DAAAMMN you are a boss for not telling your parents during the whole process of applying. your story is so inspirational for people who are in a similar situation!!
African American raised in the southeast.. my first trip to Korea, I bought my ticket, planned where i was staying and everything... i kept mentioning stuff to my dad and he always said no.. so 3 months before I left, I told him I was going on vacation from work for 2 weeks.. and just showed him my new passport. He had a fit.. but I think the fact that I figured it out myself is what lead him to just accept it! So I feel you girl!
I’m so glad I stumbled upon this video! I needed this. I’m currently in this situation. I just received my notice that I passed my EPIK interview. I am Asian-American, and have strict/overprotective Asian parents who are also immigrants. I am scared & nervous to tell them but your video gives me inspiration! Thank you for sharing your story! 💕
Girl, I feel you. I was so scared to tell my parents I'm moving to Korea. Once I told them they were supported it ,but became concern about COVID-19. As I am waiting for my documents to come, I think they are slowly realizing that I'm leaving especially since my siblings keep saying that I'm moving to Korea. One advice for people trying to tell your parents: Get your siblings on your side and ask them to help you convince your parents.
that is definitely really good advice i forgot to add! having my siblings as my support system was soooo helpful, especially i think after i left! it wasn’t too much of a shock for them so they were able to help the family adjust better
At least you made your choices!! Like my father likes to say "we can't *actually* tell you what to do now because it is your life and you guys will be living it. Not me or your mother"
Lmao at being a nun😂 I can relate to a lot of the things you said. I’m embarrassed to say I didn’t even tell my mum LOL. She called me when I was here and I was like yep I’m in Korea. I did feel a little bad but your advice at the end is spot on sometimes you just have to take charge or your own life.
It's like looking in the mirror...are you my soul? I'm the eldest of 3, Nigerian raised in the UK. I got reprimanded, heavily by my parents for expressing my artistic nature (I attend Deeper Life Church, guys. if you know, you know) I did my undergraduate degree in Accounting and Finance. I picked up Taekwondo, intentionally play pop, watch kdrama and speak Korean within their earshot through my undergrad years. I graduated. they told me to attend LSE for my master's degree, I said no thanks, I dedicate this degree to you, however, my master's degree is mine, I'm studying TESOL. Ladies and gentlemen, this is how I won my parents over. now they know it is very likely I end up with an Asian man and my parents said: "as long as he's truly born again, we don't mind where he's from." Perseverance paid off at last. Can't wait to be done with my degree in winter. this time next year imma be all over south-east Asia. very excited. But wow, that boyfriend thing though..you've got chwest girl. I salute you. That right there is my line.
lmao if you could see my laugh 🤣 but i am so glad to see that you are doing what YOU want to do and are doing well! and yeah, it was only through God that i was able to do that honestly 😂
yo, you sound like your describing mee, I'm the eldest of 4, born in Nigeria raised in the UK, and in a few months ill be doing an undergraduate degree in Accounting and finance as well, (for the sake of my parents) obsessed with dramas and just started learning Korean, but I'm gonna teach English in South Korea once I graduate.
I felt like crying when you were talking about your experience, because that's how i've felt all my life. The words they say really hurt. I remember the words so vividly, despite how young I was. As kids, we remember everything. It really hurts and the fact that you can't even talk to them about it bc they see it as disrespect, and you have to tolerate them and bear all that pain alone, and apologize even when you're not in the wrong...it's hard. And they just don't understand sometimes. And I also completely agree with not telling them until its done. It's not everything you tell them, bc the discouragement is too much. A lot of placements i've gotten is through me not telling them, because I don't need their negative energy lol
I'm going through exact same thing... Except I'm expecting to leave on 7th August.. I haven't told my parents yet.. And it's 21st June. I've left it really last minute. I know exactly what you mean about not telling them because of the negative/discouraging things they would have said. I know for me, it would have been enough for me to withdraw from the program and as you said, it's a long process and a lot of work, and I knew I had to support myself. I know they're not going to be happy and have nothing good to say about it.. I know it'll come from a place of concern because they want the best for me and want me to make safe choices.. But I'm so stressed about telling them! Gosh I really resonated with your story.... Wish me luck T^T x
good luck and positive vibes and love to you!!!! i know how stressful and hard your situation is. i still can’t believe i did it sometimes to be honest. i know you will get through this and be happy and successful 🤍🤍🤍
Hi I’m Nigerian! I don’t know how I’ve never seen your channel before! This is something I relate to soo much haha, I think this is a sign I should start my application to EPIK. My parents were so against it when I brought up moving to Korea to teach English about 3 years ago. I think I should try again
My parents are Caribbean immigrants and when I told them I wanted to become a teacher, not a nurse, it was almost like telling them I was becoming a stripper. I admire your strength because I know how hard it is to deviate from the path that your family planned for you. I think if you have strict parents telling them big news when they don't have much time to process is best lol
I really loved watching your video and it gave me so much comfort knowing that I am not alone in this. My story is the same as yours. My dad is Nigerian, and my mom is South African. I am in my third year of college, and I already have my TESOL certificate. My dad payed for it, however, now that I have it and am dead set on teaching in Korea by 2022, my dad is slowly discouraging me and already has "ideas" for what I could do rather than teaching. This is when I spoke to my mom and asked her what she thinks I should do because I really don't see myself doing anything else, for now. And she basically said what you said. I should go for it not stop for anything or anyone. She said "you still have plenty of time to get your life together". So this has been my motivation to keep going, and start planning ways to support myself through the application process and everything! Thank you for this video, it was so inspiring :)
Hey Anne with an E, haha. I just wanted to say I respect the balance you held telling the story. You are aware that your parents love you and have good intentions even when they do not really understand your decisions. I find that it is easy to write off parents because they have hurt us and we think they don't care or understand us. I always try and see life from their perspective even when I disagree with them. There comes a time in life where we must spread our wings and leave home or do things differently not out of defiance but because we convinced it is will be good for us. Thanks for sharing.
After watching this I thanked God for having a caucasian mother, I would not be able to fend for myself with my nigerian dad lol Instead of going to Korea I will get first class ticket to Lagos for even suggesting it. I am happy you took control of your life and had the guts to do what you want to do! :)
I have abusive parents, so hearing this was very inspiring. I want to get away and go to Korea, but everytime I tell them they try to get me to rethink it or straight up tell me I wouldn't survive. So wish me luck when I apply in a few years.
i am so sorry that you are in that situation. please stay strong and don't give up on what you truly want to do and accomplish. wishing you all the luck and sending you light and positivity ❤️✨
Love hearing your create your own story, it's inspiring and not easy when parents may want something else. You do so much research and care into whatever you do. They/you should always be proud of you 😍My parents thought I was joking too 😅
Oh gosh. This is interesting. My parents are Indo-Caribbean, so it's kind of the same feel. I just got my EPIK acceptance so the conversations we've been having today have been somethin'
sending good vibes your way for things to work out! hopefully with how things are going with the virus, they can see that korea is definitely a good option at the moment
@@heyitsanne Totally! My parents always want me to do what makes me happy, it's just moving out- let alone moving to another country is what is super scary for them. They never imagined me leaving, so it's definitely something they are still processing.
African parents needa also understand why we choose ourselves bc they chose themselves when they were going to go somewhere it was different. Nobody was controlling them but they still had to do what to do for themselves to get the life they wanted for their kids and themselves but have to come to realization that at the end of the day…your kid will always have their own way of living and want to live as they see fits. Acceptance is so needed with african families and us kids need that shit.
I'm glad you left I cant imagine how though it was for you as the first child in a Nigerian home. To Nigerian parents it's either you are a doctor, nurse or lawyer or nothing else 😂😂
i empathise w this alot my parents are very similar though im south asian. my parent weren't rlly open to any other career field outside of medicine until they saw i stopped doing well in school w all the pressure but even then there was that guilt of "why aren't you good enough". currently in my first year of my design degree which, they aren't happy with but i guess are just sitting back and seeing how it goes. i'm also interested in doing a year or two for epik once i graduate and, i guess how i handle it with them will depend on how independent i'm able to become and how our relationship is in 2 years :/ thanks for making this video though
I honestly feel that once your parents have enough time to process everything that they are extremely proud of you. I’m sure they can see they raised a strong woman. Sending you lots of blessings on your journey!
I can't believe how relatable this is🙌🏽 I'm South African. I went through the whole application, research and picking a company to work in China without my parents knowing. I also knew they'd be negative and I was scared I'd listen to them. I kept it secret until I had to go apply for my visa which was in another city. It was explosive the night I decided to tell them I got a job and was moving as soon as my visa was sorted. A week later I just told them I'm going to the capital city and left when they were still upset with me. They started coming around while I was in the capital (I was encountering problems with my documents and stayed there for almost 3 months). My mom would call me and say I heard so and so's child moved to China, which made me even more upset at them (they chose to believe someone else over me). I went back home a week before flying out to China. By then they had come around and my mom even took out a loan for me. It was so hard to do that without their initial support but I made it.
Hey I loved this video I’m also African and I plan on applying for the EPIK once I graduate. I haven’t told my parents my plans yet. This was so helpful 🥰
My parents aren't as strict as yours but I also waited to tell them. Like you said it's a long process that requires lots of waiting and my thought was why worry them about something I don't know will happen. I told my dad first because I knew he'd be super supportive and he was. I told my mom not long after but with my mom I was a lot more worried. I knew she would have a ton of questions so I made sure to do a ton of research (I also watched Traveling Nat and Mel on the Move among others) to get as many answers as I could. Because I had answers to basically all her questions she was a lot more accepting which I was thankful about. It's tough to have your child move so far away but I'm happy both of our parents see that we are happy and doing well!
yes! i think because i was so prepared and could answer every question they had, it gave them some sense of relief in knowing epik was actually legit 😂 and that i would be okay on my own. i’m proud of us!
my parents are the worst and yeah they said it's not happening 🥲 but I also enrolled in my TEFL course yesterday sooooo its a bit too late lmao. my dad wants me to wait for the 2023 Spring intake but man that's way too long. I'm so ready to go. it makes me happy to know it can be done 😫
AWW NICE VIDEO ANNE. I REMEMBER YOU TELLING ME ABOUT THIS. YOU DID THE THING AND ARE EXCELLING. ❤ I'M SURE IT WAS GREAT TO NOT HAVE NEGATIVE TALK AND MORE WORRIES THROUGHOUT THAT LONGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG PROCESS UNTIL YOU PRETTY MUCH KNEW IT WAS HAPPENING. MY PARENTS KNEW I WAS MOVING TO KOREA THE WHOLE TIME AND SINCE I'M OLD OLD (🤣) IT DIDN'T MATTER TOO MUCH. HOWEVER I ONLY TOLD A HANDFUL OF FRIENDS, MY PARENTS, BF, AND SISTER I WAS GOING THROUGH THE PROCESS. I DIDN'T TELL ANYONE ELSE (OTHER FAMILY, FAMILY FRIENDS, FRIENDS) TIL EPIK SENT ME MY CONTRACT AND I HAD MY VISA IN MY HAND WHICH WE KNOW IS LATE IN THE GAME LOL; ABOUT 3 OR 4 WEEKS BEFORE I FLEW THERE SO EVERYONE WAS SURPRISED AND LIKE 👀👀👀🤔🤔🤔😮😮😮
YESSSSSSSS OMG saving my brain from all the negative talk throughout that entire process was the best thing of not telling them! and girllllll i feel that 🤣 miss you ash! ❤️
I’m Nigerian and only in the first half of what you experienced going into freshman yr of College. My parents had a very harsh reaction when I told them I wanted to be a PA instead of a doctor and that I would like to minor in business. I’ve been looking into Korea even though I have years to go but I already know when I decide to leave I probably will do what you did. It sucks but it is what it is. 😭
New subscriber here All the way from Nigeria 🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬🇳🇬 I can relate to this video and that one of the reasons I subscribed... thank you for the content, I am also thinking of moving to Korea to be an English teacher. How possible is this ? Also what tribe are you from Nigeria
thank you so much! i’m igbo 🇳🇬 fir the E-2 visa, you need your secondary schooling to university done in english and abroad (there is a list online including the usa, canada, the uk, nz, australia, ireland, south africa) honestly, it will be very difficult and quite possibly illegal to work here as an english teacher if you completed schooling outside of these countries. do some research though, things may change and i’m unaware!
I'm a Nigerian. I'm the only child of my mother and she's against it. But I'm making my preparation to study in Korea. My aunt told me I could tell her whatever my plans are, but I still think she will be against it. I hope things goes as please. Thank you for the video.
hello i'm currently a junior in high school,currently in houston texas with nigerian parents and I'm the first child. I actually DO want to become a doctor however I've always thought of schooling in Korea and even becoming a doctor there. I actually spoke to my mom about going abroad right from high school and I got a sob story and how I should just stay in houston lol. I understand that you started after your undergrad but I would like your advice on doing my under grad in korea and even going to medical school and how I would go about it. I understand that it would be cheaper than American college but is there information you could give me on this thank you. When I speak to anyone about this i'm constantly brought down or called a Koreaboo but I am genuinely convinced that I want be a doctor in Korea. help lol. :((
My Gosh I still have to tell my strict parents🇿🇦 I wanna go to South Korea next year. 🇰🇷. They are very strict as well. I just want to bury myself just thinking about it..
Hey girl,are you a citizen of the listed native English speaking countries listed in their site?? Because I really want to take a teaching job but the restriction is getting me worried honestly, I’m a citizen of Nigeria.
my primary citizenship is USA but i also have Nigerian citizenship. if you are not a citizen of one of the 7 listed countries, unfortunately you cannot apply for EPIK. sorry ☹️
My neighbors that I love are strict African parents. All three of there sons are in college. They believe in education. If you have Facebook a entrepreneur I follow is Nicole Walters, she make the cutest videos where she references strict African parents
I really want to move to Korea in the future and I have a feeling that my family are going to stop me from going there idk but I will try my best btw I am only 13 years old and I am interested into moving Korea in the future
It’s not easy but you had to if that’s what makes you happy $ feels it makes you happy Welcome to South Korea But I came here for the same plan to study nursing as a Nigeria but it got crushed here. Happy for the new decision
Thanks for the inspiration by the way your like my twin . My name is Anne and i'm the first of 5 children, i have strict parent to and i love art also i dream of going to korea So thanks for the advice and by the way i'm Nigerian too😊😊
* cries in first gen liberian * But fr African parents look down on everything like Arts and music, things that they think don't make money. It's kinda sad.
Be a citizen of a country where English is the primary language EPIK teachers must be citizens of one of the following countries: Australia, Canada, Ireland, New Zealand, United Kingdom, United States, or South Africa. *Under the CEPA agreement, Indian citizens are eligible for positions if they meet all other requirements and hold a teacher's license in English. Please inquiry with the EPIK Office at epik@korea.kr for more details.
unless you have attended secondary school to university in one of 7 countries (list is on EPIK’s website), unfortunately you are not able to teach english in korea. otherwise, it would be illegal
no, i’m sorry ☹️ here is from the epik website: Be a citizen of a country where English is the primary language EPIK teachers must be citizens of one of the following countries: Australia, Canada, Ireland, New Zealand, United Kingdom, United States, or South Africa. *Under the CEPA agreement, Indian citizens are eligible for positions if they meet all other requirements and hold a teacher's license in English. Please inquiry with the EPIK Office at epik@korea.kr for more details. Must have studied from at least the junior high level (7th Grade) and graduated from a university in one of the seven designated countries listed above. Applicants from areas such as South African, Quebec, etc. where significant portions of the population might not speak English as their primary language must provide proof that their schooling from 7th year/grade and through university was conducted in English. Letters from the schools will be sufficient proof and must be submitted with the applicant's initial application.
@@heyitsanne lucky, I’m jealous. I only have my Nigerian citizenship and since Nigeria isn’t officially considered an English speaking country, we can’t apply to teach through good programs like epik. The agencies we have access to always make you sign a bond.
yeah, basically agreeing that you can only work that one job under the contract. It’s not an official teaching job specific agency per se. It’s just a branch under the company my parents work in (total e&p). They are affiliated with lots of different industries from different countries and in turn, they provide opportunities to children and spouses of their employees. It’s the type of situation where you have to know someone that knows someone 😂
I am in the same situation can I dm you on Instagram? I really need advice and someone to talk to about it because I plan to move to Korea after I graduate ...
I'm a Nigerian telling my family about me going to Korea to school it feels like a joke to them honestly talking about Korea my siblings are always like they eat humans and are racists y not go to the US
Hy how are you I,m from Africa I live in New Zealand and I,m moving to korea in few years I,m still saving my money so how long have you been in korea? I know nigeria and I,m from Zimbabwe imena oga hahaNagode♥♥
I really want to get a PhD in Korea, my family is not having it... I commend you. PhD programs are very long. I'm going to start with my siblings then move up. Since I want to apply for 2022 i still have time Thank you for motivating me ❤️ Btw new subscriber here ✋
Interestingly, your africans parent did tiger asian parenting and now ure moving to a strict asian country to escape esentially asian parenting.....hmmm..
