How Men Think About You Expert: "When A Man Says This, That's A Major RED FLAG!" | Stephan Speaks 

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If a man calls his EX crazy this is a major red flag. Chances are HIS behaviour made her that way. I would run!

I was dating someone who was very sweet and I was full into him. He was not communicating all of a sudden because my “vibe” changed and it didn’t. I was then blocked .. all of a sudden after almost a year “hey, how are you..” 😂go back to being the ghost you were! “I want to try again”.. I’m not forcing nothing with anybody who can’t use their words to communicate. Go play with somebody else ✌🏾

The man stringing the woman along cause she's the one, but still seeing other women cause he's not done running around is total BS. Stephan dont justify that. If it was reverse for the woman doing that and the man found out he would be pissed off too. Discipline is NOT circumstantial. It's a choice you make. Stop excusing that BS behavior

I believe in privacy of a relationship. Especially on social media.

I'm a woman in a long-term relationship. I do not post my man. Anything near and dear to my heart, I keep private and protect. I wouldn't even post my children.

If he’s not ready for her, there will be someone else who is ready for the commitment so he should step aside and let her go.

*Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.*

The part about a man’s libido being higher. Has to do with his safety. If a woman’s libido was tested when they felt safe, which is often not the case their libido would be higher to. Feeling safe never seems to be considered it should.

A lot of this sounds like sloppy excuses for lack of self control. I want a man who can stand in the face of temptation, not give into it.

I saw something different and told him the friend wanted to be his woman. He ensured me she was just his friend, nothing more. He was very indifferent and I asked to establish boundaries. He continued to hang out with her. 8 months later I found out he was cheating with her. I should have moved on when he defended the friendship instead of establishing boundaries.

Cheating isn't just accidentally stumbling. Its a selfish choice you make. How would the guy like his woman doing that. A choice is not excusable. No oops here when it eas deliberate. No one held a gun to his head or physically forced him to cheat

I like how realistic and situationally Stephen speaks about “the friend” situation. The partner should be the priority and your “friend” out of respect would want the best for you and step back.

Lady’s do not tell a man how many men you slept with, a mature good man will not even ask you that. Because it’s personal business. And the “best friend” question is weird because once either person gets into a serious relationship the other person will need to back off. If my MANS best friend, was sitting on his lap that would be a huge problem..

I like listening to Stephan because he exposes all of the double standards and fluid conditional expectations men have.

My boyfriend and I had a conversation about social media when we first started dating. We both agreed to not post anything cause we do see that social media can cause problems in relationships. We are 8 months together and I do feel it was the right decision.

I LOVE Stephan so much! He is super knowledgeable at his craft! Lord, PROTECT him at ALL COST! 🙏

We all move too fast period! We need to SLOW DOWN! Get to know someone for 90 days, decide if you want to date during that time, if yes, set a rough time for yourself mentally for when you’ll decide to move from dating (hopefully monogamously) to actually building a life together. Problem is we move from the getting to know you phase straight to let’s be together forever & rarely do those relationships work. You generally won’t really know how that person shows up in relationships unless you date them monogamously first. And both people need to be courageous enough to have all kinds of communication regarding feelings, values & moving from phase to phase.

It's crazy how they worried about someone's past when they have 8or 9 baby mama's

I was once the " she's just a friend from work" woman to his wife; the wife I didn't KNOW about for 8 and a half years... ( I found out about her, told her everything and she began divorce proceedings right away !! ) So, when, 3 months ago he texted me that he was at a local event " With a friend " ( 2 days before my birthday) I cut my losses, blocked him everywhere and ran. He's also a malignant -covert narcissist...so to say it was over 9 years of toxicity is putting it mildly. 😶😶😶😑😑😑 The last thing I said to him, calmly while looking him directly in the eye was " Karma."

I really appreciate Lisa taking time to acknowledge the complexity of weight gain and the potentially deep trauma behind it 🙏🏽💕 That was very compassionate and sensitive. As for the woman gaining 100 lbs twice in the same relationship… I would say there’s still some trauma there bc why would she gain it back once in the same relationship?

i love this bounce with stephan - so funny! Lisa I LOVE your style, intentional listening, articulation, questions. love that you clearly listen to the interviewee's other interviews and ask something different or press them for something more. LOVE IT.

You don’t have to disclose your body count. I would say… “I’m very particular… it’s not high”.

So I watched this intermittently today. Here's my take, if honesty is a strong value for you, you must be ready for honest takes from your partner. Yes delivery is important...relationships are messy and require both parties to be willing to vulnerable to uphold that shared value of honesty. It frustrates me as a woman that men will date not treat for commitment. State that upfront and focus on girls wanting marriage when you're ready. Love comes at desire and vulnerability. Committment comes at readiness, period. If either is missing after clear, honest communication and goal setting as a couple, move on.

My ex was crazy means i couldn't play her; she wasn't dumb as i thought for the most

This is an amazing podcast. Thank you Lisa! ❤

If someone doesn't post their relationship on insta, just accept that and do not question it! Look at the rest of the signs how he might be into you! If he's not move on

Your show is changing my Life Lil by Lil, I Love All the content ,YOU ROCK GIRL !!!!

This man is amazing. Thank god he’s here 🙏

Hi Lisa, I just really wanna appreciate you for your effort and work! You’re amazing Beautiful human Being.😍 please continue what you’re doing. - you change my life so much for the better. I’m Learning so much from this channel. - you’re a Gift from God to Everybody! Love you! ❤

I love listening to his advice - he pretty much confirms every belief I have about men's behavior, and it helps me feel comfortable with my decisions in the dating realm!

OMG the question about being friends with a friend you have slept with! Me and my ex had a heated debate about that. Yes, the answer speaks EXACTLY to my concerns. Thank you!

Stephan made great points and arguments! I appreciate this channel for always having quality guests and content❤

I would love to hear such discussion both with Stephan and Sadia Khan at the same time

I'm guessing it goes both ways with accepting compliments because my husband brushed off every word of encouragement, every compliment, every expression of gratitude, and I felt so downtrodden and rejected I finally had to call it quits.

Thank you both very much for bringing up the difference in “I love you.” Vs “Love you.” 🙏

Thank you for clarification on so many levels 🙏🏼

I disagree with the part about women caring as much about their partner gaining weight. Men are much more apt to lose feelings for a woman when she gains weight. Women don't place as much emphasis on this, so in my experience, if her guy gains 40lbs, it won't affect much. Not true for men. If a women gains 25 lbs, he will become worried and lose attraction/feelings. This shows the utter superficiality of their sex. Men love for 1. Attraction and 2. Using the woman as a resource. Women love for comfort and safety.

Yesss...Stephan.....You have given sound, true and reasonable advice ..I agreee. !!

Stephan is such a beautiful speaker.

Woow Stephan is so right on all levels thanks so much for your answers.

Hello guys. Thank you very much for this interview. Blessings 🙏🏽✨️

I just found your videos and I absolutely love them! It’s helped me so much in my new relationship

His voice is just so comforting.

I hear everything men don't say

Outstanding conversation

Stehan Speaks Is So Deep with this Topic!

I have living proof of life experience and what she is speaking is so on point. In a different example than my details but same outcome Beautiful Gift And Work.

This is a great interview and enlightening! I would like to add another thing a man will say to you. At least my guy did. He has several women in addition to me. He says he doesn’t favor one woman over another. He says it to maintain peace for himself, maybe to spare a woman’s feelings, and to keep her around for whatever qualities she has to offer. It’s a good arrangement if you can stay detached and just have fun. It’s a nightmare when you love the man as I do. One needs to master compersion if she wants to stay with him.

Stephan is amazing!❤

This guy is spreading some crazy information. That’s what the problem is with the dating scene - because other people listen to him! Thank you Lisa for pushing back on many topics!

Yes , I Absolutely Agree 💯 With You Stephen 😊

My ex was Crazy = I have to dismiss the validity of her issues with me/the relationship and if for any reason you are In a situation where she may have opportunity to tip you off to my bs, I need you to already doubt her.

As a woman the comment about the 30 pounds would make me never want to be in a relationship with that man. Why? Because of pregnancy. You have to gain 25-30 pounds minimum in a healthy pregnancy. And with those hormones changes is takes most women years to get heal from pregnancy. If you want 2 kids that is about 7-9 years for your body to fully recover. I am not going to be in a relationship with a man that is not going to be attracted to me even if I drop the pregnancy weight instantly that is still about a year of him not being attracted to me. Also other issues happen & people age. He is shallow.

These were both GREAT interviews. But why didn’t you dedicate a full episode to each of them? Why combine them? Do a longer interview with each, and split it into two episodes is my suggestion.

This conversation Is opening another display about men to me.

Hello Lisa! Hop you & Tom are well. ❤

God Bless You! Concern...the friend may represent the connection that maybe missing in the relationship lacking connection. ❤ Peace and Love, Minister Hanifah Hightower, Detroit

Wow!!! Very impressive content.

Love to see you two together.

On point 💯

Thank God that I'm single

I love ur hair a little calmer

I already know that I am beautiful even b4 I even met a potential partner. But I don't agree with when a man compliments another woman while with your partner. Example, walking with your partner and seeing a beautiful woman. There's a difference between looking at the opposite sex like you giving a compliment or looking at the opposite sex like you want to have sex with them

@13:25 - 🎉 Rocked my World. How many layers we realize we actually have...

I pray I find a man that is so wise as you.

38:49 just because I’ve been asked doesn’t mean I have to divulge my past. It is no one’s business and has no relevance to who I am. Get to know me and find out who I am. My body count or if my ex was bigger could only lead to insecurities and problems. Why cause problems with something so unimportant?

Well, well, well. Looks like Mister “I’m So Desirable” is going to learn the hard way. Desirability is like the wind…

Thank you!❤❤

This segment right here all 💯💯Facts

They did a great job 😊

I’m surprised no one put together that the person who gained weight when being with their mate, separated, lost it, then regained it when they got back together, is a signal that something was missing when she was with him.

Spot on. That guy is good.

I believe when a guy says you are the most beautiful women I have ever seen to me he is referring to her personality that is why he is referring her as different because as much as he says to others you are beautiful so indeed different ways in says how beautiful. Is my perception in seeing it that way

Good Advice

❤❤eye contact is the code to your heart❤ youre absolutely right..i dont trust anyone that cant look in my eyes wen they talking

That’s so true. I have a male best friend. He is my roommate. 12 years living together we are like really brother and sister. That was the first thing I told my boyfriend before we started anything. And it’s been along time since since I’ve been with anyone. My past boyfriend died almost 8 years ago now. And when I finally got out of my dark place and started a relationship. He was nothing but happy for me. And gives me my distance he’s not all calling me all the time if I’m a with my boyfriend or anything. And when he’s with his girlfriend I do the same. We live together but have our own separate lives. I don’t know it’s hard to explain. But we are nothing but friends/ roommates there’s no attraction between us at all. And we never even fight. If there are no romantic feelings so no jealousy between each other. Just being friends just works for us. But when the time comes and my boyfriend and I want to live together then that’s where I’m going. And my friend understands. He just wants me to be happy. But no none ever really understands. My boyfriend now is someone I went to high school with. But lost touch with afterwards. Only knew him from my freshman year he was senior. 14yrs ago we a few conversations b it then he slowly started blowing me off. Then nothing for 14 years. I recently turned my FB back on and he eventually reached out. I was a little hesitant but I’m glad I did. I’ve also just met his parents and mine are up in a couple weeks. And after I met his he asked me when he was going to meet mine. 😊

Never trust "she's Just a Friend" recently love bombed and gaslighting only to see him propose on the Internet after prior weekend being with him. Anger anger anger.

Thank you! My ex put his ex/ best friend in front of me. Was missing him tonight and reconfirmed why I left. ❤

✨❤️✨ Fantastic✨ Thank You ✨

The part on the weight gain was interesting. I 100% argree that its not just the weight gain its also what goes with it. When we get with someone that was athletic and use to run together to never leaving the house gaining a bunch of weight giving 100 excuses and being super lazy. Thats not who i fell in love with. Its like a rug pull.

Greetings, well expressed with respect and emotions 💗💗 truth, beauty is within n shines out 😊 tell it 😮😮😮😊😊😊👍🏿👌🏿💯🤗 Yes!!!!!

I love Lisa’s jewelry!

So my husband doesn’t have it on FB that he’s married, he even unfriended me! He also told me once that another girlfriend was prettier than me!

Lisa, I agree with you when you said,” desire”. I am not fond of Stephan’s example of “ chocolate cake “. I will agree with him regarding “ some of it is a societal thing and the other things that he mentioned “ . Mainly, it boils down to the mans’ desire and his ultimate decision of what is best for him. While it may be true that today’s men see more beautiful women ( Physical ) in 10 minutes than Kings of Old did in one day, they were and are still subject to “ their desire / temptation “ and that is sex. A lot of people knock the Bible; however, they just don’t and won’t have a desire or a need to know until they have hit Rock bottom in their lives. I have always been familiar with the word “ GOD “ in my life while growing up but I was and am more familiar with calling him “ the Great Spirit “ ( for me, it is my Native American heritage that innately knew this.) ; however, I have learned that there is a lot of information written within the pages of the Holy Bible that helps us to comprehend things like this that we all experience and how we can remedy those “ thoughts, ideas , distractions or others like these that are otherwise known as “ temptations” or “ sins”. If I like chocolate cake more than I should, then I may be “ tempted “ to eat it; however, since I know this about myself ( hypothetically speaking ), and I know that I would not be getting the right kind of fulfillment for my body , Soul and Spirit then , I also know that I am responsible for what I feed my body and I would not allow myself to succumb to the “ temptation “ of eating it. This idea is what I apply to all things that I would be “ tempted “ with. I understand what Stephan is referring to when he describes a man’s rationalization “ Well, I am just not going to say anything.” Which is probably the same as, “ I ‘m just gonna do things in Life instead of talk about it.” I am in a similar situation. I found GOD, was Baptized in Jesus Christ, divorced my second husband because I kept a promise to him that didn’t include that we be unequally yoked. I was frustrated with the available men around me who only wanted to fulfill their empty , temporary desires and temptations. So, I prayed to GOD and asked that since He knows all of HIS creations and HE knows me better than I know myself, would HE send a man to me IF I am to have a man in my life. And, How will I know. I heard, “ You will know.” At a time when I was closing down my heart to all men, I met one ... and I knew. He was 17 and I was 34 , then. We didn’t have contact until earlier last year when during a meditation session, I had gone to visit him via Astral Projection and another prayer to GOD that I believed would probably not have happened otherwise. We had a long visit within a short amount of time . Due to the amount of time that I had waited, I poured out my heart to him and shared my Past and helped him with some questions he had. Before my visit ended, he asked for my phone number, I gave it to him just as I was fading from his sight and I wondered if he was able to get the last two numbers. Some time past and one day he called me. Ever since he still calls, but he says nothing. I have wondered why and I think I just got my answer. However, this began with a prayer request to GOD, so I think I should like to see what this outcome will be. Thank you 🙏, Stephan , for shedding Light on a former mystery for me. And, Thank you 🙏, Lisa, for having Stephan as a guest. 👍👍🎱🦋✨✝️ 1:23:13

I have met a person that use that word strongly… They are just a friend but look at the way they engage.. From experience from my past marriage it turn out to be infidelity came into play

He always tells me that he said that he never wants to lose me I always make him smile but he want open up to me what I'm I doing wrong because I do love him with all my heart

My best buddy and I started out as friends then became FWB after several months. He was the 1st guy I interacted wih after 10 years of no dating after my husband died. He was 22 yrs. younger. Fast forward a year and a half later and we stopped the FWB rhing, I've been seeing a guy who is now very jealous of him. I purposely had my guy meet my buddy and his girl because I needed him to see we are just friends. My buddys girl gets it but my guy feels like he is in competition.

Appreciate the input on the topic 😊

Love your vids. Hate the ads every 5 goddamn minutes.

Chemicals in perfume, soap, detergents etc. also affects endocrine hormones (dhea) like testosterone and estrogen.

Mannnn,... my ex and I had a long distance relationship, mainly due to his job throughout the year. He would post me up all the time on Facebook! Well, after a major surgery I ended up finding out he had 3 other women-was serious with 1 married woman who had Herpes. No joke. God proected me and I'm healthy. Point is, how you're displayed online isn't the biggest part of your union.

I disagreed on all the points said about man-woman friendship. I agree with Lisa! 🎉

I’m so glad Stephan talked about the whole body count thing

If a man has a female friend thats he's close with or best friends with. There's still boundaries that need to be made. Also the man needs to make sure he is continually makes her feel his woman is THE ONE

Also if I told my man or showed using my eyes that I found another man attractive I highly DOUBT he would feel ‘good’. Or accept that I felt he was the most sexiest man alive

Confidence absolutely does affects sexual intimacy, especially if it’s the complex nature of being over weight. As well as, it being the other symptoms of obesity, such as fatigue, depression, anxiety or other symptoms.

I love how you put.❤ Your the most beautiful woman I ever seen because of her beauty, inside and out!❤❤

Yes. The woman is crazy but it was him that was the reason the relationship did not work

Just started the episode so first question re: social media …I’m a cave woman so I’m not on FB/insta etc, I don’t feel the need. I have a newish boyfriend who wants me to join FB for reasons that aren’t important in my semi-unplugged world. I want to know him in real life, not an online presence. Listening, I’m realising it would open another can of worms if he did/didn’t post photos of us. Yeah, I’m staying in my cave 😂