I learned this during the four years of my first relationship: Sex for many men is like Tylenol for a headache, a beer while watching the game, coffee on his work break. It's nothing special, just a little something to take the edge off. They don't care if you're in a coma or ice cold in a state of rigor mortis. I mean, when funeral homes have to put up cameras in their prep rooms to keep an eye on female corpses because the attendants are male, says a lot.
I have it written and have made my family promise to not send my body to a funeral home where men can access my corpse. I know I’ll be gone but the thought of my corpse being violated does something to me mentally.
It also says a lot about the males, too. If he's able to sleep with a woman and has no feelings for her, then he's not the type of male that no woman should ever get involved with. What type of husband would he make if he didn't feel any love towards the women who gave their precious gift, which is their bodies to him? It honestly gives psychopath vibes.
@winning3329 there are videos on yt that actually acknowledge that men don't marry for love. They marry for what benefits they get as a result of marriage.
They ghost me when they find out my clothes aren't coming off. I don't go to anybody's home and I am not playing around. Being ghosted for not putting out is truly a blessing in disguise. My friends get so angry they have seggs, get played and ghosted anyways. I tell every woman ... Sleeping with a man isn't a requirement to date. Dating is for collecting data. You should not be thinking: "I hope he likes me." Instead you always ask yourself: "Do I like him?" I enjoy my company too much to put up with BULL S***t and game playing. My body & peace of mind is too valuable to me.
Women are too insecure and very competitive with her girlfriends life, so they get what they get for that competitive evil spirit toward their friends. Men don’t vindictively compete with their boys, we are vicious therefore we reap what we sow. Treat your girls better
Same so much!!! I always get ghosted or never asked my number it’s so sad. I don’t understand the pressure to do something right away when I say no . Time wasted again. It’s sad.
Its supply and demand, and it goes both ways. If U make Aman wait who's to say he doesn't have 5 others to choose from, not saying it's right but it's something I've noticed in some countries.
@@jessica.bartlett6352 True, but a man willing to wait will be of more quality than a man who rushes for sex. If he's planning on sticking around, he isn't in a hurry to the bedroom.
@@jessica.bartlett6352 Yes, in America as well. Can't trust any man, even if you were dating him for several months, a lot of men have back up play dates just in case you say no. It's sickening.
@@jessica.bartlett6352 Literally doesn't matter, no one cares. We just want them to not deal with us. Men are the easiest people with the lowest standards. They do it with anything and anyone. Not a flex if they chase you.
It is psychotic. To use someone in the most intimate way a person can interact with another human being. It seems men don't show love in any way. Nothing they do is genuine.
I don't EVEN have to watch the video to translate to any woman reading this: Ladies, you are a toilet for a man to relieve himself into until he sees different, okay? They do that to each other; do YOU think you are going to be treated any different? That is HOW they see you...an object, an appliance. Quit wasting your time trying to figure them out or taking care of them or loving them or having their children. STOP....just STOP...live your life for YOU. Leave them to themselves.
You men haters are disgustingly sick in the head. I need my husband and I love being his “toilet “ as you call it. No greater blessings on earth than becoming a wife and mother when I look at our children I know he’s needed and I thank God for him. We need men don’t listen to these hyenas.
There are some genuinely good men like my dad. But i have yet to find any within the dating pool. It's rough out here for us single ladies. The quality of men out here is daunting
From age 18 to 28 I worked with all men and from everything they said between them in conversation this is exactly true. No wonder us ladies get so disillusioned by dating/ relationships. They talk about us like we're objects just to use and move on. Even the married ones we're like this!
it's about finding a man who RESPECTS women.... if they did that and were SECURE with themselves, they wouldn't feel the need to locker room talk like that...most of them are all talk in front of their "boys" anyway....again ..due to insecurity and the need to fit in. the ones that RESPECT women, and their woman will be less likely to talk like this
It's so demonic for them to deceive these women by telling them that they love these women and that sex is love and then turn around and act confused as to why these women hold the belief that if a man wants to sleep with them it's because those men love them. That's nasty work. I feel sorry for these ladies. Nobody deserves for their minds to be toyed with like that. If I were you, I'd opt out.
It's even worse once you see this is more frequent than you think. Ladies, make him earn you!!! Make him spend on you and I promise you, men don't act the same because he put money on you
its predatory in nature.... I cant believe men speak openly about this like it isnt criminal. What about if they did this to a child? Some men do. They target abused kids with daddy issues (sound familiar) and then sxually abuse them and sometimes even sell them into human trafficking. Nothing to consider natural and be okay about guys. Men need to be jailed for this behaviour as its criminal. If they were it would happen much less i can tell you that.
Girlfriend is an imaginary status . Girlfriends do the same things as a wife ( mainly s.x ) yet gfs have no wife rights such as community income , spousal support , right to his pention and social security etc . Don't play the girlfriend role ladies .
@@puddincup9879 Girlfriend used to mean getting to know each other to see if we were compatible for marriage (no sex) also known as courtship. But the world changed for the worst and we see the tragic effects of living a promiscuous life, stds, unwanted pregnancies, abortions, people being used for sex and then thrown like trash. Men don’t want to be husbands and women don’t want to be wives and don’t want a forever family.
@@zulynava4059sorry to break it to you but you can’t marry a man with whom you didn’t try to live and share a household. They are changing into monsters even when you lived with them for 5+ years, imagine how drastically they will change when they were just courting you and now you live with them. It’s just not safe for us women.
Puddincup No I don’t like to be a gf first. Men know from the beginning if they want to marry or not . In my college I had a classmate who spent every holiday with her boyfriend. I had told her he will not marry her even then . He then went on to marry someone else . My classmate was just the best he could get for those yrs . Then an acquaintance of mine a beautiful Hispanic girl who lived in with a dustie as his gf for 5 yrs . Had a baby with the dustie . Dustie wouldn’t marry her and even fought for custody and took half the custody of their child. Dusty gives no child support . This beautiful girl could have picked far better .
My sister is a clinical family therapist and “corn” addiction or just the presence with men is a huge issue in relationships. Unrealistic expectations for regular women.
I can't agree with this. I think younger men 25-35 are wonderful. They treat you like a princess, are funny and not jaded. Many of them just want company. It's the gross men that are raised in the 80-90s and earlier that have NO RESPECT for women. The older ones that are losing their hair and beer guts who still think women are disposable.
No woman has ever become a man to understand how it feels. They want to help you get into the perppective of a man. This is all mother nature’s design both must understand so that humanity can properly reevaluate their views of relationship and sex
@@MaryElizabeth-g1b My celibacy is based on my religious beliefs. Yes, I agree if one wants marriage, then it is best to maintain virtue until then. However, men and women are not required to marry and have a family. "But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this." 1 Corinthians 7:28 ; "An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs. Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world-how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord." 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 It is the same for men as well. 1 Corinthians 7 Devotion to God is the prize🙏 It is better to be celibate❤️
Thats the big problem. Waiting 3 dates? Wtf. Remember back in the day ladies would wait months. Now everyone thinks you supposed to give it up fast. NO.
There are women who feel guilty when a man pays for dinner, and so they sleep with them. People are delusional and need therapy on dignity and self-worth
Meeting someone three times is still a stranger. I wouldn’t let a woman I know for only 6 months have my car keys without me in my car let alone a man have access to my life, even after a year. F that noise
I feel sorry for them. They hate themselves so much that they would take advantage of a person and run from what could potentially be a beautiful love affair, friendship and partnership until death. Such scared and unfulfilled cowards. 😞
I am so sick of men saying there are “biological reasons” for this, that or any other thing that is treated differently in men and women in our society. None of that is biological, it’s all social conditioning, and it’s always to give men free reign to do what they want and to control women’s actions.
As a man, men's biological reasons are all excuses. The fact is that 95% of men are completely devoid of spirituality, ability to express genuine selfless love, have never made it past their teenage desire to bust 24/7, and never made it past their bitterness of not getting the partners they wanted in their youth. So they only use women to build their self esteem. Most men genuinely do not know that women can be used for things other than their body, have things about them more beneficial than their body. It's not just social conditioning, they really have no idea what women offer and see them only as objects.
Thank you, it's as if they are saying it's a normal occurrence and something within me is screaming NO Something ain't right about this thought process at all
Love is just words. For them at least. Men don't even have the emotional capacity to truly love someone for who they are, they only pretend so they can benefit from women.
I am a Christian and don’t believe in s*x before marriage for myself. That belief VERY QUICKLY has weeded out all the bad guys only interested in s*x with me. I thank God for my strong values every time I hear (bad) men speak about s*x the way it’s spoken about in this video by men. My values and beliefs have saved me, I am so grateful for that.
Well, if it'll certainly be just sex for the man with whom she is cheating, then there's no problem is there? She means nothing to him so he won't be taking her away from her significant other. So her significant other should see the sex as meaningless. The hell he will!!! 🤣
I work with all men and trust me this is 100% accurate. Even the married men talk horribly about their wives. The good men stay quit and say nothing. I would say out of the 20 men maybe 5 are good men.
The quiet ones are NOT good nem, they are cowards and profit from the "bad nem" since they keep the bar low. So when the good one does something decent it will count as "good" and "amazing"
28F. Same boat. But I do have to say....the peace is PRICELESS! I'm not on birth control, my hormones are in check, I don't ever have to worry about pregnancy scares and I ESPECIALLY don't have to worry about STDs! My peace is PRICELESS 🎉
It's not about being emotionally invested, those men are reckless, risking having babies with women they wouldn't even want to be seen with, but it don't matter to them bc the kids in their eyes, too, are only property. Some of these dudes won't learn even if their escapades result in stds and several lives ruined.
I’ve been saying this ! My last date did not understand ! Had the audacity to say “ how long does it take for you to get intimate?” “ I said we just met today though? Give me a break you are a stranger?” Glad I stood on business . I never got asked for my # ladies after that. He said and I quote “well guess I’ll call it a night at jack off” weird date gone wrong That tells you right there he was only interested in seggs
Don't worry, that why men must make your life better and easier, he should be paying your bills, make him earn you and always cheat on him whenever given the possibility. He will do it if he can. Don't get mad, get paid. Let's ladies come together
Modern society has groomed women to hate men and men to be gay. Hence why it seems the roles are changing. Women are becoming the wayen used to be and a lot of men are closet gays or hypersexual.
I cant wrap myind arround having sex with a person and not like the person. To me its like "if you dont like the person you are having sex with then you must also not like yourself/value yourself"
@@876beautyIf it was harder for them to access, then you’d think they’d treat those women better but they don’t. They do everything possible to ensure that these women (the women willing to sleep with them) just straight up HATE them. They call those women the worst names in the book, use dehumanizing language etc. then turn around and be shocked when the number of women(that are willing to sleep with them) go down drastically.
Bingo. Men loathe themselves and sex gives them an opportunity to offload that energy directly into someone else. They steal positive energy and replace it with death energy inside them. That's why women feel so disgusted after being with them.
If sex is nothing to you and you aren’t emotionally invested in it, then don’t get upset when your wife or girlfriend cheats on you! Cause you know sex is just like sleeping or eating for you🙄
They argue that women cheat with men they are emotionally invested in. Because we are not conditioned to use them for sex. Women that just use meme Or seggs are the exception not the rule.
@@jinhub2175wrong! Being a gold digger means you can be bought and I'm sure most men don't mind throwing change at you as long as they get what they want. Especially those men with money. Money can always be replaced, but your dignity and respect cannot.
As someone who has never slept with any men, I'm surprised women AND men say these things as if it's a GROUND BREAKING information. Its not hard to keep your legs closed or to keep it in your pants,a lot of people are weak-disciplined, that's all. Don't act out on your urges right away without thinking,we have a brain for a reason.
Men and women view sex different bc of the society we live in, boys are raised to see sex a certain way and a lot of them actually think that means it’s “biological”
My husband was a gentleman when we were dating. We were young and religious. On our honeymoon he said, "Well, I own you now" and he was a different person. He loved that verse where he "owns my body". I learned that I could end a yelling and screaming fight by offering sex in the middle of it. I despised him for that.
You are not going find your person by sleeping randomly with people. People get soul ties that way and that makes them unfit for marriage. You will find your person by earnestly praying to God, for Him to lead you to that person.
Great comment, I tried to explain to others about soul ties, but it's above some people's pay grade. It's not healthy to fu*k any person without commitment and love and respect. Also there's so much adult content on the internet for free, and it's making young men addicted to porn and it destroys their ability to pair bond.
Me!!! I can tell from the start, it’s the energy. But if I can’t and give them my number, I can tell by after the first date or not even a date. They wanna be pen pals too. That’s a nope. I’ve got enough friends I talk to. If they don’t ask me out on a date after a week, Bye!!! I usually say” what do you want because I don’t like hook up culture and I’m not sleeping with a random person.
Absolutely. I can’t believe women have and send “nudes”. Mind boggling. There’s no dating anymore. It’s just guys asking if you’ll come over to have sex. I do not give easy sex hook up vibes AT ALL.
Senior citizen devil's advocate here. 1.Ladies prioritise yourselves, your feelings and your fun. You're just as human, love and loyalty will find you on your way living your best life. You're women, non deserving self loathing men, will always call you names and mess with your self esteem to help themselves feel better with their short comings, let their opinions of you not matter. Besides why want to impress someone who thinks, sees and treats women this negatively. Self love helps you deal better with rejection. 2. Also keep in mind that spirituality is real. Be careful who you give access to your energy. Most men are physically and energetically takers with nothing for you to take from them. 3. My late mother, used to tell us to start having the act for ourselves, without any expectations of commitment. She married her childhood sweetheart (our Dad) and a virgin, 11yrs into their marriage he started cheating, the fact that he met and married her a virgin, didn't buy her his loyalty. S🥚s is overrated.
Please be careful who and what you listen to. Whether men or women view sex the same or not, it has a purpose. If you abuse that purpose you will suffer men and women. The purpose is not just to procreate neither just for pleasure. This is why sex is not just an act you participate when you become of age, it’s a weapon and if you don’t know how to use it you can hurt yourself and others.❤
And this is why my battery operated boyfriend (BOB 😏) is all I need. I saw this in men from a young age. Honestly what made me pay attention was an episode of the fresh prince where, Will goes as far as marrying the girl to have sx with her because she wouldn't have sx without being married.
@@PreppyPrincess777perhaps you need a little lesson in reproductive biology...id have assumed you learned it in school. Clearly you didnt....... Off you go to do that then......
It’s important to learn how the other sex operates and how our brain chemistry is affected by sex. If you know up front how they behave you can act accordingly
Why does it have to be so complicated? Imagine holding out for a man for months years, and then you learn he becomes emotionally unavailable or has small winkie.
All i see and hear is sex sex sex!.. sex is a distraction people..its everywhere now, online and offline..its even worse online.. Can we really put our energy into financial things.. spiritual things that uplits the spirit..not sex this..sex that.. like I'm tired already!!
Men stand to lose so much less than women. It's "just an act". A handful of minutes of fun, pleasure, excitement. Women, we have to invest. The act, what it can lead to...is a massive life changing investment for us. Emotions necessarily are involved because we need to trust... have commitment, vulnerability. A man's five minutes of fun is a vulnerable, risky thing for women. It's reasonable for women to see it differently.
Even Phd Psychologist Jordan Peterson said that men shouldn’t be hard on women about being “picky” because it’s a lot of risk for us. Men only think about themselves sadly
That’s why there is no need to give him sex no matter how badly he begs or gets horny or gets angry at you. Just don’t put out at all! Unless it’s what you want
I flipped the script on every man I dated before I met my now husband. I told them up front, "Don't catch feelings, I'm not looking for a long term relationship. I'm only interested in sex." The amount of times I had to correct these men when they started calling me baby, honey, darling, yada yada yada. I treated them how they all treated me and genuinely couldn't get these dudes to leave me alone. Sex didn't have an emotional connection for me for many years after a series of traumatic relationships. It took me a long time to have an emotional connection during sex when I first started dating my now husband.
@@ilovemysunshine09 I was like that for years and if anything ever happens between me and my husband I'll be like that again. I can do bad all by myself!
You men don’t want to work on yourselves but you outta telling women this. I think men get pleasure disclosing this knowing it will hurt women especially those who thought the guy was serious
I struggled with this question bc I don’t understand why get that close just to want nothing afterwards- this video helps me understand the majority type of man is out there - this world so screwed up
Girl stop being delusional all the kings in the history cheated on their wives! Most of them are mostly like your father devoid of feelings and just want to use women. Do you really think 😂
This is the overwhelming majority of men…even your family members!! They all have lied and used women for sex! Some are just worst than others! Don’t fool yourself!
@@HarbringerOfMischief What Nick said is ALL men are taught to mask. That's childless men, and men with children. They lie about having children, the number of children they DO have, or their intentions with you.
It’s 1000% true. I tell women in my community that a sex drive is as basic as breathing and sneezing. You wouldn’t say, “omg he breathed in my direction do you think he likes me??” Or “wow he sneezed on my shoulder he wants to marry me” Do you hear that silly that sounds? You need sexual attraction in a relationship however there’s other things to look for like is he consistent, reliable, does he actually care about you and go out of his way to provide things for you. You want physical, emotional and sexual attraction all in one. Don’t settle for just being somebodies bed buddy Don’t feel bad about making them work for you, making them invest and holding out to see who is serious. You need to protect and look out for yourself They need to know they haven’t earned a serious place in your life yet. Don’t take anyone too serious, remain unattached, talk to multiple men. May the best man win 🥂
I was always the girlfriend, with some men being the girlfriend aint worth it, they want to lock you down fast and give you the bare minimum and low effort within the relationship, get to know your potential partner, do not rush into any relationship just because you want that title.
Contract only now when making any contact or conversation with men. Not even talking about dating. Simply day to day interactions. Bus driver? He's under a contract, so it's ok. Store associate? He's under a contract. Gym member? He's under a contract somehow. If a man is not under any contract while I need to engage with him for something I don't need to be talking to him. Full stop!
Watching men discuss casual sex as something they're not emotionally invested in is disheartening. This mindset doesn't just show a lack of self-control and respect for women, but also a lack of respect for themselves. Sex without emotional or spiritual connection cheapens the act and leads to destructive behavior in the long run. It's an addiction to lust, and when men finally want a real relationship, they struggle to shift the mindset. How can someone suddenly be committed and respectful when they've conditioned themselves to devalue intimacy? This isn't just about what men do---it's a problem that affects everyone involved, men and women alike, and ultimately shows a lack of maturity and self-worth. Real strength comes from discipline and valuing intimacy, not treating it like a casual exchange. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 says "Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were brought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies." In today's culture, casual sex is often glorified, and it's pushed as something "normal" or "just physical," but that's a dangerous mindset.
Please why is this a must watch? Most women past the age of 16 or whatever already know this crap. Is doesn't matter if they like you or if they don't . Either way, it's painful and waste of your valuable time dealing with most of them. Better study or work on yourself, your interests and what you want. The guy who ended up hiding in his clothes in the closet was funny though. 😅
Same, I learned this when I was a teenager and most of my guy cousins would try to sleep with me. I thought it was disgusting and that men will stick their peen in everything. I was turned off completely.
I saw a post saying “ I still hit” always felt like “ I took something from you”, someone also made a follow up comment saying “ I’ve only ever seen that phrase used to inflict harm so yes… sadly some men still view sex as them doing something to you more than with you” This was very eye opening too me because as 17F who wants absolutely nothing to do with men, it never actually occurred to me that men didn’t view sex that same as women, too shame a women who was comfortable enough with you to give herself to you is some weird ish.
Focus on your friends/loved ones, goals, hobbies and personal development... These men are sent by Satan to trap you with trauma and/or kids 9 times out of 10
@@MrFranklin-02and that’s proves what? 😂😂😂😂😂 It definitely won’t be the last profession hun. The last wud be annihilation Uk how male honey bees are kicked out in the winter. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@ritikasingh9555 😂😂tell that to your sister's in the middle east...when men lose everything, the whole world shakes and everybody suffers....if anything history should teach you, is that we are not bees we are men. Even the strongest and most evil of men (from Khan, Hitler to Amin) could not stop the havoc of angry men with nothing to lose.
Date one with a guy and he said, over dinner, “are you ok with not using a condom when we have our third date because I lose sensitivity”? I’m still sitting at the same table with my jaw stuck to said table fork in hand after 4 years 😂. I. Was. Stunned. If I’d liked him I probably would have kissed on the third date MAYBE but apparently it’s normal to start assuming you’re gonna bang on the third. WTF happened?! Guys and girls it’s so much better if you wait. If they’re worth the wait. I don’t mean marriage necessarily, that’s up to you, but get to know them and have some fun before the no pants dance! 🤦🏻♀️😂
@@Chommikenya I politely excused myself and paid the bill. Then I text him saying we weren’t a good match. He got annoyed so I blocked him 😂. Oh and I found out later that he had herpes ! 🤦🏻♀️😂
@@Smashingblouse oooooooooooh my 😄 That Explains the 'not to use protection part' He wanted to transmit herpes disease to you 🤯 Ooh my imagine if you did go ahead & do that!!
@@Chommikenya I know! Awful!😂 Tbh I’ve been deliberately single for almost 6 years now. I don’t really have an interest in dating anymore. Everything seems to have gotten so strange now, especially with smart phones always in your hand. After my fiancee passed away I kind of lost that feeling. Maybe one day it will come back 🤷🏻♀️. 🫶🏻
The way you are portraying women who fall in love after having sex is totally unrealistic and is getting on my nerves. Men get hard just because is morning. They are always up for sex. But a women, especially an insecure one, will not enjoy sex.....would not even start, when the man might finish.....no oxytocin, orgasm, no pleasure, no nothing . As a matter of fact, the act might be even painful is she doesn't get wet. In my case, I really liked this one guy from the very beginning and everything went downhill once we became intimate. He doesn't last enough for me to even start. Now I think he's just not right for me.
Men can also have sex with their car, the oil canister, their bed etc. etc. So, women have to be very very cautious about with whom and why they are sleeping. This is simple logic.
