Women think they're not complete unless they have a man sometimes it's good to be alone to focus on oneself..sometimes relationships are a distraction from being happy period🦋
I'm in my 40s and I am the happiest being single. I can be myself. I can wear my afro, I can make decisions for me with no pressure of considering someone else. I can socialise and handle my career. I realise my happiness is NOT in a relationship. I love and enjoy my own company. All the best to all the ladies who just desire and yearn to be in a relationship. Be careful and make the right choices with patience. Do not feel pressure
You are naturally beautiful but you look a lot more beautiful recently. You look lighter, your beauty is radiating more . I am currently enjoying single life after a 23yrs relationship. I have a 17yrs old daughter. As soon as I stepped out of that relationship a lot has happened for me. I was promoted to the top, I bought my home , I earned a masters degree, you name it. I invested alot of time trying to save a relationship that was broken way before I decided to let go. God kept me. It was real hard, now I can talk to him without any feelings. We now have a very professional relationship.
@@camilliachatman5657 thank you. I was just trying to highlight that sometimes we are holding unto a relationship, thinking we would not be able to make it, then we realized that was the very thing that was holding us back. Because we are consumed by that relationship. To God be the glory.
"My marriage is not a failure, it's just part of my journey". I love that! Just found your channel; I am binge watching, loving your content and being encouraged.❤❤
I am so happy for you Alisha!! You look amazing!!! We serve a sovereign GOD who knows everything before hand and he has been with you every step of the way!! ❤️❤️❤️
I know this is a old video but I wouldn't be here if I didn't needed this kinda information. How can I create a healing processes. I literally don't know especially if the person moved on unbeknownst to me
@@mzuniqueforever2346 I'm so sorry this happened, but at least YOU DO KNOW. I don't know all the details of ur situation, but you also know it's time to chuck them the deuces and begin to heal: -Pray without ceasing even with tears in your eyes. -Do not call or text ur ex;Do not listen to old messages, pics etc. of ur ex. -You may not feel up to it, but stay busy & surround urself with positive people & activities. Do not isolate urself. - Pray some more and submerge urself in emotional healing scriptures from God's word. - One day, you will wake up & the pain will be gone. Know that God cares, give him the pain & LEARN from this. Rejection hurts! Especially when you don't see it coming. But, YOU CAN GET OVER IT AND HEAL! I've been there and done that. God will heal it and fix it like it never happened!
I appreciate your answer. I do pray alot, I feel like it's not enough even. I usually isolate myself, I have very little friends close by so when I'm finish working, it's home and that's where the relapse begin. It's a process and it takes time, so I definitely have to be more patient!! Thank you for responding
Married him twice, divorced him twice and he is getting married tomorrow..Healing has it’s on season Alisha continue to stay strong and grow and become a better you. I am a better me
You can tell your smile is genuine! Keep striving Alicia!!! You had to go through this in order to help someone who may not know the Lord or might not have that built in strength you carry!!
I discovered that I was pregnant with my first child within weeks of deciding on separation. I went through 10 months of pregnancy alone. I'm glad to hear that God saw you through that season of your life. It's almost been a year and I am still healing. Thank you for sharing! It's comforting to know that people who have gone through something similar have healed.
@@MorenaNaturale Wow I know that must of been very hard to deal with. I was pregnant and happily married and I still felt alone so I can imagine if I really was alone
Great points about the timelines and your "move on game". My move on game is also strong however, one thing I never used to do was give myself time to heal. I had physically moved on from the relationship(s) but I never would do the actual mental/emotional work to really move on. That work is very important to complete healing. Once I allowed myself the proper time to heal I found true peace and happiness. Great video.
Michele Matthews yes ma’am! It’s definitely both parts that really complete the healing process- moving on, but also allowing time to process everything
Now we need a video on How to be Happy without any friends! I’m a kind genuine person and people see kindness as weakness and I went through some stuff with people pretending to be friends with me only to find out they were jealous, crazy and evil like it was ONLY God that brought me through the emotional pain they took me through. Can I have to just one good friend ?
I can relate. Humans always seem to want something or they have a need to drain you. It's hard to find loyalty these days it seems. I learned to be my own best friend. Let's pray for one another 💕
I totally agree!I too am basically a loner now because I’m so afraid to have friends and get abandoned by them!My fiancé of 3 years walked out on me feb 21 of this year and I felt so devastated and unworthy as a women!Since then I have really done some soul searching for myself and I truly needed to get some clarity!Listening to this video has really helped me to get motivated as a woman and learn to love myself?We need a women empowerment group to meet at once a month and talk about similar issues and show each other that we have support for one another!So ladies keep your head up and let’s be strong and show the world we can overcome even when you’re single!Love you all!,,☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️☺️
@@katinaW68 Praying for you! Take time for yourself and reflect. A weekly or monthly Sisterhood group would be awesome. Everyone is going through something and sharing stories is cathartic, empowering, and therapeutic!
It's beautiful to see you coming out of this. I know culturally mental health is put on the back burner and therapy is looked down on in the blk community but I'm working with a therapist so I can make sure I heal and don't repeat the same mistake or even be bitter for life from the betrayal in my marriage bc right now I feel like I will be. 😄😫
Great video Alisha! I am content in my single season after being divorced for almost 2 years. I am completely focused on myself and my 4 year old daughter.
I am so proud of you --I know at first the blow was heart breaking but you are so inspirational going through the journey of life -you are a beautiful-strong --intelligent-woman -mother -human being -a child of The Most High ❤️❤️
Needed this. I'm still hurting inside... can't wait until I'm out of the emotional state my break up is really fresh. So my emotions are all over the place.
I know you've heard this many times but it's true - "your current situation is not your final destination". I love love love how genuine you are with your ups and downs because that's real life. Go for it Alisha - reach ALL of your goals then some!
I needed this video. Freshly single and had a mental breakdown Sunday. I cried on and off for like 3 hours, but I needed to get it out. Not tryna date for a while, but I'm focused on myself and goals. I'm so happy to see you smiling and doing well.
MissAshley Marie thank you girl! And just know it’s okay to have those days... I went through a period where I cried everyday for 3 months. It’s natural, it’s normal, but you will get to a better place ❤️
And this pops up in my suggestions To think how lonely I’m feeling because it’s 4months now since I’ve been single and celibate,,,this encouragement is just what I needed❣️❣️
I've been single for about 3 months and I ask myself "did I ever love him?," bcuz if I did,why don't I miss him,why didn't I cry for him?? It's funny how one min you can't imagine your life without someone, then the next,you can't bear to waste another second on that same person.
You present yourself in a way that shows how strong you are and in the short videos that you share with us shows how happy you are and a super mom with your daughter. When you get a chance read Mathew 5 3-10 its encouraging and gives you reason to remain happy.
👋 Alisha, The 💡 was fine I saw you good. As alway it is good to👂🏽 from you and to know that you and Val are getting good. You are letting a lot people know not to blame themselves for relationships that ending the way it did and when. Learn from it and move on. If you have GOD on your side, who can be against you. We all have gone through some things and I like to 🤔 that we learned something from them, and are much better off because it. Aleisha I hope I spelled your name correctly and continue to keep in touch and let me know how you and Val are doing. I ‘m a mother of adult siblings so I understand.
Alisha I’ve been single for five years!!!!! And this year I can say I’m over it! I packed up and moved far away knowing I wouldn’t be happy but since I’ve been here I learned a lot!!! I really just gave up girl! Gained a lot of weight just went down girl but I can honestly say I’m good now! Thank God!!!! I’ve been watching you now and I can say Thank you for showing me you can be happy while single!!! You are so beautiful by the way!!!! Happy Friday you and Valerie
I am so happy and proud of you, Alisha!!! This video has a message for every single woman on this planet. It all comes down to finding your true happiness. Happiness does not mean with a man but about you as a woman. As always, I needed to hear this. By the way, this purple is beautiful on you. This is definitely one of your colors.
You look so gorgeous! YOU'RE a TRUE example that we can over come anything go true some dark paths in this world and still be a light for your self and other's😍😍😍. I'M SURE SOMEONE IS MISSING THIS BEAUTIFUL AND SMART LITTLE HOTTIE.😉👏👏👢👠💎💎💎💎
The relationship I have with my mother helped me develop fearful avoidant attachment in romantic relationships. I been single for my entire life and I'm very happy. 💙
This is awesome and so happy for you cause we all know something like this can take you out but with God's grace you persevered...and honestly your happiness shows through even more!
awww this is real talk. I have been divorce . Healing for me had to start with 4 giving him and moving forward with my goals. This was soooooo positive. It took me a while but I give God so much glory for getting to this place of contentment. Being around natural ,and church family helps. This time around If it's in God's will. I will step out with Proverbs 3:4-6. From start and all throughout. I will not let family, friends, or a dating site match make me.I will let God make the choice for me.
Wow so many messages coming to me while I feel like weirdo for being 24 year old virgin and being single for most of my life 😭 I’ve been feeling so much pressure but you’re very helpful and strong
I am going to watch this again. I was looking at your glow & hair & I was not paying attention to what you were saying.. You are so pretty. Thanks for your advise
Tips for getting through I like to clean, declutter and decorate. Also I've been journaling every night about a few things that I'm grateful for. I have a planner and I make my schedule to stay busy but make time to relax. RU-vid videos have been helping a bunch 😁👍
Just ended my relationship last month (May). I gave it my all, tried therapy, tried talking. But we have a 7 month old son and there's no way I was going to stay unhappy, unhealthy and dragging myself from place to place to make it work. I feel like my ex has been preparing me for the single life so I'm taking it day by day and making sure that my son is well taken care of. I'm at peace. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. And prayers phys a routine is key.
A woman or a man don't need each other to define who they are. Being single is not bad, do what you want to do, no cheaking in, no consultation with your partner. Don't have to deal with a bad attitude. Don't have to deal their family all up in your business. You can always find something to do. THE MAIN THING IS THAT YOU HAVE PEACE OF MIND. Be happy enjoy your time, remember that there are people who have more problems than being single.
When I first saw her and heard her voice I said the same thing. I actually went back and checked Kyra profile. Lol I then said to my self maybe they are sisters 😀😀
Good Morning luv! I’m so glad you did this video. I was dating a guy for about 3 ys and in this 3 years he got married. I cared for this man so sos much. After he got married I was hurt so bad. I didn’t even wanna live anymore. The really sad part about this is me not even wanting to live I didn’t take in consideration that I have a daughter. During his marriage he still tried to pursue me but at that point I hated him. As of today he’s going throughout divorce. I gotten to a point in my life where I’ve spent min sec and hours crying depressed etc and I don’t wanna go that route again. At times something will trigger memories and I get sad all over again. It’s really hard but I gotta let it go. Do you have any suggestions on what I should do. Your such a inspiration and I’ve been following your journey and what you been going through. You’re so happy and glowing. Keep doing things that make you happy. God Bless❤️
Dear God🙏♥️💕 in heaven, I come to you in the name of Jesus. I acknowledge to You that I am a sinner, and I am sorry for my sins and the life that I have lived; I need your forgiveness. I believe that your only begotten Son Jesus Christ shed His precious blood on the cross at Calvary and died for my sins, and I am now willing to turn from my sin. You said in the bible that if we confess the Lord our God and believe in our hearts that God raised Jesus from the dead, we shall be saved. Right now I confess Jesus as my Lord. With my heart, I believe that God raised Jesus from the dead. This very moment I accept Jesus Christ as my own personal Savior and according to His Word, right now I am saved. Amen.
Alisha, this was a beautiful video, and you look amazing!!! I am a happily married woman. At the same time, I’m always honest with single friends about the work, time, and sacrifice that marriage requires (from both people). I love your messaging. I hope many take it to heart. I think single ladies should open their eyes. Take inventory on how good & happy single women look & how tired married mothers look 😂 No shade, ladies...I am a wife & mom 🌷I do love it. I also loved being single. Each season should be relished. If you’re single, get your passport stamped a few times before marriage. Get a second income rolling in that doesn’t require you to leave the house. Become your absolute best self. Get happy. If you feel desperate & dreadfully alone, it is NOT the best time to say yes to anyone’s proposal. Attract light by being light & being whole 😉👊🏾💝 As soon as we aren’t pressed, as soon as we can literally take it or leave it (without an attitude or contempt but because we’re happy), as soon as we actually don’t want to give up what we’ve created in our single lives...that’s when the man shows up 😂. And you’ll be ready to consider him in light of the great life you’re already enjoying ❤️. Hang in there, sisters.
Evangelio para la salvación de tus almas💞💕💜💕❤💞💕💜 Porque ante todo les transmití a ustedes lo que yo mismo recibí: que Cristo murió por nuestros pecados según las Escrituras, que fue sepultado, que resucitó al tercer día según las Escrituras, y que se apareció a Pedro, y luego a los doce. Después se apareció a más de quinientos hermanos a la vez,
Its crazy how god made us women so powerful and resilient that we are able to put our-self back together and heal by our god given mental faculties. The fact that you relied on him says a lot about your character you are humble and meek. We know the meek shall inherit the earth and the kingdom of the heavens belong to such ones. Keep that attitude. You kept saying god got you and that you will trust him. He made you strong and CAPABLE. He NEVER give u more than we can handle that is a fact. He will take you by your right hand with HIS right hand the scriptures say ...How is that possible? If he raise you up and carry you.
A man doesn't define who u are as a woman. I'm a single mom too and I love being to myself. I'm raising my son and almost done completing my Master's. I'm at peace and enjoy just spending time with my 14 yr old son. As long as u have close family, you're never alone.
🙏“Padre, sé que he violado tus leyes y mis pecados me han separado de ti. Realmente lo siento, y ahora quiero alejarme de mi vida pecaminosa pasada hacia ti. Perdóname y ayúdame a evitar volver a pecar. Creo que su hijo, Jesucristo, murió por mis pecados, resucitó de entre los muertos, está vivo y escucha mi oración. Invito a Jesús a convertirse en el Señor de mi vida, a gobernar y reinar en mi corazón desde este día en adelante. Por favor envía tu Espíritu Santo para ayudarme a obedecerte y hacer tu voluntad por el resto de mi vida. En el nombre de Jesús oro, Amén "
O Evangelho: 💜💕💜💖💞💜💕Pelo que recebi, passei a vocês como de [primeira importância]: que Cristo morreu pelos nossos pecados segundo as Escrituras, que foi sepultado, que ressuscitou ao terceiro dia de acordo com as Escrituras, e que ele apareceu a Pedro e depois aos Doze. Depois disso, ele apareceu para mais de quinhentos irmãos e irmãs ao mesmo tempo,
Querido Deus🙏no céu, venho até você em nome de Jesus. Reconheço-te que sou um pecador e sinto muito pelos meus pecados e pela vida que tenho vivido; Eu preciso do seu perdão. Eu creio que o seu filho unigênito Jesus Cristo derramou Seu sangue precioso na cruz no Calvário e morreu por meus pecados, e agora estou disposto a abandonar meus pecados. Você disse na bíblia que se confessarmos o Senhor nosso Deus e crermos em nossos corações que Deus ressuscitou Jesus dos mortos, seremos salvos. Agora mesmo eu confesso Jesus como meu Senhor. De coração, acredito que Deus ressuscitou Jesus dos mortos. Neste exato momento eu aceito Jesus Cristo como meu Salvador pessoal e de acordo com Sua Palavra, agora estou salvo. Um homem.
Ok, May God help you to find Mr. Right. You are young, great personality..Divorce does not mean Single life forever...enjoy yourself single of course, take your time.. God bless you
ALISHA,THANK YOU FOR SHARING SOME ONE NEEDED TO HEAR THIS MAY GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS YOU ON YOUR CHRISTIAN JOURNEY,WE ARE WALKING THIS ROAD TOGETHER GOD BLESS😍
Alisha your hair looks very - I stress - very good. You look so beautiful. I am proud of you. You are a strong young lady. God will guide and protect you. I know you will succeed in life and make Val proud. Continue to love yourself and stay positive.
Bless you using this to help others is a.part of your healing. The Lord will bring the right person who will value and cherish you warts and all. The Lord Val and family and positive close confidants will get you through this season. Freedom no-one to consult bliss praise God.
I’m single 😭💔 I’m 21 I’ll be 22 this summer,never had a boyfriend,a first kiss nothing just rejection while some people I went too HighSchool with are in relationships and have children my life is sad I can’t win
I'm 18 and feel the same way too. Tbh I don't trust God's timing and am focused on getting a career that involves heavy traveling. I've accepted that I don't have a special someone for me and would rather get paid to travel a lot and have a pet. I also have social anxiety so it's hard for me to make new friends, let alone have a boyfriend. I'll never get married and have children. My father will never walk me down the isle. My parents will never have grandchildren. I'm also an only child so my family's bloodline permanently ends with me. It may sound selfish to some people, but I don't care if my family lineage ends with me and the world is so screwed up so it's not like the future generations would be missing out on anything💀💀💀 It'd be nice to get married and have children, but I would make a horrible wife and parent tbh. It's lonely being single sometimes, but that's just life and I just ride out the waves of sadness until I forget about it. I want to be rich, have a tight circle of *SINGLE* best friends, and have a lovely cat or Yorkie. I hate being friends with people in relationships tbh. They usually never have time for you and I would be envious of them 25/8 lol. People in relationships and marriages don't understand our plight as single people and never will. They also give passive aggressive advice that never helps anyone. People say money can't buy you happiness, but I'd rather be crying in a Bentley.
Been divorced since 2011 started a relationship with an old friend and it ended up in a breakup after nine years. It was pretty bad for a person in their 50.... maybe next time will be better.
This is good. However, it would seem more authentic if you showed some struggle or vulnerability in your videos during this process. You showed strength and a “move on game” but for real being a single mother and going through a divorce is hard and soul stirring. Part of healing is sitting in the emotions good and bad. You never share any challenges and seem to be trying to be perfect in your image. For real, mom you tubers cry, show a crazy day in the life, or admit to depression, anxiety, fatigue etc. I am glad you are empowered am healed, but this paints a picture that healing is not messy and it is and that’s ok. Blessings. Your move on game is an inspiration. But for those who struggle, it may be hard to connect.
Hi. So I get what you are saying, and kudos to the moms that video tape their struggle for the world to see. But I don't want to do that and don't feel the need to. At all. I have admitted plenty of times my struggles, my depression, my anxiety, etc. I've talked about it in a few videos, but don't feel I need to record it in action to validate it. If you have to see me cry or show my bad days on camera for you to relate to me, this honestly may not be the channel for you. My healing takes place off camera.
Hi Alicia I love your videos I am the older woman my first marriage I was into it 2 years before the break up my second marriage was a little longer 17 years it has been more then a a decade years since the break up now I know there is someone there for me if God wills it but if not I am happy single but I love your videos you and your daughter are wonderful😍
Alisha you look so gorgeous and much happier in your recent videos. I’m so happy you are growing and glowing through this process! I am currently single and I do desire to be married one day but I’m in no rush at 30 years old and I don’t allow people to dictate where I should be based on their standards. I’m content where I am and am focused on me!
Guys tell me I am from South Africa I once cheated on my girl I loved so much. The reason why I ended cheating was she was busy with other guys flating all the time while we where still at varsity We broke up AFTER 6 months after we corrected thing but this time she was so toxic we broke up again now I am SINGLE AND HAPPY
I never been marry or divorce but I can relate I need here this been single so long still struggle to be happy 3yrs in almost 4 i need take this advice
You are such an inspiration, especially to women in your generation. I know your transparency is greatly appreciated because His grace and joy is shining through you. God will always use your test for a testimony. I love when you said my move on game is strong. I have lived a lot longer than you and I can say the same thing. Thank God for being able to keep it movin!
