because I was a white dude so it wasn't the same thing and it was funny and - oh look, this isolated red haired kid also thinks it's funny so that must be the universal truth among all red haired people. Why should the world act like it matters when the less than 1% of the population that has red hair has a grievance against the vast majority of people that don't and ensure that all red haired people are violently reminded of that because of a solid episode of South Park where the CREATORS DIDN'T EVEN APOLOGISE FOR WHAT THEY DID even knowing what it did to the world? The advice was to just let it happen because it's funny to everyone else, and the way I felt about it didn't matter at all because I didn't fit the demographic of an affected target. Oh, and people say that red haired girls are hot and that means my experiences don't matter because all that talk about anti ginger rhetoric wasn't actually about red haired people because the red haired girls being objectified for their physical differences was somehow meaningful to invalidating the topic. Some of those teachers laughed at me while they watched these things happen. There were some teachers I was on good terms with, but others took that unnecessary cruelty all the way to their position as individuals who are meant to be the responsible party among children in a societal microcosm. The times I fought back meant I was the one to get in to trouble but in my case, the bullying never stopped, as the other kids were bigger and stronger so my little munchkin fists never made a lasting impact. Muscle development was a rich kid thing, so I never had that opportunity to defend myself properly and make a lasting impact on the people that hurt me. Do you want to know why it all stopped? Some kid in the States was hospitalised by his bullies and took them to court for hate crimes and won. Which means the ONLY reason it stopped wasn't because people wanted to be compassionate. It was because nobody wanted to be known to have commenced or conducted a hate crime. It was more important to look accepting than it was to be accepting and that still annoys me to this day, and nobody wants to remember that part of recent history because it was a grim reminder that the only thing keeping us from tearing each other to piecesis the threat of liability or social acceptance.

I can relate to this. I honestly think that telling a kid to “just ignore it” when it comes to bullying is not just bad advice, it’s PSYCHOLOGICALLY DAMAGING advice. I got told for 3 years straight through primary (I’m British) school to “just ignore it” and thanks to the teachers’ incompetence, I stopped going to adults for help and I still struggle to ask for help even as a young adult for things that aren’t related to bullying. Edit: I also suffer with severe social anxiety and can’t walk in a room full of people without thinking I’m going to get mentally hurt.

Yea, if more people took responsibility for their actions everything would be so much better haha

This hit me hard. This was exactly my experience in middle school in the 80s, but with added physical violence. I'm angry about it to this day -- not nearly as much towards the bullies, but to the adults that let it happen. Not only would they ignore it, and tell you to, but they would penalize both the victim and perpetrator. They sent the message that authority figures were useless. The lesson I learned was that if someone hits you, forget the adults and hit back harder -- admittedly not a great takeaway, but occasionally it worked.

Public school teachers have failed students time and time again. When I was in 2nd grade I was heavily bullied as well. One time, my only friend turned against me on the playground and everyone else decided to tag along. All 15 or so kids ended up chasing me around, and when I stopped to ask a teacher to stop them, she just said “they’re just playing tag” and completely disregarded how I felt. Long story short: I ended up falling and having my first panic attack because of the way everyone stood above me in a circle. Thank goodness my mom is scary and talked some sense into the staff afterwards.

"Your just sensitive" "Snowflake" "Jesus I was just joking" These are some of the most hurtful words I heard as person who was told to bottle their emotions and be happy. I'm messed up as heck

my sister was being bullied on kindergarten and my dad went to the teacher personally to complain about this and the teacher just shrugged it off saying thing like “oh, this kind of things happens in life, she has to learn how to deal with it”. So my dad taught my sister how to punch, and the next day she nocked out the bully with a punch. And ppl still says violence isn’t the answer

This is disgusting and anyone who tells you to ignore bullies has no idea how bad it can be. I feel so bad that you experienced this for a year and nobody, not your parents, not your teachers, did anything!

i was bullied in the same age group. i ignored it, untill my buillies got physical. fortunately for me, my parents always told me that if i stood up for myself, that i wouldnt get in trouble. when my bullies got physical, i got physical back, he shoved me in PE, on a cross country run. i did the same to him. i finished the run is at full speed. when he tried to come at me again, and i used his own momentum to throw him into a wall, by basically side stepping him, and guiding him past me. school gave me saturday school, but my parents were true to their word, i didnt get in trouble from them.

I got second hand rage just from watching this video, especially after the “just forget it”. Also, friggin councillor deserves to be ✨fired✨ because I’m pretty sure they just hired a kindergarten teacher for the job.

I think in middle school especially the staff just have the mindset that "they're kids, they'll get over it" and "it's not that bad, they'll live", so they don't feel like they have to actually handle the situation until someone's parents show up and demand they adress it. Then they're saying they've been doing their best and the bullies are suddenly suspended. (This is what I've heard from so many people about middle school and even went through this myself... it's sad that this is so common.)

Yk as someone who was not great to people in Middle School I can say that people often get why kids act that way wrong. The reason I did it was because it was how I got other people to like me and I have to admit I didn’t know any other way to act. I’m proud to say that I met people that were worth reevaluating myself for and I definitely feel like I am better now.

I was bullied too through primary school (6-10 years old) and something that really annoyed me as I got older was adults trying to make me feel pity for the bullies. While it was true that the "head bully's" mother was a quite crappy person who put her through pressure I didn't think it justified her actions or make me resent any less. In my 13 year old mind, she was still a terrible person and I still wanted her to be locked in the school bathroom forever. What I'm trying to say is, no matter how crappy situation the bully has at home, I think we still deserve to be angry at them!

"Oh. They threw your clothes in the urinal?" "Just ignore it." Yes. Let humanity ignore our literal DECENCY to be in public and cover ourselves to hold a standard in society be thrown in a space where people PEE. That is not only disrespectful to the victim but also disrespectful for the one saying to ignore it to be saying that because if you had YOUR clothes thrown in the urinal, how would you feel? Smh. Try to ignore it then.

The adults who say “just ignore it” are really saying “I don’t care, I can’t be bothered to deal with it.” And leave a poor child wondering why they’re being targeted. I was never bullied, but my old friend was, and he was the kindest person you could ever know. Luckily, he still embraces himself to this day, and I know not every bullied kid can be like that. My mom always taught me to fight fire with fire, stand up for yourself. And I have to say, I agree. Never let anybody hurt you for absolutely no reason. Let them know that they can’t bother you.

Telling someone to "ignore it" is the worst advice and most likely means they don't know what to do and they don't want to deal with it!

I understand the part when the teachers and your parents said that you just “ignore them”. When I was bully they said me exactly that and all go worst, until the inspector catch them bullying me. I’ll never understand why they think that is normal all that situations and make that nothing happen and never help you

Remember, kids, violence is never the answer. Violence is a question, and the answer is always "yes"

My therapist was so surprised when i told her that if my bullies apologized to me today, i wouldn't forgive them. I'd be thankful for the apology of course, but i would not forgive them. Same with the adults that let it happen. I suffer from heavy self-hatred and trust issues because of them, and i just can't shrug it off. So yeah, i relate to this...

This reminds me of when I ended up getting bullied so bad in middle school to the point of wanting to end my life. I've had people stick stuff to my back, call me multi. names, and people even went as far as to bully me online while i was posting things that I enjoyed. I honestly didn't have the guts to tell anyone off but if I could I would, I'm so happy to see that someone had done it or at least tried to. it genuinely makes me feel better in a way.

As a girl who was bullied non stop in elementary school to the points where I would ask to go to the bathroom just so I could cry. I know how it feels having no friends. I know how it feels to be made fun of. I know how it feels to think your worthless just because someone else said I was. Now I'm the girl who sits by the ones who are being bullied. I'm also the girl who now stands up to bullies because no one should hurt so much just because of someone else. Please, the next time you see someone sitting alone. Sit with them. It could make a huge difference. Thank you.

Lesson of the day: stick up for yourself because ain't nobody else who's gonna do it. Edit: guys, sticking up for yourself doesn't always have to mean physically fighting someone xD

Referring to a bully as a “baby Karen” is my new favorite thing.

Thank you for making this video. It makes me feel less alone and weird. I have been through a very similar experience throughout elementary school. I very much recognize the issue of teachers brushing off anything you tell them about other children bullying you. I have heard the phrase 'just ignore it' too many times. It made me loose trust in teachers completely, it made me feel worthless. Worthless like I was an object that could be used by anybody else to take out any rage or frustration. It makes me really mad that I was not allowed to be a human with feelings, because I was told constantly by adults to act like nothing happened, like I was not sad or mad about anything.

You have been through it. I really admire your ability to be a kind and generous person despite how much people have hurt you.

As a teacher myself, I can tell you that ignoring never works. I would even say that fighting them and punching them in the mouth would have worked better... even if it gets you into trouble. I got bullied too and once I had seriously beaten up one of the bullies, word got around that I was not to be messed with. And the bullying stopped.

I got the “just ignore it” SO many times that I started to believe the words that were being thrown at me. None of the teachers ever stepped in. I was a new kid from the east coast living on the west coast, talking with an accent, and having no friends. I found a group of girls and later on I realized that they were toxic and just plain cold. I’m in high school now and the teachers here actually care and call out anyone that’s rude. Hello, Senior in high school now. Holy cow my junior year was really bad in terms of being bullied. We got a new principal and I guess some new admin and they didn't do anything no matter how much my parents and I told them. I got picked on so much that I began to have dreams and low self-esteem. Thanks, school. I hope my senior year will be better.

"WE CAN'T JUST HOLD HANDS AND SING A BARNEY SONG WHEN FOUR OR FIVE OF US HAVE STINKY HANDS" Had me crackleing🤣

I love the detail you add to your videos! All the little easter eggs across the video that represent other fandoms... I'm obsessed! Thank you for sharing your story and helping so many people, including me!

this whole video got my blood BOILING 😤😤 LEMME GRAB MY GAT

"Just ignore it." That sounds like something someone that's never been bullied would say. And it's not even just in bullying, it's in many others like harassment and EVEN WORSE. Like what is wrong with people. Either they do it for fun, or they're doing it because they're hurting. The thing that truly hurts is that you don't know which it is, so you get told to "just ignore it."

As a former small, glass-wearing, nerdy kid, I had a bullseye for bullies on me. The proper and ONLY way to handle bullies is to show them that you're not to be fucked with. I'd answer back all the time, dig dirt on them, and laugh at their bad grades, telling them they'll be hobos or shovel garbage for a living as adults. Yes, I got beaten up a couple times, but I also punched and clawed when that happened. Eventually, they just move on to an easier target. What? No, there is no actual end to bullying. Yes, bullying is unstoppable. You don't have to end it, you just have to prevent it from happening to you, specifically. Someone else in my class got bullied into "35 and still living with parents, no job, no education", but it's not me. It's not me, and that is good enough, for me.

Thanks for this, I was nervous about advancing to middle school but now I have that little bit more confidence I needed!

School bullying was handled so horribly in the 90s and early 2000s. Hopefully it’s better for kids nowadays.

Telling someone to “just ignore it” when they’re being bullied is the same as saying “just let them do it” “just take it” “deal with it” “suck it up” “just let it happen” “accept it”. People say to ignore it thinking they’re giving advice, but really they’re telling you to suffer in silence and let them bully you.

This is the realest thing I’ve ever heard and I could rant for hours, I’m surprised you could fit so much in in such a short amount of time and don’t feel so alone anymore. You really are a saint and deserve much better thank you got

“Just ignore it” i had THE SAME think you had. “Just ignore it” just trigger my blood, and boil. it been so affect on me my mental health was really bad, berly eating, and i use to use sh... even as a kid. now i'm 17 years old, in 9 days i supposed to be 18. and “Just ignore it” just triggering me.. even now and plus even it wasn't enough when it has even with physical bullying everyone LIKE EVERYONE has told me to “Just ignore it”

“Just ignoring it” just lets the bullies get away with it. Thank you for this video. Makes me hope that anyone currently facing bullies learns that you have to be confrontational, even if it’s scary.

Bullying is taken extremely seriously in Korea. There has been too many reports of suicide because of extreme bullying. You can get suspended, expelled or even go to court over bullying. THOSE PIECES OF SH- ahem deserve it. No one gets to make your life miserable just because they're 'going through something'. I hope everyone out there stays safe and happy ❤

I had a similar experience. I was very emotional and everyone told me and i quote, "get over yourself, other people have emotions" so naturally when your parents tell you that you disvalue your emotion and end up not understanding or knowing how to deal with it. still struggling to this day.

This honestly makes me want to be a teacher just to be one that actually CARES about the students and doesn't tell them to "just ignore it"

I am so sorry. I am a middle school teacher and cannot imagine telling someone who has come to confide in me about bullying (and that I have witnessed!) to just ignore it! Such bullshit - I'm angry. So sorry this happened to you.

"buffer than mr.clean" got me rolling of my bed

Amazing, this sums up everything I think about bulling I mean it really just is a horrible thing and it shouldn't happen to anyone, I'm really sorry you had to go through this and everyone who does. Expecially when you cant get your parents, teachers, or any trusted adults, once that happens, you feel like no one cares about you or what your going through.

Let me get this straight. You got sexually abused online by this dude who didn’t let you have any free will, AND got bullied in middle school all in the same time? That fucking sucks and im so so sorry that it was like that. I hope your still coping with it all and doing okay and just know we’re here for you and you are strong

You should be especially proud of this video

This video took me straight back to my middle and elementary school days. Shit still hurts as a university student, and the damage and fear will never fully go away.

Thank u for this video and helping out people going through similar situations 😊

"Remember, that is just a baby Karen." You are spitting absolute facts.

"Just ignore it" was a phrase I heard way too often. The closest any adult came to offering decent words of wisdom was "they're just jealous of you". It still didn't help but it was a little better than "just ignore it." And I think the teachers found even less of a reason to help me because my bullies were younger than me and in their eyes "just kids". What gave me confidence again was my mom going off on the teachers when I finally told her what was going on. I think she might've actually considered going to jail that day.

Thanks so much for making this!! I'm in middle school as well and I'm going what exactly what little illy went through! Ur the best cartoon maker!

you helped me throughout my bullying you helped me so much it feels good to see that i am not alone

Telling kids to “just ignore it” is like telling a little girl “he’s just flirting with you” when a boy hits her or pulls her hair. It just teaches kids that being bullied is fine and they should just live with it. Words can’t describe how much I hate people who say shit like that. Like they’re grown adults, they should know better. Edit: I feel I should clarify that the “boy hits girl, adult says boy likes girl” thing actually happens. No, those boys and girls aren’t adults or anything, they’re usually young kids on the playground or something. Adults (except my mom) around me never did anything when I got bullied first grade and the grade before that. And they kept doing nothing until I graduated 9th grade, so whenever I got bullied I’d tell the counselor, who proceeded to always tell me “Just ignore it” or “He has a crush on you UwU He Just Likes You OwO UwU”. These things happen all over the world and it’s harmful. Edit 2: it’s not just boy fight girl, it can also be the other way around.

I’m sorry so many educators and and “professionals” failed you. One of the things I love about being an educator is being able to help children the way I wanted to but wasn’t. Thank you for sharing your experience.

As a person who was told just ignore it and was bullied all throughout grade school to the point of ...well having to go to therepy and be monitored because i was depressed all the time, then having trust issues and ptsd from it now ...bullying can be harmful and traumatizing if left uncheched...

(This is going to be a crazy rant) The Crystal type people were what I dealt with in elementary school, And I played on a youth basketball team, which had kids that would tease and bully me. So whenever I vented to my friends, who I thought were my friends, they would always say "well they're nice to me." So my lord, does it cut deep for me. Because sorry but people can have multiple sides and that person can be mean to others while being nice to you. Well, also, that entire idea of "Just ignoring it," I tried, I tried for years. I STILL try, but it just doesn't work. They will still continue even if you just ignore it. They want that satisfaction so they won't stop till they get it. Also, the just be friends with everyone. MY LORD, did it happen, and did I hate myself and life. I couldn't just be friends with everyone else. Sometimes, these school counclers need a reality check.

The sentence "Telling a kid to ignore the problem makes them feel like no one cares" cuts me like a knife. I was like Illy, bullied for everything, little to no friends. And when I tried to stop I was pushed aside because the teachers didn't care. They took the girls side in harassing me. When I told my mom what was going on, I was told to ignore the problem at hand. Now I don't want help from people that aren't me. If the people who are meant to protect you and help you don't do that, then who will.

God I hate bullies. Great advice Illy

Every time that I watch your videos I find NEW REFERENCES IN THEM it's really cool

I currently am in middle school myself, and I have a cat plushie that I take around with me to other classes, usually because of the possibility of a panic attack, and the cat calms me down. I get made fun of for it all the time, and when I tell an adult, they usually are just like "Then don't bring the cat" or, "just ignore it" but I hope they come to realize, that isn't how that works. And no, I will not stop taking the cat around with me because I do not want to be made fun of for having a panic attack in the middle of design class. But I have really awesome friends that help me through this. usually when this happens, we just ignore them. I honestly just wanna say thank you Illy for making me feel better about this and realizing that they're just stupid. ❤❤

Once I got made fun of in elementary school, and my teacher went, "maybe you're the problem," word for word. Thank you Mrs. Nichols for the lovely insight 🥰 Edit: I’d like to mention this happened years ago, so I’m okay now :)

"I wrote fanfiction. By myself. In my room. Alone, every night, to cope." Hell yeah, sister! Me TOO! I also wrote mine in school during study hall, best use of time.

Looking back I realize I was bullied for being different, and now I know that’s because I’m autistic. How mean girls can spot autistic people or neurodivergent people in a second is beyond me. This video feels exactly like my school experience I wish I had seen this when I was a kid.

This whole video is great, awesome advice. BUUUT Telling teachers and parents isnt my preferred strategy. Usually, i just act like a feral schizo sewer creature. I'll yell randomly, laugh uncontrollably in the middle of 'roasts' (these absolute single celled organisms use the word "gyat" when they're insulting people) and listen to really weird music in their presence. My favorite conversation piece is the song; "Twenty-three lubed up schizophrenics with delusions of grandeur" by The Locust, it always gets some kind of reaction out of people

Wow, I am disgusted by how these “adults” have treated you growing up. I am sorry you went through that. It goes to show that just because you’re older doesn’t mean you are mature. Beautiful video by the way! Love your colorful animation-I can tell a lot of effort was put into it. All the best 💕❤️

As a current teacher, who is in school to become a therapist. YIKES. I’m so sorry Your teachers failed you. Ignoring a student who says they’re being bullied is now thankfully grounds for termination. But as someone who was also bullied by my peers and teachers this video is all too real Also props to you for not dealing with your 6th grade bully the way I dealt with mine. I broke her nose 😬 Edit #2: violence is not a good option folks! Please never beat up your bullies!

i am in middle school and get bullied all the time for how i look. this video really helped me think about thea reason behind the bullying and i feel better now thank you so much

I love how In I think every video you’ve made little references to a bunch of shows like the owl house and gravity falls and in this video I saw one of Luca. My point is I love it❤

The more I hear about teenage girl bullying tactics the more I'm amazed that they are not more female serial killers in the world

I feel like middle school teachers really don't care what happens to you. This may not be true for some people... but it definitely is for me. 😭

I was bullied throughout elementary and part of middle school by students and teachers alike. I’ve noticed that when teachers say “just ignore it” it’s because they don’t want to do anything about the bullying because of either some misguided belief that misery builds character or because they themselves are bullies who would gladly join in if it weren’t for the risk of losing their jobs

God i feel this whole video in my soul. I was bullied for making friends with people that were bullied. My big empath heart made me gravitate to the "underdogs" and "outcasts." Made it worse that i was a bigger girl so there was 2 whammys. I also got the misunderstanding advice to ignore all the bullies. One day, i got so mad and with a wild hair of willpower, i stood up to everyone all day, in front of teachers as well, NOONE knew what to say and just stared at me bewildered. The power i felt was absolutely unmatched, and in the next few days i noticed people backed off and were actually being cordial! I still didnt like them, but was also cordial after that. It taught me that if you have a friendship that is honest and caring, you stand up for it no matter who likes who. I am still friends with my weirdos and have new amazing friendships with an amazing group. Thank you for this videoo i hardly comment but this is something i also felt like speaking on 💜 thank you for your hard work!

I love how people would rather leave things as they are to not “break the status quo” even when there are laws being broken and constant and long harassment and bullying.

The behaviour of not only those children but of the “adults” at your school is disgusting and appalling. I can’t put into words the rage this story has made me feel.

The way Sasuke is just chillin behind u and no one's talkin about it

god imagine telling an adult to "just ignore it" to adults doing these exact things to adults in the workplace. Like... bro that's called workplace harassment. it has consequences, like separating you from the harasser, meetings, even getting fired if it keeps going (sometimes depends on the workplace but there are systems in place). You aren't allowed to just do that to other adults. I know I had gotten this "advice" and problem solving from the adults around me when it came to bullying. I bit the kid one day and I hadn't been bullied by them from that point on. Another school there was a different one and they stopped when my sibling actually stood up for me and scared the hell out of that kid. Adults didn't do anything and even a therapist at the time had told me to "just ignore them." It only showed me how children's issues aren't valued. And to ask them to have more emotional maturity and regulation (sometimes enduring physical bullying) than adults would ever accept themselves is just stupid as hell.

My bullying got so bad that the police got involved. I was so happy to finally have someone on my side, and the officer told me that one of them just started crying and confessed to the bullying, both in person and online. They were given restraining orders, and my mom (whose had problems with them before), threatened to sue the school since my counselor told me "all people get bullied, we just need to get over it". They looked like they were about to shit themselves.

This reminded me of a time in elementary school where someone wouldn’t let me sit at their table because I was ‘too annoying’. The worst part is was that I didn’t see it as them being mean to me since they didn’t look mad at me or angry. I agreed with them, thinking ‘yeah, that’s fair,’ or ‘I am pretty annoying’. I’ve learned a lot since then, but I wish I could have stood up for myself at that point.

'A few 'sorry-s' isn't gonna fix it' Bro someone show this to my older sibling who demands an apology for existing 💀💀

Thank you so much!! I really need this because I’m currently struggling with Middle school Bullies and they said “you take up the whole seat” and keep annoying the crap outta me. Thank you so much!

As a teacher, the way your concerns were treated fills me with rage. You were absolutely failed on every level by every adult in your life over this. Also -- stuff like this sticks. Sometimes it gets resolved years later, sometimes not. A couple of years ago one of my bullies looked me up on FB and gave me a frank apology, which I did not expect. She'd turned out to be a stellar person, and it turns out what she'd done had bothered her for years. I sometimes wonder what she was going through at the time that made her choose cruelty when that's clearly not her nature.

"are you getting bullyed? Just ignore them!" This sentence has the same energy of: "are you homeless? Just buy a house!"

I love how she put the Respact-acles poster in the counseler´s office like the one from Mr. Frond´s in Bob´s Burgers. Cute easteregg!

Its an agee old advice. If you are bullied hit back. Take any punishment if unavoidable. It's worth it since your bully knows you will fight back now and it won't be worth it. Bullies bully for fun whether they are abused at home or not. Its not your problem to understand them, only to protect yourself.

As a new teacher, this is really insightful. While I'd never give the "just ignore it" advice, I know that this is the go to for many colleagues. This video also reminded me how horrible people can be. I was picked on too, and it sucks. It's opened my eyes up to how malicious people can be and how horrednous school's can be fixing things. I'd never force bullies and victims to be friends. I would want to make the victim feel safe, and give the bullies the consequences they deserve.