How the Netherlands almost ruined our marriage? - Chitchat with my Nigerian Husband 🤗🤭 

Big respect and kudos to both of you but especially to your husband. . I don’t know anything about Nigerian culture, but I think here in Europe there are not that many man that would be willing to change their life to give this career opportunity to their wife. His hard work to learn Dutch to build up his own life while supporting you makes him and you gems among the expat community.

Gonna be blunt about this: Only YOU can mess up your relationship. Don't blame it on anyone else. If moving to another culture/society has negative impact on you, it's YOU that failed at adapting to the new environment. It's as simple as that. That's really all.

Following your wife to a different continent to enable her to get her PHD, while giving up your own job. You must be a great guy and husband, much respect for that. And it shows in how you guys are thriving in your new home country.

I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS! I AM AN OLD MAN OF 69, FRENCH FROM FRANCE ORIGINALLY, OR MORE PRECISELY FRENCH ON ONE SIDE AND SYRIO-ARGENTINE ON THE OTHER AND I ALSO LIVED IN AFRICA. I ALSO HAVE A UKRAINIAN FRIEND NOW A REFUGEE IN THE NETHERLANDS AND MARRIED THERE TO A CAMEROONESE AND YOUR VIDEOS ARE AND EXTREMELEY PRECIOUS SOURCE OF INFORMATION ABOUT THE NETHERLANDS SINCE THEY ARE BOTH NEW THERE AND DOING THEIR BEST TO ADJUST AND LEARN THAT NEW COUNTRY! SO MY PROFUSE THANKS FOR ALL YOUR VIDEOS! THEY ARE REALLY FANTASTIC! LOVE TO BOTH OF YOU AND TAKE CARE! BOTH OF YOU ARE RADIANT, VIBRANT AND SUPER-INSPIRING AND YOU REMIND ME SO MUCH MY AFRICA, WHERE I GREW UP AND WENT TO SCHOOL. I HAVE NEVER FORGOTTEN IT AND NEVER WILL! YOU ARE BOTH BEAUTIFUL!

Thank you Josephine and hubby! We’d definitely want to have more of this. For many of us who are newly wedded (prospects). 🤭

Kijk graag naar jou filmpjes, interessant. Jullie zijn een leuk stel/gezin. Blessings😘

A very timely and relatable video. A stellar example you two ❤️. May your marriage continue to flourish with lots of love and respect for each other

What a positive person he is! I really liked this episode.

Loved this conversation! Moving to the Netherlands soon and I have been encouraged to start learning Dutch seriouly after this. I secretly hope I get to be friends with you guys😃. Such progressive thoughts.

You are a very beautiful couple. Good luck together! Heel interessant te kijken wat de verschillene ervaringen in Nederland zijn.

I like full transparency of the money in the relationship. Thats how it is for my relationship. I love the way yall talk to each other. I can see the mutual respect. And yall are both intelligent people. ❤ very inspiring..cheers to you

Really insightful conversation. Thank you Mr Ogugua for gracing our screens.

Wauw, ik hou van die mentaliteit van je man. Heel inspirerend, inderdaad bezig blijven en jezelf afvragen "how can I create value for myself?". Die vraag maak ik vandaag leidend voor mijn dag. Thanks guys! 😍

Your husband is so full of wisdom 😍 Thank you both for sharing

Another major point you mention was the imbalance in the home because of our natural inclination to certain roles. This creates a resistance foe either parties to " meet half way" because in the end it is never really HALFWAY.

Very interesting discussion, thank you for being open to talk about these personal topics. You two seem really great together and were a pleasure to listen to.

Sound like you two have a very healthy relationship. Great to here about it. Your husband DOES add value to your vlogs. That's an invitation sir!

You make a nice couple. One can see the love that you have for each other.

I’m looking to move to the Netherlands for my PhD, I’ve been sending In applications. If I’m being honest, your videos has to be one(s) of the many that has convinced me to make a good pick in Europe. Even though every country has its down sides, my spirit feels drawn to this place more. Recently, I found out we don’t have the embassy in Nigeria and I’d have to go to Cotonou but I won’t let that discourage me yet. Funny thing, I’ve also been learning Dutch. I know Vrouwen, Mannen, Boterham, Meijse, Krant, and so much more. Thank youuuuu. Hoping to send in a goodnews soon!

I love your content especially now that I can relate since moving to the Netherlands.

Super video! You are both so intellectual and it is refreshing to see such transparent content! Wow

Enjoyed this conversation. Thank you!

You both have such a great attitude! Love both your personalities. I moved to Canada when I was 10 years old and never went back because I want to remember it the way I left it. Lived in Gouda, where my dad was a cheesemaker! He became a cheesemaker in Canada. Really enjoy watching all kinds of youtube videos about Holland, a great country!

This is really captivating 👏👏👏. Keep being you. Love this👍

This came in really handy! Thank you❤

You two are lovely :D so sweet together. Amazing how open you guys talk with each other. Ps I think most couples in the netherlands are open with each other about money.

You guys are amazing.

This was a good one. I do believe cultural beliefs and upbringing do play a role in our adaptability. Our backgrounds are a big part of who we are. That being said, you pointed out major points regarding who we are as individuals and what our relationship mean to us which is what determines how we adjust to things at the end of the day.

Self development is a very important thing to do while waiting for anything ❤

My father was not open about finances with my mother. As an immigrant, she could not work here in her field of work, as her diploma was not recognised here. She was depending on him. I think this (especially him not being open about it) caused a lot of strain in their marriage. Also he mismanaged his finances. My mother was much better at that. But he did not include her in major decisions. Not good.

Have a good winter solstices and a happy new year

You are both very wise, God will continue to bless your marriage.

'Opportunity favors a prepared mind' is very true. In my line of business I use the 5 P's (Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance).

Financial transparency within a marriage is definitely the norm in the Netherlands. In fact, keeping things from each other on the money front is often seen as a risk for financial abuse. Within reason of course... The exception is often elderly couples where one of the partners has assumed control of the finances and the other partner hasn't paid attention to them for decades.

I'm a new subcsriber and I'm really in love with ur contents. Your contents are so educative 🥰

I once had this discussion on finance with some of my folks (both gender), and 90percent disagrees with financial transparency in marriage. The debate is usually one sided- women should be open while the men can keep theirs a secret. Well, I agree 100percent with your husband, financial transparency should be encouraged in marriage but with exceptions (I still believe understanding your partner's maturity in finance management is key. If you marry a partner who likes to spend 80 percent of your savings, then the other person will be justified for keeping his/her income a secret). Nonetheless, I'm happy your marriage is working well. Well done 👏

enjoyed every bit of this video

2 beautiful people🥰

w\WOW....WOW... A hitchkock ending.

Equality = equality. So no problem when a woman works and the man stays home. The other way around is also ok. It's all ok :) Own your life and live it the way that makes your whole family happy.

Hey guys. I like your content. As a Dutch guy I worked for a while in Nigeria in the 80's. So I don't know how it is to be a Nigerian in the Netherlands, but I know how it is to be a Dutch guy working in Nigeria. In these years Nigeria (Lagos / Apappa) had a bad reputation, but ik liked it.

Love this

Hi!! Could you consider go deep about Healthcare Industry in all levels and share some resources, references and experience. Thank for sharing all this in your channel.

Can i ask po? Netherlands have a Church like born again christian

I have Been living in The Netherlands for about a year moved from Germany and I am from Nigeria. I just wanna say this Title is misleading, I have lived in a several EU countries and to me the Netherlands is the most balanced. Keep in mind if you live in any big cities around the world the lifestyle is very similar. The title is misleading

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You guys are fk cute

Dutch people talk only within the household about financial stuff or private matters within that circle. Transparancy to someone else not in the family is putting noses into places that dont matter. Dutch people do not like to show off how much or how little they have. Its a very sad trait if people do. Money doesnt define anything and its only required to pay the needs. Beyond that its nobody their business. after all nobody wants eachother to define another by their wallet. so we dont even approach that topic. we avoid it. Hopes it clears it up.

Men and women have their own traits indeed. Men do not want to marry another man. In that way women and men are not equal body and mentally wise. Men have less emotional influence to endure. and have more of a thing affiliation over a people affiliation. Women are more emotionally connected to situations, women are more people and less thing persons. Which is why men choose often technical or stem work, where women tend to choose more social work. Biologically we are not the same. Just by rights we're the same. but even between men no man is the same, every man that exists has only 1 of them, same for women. So being equal in reality is impossible, if we were nobody would be unique or have its own talents. But the most interesting comes from when you combine the 2. Men and women generally are attracted to the opposite traits. A dominant guy doesnt want a dominant girl, and a feminine woman doesnt want a feminine man so to say. Men tend to be less agreeable women tend to be more agreeable. When you combine the both of those, you get a certain balance. where the development of the family is depending on every source to do their part. When a family does this right, you find respect and long term love. Which leads to success for all parties. Equal or not, nobody is perfect, so having a someone to rely on who has other qualities but treats you like they want to be treated themselves, with love. then you will have a successful life, regardless of the ups and downs. So equality or not, its not much of a matter. even if we're not equal in qualities as a human but equal in rights as a human. We still need eachother to fill in the void of our weaknesses. Real success in equality isnt to normalize everything, women can do a better job on average with kids that are crying and cant talk. Men tend to sacrifice themselves to protect their loved ones. These qualities dont need equality, because equality isnt sharing the same burden. Equality is making sure that you fix the weaknesses you can do while someone else does your weaknesses. And together those are equal strengths.

I think african women according to many studies and just from anyone who can honestly observe african society would agree that a lot african women are already the main breadwinners in their households or single parent households...The men in many african countries dont contribute to providing or in the house🤷🏽‍♀️ so i dont think the Netherlands can really ruin your marriage

what a lovely couple