00:00 INTRO 00:32 10 THEY ALWAYS GET DISAPPOINTED EVERYDAY 01:26 9 THEY’RE ALWAYS AGAINST THEIR HUSBANDS 02:37 8 ALWAYS FANTASIZE THEY’RE THE QUEEN AND HUSBANDS ARE SERVANTS 03:48 7 THEY LET THEIR HUSBANDS TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR MISTAKES 04:33 6 ALWAYS DISTANT IN TERMS OF PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL 05:27 5 PREVENTS THEIR HUSBAND FROM MAKING FRIENDS ESPECIALLY WOMEN 06:19 4 THEY PLACE THE BLAME ON THEIR HUSBANDS IN EVERYTHING 07:01 3 LETTING HUSBANDS FEEL GUILTY IF THEY WANT TO BE INTIMATE 07:52 2 ALWAYS THREATEN TO LEAVE THEIR HUSBANDS 08:27 1 DOESN’T REMEMBER THEIR SPECIAL DAYS LIKE ANNIVERSARY 09:03 OUTRO Do you have topics you want us to cover? Comment below... Share this video NOW: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-gduSTINGCrU.html Thanks for Watching! We would definitely love to know! DROP A LIKE, SHARE, Click the SUBSCRIBE Button, and HIT that notification bell to get the latest updates! SUBSCRIBE to our CHANNEL NOW 👉👉👉 bit.ly/3wqP8yi Help Our Channel Reach Awareness Share it With your Friends and Family. Videos you may also like: How Narcissistic Husbands Treat Their Wives ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-vrSr49GtWk4.html What Narcissistic Husbands Say To Their Wives ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-Yt0jmK2mcnU.html Why Narcissistic Husbands Don't Want Their Wives To Be Free ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-IsV3yBW1jM8.html
You will be treated like gold for months. Everything is hot and heavy - you found the perfect partner who is attentive, affectionate and passionate. The first red flag is they keep sharing their own stories (non stop blabbing from their aide) and don’t seem to be too interested in what’s going on in your life. The convos always switch back to what’s going on with them. Suddenly there is a switch and they are indifferent. For NO reason. There was no argument, no fight - in fact, the night before might have been one of your best nights together. After that switch, they will never ever come back to normal. You will be faced with constant silent treatment. You will be walking on eggshells. The minute you corner them and ask them what the hell is going on - you will be stonewalled. They gain power this way. You will be CONFUSED af. You will do everything you can to have the “old” them back, because you don’t like this new version. What you need to realize is the “old” version never existed. It was a complete lie and act - learned from friends, movies etc. It was a character made just for you - it’s no surprise you had a lot in common and now suddenly you don’t. The person you fell in love with completely disappeared, they are ghost. It is absolutely heartbreaking and devastating. All you see is the same body without the same soul. The more frustrated they see you - the more the run and push you away because they don’t want you to see that it was all a mask. Affection is out the window at this point. They can barely kiss or hold hands, but when earlier you were on their lap 247. The real them came out and the mask is off - they hate any from of emotion or love because they are not capable of it. You will be faced with constant gaslighting and they will try to distort your reality so you don’t see them for who they really are. You need to run like the wind - this relationship only makes you destroyed. Their friends don’t know.. for the covert ones - only their romantic relationship partners can figure it out. Because they are so careful with their image, it’s all about perception management. And one day… after all the cognitive dissonance and sleepless nights and feeling sick to your stomach.. you open RU-vid and it’s a door to all your answers. You are well with a narcissistic psychopath that has no feelings. Leave and never look back. Additionally, Metaspyhub@gmail. com is a company that is ideal if you need to be able to confront a cheating spouse because they have some of the most advanced features in the industry.
Been there. Oh my goodness, its mind-blowing, the loneliness, the whirlwind of flagrant financial ruin, the dominance, the Queen barking out orders, never a rational discussion, no warmth, completely patronising, manipulative, threatening, destructive, condescending, hypocritic, puts you in the child position, puts the children before you, uses you, a real fish wife, trouble, thinks she knows best, tantrums and moods, no closeness, no support, instructs you on how to be a dad .. that's just pure arrogance, takes away our gift of parental agency, yet it seems to be acceptable. It's a living cold destructive nightmare. You give your heart and soul, try your utmost for the family .. and they take the lot and wouldnt care less if you end up on the street, and the kids, you lose them and your place as parent in their lives. Its hideous, diabolical, criminal, and they get away with it and are applauded for how powerful they were, how they sorted us out. Its disgusting, and other men and women alike condone it (thankfully we have some women who speak up on our behalf .. we're not taken seriously so thank goodness for them helping to talk about it).
100% spot on. Just recently gotten out of a relationship like this....problem is now that I'm not reacting she's stopped my son from seeing me. He's 21 months old, 9 weeks since I've seen him. Fighting through the court systems every day. It's tiring but my boy needs me. I will NEVER GIVE UP OR GIVE IN!!!! FUCK HER!!!!!
@@Shanthan33 I'm really sorry. Yes, f*ck her, she knew all along what she was doing, took everything you had, deceived you, betrayed you, nothing was good enough, and they still want your demise and deny your right and gift as equal parent. The justice system is absolutely inadequate and shame on them for allowing child abuse to happen. That's the way in .. not fighting for custody or claiming parental alienation, but pushing your deep concern for the child's wellbeing as a safeguarding issue, the disruption of the primary attachment system between you and your child. Approach it in terms of the detrimental effects it will have on your child to be denied equal contact with both parents, and push it in court as her needing help and education in this area so that she can provide the best emotional and psychological support for your child. I feel for you. I lost my children, they're now completely turned and believe its justified. You still can battle .. just change the tactic. It makes me so angry. Keep well
This happened to my son. He ended up with the female equivalent of what his father did to me. I knew when he was running out of hope and was going to “check out” so I went and saw him and said if you need permission to save yourself then I’m giving it to you. He told me what would people say she’s a woman etc, etc! I said if your dead then she’s going to have to deal with this herself. She if course fell on her feet but the next day he cut her out cold turkey when she threatened to kill her self once too often. She bleed him in every single area of his life.
I've lived it. This is spot on. she even told me she never wanted children. No heart. no empathy. They can't take accountability for anything. If you want to be intimate with her you had better have your money ready. Being intimate with a narcissistic wife is like sleeping with a log. I even went to therapy wondering what was wrong until my doctor mentioned the term " Narcissism ".
Hi George, I’m not peeing in your Wheeties I promise. But “never wanting children” is the most important gift they can ever give to society. I didn’t see her narc mask until we got home from the hospital with my daughter…10 years ago.
Get this... you are alive, free from narc, free from abuse cheating, destroy properties, we sent the devil away 3 years free for narc and divorce The cover narc woman a demon with.... human skin ☠
Something about 20 years... About the same here and lots of others. The covert ones are very hard to figure out while inside and just trying harder to be the good guy/husband.
Because they don't see us. They see the abuser that made them this way and they are attempting to "flip the script" and do to us what has been done to them but from the perspective of an otherwise spoiled child. You can't help them, no matter how much you try. They are stuck in twilight reality, unable to accept that it's of their own making, blocking out any evidence, even attempting to erase it when it surfaces. Idk if there is a "right one" for her, but it's surely not us if we're the target.
Finally talking truth about these devil woman. I fell victim to one and she cost me everything I ever cared for. She still shows up in my life anytime she thinks she can sabotage me. This is such an terrible woman . She has gone unchecked for decades. They take hostages and think 2 steps ahead of how to control or crash a good man. They refuse to be responsible and blame all breakdowns on the man just as you spoke of. Men want a woman to be there friend ,lover and confidant. These woman prey upon these great qualities in men. Good video.
Think on this. They consciously seek out men for their husbands who will be subservient to them and do their bidding and not give them trouble. In other words, truly nice guys like yourself. And they do this with sex and these kind of women are beautiful and consciously have honed their craft before they got to and chose you. Oh yes they had this all thought out ahead of time. I guess I was never good enough for one of these vivacious beautiful women and in retrospect thank God.
Gentlemen, I am in prayer for all of you going through these horrendous circumstances. My daughter is a malicious narcissist. I called her out on it and now my daughter has told me I am no longer allowed to see or speak to my grandson whom I have been his main caretaker for 7 years. She demeans and devalues my grandson...refers to my grandson as her prisoner. She keeps my 7 yr old grandson in a state of mourning. I had my grandson everyday and weekends. She never wanted to raise him , only use me to get him to an age she could terrorize him into submission. Evil. My daughter crushed my grandson's father in court so he is not in my grandson's life. She claims to be the victim. No justice served there. I truly feel deeply sorry for you men. I remain in prayer for you and your children 🙏
@@marisamartin3664 Oh my dear, we have sought legal counsel and were told as long as my daughter was maintaining her job and appearing to care for my grandson on a daily basis that my daughter would retain custody. Even though my daughter is a highly functioning alcoholic and substance abuser, as long as she gets away with it she can do what she wants. She tries to instill fear in my grandson. Not easy for the grandparents. Sounds much easier than it accually is as we have found out. Short of a prison sentence the laws are in favor of the custodial parent. We remain in prayer.
This is spot on and regarding birthdays - they do remember them but the gifts they get you are a joke. They are thoughtless at best. A friend of mine also had a narc wife and we laugh at the types of crap gifts we were given over the years how sh$6 they were lol. The interesting part about getting out of this type of relationship is it’s like Boot Camp. In a new relationship you can work half as hard and be twice as appreciated with someone else.
Been there....No support. No affection or intimacy. No help with the kids or daily/weekly chores. Every responsibility got dumped on me. She finally left us. She tried coming back two months later. When I said No, she tried destroying all of us. Relieved she is gone.
Get out, document everything, focus on the children. The kids will be used as a weapon against you, prepare both you and them for that eventuality. Nothing will change, it will get worse, what will go wrong, will go wrong. Put in place measures to protect your children and dip. If you can get full or75 % custody do so.
Wow Peggy, that is spot on. I could write 20 paragraphs on this exact situation. But I’ll just say my super sweet loving son is married to a woman who has driven her own parents out of their lives and just last month has done the same to us. Sadly I saw that my son has become a constant nervous wreck and has appeared to have lost almost all his personality and only parrots what she tells him to say. At this point it would seem that their 4 year old and 9 month old will never be allowed to have a relationship with any grandparents. 95% of the videos and articles are on narcissistic husbands but I think this is a huge problem also.
Highly visible signs of my now covert narcissist ex wife became amplified once the decided to start the divorce process. Best way to describe her behavior is war like. We had one 5 year old child. My ex began aggressive parental alienation that has lasted 13 years. If you think your narc wife will get better after a divorce, you may be terribly mistaken. Best to find a divorce attorney familiar with high tension relationships and prolonged custody issue. It's a cruel process for men - the courts are changing slowly but still favor the mothers.
I thought things were bad when I was married to the malignant narcissist wife. She wanted a divorce after 10 years. After I found out her affair, I realized it was time to file for divorce. She tried in a half-hearted way to come back. I said No and got the divorce done in 5 months. I got the kids and the new house that we were in for only 2 months before she left. Her hatred towards the kids and me increased 10X. Our kids become her pawns and she use to bring them home hungry and crying after her visitation. She bribed our oldest daughter at 17 with a car to move in with her. Then the Parent Alienation went into full drive. The Parent Alienation has been going on for 18 years now. The oldest daughter is just like her mother, hateful and vindictive. I would not wish this on my worst enemy. The only consolation is its quiet and peaceful in my life.
Thank you for confirming so much. I always wondered why she didn't want children. I always wondered why the only emotion she expressed was anger and disappointment toward me
My wife punch me in the face spit In my face Call the cops lied to the cops telling them I hit her I went to jail The reason she punched me in the face it’s because I pointed a finger and laughed at her during an argument
I’m a woman who’s had narcissistic female roommates for 11 years. One was covert, one was overt. I didn’t realize the covert one was subtly abusing me for years until a really overt one moved in and used her to triangulate me into serving the both of them. These women deeply wanted to be in relationships and were always seeking men. The covert one just got married. So now I have so much empathy for men who have dated or married these types of women. Even as a woman I was so confused by them. I can imagine a man thinking for a while that they just need to be more sensitive because that’s just how woman are. But NO, a narcissist is highly offended by every little thing. Constant eggshells. These women were Christian too so they could look angelic and so sweet. What a freaking nightmare. So any man that has done time with these type of women, think of yourself as a veteran because living with these demons is a whole war. Everyday is a battlefield. Just trying to find peace and not try to step on a land mine. I grew up with a parent like this so I was programmed to think this is normal. So I’ve been through the trenches my entire life. Dealt with decades of this rollercoaster devaluing chaos. 😪The craziest thing is the overt one set me free. She’s the one who brought up the term narcissist in the first place and was convinced her ex bf was one. Before that I thought a narcissist was just a vain person. Someone who like to post pictures on social media and just talk about themselves. I had no idea there was a abuse aspect to it. So I celebrate you all who have been forged by fire and I pray for you to be able to forgive yourselves, heal, and move on to healthy relationships. Not all women are like this. I’ve been ruminating on so many things I wish I said. I feel like this is so demonic and spiritual, that’s why they all instinctively do the same exact tactics. Forgive yourself. You’ve only been on this earth for so long, these tactics have been mastered for thousands of years. This is not their first rodeo. Dust yourself off and keep on going forwards not backwards. This medal is for you! 🎖️🏅🥇🏆⚔️✨🔥🪖💪
My wife is a 9 out of 10 on this list. The only one she doesn’t do is prevent me from having female friends and the only reason for that is because I’m convinced she’s cheating on me and it would probably just make her feel better about herself 🤷♂️
These women are pure evil. Listen to your inner voice and get out now before she does irreparable damage Don’t worry about the kids. They come back Warning: Your health is in great jeopardy Do it now! Learn from guys like me. Good Luck
Always compare you to their ex, always in your past even though it don't matter, they block you and family on social media when you have a small argument and bash you or they bash your kids.
I have been there. Been married to a fake christian for 19 months til she abandoned me after she got caught, while her blaming mother who is married to a Baptist pastor now living in Sublimity, blaming me for her lies and crimes.
yes 26 years of marriage I used to think I was the one pushing all the buttons ..blame me for the move blame for here unhappiness at her job ..now she takes it out on our 17 yr old boy
Block and delete rinse and repeat 🔁 My NPD Ex wife divorced me 28 years ago now she wants to get back “I want my husband back Block and delete rinse and repeat 🔁
My opinion is that the modern world is feeding femal narcissism , men must pay for everything yet we men are called animalistic low class , if a man goes away for a full month clear mind vacation from his wife he is considered a spouse abandoner , even if he leaves her money ubers, women have a mindset of husband is my slave who I am entitled to his assets.even if man contributes his money they want him to cook clean do dishes . Or they would rather he don't do it so they have a emotional club against him , they want to know everything about you , but they will make sure you have close to zero info about them
Wife literally gets disappointed by something everyday. I do everything around the house and I work also. She always says I'm doing the bare minimum. If something breaks around the house who do you think fixes it? I do. She don't even have to worry about laundry and dishes like most women do but im doing bare minimum. Can't make this stuff up. I've been a damn fool for too long.
2:19 Yeah I used to work hard to pay for the house and the bills and feed my dog Then ride my motorbike to remote Town pay the bills have dinner there then ride home She came along couldn't get the motorbike out of the shed.. Shattered my job and my soul
Omg every one of these I went through, two times. Now 60 years old and will end up growing older alone but, free from those sadistic narcissist females. If your reading this and wondering what to do when she is one of these, divorce now. Move away and get a good psychologist to get back on tracked the sooner the better believe me you will thank me later.
Simply make yourself happy and do the basics. Don't respond to that which is illogical and if she wants a new car point her to her retirement account or her own wallet then walk away. Get to things when needed and if it's above you point her to a mechanic she needs to pay for. Scheduling a time for stuff should be at your convenience not hers since you have to deal with it otherwise have her pay her way. Have separate bank accounts with her unlisted since there is no probate if you die, and she needs it. Do stuff to please yourself and treat her as a beneficiary. She took your last name and wants to reap from you. The tapeworm doesn't kill the host and if she feels you're less than meeting her bill she merely needs to address herself first then perhaps we can work out something that involves pleasing you. If the dishes stack, then place them in the backyard and hose them off so she knows where to get them later. Face it you married a jerk and she's not doing you any favors and she needs you more than you need her so she can kiss your booty.
Worked in various segments of Customer Service for most of my Employment Career. I've walked into Homes where the people were absolutely Great; but other Homes seemed like the starting flash point for WW3. As a result; i developed a keen eye for what was happening in that household. You'd be amazed how many so called wives would mistreat; and in some cases; go out of their way to humiliate their Husbands. Most were Middle Aged or Older.
She legit dropped the food I was cooking on the floor and then blamed me for it because I was drinking, despite the fact that I was barely faded and was legit counting down the minutes left till I had to take it out of the stove
It’s always the man’s fault 😂. My ex GF lied to police over a number of things to place me in prison and sue me in civil court…..thank God the state attorney and social worker saw through her lies and her plan did not prevail. It was a nightmare I never want to experience again.
It never mattered what the issue I had with employees or others she always took the other side, she never appreciated how hard I worked so she had money, a year after she left I still find myself looking back to see if i left a crumb on the counter or a cupboard door open. She’s not here and I’m still trying to impress her.
I was married to one everything was my fault tell lies told her family lies cheating threaten me verbally abusive and physically when drinking I have congestive heart failure then acting as she has no memory
Tbh I always thought femininity was narcissism. It was till I looked into specifics of narcissism that I realized what all these girls were. Honestly, how many guys can say that the hottest girl in their prime wasn’t a narcissist? That it was all about them being happy and you serving them and it being ok that they had childish behavior with no communication skill and wanted you to be some random checklist of behaviors that they idealized? Especially nowadays, how many non narcissist women are there? Even when I worked with mostly women at one point , the conversations they have amongst themselves about their husbands... Narcissists are created and today’s world only seems to breed narcissists and guys are also being taught now to be narcissists with women in order to maintain them and balance the power of a relationship. I gotta go Amish I guess
I LEARNT: MEN MARRY AND STAY WITH SUCH WOMEN... GOOD WOMEN ARE MOST LIKELY NOT MARRIED... WHEN YOU ARE A GOOD WOMAN MEN TAKE YOU FOR A VERY BAD RIDE... 😊
Control yourself so your not manipulated emotionally. Facts only. Grey rock. Study. Focus on why you were attracted to a narcissist. Focus on healing and growing yourself because you can't change anyone else.
Do you think it was better for you, if your dad left and leaving you with her? Do you believe the outcome would be better for you? I am to hesitate to leave, I attend she destroying me, I am not who will success me protecting my kids or she destroying me.
These sick disturbed people know exactly what they do and who to do it to. I used to make excuses for my wife and say things like “she doesn’t mean it” or “she is just unwell mentally”, but I was wrong. She doesn’t act this way at work or treat me like garbage when she is in front of other people so I KNOW it’s an active choice she makes to be a narcissist. She does know better, in fact when she wants something from me she is a completely different person but once she gets it she is back to being her true self. So I have absolutely no sympathy for narcissistic people because they actually want and desire to treat people like trash and they literally enjoy it.
My mother in law was like this and tortured me for years telling me I was a poor provider, Her husband lay in a bed mentally and emotionally destroyed, I did not know it at the time but My wife was a ''Mommas girl'' with this woman and forced us to live with her ''to help take care of her '' no matter how much I made $ it was never enough, I literally lived at work,Had a child with my wife and was put down in front of my child and made the scape goat by her relatives ie Sister and sisters boyfriend that would buddy up to me to get information that he would take back to the sister and he would put a slant on it mixing basic truth with his lies and made sure the Mother in law got the information.. While I was at work they would get together and have a hate session with me as the hated, Often my wife would sit in on the sessions but knowone would tell me what these horrible things I had done were, My wife would eventually begin treating me as they did and said she wished I would just leave ... UNTIL Roasting me was not enough so they started roasting my wife .. When that happened wife told me wrather reluctantly she was with me now ! and we would be moving out .. I was so happy I was afraid to say too much as she could change her mind...
You forgot to add that narcissistic women dismiss your feelings and turn to victimhood you don't understand and that your feelings are invalid and of course the gaslighting
@@BrittJoshua24-15 it is a nightmare, i didnt realize how bad it was. FYI, I am very fit, work out daily to help with anxiety. I developed coronary artery disease and type 2 diabetes. I almost died with 97% blockage. I am happily married to a woman that is totally opposite, and I still have nightmares and trigger points that cause anxiety. I hope you son can get out of his misery.
Me too but he was my husband 😥😥😥😥. Now my 54 year old son has been with a narcissist for 25 years. I haven't seen him for five years. He lives two hours away 😥. She has removed me, his dad , his friends. But I text or talk to him once a week to tell him I love you. She won't win. I pray to God to help him.
The day we walked down the aisle was JUST like a light switch turning off.....she immediately cancelled our honeymoon so that we could go Christmas shopping for her children from a previous marriage instead. She liked sex, but there was never intimacy, you were kept at arm's length emotionally. She was indeed the queen, I was a mere vassal. The TV remote, the check book, the home thermostat were hers only. When I told her I was taking a fifty dollar allowance (only) from each monthly paycheck so that I could pay for our dinners out, she brought us before a marriage counselor. If you were ever sick with a fever, you stayed in the bed by yourself until you got yourself well. EVERYTHING was a control issue for her, but never was she consistent.....she always argued the opposite side of my desires to either shame me or control me. When we separated, I sent her a "Thank You!! for divorcing me!!" card from Hallmark !!
Know the feeling - my way or the highway. Intimacy one sided - there are set times for bed - set times for cutting off calls in the evening and get in the mornings but they can lay in the bed and talk and talk any hour - your phone light is an issue but they do the same. Be home before I get there - I need my sex - you sometimes feel like you were paid for especially if she is in a better position - camera in almost every room - male friends call and flirt - your female friends want to have sex with you or you want them - you had sex with her - obsessed with checking your phone - don't watch her - I am going to leave you and get a better man. And the beat goes on and on .. if you get a phone call from anyone including a mother they are annoyed unless they have her to help tear you down - jealous even of male friends - all that you use to like doing even if you make her a part of it you can never please her. Don't dear want a better education or car. Treating anyone nicely often brings about the term "what about me".. Majority of them cheat constantly- bitter cold individuals that trust nobody. If guys see these traits it's time to exit - change the number because it will never stop ringing for days if you live apart. And if you live together she will maybe try to destroy you with scandal or lies that may send you to jail. Provoke you to retaliate - it the if I can't have you nobody will or must - If you can't get out immediately start keeping records - if you told her you want out and looking for a place - make it clear you don't want any sex. It can be used against you to bring rape charges you better tell her you are not doing anything with evidence - note this is the period she will claim to be pregnant.. await her period and exit. Many men hearts are soft so better exit and tell her you are hearing voices and seeing a doctor and can't continue the relationship with this frame of mind - play mad it might save your life.
My wife has all the 10 traits mentioned here. I have tried my best to retain my marriage vows because of my children. However, these days, she even treats my children badly. I give her loads of money but it has never been enough. I pay for everything and work hard. Yet she does nothing but when she does, she would claim that she does everything. I am now considering walking away. She is driving me nuts.
My son is in the same boat. They have 3 sons. She has cheated on him. She is cruel. She is the boss. My son makes good money and she demands so much of him. She withdraws alot of money and hides it. She has been a stay at home mom but my son does the cleaning, cooking and shopping. He even makes the boys lunches. She continually yells and calls him names and the kids too. My grandchildren have issues. I have prayed for their marriage for years but I see nothing is changing its only getting worse. He wants to leave but he knows if he does the kids would not be taken care of at all. He did recently see a lawyer and the lawyer said she would get the children because she has been a stay at home wife. She controls everything he does. She tracks his every move. She calls him all day at work accusing him of cheating. He is so tired of it. Now I just pray this will end somehow.
My story exactly I was finally discarded Got a good settlement Your mental and physical health are at risk Get out now Trust in God. He is on your side
Dude, you gotta formula a plan to cut her loose and get custody of your children. Yeah, I know, awfully bold of me to suggest this to a complete stranger. It's just I absolutely loved my brother so much, and our entire family has suffered terribly due to the witch my brother married. He was as good as they come, she drove him to an early grave. Get out while you are still young, don't waste yourself. Be blessed.❤️
Anyone suffering through any form of domestic abuse has my sympathy. Sadly, that kind of hell only ends with divorce, or death. I chose to divorce instead of either committing suicide, or suffering a long agonizing death if I remained. I may not know where I am going, but at least I am not there, anymore.
My former best friend is a narcissistic wife. She controls everyone in the house. Everything has to be her way or no way. Her children are stressed out because they have to be perfect. She complains if they inconvenience her. She thinks her children are better than other children yet they are never good enough for her smh. She has an amazing husband but she treats him horribly. She doesn’t like his children from a previous marriage but he embraces her children from her other marriages. She’s been married 5 times. I cut off our friendship last year because I found out she was talking about me behind my back. She told people my kids aren’t talented as hers and I’m lazy because I was a stay at home mom for a couple years. I just felt like friends don’t treat friends that way. So I went no contact with her. Of course that didn’t go over well so she went to FB with it. I’m trying my best to ignore it.
Your friend is a simp. That’s the heart of his problem. Any man who even considers marrying a woman with multiple divorces is a fool asking for hell. I’m sorry to say it but the truth hurts. Help him get out and to never look back. Be the true friend he desperately needs. Good luck.
My NPD Ex had a heritage of narcissists in her family...maternal grandmother divorced her husband, mother & D.C. lobbyist-attorney father, uncle committed suicide & I stupidly thought that these were environmental issue that would resolve themselves. In 1978 I knew nothing of NPD aloof from Greek Mythology. Best thing was when she divorced me & I took that excuse to move far away from that toxic chaos!
Typically the friends of narcissistic woman like yourself are used to tear down their partners also. I dealt with a narcissistic woman and all her friends tore me down further mainly on social media.
Got to get out of their the first sign of a red flag. Trust me, my bestfriend for 20 years is a narc. I figured since she wasn’t coming at me that I was safe, that I was exempt. And she didnt. She never came at me. But at a certain point her behavior towards other people became intolerable. When you see wrong- you have to bring them to justice. Otherwise you are justifying their horrendous treatment of people. If you dont tell them they are wrong and stand up for something, you’re advocating for their f’d up behavior. You never know when that karma hits back.
Amen! When I divorced my wife in 2010, I knew she was self-absorbed and impossible to please. Now, I realize she is damaged because of her own narcissistic mother. I also know now that she picked me as a simp empath, who said I was 95% responsible for all problems in our marriage. No sex for last 12 years of our marriage. Our four kids have nothing to do with me. My oldest son is getting married May 13, but he has not spoken to me for ten years. Lord have mercy on us all!
@markthomas6436 We need to grab a beer some time. Any chance you are in the Northeast? Read your comment. Sounds identical to my experience. I didn't even realize the manipulation I was succumbing to and accepting until I snapped out of it finally. Yup, empath simp. Me too. The daughter mimics the mother. Yup. They're deeply wounded by their mothers, but rather than heal themselves and recognize the root problem, they just follow the same script. Feel bad for our wives, but worse for us. I hear you. 👍🏻
@@Bradley-Young Sorry, I live in Illinois. Kindred Souls? My 35 year-old son was to be married May 13, but ceremony was cancelled. I have no further info. Wouldn't surprise me if my ex put the kibosh on it, but no proof. I feel for you brother!
@DJWOLF LIVE same situation here, but 41 years. You are smarter than me by 10 years. I’m leaving now also. Why oh why did it take me so long? Loyalty? Stand up guy? Loved her? It’s hard to sort out.
8 Years of B.s . she threatened to leave one day with our daughter and I was like you could have left 9 years ago in my mind. It's been an year and I have soo much peace ✌️ Full of live and joy. 😂🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
This has been and is my life precisely. Leaves you mentally broken. All I've done is question my own actions and inadequacy and not realised until recently seeing videos like this that I shouldn't blame myself.
Dont feel bad guys, there are great women right out here wanting to love someone for real. If you are in this situation just heal yourself, take care and love yourself because there are good women here ❤ there is hope for true love 🙂
Every Father should teach his son the following: -Dont court the girl, court the family. Her family background and past is your future -Watch out for red flags. Too much adoration is love bombing. -What assets does she bring to the marriage table? What negatives does she bring? -Is she financially stable or is she after your money? -Do her parents have a pension? You may be seen as their future source of support Is she overly attractive and knows it? -Is she a divorcee? Careful. You may be marrying some other guy’s problem. -Could you see being married to her Mother? -Does she have many old lifelong friends? If in doubt, get out and save yourself the grief so many of us have gone through If you think single life is lonely, a bad marriage is much worse …And if married to a narc, know that it is hopeless. Get out now. Time not money is your most precious currency
I ticked every item in that list except number 3 (threatening to leave their husbands). In my case, she threatened a few times early on in our marriage. Later, she made good on her threat and saw other men all while she was living with me and our kids.
I'm living this hell right now. My wife uses money and our sons against me daily. I realize there is no way to "win" and the more I fight, the more she tries to destroy our family. I also feel trapped because she makes twice my wage. If I tried divorce, she will get everything and I'll probably never see my sons. I should add that was it my 6 years of military service that allowed us to buy our home and not have crazy med bills.
It's time to take advantage of the military benefits you earned by serving and level up. I make 3 times what I my narcissistic wife makes, and I hide it from her. I pretend everything is ok, while she does all this stuff. I am just arming myself up and making sure I am good. I swear she may have some multiple personality disorder stuff going on as well. She is a constant roller coaster of a 💩storm.
@someguy9132 Yes working on that. I'm concerned if I hide it, it will end up being used against me later. Been married 8 years now, someone said 10 years is alimony territory.
@@TheArmadon not sure how she could use it against you in a legal sense. But if she were to berate you I guess I could see her doing something along those lines. But keep your head up brother, and know your worth. Level up and get a great lawyer, but in the meantime, build a case. Get pictures, videos, take lots of detailed notes. Trust me I live with one and I have a body camera. I have screenshots of berating messages, videos of her admitting to and laughing about things she's done to me. I have a pretty detailed log of all her junk, and I have already been seeking legal counsel. I feel like a have a pretty strong case to get my way when things finally go South. I would suggest doing the same, and be as detailed as possible.
I'm right there with you brother. My wife in just 2 years of being married has destroyed my credit run me into bankruptcy and alienated me from all my friends and family, all while she is wearing Prada and Louis Viton. The kids are the only reason we are still together.
You got this right! It's long overdue to focus on this topic. I could write a book! The narcissistic wife cannot be satisfied by their husband when they make love. And their little disagreements about other aspects of their lives remind her of her sexual dissatisfaction with him. Chances are, she's secretly attracted to other women and just pretending to be heterosexual. She could also be bi-sexual. The root cause is likely sexually maladaptive inner turmoil that can't be fixed or treated.
Wow I never though of that! I can't satisfy my wife and women seem to find her very attractive and any gay women always go to her... interesting..we are about to split because I can't take the drama and fighting anymore. Her adult son and girlfriend and to kids moved back in for the 4th time and every minute is dedicated to them. I though I was just being selfish until I started learning all this..the guilt is such a strong tool. And she uses it alot!
@@jimbrunner7386 Sorry to hear what you’ve been through/are still going through but really glad you are learning about this female narcissism thing. Since they can’t be helped and for our own peace and safety, we men need to seriously consider walking away-no explanations-just go and never speak to them again. It’s often a very difficult step to take, and it must be given very serious consideration . Stay safe at all times.
I was married to a narcissist for 8 years and she broke me.. We've been divorced for 4 years and I can't get past it..She turned my kids against me and every friend that we had..She has told lies to everyone she can..To this day, she still makes Facebook posts about me.. I've been living a life of seclusion for 3 years now and I just don't see how I can get my life back.
Hand in there, my friend. It's a truly nasty situation to be in, and few if any people understand. Sadly, what you've described is pretty normal in this situation: it's what narcissists do, and there seems to be little chance of putting things straight, because no-one believes you. Don't try to talk your kids round - it won't work. They'll think you're doing it because you're the bad person. If you have the opportunity to relate to them, just relate as yourself, but if they're constantly abusive, you may probably need to step back from contact with them. They may one day realise what the true situation is if they also get subjected to her narcissism. You need to find some positive things and people in life, and focus on them rather than on the crushing loss and abuse you've endured. Rediscover the things you enjoy and are good at, and be gentle to yourself, because it takes years. You've been through (and are still going through) a massive trauma. Videos like this one are good because they validate your experience and help you accept that it wasn't your fault. You probably need some support from a counsellor or psychologist, too. I wish I could be there in person for you, tbh. It's a hard road to travel, and it's certainly been the nastiest experience in my life by a very long way.
I have been going through this hell for 17 years. Things just took a turn from bad to worse because I took her control over me away. Then she left with the kids. She’s a broken woman. I have Christ. So, my faith keeps me hopeful for a good future-however this turns out.
After 9 years of hellish life, I am glad I learned this terrible pattern. She has been exactly what is in this video. I have paid emotional, financial and social price. I started divorcing her a year ago and stopped the proceedings because of kids and hopping she would learn from her mistakes. But now I regret that decision. For a month she appeared changed and then back to square 1. The good part of this whole thing is I learned what the problem is. She is narcissistic and I wish I knew this years back. Knowing the problem is first step for solution.
I know of a man who found himself in an argument about assets with his ex... She put her arms around him and kissed him intimately... She pulled away and then said with a sneer.. 'Your DNA is in my mouth and can have you for sexual assault' He called The Police straightaway... Anything happen law wise? Of course not!
This sounds just like my ex best friend! Married 4 times, 2 baby daddies, multiple affairs, sleeps with SO MANY men, has never been faithful to any of her husbands, hoards money, puts so much emphasis on money, everything is about MONEY, she thinks her kids are the best, and the brightest, and everyone else’s kids suck, she thinks her way is the only way, and if you don’t do exactly what she thinks you should do, she cuts you off. I never tried to contact her again after her last discard. We’ve gone back and forth with our relationship, for over 25 years, with me always being the one to apologize, for unknown reasons. Her last discard was when I really needed close friends, I was going through a really rough divorce from a malignant narcissist, and of course that’s when she decided I needed to be punished. I’ve always attracted these types of people. It’s been close to 5 years, and if she knew me now, she’s be shocked at how much I just don’t give AF anymore. I almost wish for the opportunity to be able to tell her about herself, but Ive come to far spiritually, and wouldn’t want to ever subject myself to evil like that again. She’s the perfect example of God giving someone over to a reprobate mind 👌💯💯
Saw that happen to my youngest son. After she had their second child things really went to hell. She always said she wanted to be a stay at home mom. Nothing was ever right he’d try and get a good paying job. But it was never right . Either to far away or the wrong hours. He would come home from working all night, go to school 9:48 and still have do his own cooking. Not to mention having to handle the kids while she slept. Could not see his friends to play volleyball . Would not go anywhere with his friends or accept invitations to get together . Demonized his family so we rarely got to see them. And when we did it was always so tense. She controlled all the money. Even down to his phone and bank account which was in her name. He tried to fight back but then she would get the kids in the middle of their fights putting their father down calling him a liar and other disparaging names. It was her plan to literally drive him mad and when she got close and he would leave she would say he had abandoned the family. Today he’s a shell of the son that I once knew. When he could no longer work because of anxiety and stress induced psychosis she told him to either get a job or live on the street. It was two years before I even knew where he was. Now we are trying to pickup the pieces.
She would say "Happy Wife, Happy Life" Oh so everything is dependent on serving you and your needs. They will also blame you for all their problems at work, with their family and with their friends.
@@user-kcrpine Indeed, they will wreck your life. The key is to spot them early on and then exit as soon as possible. Always pay attention to how they react when you say no, offer a different view or opinion? If it is met with anger, blackmail, guilt tripping, silent treatment, get out.
Oh dude I'm going through the same thing. But here's the deal. I came to a point where I can't divorce her. I have no clue what could be done at this point :(
Any woman that thinks a successful marriage means, “happy wife, happy life,” is self-centered, and not about the partnership. That is a huge relationship 🚩.
