How to balance motherhood - [& work, marriage and everything else.]

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An encouraging perspective on balance & my experience as a wife & working mama of 2.
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Balancing the demands of our home life and work life has always been challenging but adding a new baby or 2 to the mix can make balance seem impossible. In this video I share my experience but more than that I will explain why balance does not really exist. Nobody is doing great at everything all at once! Rather than trying to do it all, we can instead focus our energies on a few specific things and receive as much help as possible along the way. I hope this video encourages you in your motherhood journey & helps you to make peace with your life right now. You are doing so good. I really believe in you.
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@ashleymiller9465 4 года назад

In a world that is screaming at women to be everything and do everything (have a baby, work 40+ hrs and climb the ladder, have a side hussle, be a great spouse, be thin and fit) this is the most refreshing thing I’ve ever heard. Thank you thank you thank you Jess for being so real.

@bottomlessmomosa8958 4 года назад

Ashley, I agree! Its very refreshing. I have a working mom podcast where I am going over how I make more time in the day starting with personal core values. Here is the link if you want to check it out. link.chtbl.com/2n2O9PL9

@kellyerasmus5503 4 года назад

It's really nice to have someone on youtube with a "mommy channel" that will say "I'm not very good at homemaking/cooking/whatever facet of momlife". It's great to have this instead of the general "morning routine etc" videos that make you feel like you just aren't getting it right.

@jaydenfrank6925 3 года назад

i dont mean to be offtopic but does any of you know a method to get back into an instagram account? I was dumb forgot the login password. I would appreciate any help you can offer me!

@rachelpierson6957 4 года назад

This is such an on-time message for me. My firstborn is 4 months and I'm just coming out of the worst days of my struggling since becoming a mom. Zoloft + counseling + a supportive husband + letting go of the crazy high expectations I had for myself pre-baby + Jesus have helped me come to terms with my new life and start enjoying it. I'm grateful for your heart to share videos like these.

@mamatried_ 4 года назад

Rachel Pierson Same girl, same🙌🏼❣️

@shellyoh2 4 года назад

I am the same!! 4 month old as well and I struggle with anxiety and letting go of perfectionism. My counseling, meds, husband, and God help me but it’s still a challenge everyday. Taking it one day at a time. Hang in there! 💪🏼💪🏼

@bottomlessmomosa8958 4 года назад

I felt the same way as a new mom and almost like I lost myself. Now I find that I am not feeling this way but I had to do some mindset work. I created a podcast around working motherhood now where I go over how I did this and created more time in the day. Here is the link if you want to check it out! link.chtbl.com/2n2O9PL9

@caitlynnmiller5786 4 года назад

“Sometimes It’s not your time to be the best at a bunch of things.” we all have seasons where we are mostly a certain title and having grace on that is so important. This was such a nice video.

@annaleeschneider3591 4 года назад

I am a brand new first time mom of a one month old and I’ve been watching your videos since I was in the middle of my pregnancy. You have been incredibly helpful and reassuring. You seem to post exactly what I need when I need it! You are so beautiful, well spoken, and thank you so much for sticking with everything that you are doing..it helps motivate me to do it too.

@laneyhilty7187 4 года назад

Same! Thank you so much for being real!

@bottomlessmomosa8958 4 года назад

@emilywaller168 4 года назад

Whyyyyyy did you have to post this at the most perfect time?!?!? I am over here bawling because this is my last week of maternity leave before my little guy goes go daycare. I manage an outpatient speciality clinic, I am a wife, a mom, a daughter, homemaker. And I don’t know how I’m going to do it all. How do I crush my job, be the most amazing mom, a loving and supportive wife, keep a clean and tidy house, prioritize my friend and family, EXERCISE?!? But I know I can and I know that some plates might not get to be the main course at the moment, that sometimes work might have to become the mashed potatoes while momming might have to be the turkey. Maybe one week I might have to focus more on work and the green bean casserole (laundry and vacuuming) might have to wait a little bit longer. Above all, I am going to give myself grace and allow myself to be present in whatever dish I am currently working on. Because that is the only way to eat a whole thanksgiving meal.

@msjoby89 4 года назад

Emily Rickard ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@brittanylove222 4 года назад

You got this mama! Grace is really what has saved me ❤️good luck with this transition period.

@elcapitanmorgan556 4 года назад

Don’t go back to work girl !! Redo the budget and live on one income :) De stress yourself and give your kids your all ! (And not give 50% of your pay check to have someone else raise your kid) win win :) We’re living on 38k a year (pretax) and make it work !! Every Dollar app budgeting and eating at home. And then you don’t have to choose between work and kids

@bottomlessmomosa8958 4 года назад

@ekaterinabulanova1530 4 года назад

Jessica, you are so beautiful, inspiring, thoughtful and courageous enough to be vulnerable . Amazing ! I adore you.

@verondaalvarado5812 3 года назад

Very kind words! ❤

@kearaeledge2293 4 года назад

I heard Jen Johnson say 'its not balance, but juggling'

@andrea37751 4 года назад

I’m trying to prepare for my first born.. due in March.. SO stressed out because we don’t have our own home yet. 😫 but god always has a plan!🙌🏼

@LexieJaguar69 4 года назад

Andrea M do not worry god will handle it

@andrea37751 4 года назад

Kat Gee thank you very much I appreciate you’re sweet words.. sometimes I just feel alone, no one to speak to. So like this comment, I randomly comment my feelings! And I enjoy watching these videos and maybe starting my own channel one day too☺️

@erinnenchanted3164 4 года назад

I'm due in March too and I'm questioning every decision I've made so far!! It's so hard x

@bottomlessmomosa8958 4 года назад

@verondaalvarado5812 3 года назад

I was the same! It worked out perfect and 2 months after baby was born we moved into our first home. God bless ❤❤

@MeganSaidThis 4 года назад

Being a Mom is hard and trying on a marriage even in the best situations. All of us struggle to find balance but if you have young kids let your youngest get to age 7 and that's where I'd say things look up. :) I am starting over so my oldest is 10 years old and I'm pregnant again but we had 3 awesome years from age 7-10 where we were able to get back in to having a marriage again where we could get a sitter and go out and carve out more us time. Hope this helps, there's light at the end of the tunnel. :) Just get through those 7 years. :)

@bottomlessmomosa8958 4 года назад

@noor-5187 4 года назад

I love u! So true what you said about not looking for validation from other people. I'm now 30 and it's something I love about getting older! I care sooo much less about validation from others. I feel more free and real and my honest true self. I remember when I was a teenager and in my twenties... exauuuusting how much I used to put my value in the hands of other people. I still care more than I would like, but at least now I know where to search. In myself, not in others!

@daddy-jake 4 года назад

I am going to be a first time Dad in February. Thank you for these videos.

@susanneprohn8148 Год назад

hi Jess, maybe you remember me, what helps me a tone, mother of four, is getting daily into the word of God, even if it's a verse you meditate on, this gets me into balance, into peace, love and eall else I need. hugs

@TheAlyssamarr 4 года назад

I just want to say that I think I you're the most inspiring person ever 💟 you have helped me & so many other women in more ways than you know. Thank you for being you 💟

@sinawidmann9813 4 года назад

Jess thank you so much!! You are so authentic... I can take so much out of your videos. Many greetings from Germany with a 31 weeks pregnant belly...You have viewers over here!!

@PurpleRain9601 4 года назад

My little one is due in 2 weeks and I'm am definitely freaking out but your channel has been such a big help thank you

@karinanikiforov4939 4 года назад

I love how down to earth the message and content of this video are. So easy to relate, watching this brightens up my day.

@persinette7363 3 года назад

You are such an inspiration to me. Love how calm and peaceful you are with your babies. Looking at you I start thinking maybe I can actually do it...

@MJ-he1hf 4 года назад

I love this video so much!! You have no idea how badly I wish I'd found your channel a year ago when my son was born. We live far away from all our friends and family and have had no one but each other to turn to in this difficult year when we needed so much help but got very little. Thank you for your honesty and your love. You are amazing!

@TheBalancedMom 3 года назад

I think balance is real HOWEVER, everyone's balance is different and I think it's about doing the BEST in each area of life NOT perfect in each area. It's about being content, happy, and thriving in each area of our life-- thriving in motherhood, thriving in marriage, thriving in the demand of the home--- sometimes we don't thrive in one of these areas and we strive to get back into that right balance. Just my opinion--- love your videos ;)

@mimahmeemee 2 года назад

love love love you Jessica

@MippyBee 4 года назад

So encouraging to hear as a first time mom!

@suleiman3063 4 года назад

I'm neither married, nor a mum - but I love your videos and they encourage and inspire me! :)

@josephamarie8433 4 года назад

You speak with your heart, thank you for what you are giving us! 🥰

@LifeofFlora 3 года назад

This is our life, we just need to understand how to balance everything equally and peacefully..... Keep up the good job, it's no easy being a mother, wife and teacher. As long as you don't over work yourself and add more jobs you should be okay.

@christinalopez7476 4 года назад

I would love to read your book! You are very inspiring.

@sophiael-rhoul9281 4 года назад

I am 5 months pregnant and have been watching a lot of mom videos recently, and I absolutely love you, and aspyn. I would love to see a collaboration!! But you’re great and I love your videos!!! Keep them up, new mommy here trying to learn for my baby!

@bottomlessmomosa8958 4 года назад

@sitcomchristian6886 4 года назад

This has helped both me and my husband! We've been feeling a lot of pressure lately. I've been feeling like the person I used to be is gone forever. This is just a season though! God bless you, thanks for the awesome content!

@bottomlessmomosa8958 4 года назад

@hollyjolly90 4 года назад

Love. Love. Love this. Your videos have spoken so much wisdom and truth to me lately and I feel like I’m in your living room just sipping coffee! Thank you so much for your content, I’ve REALLY been enjoying it. I have a 2.5 year old and a 3 month old and life has never felt more crazy or out of control

@lauras262 Год назад

Thank you so much for making this video and being honest. So refreshing to hear about the struggles so I know I’m not alone

@briannamarsh5815 3 года назад

WOW!!! VERY POWERFUL!!! Thank You Sister!!

@MollyWAnne 4 года назад

Your videos have been such a help to me as I navigate life as a first time mom to a baby who is almost exactly Wilson's age ❤️ thank you, thank you, thank you.

@fellygathoni2320 4 года назад

Am a mum of now 3 months and your videos makes me feel better . I used to cry coz I had no idea of how to get things in order . thank you Jess . continue doing this .

@lanmca 4 года назад

... can we get outfit deets in the description box?! I'm loving your sweater! Also, this video is awesome. I'd give it two thumbs up if I could.

@bneuhaus95 4 года назад

You are such an amazing person. I love that you are so genuine and speak from your heart. I look forward to every single video you post! ❤️

@Dan_Va 4 года назад

Thank you for this video Jess. I needed this today. - wrecked Mum of a 6month old.

@Alexandra-bl3db 4 года назад

This is pure gold. Thank you for sharing with us!

@olurantigbadebo3430 Год назад

I am encouraged Mama! Thanks 🙏

@shellyoh2 4 года назад

I’m a new mom and it’s been hard getting used to all of these changes in my life. I feel like I’m not the same person I was before pregnancy and I struggle to feel adequate at anything. It’s liberating to know that this balance doesn’t really exist and that it’s better to accept not being good at everything and pick and choose those areas you want to work on. Thank you for your openness and prayers! 😊

@bottomlessmomosa8958 4 года назад

@mbwilson8592 4 года назад

I think you're amazing. Your love and kindness for other women is a gift from God, and I'm grateful that you're sharing it through RU-vid. I can tell by how you say things, that you are incredibly critical of yourself. I struggle with the same, but it made me sad to hear you prefacing advice with "I'm not very good at this..." You're clearly doing very well at what really matters in life. 💖

@OGtime4 2 года назад

I really needed to see this! Thank you! Such perspective!!! God bless.

@jenwylie4093 4 года назад

Thank you for being more realistic than the other youtube moms. I'm a new mom (9 week old baby). I had my son at the beginning of the pandemic. People are complaining that they haven't met him yet, but I don't feel balanced enough for company.It's just me and my husband at home alone with the baby. I'm not sure I could do this without him.

@RitchLife2019 4 года назад

Your videos are always so relaxing and just what I always need to hear. Thank you!

@ShannonDePalma 3 года назад

Me watching Jess's channel: I feel enough and I feel so normal. Me watching other mom's channel: I'm not enough and definitely not doing enough.

@itsMissyCutie 3 года назад

this video has brought me so much peace

@colleenhendrickson2680 4 года назад

I see so many youtubers advertise for Hello Fresh... And normally I fast-forward through...but omg, the quality of your videos and that ad were so amazing!! Seriously! Also, your daughter and family are adorable! *ding!* Dead. 😂 Thanks for being so open and genuine in all of your vids. New subscriber for sure! ❤️

@bisquit2203 4 года назад

As always your words makes so much sense. ☀️ Also, the cup of coffee youtubers always hold in their hand, why does it look soooo yummy? 😍

@sarikatimmi 2 года назад

i love watching this and knowing she managed to have a third child and is still doing so well

@chloehanlon5048 4 года назад

I appreciate so so much how you come across so genuine and vulnerable and sincere. I just wanted to thank you for that. I respect you so much for being able to, especially to a crowd of strangers. Through all your struggles and shortcomings, you are an amazing woman and you inspire me.

@trinagraham3488 4 года назад

This was on time for me Jessica thanks for your vlog today

@onofreibianca 4 года назад

I will be soon married, we don't have kids, but I can relate so much with what you are saying. You are such an inspiration! As a lot of people with no kids I complain about not having time. I have around 4 hours between work and going o bed, trying to go to the gym, cooking, cleaning, washing, folding, ironing clothes but also relax :))

@sydnistoffer7319 4 года назад

Hey, Jess! I just came across your videos! It’s crazy to me that you think you aren’t amazing at all of the things you listed because we all watch you and we are like “DANG! She does it all!” Seriously grace and love shine through your videos! I bet you are the most AMAZING mom! Thank you for sharing all of this with us!

@courtneymorgan5446 4 года назад

I cannot express how thankful I am for this video, this channel, and your genuine personality and spirit. Thank you, Jess.

@Pvongvisay 4 года назад

Sending good vibes and positiveness to you and the family! I appreciate the video and time that you put in to remind all of us of balance. God bless.

@MyahWorld 4 года назад

Just got married last month! We're not ready for kids yet, but I found your channel because we want to eventually. I love this video so much! I especially can relate to trying to do everything and be everything at once. Last year I was fiance (and planning a wedding), grad student, new librarian all at once and it was rough. And sometimes it's hard to try to slow that momentum and curve the feeling that I should be doing more and doing better. This made me feel so much better! Thank you so much for your channel and this video!

@ginnydavenport3303 4 года назад

Thank you so much for being real and honest! I've watched a few of your videos and I knew that there was something about you that Drew me into your videos, and I believe it's your humble attitude. My husband and I moved back to Tennessee from California last year to have our first baby and I have really missed my church community! Your encouragement reminds me a lot of the women from the church I was a part of. It's so refreshing to hear this spirit and attitude again! Please keep making videos and sharing this type of humility and the message of Jesus and how it relates to our day today.

@constancalopes4785 4 года назад

I am preparing to have children and all the other videos just give me this anxiety because being a mom just seems very hard and that I would never be as good as them. Thank you for making me believe that we can all do it and we are not perfect! You are doing amazing! You sound very humble and open to talk about what you are learning and how to do better and how to be better. Our whole life is about learning that everyday.

@bottomlessmomosa8958 4 года назад

@BlueEyedSkinner 4 года назад

One of your best videos Jessica. Thank you!

@yvetterodriguez70 4 года назад

Jess you’re amazing! I tend to watch this video over and over to remind myself this! Also, your voice is so peaceful it’s actually very satisfying!! ❤️ Thank you so much for helping me get through these hard times as a mommy! Btw tried out the hello fresh.... yummy! 😩😋

@sofiaelizondo154 4 года назад

I´m your fan!!! thank God for you! God loves youuuu beautiful :)

@hbamiga669 4 года назад

I may not be a mother or even married yet, but I've been thinking a lot about family and what that would mean, look like for me. This video addressed a HUGE worry of mine. With the reality of two working parents, I was concerned how I could be a good mom while also working from home (ideally) while also caring for aging parents. Your daughter is so cute! Wishing you guys the best. also "gotta pay my bills real quick" i felt that

@watashisagashi8194 4 года назад

Balance is an ideology that we try to get close to as possible. For me “balance” is when you give yourself time to DO YOU. Wonderful video. I totally get what you mean.

@mollycule2792 3 года назад

You are an amazing person. Thanks for being open with all of us. I love your Very Good Mother’s Club stuff. I got a sweatshirt from there and it oddly gives me confidence? Maybe that’s weird lol.

@ryanfrieson3354 4 года назад

Thank you for the financial honesty!

@thatpeculiarhousewife2731 3 года назад

I love the feel of your videos. I hope my channel can be this well done one day. You are an inspiration to moms and new mommy youtubers.

@Emily-zu2qd 4 года назад

totally off-topic, but I love the 1975 poster in the background lol

@meghover3639 4 года назад

One thing that really helped me as a mom of four little ones is asking myself, “Is this my BEST YES?” I think it came from Lysa TerKeurst. Is what I am doing the best thing I should be doing at this moment or in this season? It really helps me Be more present, be OK with saying no, and prioritize all the many things! Another important aspect of balance is finding things that are life-giving and making sure there’s even a tiny bit of space for that in your life and then working out of that place. It’s like the idea of abiding and then bearing fruit in the Bible in John 15. I love what you say about receiving help. I pray that each mom that watches this has a beautiful community around you, but if you don’t, figure out how to foster community. Create space for relationships. We Were never created to go alone. You also made a comment about just doing the next thing. That’s how I live right now! Yes, there is a lot of lists and planning ahead that goes on, but instead of getting overwhelmed with the list, I have to just do the next thing, each time. God gives grace for each moment.

@samanthawallace9299 4 года назад

Due in ten weeks give or take and your videos have been so helpful and inspiring I thank you for taking your time out to be so kind and considerate and relatable!

@mourinekariuki8688 3 года назад

Love the honesty at the start❤️❤️❤️

@mourinekariuki8688 3 года назад

And thank you for the video made me cry❤️

@shananeufeld2093 4 года назад

Love you and your videos, Jess! I can't believe how much Eloise has grown since Sam's DTS in 2017! She's way too cute! & You are such a bright spot, Jess. Thank you!

@sarahd9942 4 года назад

I don't often leave comments, but I find you so inspiring and relatable I wanted to share this with you. You seem like a really authentic, strong person and I appreciate you sharing your videos!

@emilynicole9278 4 года назад

your videos have really helped me accept that we definitely need to get some help and that it’s FINE to seek out and accept help and that it doesn’t make me a failure as a mom. like it’s so ridiculous that i (and i’m sure tons of other moms have) felt like it made me a failure to need help. overwhelmed mom reading this: hire that cleaning lady, order that takeout, hire that babysitter!!!!!💜

@myrak25 3 года назад

This was so amazing and honest. Thank you

@ekaterinabulanova1530 4 года назад

Thank you for being you. Many blessing to your lovely family !

@natecheverri3440 4 года назад

Jess, this is so so good! I've followed you for like 7 years *I'm also a YWAMer*! Your life, vulnerability and heart blesses my life!

@taylorbringhurst752 4 года назад

Love this godly woman!

@rebekahmulato8750 4 года назад

Oh gosh this video! You just talked my feelings out. God bless your heart and gives you strength. Love the idea of the Unicorn! Im printing one and put it in my refrigerator to remember it!

@heatherstrandquist6789 4 года назад

Thank you so much for the video and for always being so kind, supportive and genuine. I absolutely love you!

@emilybenson1495 4 года назад

So encouraging! I love your channel.

@bloomthyself 4 года назад

As a newborn mami, I've been struggling quite a bit this first month of my baby's life. A lot of things have been happening that are out of my control (rats got into my home and I've been staying at my mom's until I get that rpoblem solved... just to give you an idea).... and in between a lot of things I feel exhausted and I feel like I lack this knowledge of being a mother and all the things that come with it. I follow my instics and love to watch your videos because I learn so much, but this video really got to me because its exactly how Im feeling. Quite unfocused and lost in my thought and my mind. The way you emphasize to do few things at a time is exactly what I need to have in mind for the moment. Thank you for being so real and sharing also bits of your struggles with us. Makes me feel like I'm not alone in this and that Im gonna be okay for my baby. Much love!

@bottomlessmomosa8958 4 года назад

@jeanne_guitton 4 года назад

I'm so going to watch this seven times! Thank you so much for this. You are a beautiful soul.

@anavaz192 4 года назад

Thank you Jessica... ❤️

@TheLunita333 4 года назад

You are the sweetest! Your content is so beneficial for me even though I am not a mom I am soaking this up. I really appreciate you and your kindness

@shananeufeld2093 4 года назад

you feel like the big sister I never got. xoxo

@bennyjecker 4 года назад

Great video!!! Loved the reminder of not determining my worth by the approval of other people! Thank you 💞

@emmagrace5787 4 года назад

This was so great and so sweet :)

@lindyavila5128 4 года назад

Thank you so much for your vulnerability

@focusbonheur6519 4 года назад

So TRUE! I love it and came to the same conclusions as you lately, but needed this lovely reminder 😘

@emilynordby7352 4 года назад

Thank you for another great video Jessica! So encouraging and helpful, as always!

@mamalifeandmore 4 года назад

Loved this video 💕 so encouraging and refreshing, I feel like I needed it ☺️ I also think that help is so important when having kids, I was constantly with my baby more than a year without help of others than my husband of course but who has to work also, and I was exhausted 😴 I always thought I can do this all by myself but I realized I was burning out.. fortunately we decided to get a nanny for few days in a week and I feel like I’m reliving my life and I can do things that were on pause etc 😂 Our nanny was a really an answer to a prayer she’s amazing and loves the Lord ❤️ anyway enough for me writing here. Love your channel!

@bottomlessmomosa8958 4 года назад

@sofiagkertzou9719 4 года назад

Glad I found your vlog. Glad I'm not the only one who feels defeated by "motherhood" on some days

@nallely__rodriguez 4 года назад

I love all your videos!!

@Healthyhabits06 4 года назад

You serve really inspiring and great messages, and give off such a joyful spirit that I am now invested in your channel! Please do more like this :) I still find it relatable and I don't have children just fur babies lol

@storytimewithlove6391 4 года назад

Love this

@kimberleenaylor3351 4 года назад

LOVED THIS! Thank you, Jess, for creating such encouraging content and videos.

@ywam07 4 года назад

I really needed this video for thos long season I'm in right now. THANK YOU Jess ❤

@LexieJaguar69 4 года назад

I love watching your videos thank you so much for being so real bc i have taken a lot of advice from your videos and feel more confident in my mom skills

@natasha4042 4 года назад

Thank you 💕

@daniellevandendolder9692 4 года назад

Thanks for such an honest video Jess! I love your content and being a sister in Christ, I love your Christian perspective too. Keep it up Xx

@triciatroyer53 4 года назад

Thanks for being raw and vulnerable 💕 definitely something so many people are afraid of being online.. including me 🤚😂😅 and your videos help me so much! 🙌🙌🙌 #bravemama