21:08 😂 this is a great point! I found myself a few too many times feeling on the spot without an answer prepared for a good question that I ASKED HIM! 😅😅 extremelyyyyy uncomfortable to realize I hadn't even thought about it from my own perspective, I have definitely been introspecting more since then to know myself better and not feel so caught off guard by MY OWN QUESTIONS! 😅🤪🤣🤣🤣
do not date friends, do not date direct work colleagues, do not date work supervisors, do not date men with girlfriends/wives.... unless you want drama, then date all of those and good luck, just stay away from me, I dont need the chaos.
Chill people can I call a love interest a friend? In Vietnamese culture we call everyone a friend even love interest. Adam says we should be best friends with your partners. So our partners shouldn’t be our friend? Adam has a lot of great advice. Best of luck to you all.
@@theoriginalbearbear well you didnt clarify the context in your initial post and in Western countries dating a friend is not seen as it is in Vietnam. U do u.
The first date is pretty much a vibe check...I keep it simple, lighthearted, safe for me and I order something small that I can afford and can eat quickly...a small coffee, small gelatto... To me it does matter if he asks me to pay my part, so if I keep it small and nimble I cover it...I dont go to dates to take advantage of the guy and I have met women who purposefully meet men for dates to get free meals...I can't, it's so degrading. I also dont go cleavage/ full make up/ steak dinner on the first date...many women who do one night stands are already on that expectations loaded train who only adds anxiety I keep the first date short, lighthearted and positive, no 4 hour talks plus hotel later... The first date is a vibe check and to know is not a scammer but a real person
If I have to pay my half it does kill the vibe for me, I order a small thing (a coffee a gelatto) I dont order expensive things, so if he doesn't even want to cover the cost of a coffee for courtesy, then I'm not meeting this guy again. I don't owe him a night of sex just because he paid for the first date, I'm not a pr*stitute. I stay polite for the rest of the in person interaction (also to be safe) but I never reply to him again online and it pretty much dies right there.
