How The Saints Guide Us To A Fruitful Marriage | Fr. Josiah Trenham 

God forgave and forgives you for sure. 1. John 1,9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Be blessed

Of course God has forgiven you, sister ❤ I've struggled with exactly the same thoughts as you. But read the Prodigal Son and remember that God loves you so, so much, and He's rejoicing at the fact that you're back with Him

God loves you. And if you start to live yourself and serve God from a pure heart, you will receive what He intends for you. I promise you that a sincere change of heart and life will bring you peace and a partner who loves and admires you for YOU. Take care of yourself with respect and love. Attend a good church, find like minded people and have some married friends who can introduce you to a god single man also seeking marriage. You have inherent value and your past does not dictate your future if you choose a different future.

Philippians 4:19 But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus....🙂💖🙏

He forgives you, present past and future. When he had Jesus die on the cross for us, he took into consideration the sins you would commit during your life, the sins all of us would. He knows and forgives you for each one. You’re saved by grace, not your deeds 😊 Ephesians 2:8-9 in the Bible says that people are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus, not by their own efforts or works. The verse reads, "For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast"

how is it going so far? im going to pray for you. God has called you, hopefully with time you can bring her closer to Christ. Don’t lose hope brother

I want to encourage you to continue to pray for your wife and your union. My parents were married in the church but my mother didn’t give her life to Christ until 26 years later. My father was always quite devout but it wasn’t until about 17 years after their marriage that I noticed a change in him. They’ve endured infidelity, depression and isolation and are now the strongest couple I’ve ever known. They now worship together and attend each other’s church’s (dad is Catholic, mom is Presbyterian). God works all things together and makes all thing new. I’m praying for you. God bless 💜

You have spiritual authority as the head of the house, loom up Father Ripperger. I have the same problem and my hubby has no faith and doesn't want me to teach our children faith as I had a conversion after we were married. I was very blessed we did get married in church. Ask Mother Mary to help you and guide you. I love you Mother Mary.

Keep praying for her to see who God is and come to Faith. Don't get discouraged.

I agree!!!!!!!! i was blown awayyyyyyyy. I have to really level up now hah

Yes!! I love that ❤

I no longer have any list just the few: be a worshiper and be goofy--- everything else is a bare minimum; I'm leaving all I need in a man of God to God. Only He knows the husband I need (all the qualities that he needs to have as much as I do need to be that for him.😊

He speaks what he learned from bible.

Thank you father because you're speaking from the bible and from the Christian 's value. That what our Lord Jesus Christ thought us as Christians but sadly many Christians do not understand these values.

The way you say 'order' sounds harsh. Instead let say it team work

So is a finding a good mM

⁠​⁠@@bezamichael4591 order is fitting. Why do people want to run away from using direct words, there is nothing wrong with the word.

@UKAZI_Biblical_Womanhood because people abuse it in the wrong way. Personally, 'order' is a tough word instead I chose teamwork, and trust me it works for me.

@@bezamichael4591 tried and failed that approach. Soft or hard, my fault I guess . I'm stoked my kids became Cops ( worry big time , especially after giving benefit pain and gain lesson ) such is life if one is a daughter

really lovely to hear that ❤

It is much better it be in His hands cos Jesus knows best😊

Except for all the worship to the creation when very plainly in the escriptures that we can ONLY worship God the creator So they are just another branch of catholisism actually they were one back in the day, so go figure

​@@rhema238yeah, except for anyone who makes claims to that Orthodox Christian faith is a branch of the catholic church is twisting the Truth and is misleading people from finding the Truth.

Worship is sacrifice. Worship is not merely prayer. Prayer is but a request. Pray ye one for another, Scripture says, not worship ye one another. So then, the real question here is not who can pray for whom, but what is the Church? Yes, the Catholic and Apostolic faith is different from whatever you believe. He who eats my flesh and drinks my blood abides in me and I in him, says the Lord. In the original faith, both the living and the dead are alive in Christ. Cf: The transfiguration and Moses and Elijah speaking to the Lord before the three apostles. Our living and dead are one in Christ and all in Christ can pray for each other. PS - it also helps not to throw out the deuterocanon - 2 Maccabees has examples of both the living praying for the dead and the dead praying for the living. That was the reason it was excluded form the Protestant bibles, which are modified canons that suit Protestant dogmas. Ex Protestant, now Orthodox (Oriental)

You can repent. Nobody is saying you can't be saved. But it's hard, from a human standpoint, to accept that kind of past. If my future wife, assuming there are still good chaste women left in this side of heaven, says to me "I have been with 5/10/20 guys, that hurts even more. Imagine the One that you love more than anybody else, telling you other 20 men have been inside her. That's excruciating. It's rips my heart apart. When You have sex with someone, you create soul ties. It's not just a physical transaction. You form an eternal bond with that person. Unbreakable.

The Orthodox Church teaches that baptism removes all your sins in Gods eyes. At each confeasion that we make in earnest spirit, our sins are also forgiven. However we still need to confront our actions aswell as continue to repent and fight our passions the rest of our lives. With Christs help!

@@giorgiogiorgetti3939 Well yes, I understand that. I didn’t think he was implying that one can’t repent, my issue was the comment about a marriage not working out. With God, anything is possible. My issue is not with a man not wanting to date me because of my past, that’s his prerogative, but the statement that a marriage would not work. So people with a past basically might as well not get married if that’s the case. Why is that excruciating? Because of jealousy?

@@umeahalla Absolutely! I’m a catechumen.

@@Phoebe907 1. Jealousy is not a bad thing. Even God is described as a jealous God. He wants exclusivity. And that's what a man and a woman should demand in their lifetime partner as well. 2. The likelyhood for marriage to work is close to 0. The more partners you have, the less likely it becomes to pair bond with someone. Also, chances of divorce go over the roof. 3.Your brain will automatically compare your current man with all the previous men you had. That generates insatisfaction. Cause no matter how good one can be, He can't beat all of them in all domains. 4. I would never date a woman that has been with other men. I can be friend and have brotherly love for her, but it's hard for me to view her as the mother of our children. 5. Soul ties are real. You can't magically change your past. Or forget it. This is the reason why we always have a special place in our heart for our first GF/BF. It's not a good feeling to be considered as a back up plan for a women over25/30 after She has let other men be "inside" her. So, a lot of reasons: social, antropological, spiritual, and why not jealousy. I apologize for my english

Mostly to Women.

One who desires should never be. And generally no. Those who have been divorced are not eligible for the priesthood.

Are you an Orthodox Christian? If no, you can get baptised and become Orthodox and yes you can enter the priesthood. If you are Orthodox and divorced, you can’t enter the priesthood.

Are you Orthodox? If you aren’t you can become Orthodox and enter the priesthood.

@@irenevass6581 thank you. No I am not but considering

@@quickbreaks5865that’s good news then! You can become a priest. Once you are baptised into the church! Good luck and May God bless your path.

Don’t dream about it. Pray about it! God bless you! ☦️

Yes. I’m not sure the exact process. There’s at least one convent in California and many more in Orthodox Europe and Russia.

Matthew 19:5-6 (NIV): "And said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate." 1 Timothy 3:2 (NIV): "Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach..." Proverbs 5:15-20 (NIV): "Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer- may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife? Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman?" and so on

@Juliana.moraes Easy. First, NIV is garbage. Second, thank you for taking the time out of your busy day to respond but, 1 Timothy 2:12. Third, Matthew 19 is discussing divorce. Where it was common to put away with a wife for any and no reason at all and then to take another wife. Jesus commands us men to keep our wives, even the "******" ones. And to piggy back that, a woman is not commanded, allowed, or in a place to divorce a husband. You will not find that anywhere in scripture either! Fourth, the family unit is symbolic of the church. As an example with Noah and the Ark. HE was the overseer! Yet, you can find scholars that would argue that he also had multiple wives later. Scripture does not contradict itself! "A wife" or "one wife" as in "mia", should be "FIRST" wife. Here's a hypothetical, 1 man has been married and divorced multiple times, yet retains his last wife. But he has "one" and only one wife... Compare that man to a man who has been faithful to his FIRST wife, never divorced! God hates divorce! Let no man separate/put asunder that God has ordained! Which "man" is more respectable in your opinion and better suited to lead? Now what "IF" that man remains married to his FIRST wife AND takes to himself a second wife? Would you still argue that the serial divorcee is somehow better suited to serve as an overseer/deacon!? I wouldn't! King David can write, but you wouldn't even allow him into your congregation to read!? Fourth, I love wisdom! As a family, we are rereading Proverbs right now. I whole heartedly agree, I love my "one" wife. My "first" wife. I'm a man that loves "a" wife. Etc etc etc. All good! Likewise, you are correct, "Adultery" is defined as "sleeping" with ANOTHER MAN'S WIFE. Again, no contradicting verses here. David was a man after God's own heart, he was given the WIVES of the previous King. Remember? And if he wanted more, he could have simply asked. I think that's 1 Samuel 12? UNLIKE incest, for example, that was "allowed" in Genesis, prior to the laws against incest in Leviticus. And unlike homosexuality which is still an abomination according the OT. ”Polygyny” NOT polygamy, is never outlawed. In fact, we'll find that IF man takes to himself a second wife, he is NOT to reduce his first wife's love and resources. Exodus 21:10. In Genesis you will find that when Sarah brought to Abraham Hagar, there was a quarrel among the women, women will be women... But, what did God command Hagar to do? God Commanded Hagar to return and to Submit. Genesis 16. Of course one could argue that it is commanded of men to take a second and wife in the event of a brother's death. Similar to the event with Boaz. I can speculate that as an old and successful man, he would have been married prior to meeting Ruth and Naomi. But it's not explicitly written as such. I could go on and on. At best, you will resort to finding scriptures with "wife" in order to argue fallaiciously your point. While blindly ignoring the 40+ recorded instances of polygyny in your Bible. You could even read Jewish folklore that claims Adam had two wives. Lilith and Eve. Don't try to say that all polygynist marriages ended up bad. Remember Abraham, Isaac, Jacob. We are all living in a fallen state, due to Eve and Adam's sin. Whether you be single, married, divorced, polygynist, or something else, etc etc. Christ redeems, Husbands are called to be like Christ, washing our women with the Word. women are to respect their husbands. It doesn't come natural, it takes effort on both parts.

Censored much..

Now where is that written. You claiming to know what God wants is laughable.

What are you talking about lmao put your feelings aside and speak the TRUTH. In 1 Corinthians 7:8 Paul is saying it is best to be unmarried and devout our life to God in flesh and spirit but those who cannot resist their fleshes desires might as well get married BUT he is specifically talking about the unmarried and widowed not the ones who have been married multiple times. In Matthew 19:8 Jesus himself said we were not supposed to divorce but because we are selfish, we do as we please & anyone who divorces except in cases of sexual immorality, IS committing adultery

Hi there sweet Strawberry It is not at all appropriate for a strawberry to cry 👎😥 -> 😃👍 The goal of the video is not to make you feel sad. I know how you feel because I myself also have not yet found a suitable girl for marriage. But you still have enough time to find a guy with whom you'll start a family and have a fulfilling life. Don't give up and don't torture yourself but rather keep going through life with a big wide smile on your face 😁 and be happy 🙂. God bless you 🍓😇 Greetings from Germany 😎

@@Bojan90 ☺️🫶 thank you for your words. Wish you the same and more ✨

@@MissAngelaiz Thank you too for your kind words 😇. I'm glad you're in a better mood. Despair leads nowhere. Only prayer, smile, hope and patience and all obstacles fall. Who knows, maybe this is your lucky year and everything will soon turn out as it should. Positive thoughts equal beautiful life 😁 Have a nice week 🍓🍓🍓🍀🍀🍀😁😃😎

Well, there’s no direct or easy way to go about it. But first and foremost, as Father Josiah said not playing married and mocking the sanctity of Godly marriage should precede. Then you ought to make sure that the your partner wants to go down the same path you have chosen. This might not be an easy decision as your partner might not want marriage or to follow Christ for that matter. Make sure you cleanse your relationship of any adultery and uncontrolled fornication and really focus on building a Christian marriage which entails praying together, going to church as a unit, protecting each other physically or spiritually. In Ephesians chapter 5 St. Paul speaks of the relationship between Jesus Christ, hallowed be his name, and his church and what secrets it reveals in the wisdom of being in a marriage. He says that the wife must honor and respect her husband as the Church does so and to submit to him. But here’s the kicker, he then proceeds to saying that the husband should live for, protect, and die for his wife as Jesus did for his Church (in simple terms). This is not an easy thing to say or do. Because this means your life should entirely be given to your spouse and your spouse only. To protect her, to live for and die for her if it comes to that. Your life is now dedicated, without doubt and with selflessness, to her and the offspring she bears you. For if a man really loves and respects his woman, as Jesus said there is no love greater than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. In this case your spouse. So it is necessary for you and your partner to practice these deeds until they become natural to you both and pray everyday for each other, support and trust each other. And God will see you and the effort you are making towards him and in the glorification of his Son, he will give you what your heart seeks. I wish you luck. May God be with you.

Visit your local Orthodox church and talk to a priest. Start praying and studying the faith. May God bless your journey!

@@podvizhnikband2775 thank you 🙏🏼

Read the Bible on the responsibilities of a Partner and try to be that with the help of Christ, but Start informing the woman you are living with on your New belief and how it doesn't allow the relationship you had. Ephesians 5 is a good starting point on relationships.

He is a happily married man over 30 years. He obviously has good experience and advice. He’s also a Church leader, he’s studied and experienced helping people in the Right Ways.

@@Foxie770 Don’t care. He’s given objectively harmful and borderline abusive marital advice to millions of people via RU-vid. This is a matter best discussed with one’s spiritual father, not some Internet personality who has made a name for himself by taking extremist positions on “traditional” values.

@@IAMFISH92 Not today satan!

@@LorraineAmoako 😂 I’m Satan for calling Out this dude’s misogyny? Ok.

​@@IAMFISH92 Give an example of his misogyny.

I’d visit with a priest about this. Godspeed, sir!

Love her in friendship, sincerity and honesty about the kind of relationship you want to work towards. If she's right for you and loves you, she'll get on board with it and honor the steps you want to take to have a relationship that honors Jesus Christ.

I agree may you find your person ☦️

Date well and trust God

If you haven’t considered celibacy, do consider and discern the fruits of celibacy versus the fruits of marriage.

As. 40 year old single woman pursuing full time ministry work, I feel your pain! It's hard to wait on God's timing and not go out looking for it on your own, but I know God has something so much better for me than any relationship I could come up with on my own. God has told me before, I have the right husband for you and when he sees you, he won't miss you, he will know who you are!

@@xelan8549 marriage has drastically disrupted my spiritual life, because of time constraints. if youre pursuing a mystic/priestly life, celibacy is the answer

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Hi

Praying. Who do you think will win if you pray, your husband or God?

The church recognizes other grounds. I know alcoholism is one, I think DV is as well. But it’s not something to be taken lightly.

As a widow, I am praying for all those who wish to marry. I’m praying for chastity, and the ability to follow God’s will. Blessings!

what city are you in? are you attending an Orthodox Church

@@woodstocklad yes, Iowa City.