I found this video while deep down into doubting my identity and it helped me realize (together with other videos) that I'm not trans ftm but rather nonbinary and that I don't feel male or female. I've identified myself as genderfluid for a year or more now but this seems to be the right label for now. Thank you :) Also I've seen some other videos of you now and congrats on your journey :) have a good day!
The little voice in my head: But what if I'm just jealous because they're happy? What if I've created false memories of being distraught when I started experiencing a different puberty from the one I expected? What if I've just been watching too many videos from trans youtubers and convinced myself I'm trans? Yeah... 2 decades of repression really does a number on your ability to trust yourself.
had trans feelings in highschool, decided to try my best to be a girl and forget abt it. 5 years later saw myself with a flat chest and now i cant leave the house dressed like a girl
I’ve been thinking about my gender for a long time, but I didn’t delve deep into those feelings until the beginning of 2020. From what I’ve gathered, I’m a trans girl that has body dysmorphia brought on by not being girly enough. Another way to say it is that I’m a trans girl that has socialized gender dysphoria saying that I should be a guy. It’s like I know I’m a girl, but family and society has taught me to think of myself as a guy. For awhile, I thought I had multiple personalities to explain all this confusion. On the most basic level, I want to be seen as a girl, but I also want to hide that I’m a girl. All that being said, I could just be a confused guy. This idea wouldn’t explain the inclinations towards “girly things” as a child, but that’s ignorable as just curiosity. Sure, I never wanted to be a man. I don’t know.
yk when u were in elementary school and u would play pretend? i always chose male characters or my character would always be male. i’d choose male superheroes or make my own characters that are usually male. if i do make a female character they are very very masculine.
I do voice impressions and mostly do.male impressions even though im techniqually a girl it just feels right. I feel most comfortable writing male characters Ive always clung to fictional male characters
Thanks for the help! I keep running into videos where people are like "you need to decide it for yourself" and then they dont tell you any ways to help you figure it out. My heart literally sank at the thought of living as female for the rest of my life
I'm mostly here because of the dream I had last night. I have this dream where I fully transitioned into a boy. Plus, I keep having these same dreams where I found myself in a boys restroom. Since then, I've started questioning my gender identity. This video of yours really helps me.
Idk but I need to tell anybody now. when I was like 7 a girl in my class told me about a family member of her who transitioned from male to female, and I was like „woah that is me, now I know what’s wrong, does it function the other way round, too?“ I kept it as a secret, cos I didn’t want my parents to know& I wore dresses and stuff like that and I actually liked it (my parents let my younger brother wear nail polish n stuff they weren’t like girls have to or pink and boys blue yk) then I came into puberty and I thought, I just need to accept myself as a girl, cos I’m never gonna be a real boy and then for 3 years I never thought about me being trans again until a friend of mine came out to me and NOW HERE I AM AGAIN Little but random but yeah
I never really thought about it? I just knew I wasn't female and felt detached and then it hit really hard this like sudden realization like 4 months ago then I hid it and let it simmer
I am really sure that i am trans. Like i came out and made my family life much harder than it was. I thought was ready to sacrifice everything i have until i made it to college. I had a few boyfriends here and i am not sure if i want to sacrifice my love life, my sexuality, my urge to start a family. You guys may think "You can do all of these while being a guy too!" but it's not like that in Turkey. Everyone is super scared to love a trans man. Everyone is super scared to be gay actually. They all liked me and started dating me in my most masculine times but expected me to change after things got more serious. I hate living like this. I hate how cis men makes me want to change. I wish i could change. I really wish. But i can't. Dysphoria sucks all off my will to live.
this video honestly helped so much, I recently came out to my parents then immediately started doubting myself- but this video really cleared things up for me, thank you
I don't know if I'm FTM. I've always wanted to be a guy but I've just been deep diving about FTM lately. But I dressed a little bit feminine more than masculine but it's probably because my mom is really transphobic and she categorizes things into things that are for boys and things that are for girls. I don't really act like a guy too but I still want to be a guy. I also really hated my voice and "feminine" parts. My voice is really really really feminine which I hate so much because I've always wanted to have a more masculine voice. Also, whenever I go into a game and I would dress up and I'd look like a boy. Then people in the game who doesn't know me would refer to me as he/him. Whenever they did refer to me as that pronouns, I would always feel so happy. But when people call me she/her, I'd feel sad or have a stomachache. I'm so confused. I want to be a guy but what I wear and how I act doesn't align with what people would vision guys as.
my mom is very transphobic. but ever since i was a kid and could tell my mom i would have her buy me boy clothing and she never cared that much about it but when we would go take family pictures she wouldn't let me where like a suit or more boyish clothing. something that screamed trans when i was little is i would always see suits in Walmart for little boy and i would always want one but my mom wouldn't get me on. so now when i look back i realize i never saw myself as female. and i have always had my avatars in games as a male in fact i was making a new roblox account (cuz my other one got hacked) but anyways she made me make it a girl and i hated that so right away i went and got all the free things to make it look male. and the stomachache u feel when someone calls u she/her means you don't like it.
I’ve identified as trans since January of this year, but gender is still confusing. The label I’ve been the most comfortable with is voidmasc, basically feeling masculine but not exactly knowing what you are. But recently, I got my hair cut short for the first time and now I feel more like im ftm? Though, I feel more like a “boy” and not a “man” I feel masculine but not like a “man” I feel no connection to being a “man” I don’t know if that’s my experience with certain types of men, or if it’s an actual thing It’s the only thing keeping me from using the ftm label I’ve been thinking about demiboy or non-binary transmasc, but they don’t feel exactly right It’s extremely confusing
What concerns me about all these deliberations is why do you feel the need to label yourself as ANYTHING! Does it even matter where you fall on the gender spectrum. We are in an era where most of us are trying to get away from stereotyping & pigeonholing, yet for some reason that is precisely what you are trying to do. How does this in any way affect who you are? Do you NEED a label by which to define yourself? If so, then your issues go deeper than anything to do with gender & are more about self acceptance.
@@brendabrown1691 to me personally not having something to identify with causes me headaches. Idk why. Sometimes i even identify as a "possible transman" rather than no identity at all.
@@brendabrown1691 Bestie this comments was 9 months ago pls- I like labels, because I like to easily communicate myself I still don’t have an exact label, and tbh I’ve stopped caring as much, but I still would really like one! I do agree that sometimes people obsess over labels too much, and yes it is other issues causing that, but most of the time it doesn’t hurt anyone, and they grow out of it! It’s just pretty distressing to have labels be *super close* yk? Like currently I label as a Transmasc nonbinary rosboy, but that isn’t exactly completely accurate and it’s kinda a mouthful with 3 labels. However it fits good enough, so I’ve stopped searching for something better. Instead of looking I kinda just hope to stumble across it one day (if I ever do.) I am also unlabelled in my orientation, because I have no fucking clue how to describe it lol But I don’t think you should be so pressed about me wanting a label to describe my experiences lmao
@@ShilohBluecube I do relate to what you are saying because there was a time when I felt it was also important, not just about gender & sexuality but also religious beliefs, politics, mental health, lifestyle etc. I guess it is a good way to explore who we are but increasingly I am seeing more & more people using these labels to define WHO they are & impose limitations on themselves in order to conform to those boundaries. This saddens & worries me. I am happy to tell you that the biggest perk to getting older is you stop giving a damn about where you supposedly fit into anyone elses preconceptions & a good job too, just trying to explain my diet choices would take a good half hour let alone anything else lol. Most people don't get things that aren't relevant to them anyway. So I no longer bother or care, I have grown into who I am, whatever that may be & to hell with anything else 😘
Thank you so much for this, although I was already quite confident in my gender identity (male) for some time, I’ve been having some doubts.. this really helped me get into perspective, and I’m back to being confident that yeah, I’m a man! Thank you!
I'm just afraid I would regret it eventually 😩 thought I hate my chest that it makes me sick to my stomach, I'm afraid to speak publically bsc of my voice and dunno, it's just hard 😩
i have been thinking about it for a while but i think i'm trans but i feel like my experience with gender is too different from most trans people that it makes me feel not valid- like i don't wanna be a girl but i like feminine things like dresses and skirts and there are some girls i kinda want to look like but i don't want my chest i don't want to be seen as a girl but i also want to look like a boy so everything is super confusing
Watching this video made me realised that I don't feel jealousy for women (yes there is a voice that tells me that I should look this way) but cis and trans men OH deam envy
I’m a really feminine girl but i have been questioning if i am trans.I have never had a problem with my pronouns (she\her) but when i was younger i used to avoid mirrors because my body didn’t look like me (still does not). It has mostly been my hair and my clothes being feminine that bothered me.Idk if this makes me trans.pls send help i am in a crisis. (Also anything that could help me figure this out) =)
It sounds like you could be non-binary or agender too if you don't feel male but are repulsed by the idea of being a girl. But if you feel somewhat or fully masculine you can use the terms of aboy, transmasc, or demiboy. You can still be consdiered male even if you don't feel fully binary. If you still want to identify as a girl but don't fully feel like a girl you could use demigirl. Those are my suggestions tho. It's up to you to find out eho you really are. Don't pressure yourself into finding your identity so quickly. And good luck! ☆
im not sure what to do- i’ve been out to some people as trans for three years now (due to my family being unsupportive) but i am about to join an all girls school and have begun reconsidering my transness. im sometimes fine with wearing feminine clothes and leaving the house without a binder but cant do it too long- i dont mind being seperated by age as long as people know i dont feel like a girl- and i grew up being perfectly fine as a feminine child, albiet with a tomboyishness to me. but these things make me doubt my legitimacy as a trans man and I dont know what to do. some people have told me i’m genderfluid but I don’t want to identify with those terms because it almost makes me scared and discomforted to identify with those terms. i have no idea what im doing and i’ve never questioned my transness and i feel like i cant talk to people about it because theres no trans men around me who are having the same experience
I don't mean to offend but increasingly I am begining to wonder if being trans actually exists or more precisely if it should. What I mean is if gender stereotypes were not so defined & did not exist in our culture then transgender would be meaningless. In a truly gender fluid society, & without peer pressure to conform, then such feelings could be attributed purely to body dysmorphia. An entirely separate issue. What I am trying to say is are you or anybody truly trans or has society dictated what gender you identify most with. If this is the case then it saddens me that so many are undertaking these transitions when it is society attitudes that need to change. Look forward to hearing your take on this 🤔
I think if gender roles and stereotypes were never ever invented, probably not because gender wouldn’t be a concept. Transexual people might still exist I think, but I imagine it’d be treated in the same way as how IRL people might feel a different hair color suits them better. Just a general self expression thing. And additionally, much like you said, in that hypothetical world I guess it could just fall under body dysmorphia too if its just the Bad part of the feeling.
Elaborate role-playing rituals as treatment for depression. T is fun I hear eh? Beards are committal and literally require shaving more than daily which makes one have to reapply bonds. Very committed. The councellors say they are all sick and need the same medicine despite even obvious eating disorders for example.
No it's like eww kiddo serious urinary problems very very likely with the fools errand of making one's own eggplant. Very likely to effect hip use after after
