How To Become What You Value

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J. Krishnamurti once said that you have to become a light unto yourself in a dark world. The moment I heard that, I knew he was right. But how do we become our own light? How do we find our way in the darkness? Your values are your light in a dark world, but most people don't know what their true values are. When you know your true values, you'll never feel lost again.
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NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming has created an incredible foundation for me in my pursuit of mastering my life, which is why I teach it in my self improvement trainings and apply it when I do life coaching or help people with their businesses. NLP is a powerful model that will help you accelerate your results. It's also the ultimate state management toolkit.
Ever wonder where Tony Robbins got his understandings of human behavior and influence? NLP was a major part of his education as a self improvement guru.
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@guygarcia6472 Год назад

The majority of the people in the change work community only give you the "how to process" without any detailed explanation "why it works." Damon is giving us the " why it works" and giving clear, concise and detailed reasons "why" the process works.

@mamaahu Год назад

Just this morning, I was looking back at some choices I made early in life that I have regretted and beaten myself up over. When I looked at them from the vantage point of Self Concept and particularly Values Elicitation, I saw that I simply had a value that was higher for me at the time. Connection was higher than Freedom. When my values switched over time, where I began to value Freedom more than Connection, I looked back and judged my behavior by the new hierarchy rather than the hierarchy I had at the time. That was what has been causing my suffering! I didn’t betray my values back then. This is à phenomenal realization! And one that allows my value of Love/Compassion room to flow over all. I love that I can now look back and honor the choices that I did make in two big areas of my life that have made me feel so bad about myself for years. Profound thanks, Damon.

@GaryG-e2f 3 месяца назад

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@brianm6574 Год назад

replay Thank you. This is life changing.

@DamonCart Год назад

Glad it was helpful.

@truptisayani8237 5 месяцев назад

Replay , thank you Damon

@DamonCart 5 месяцев назад

Very welcome.

@matts2127 4 месяца назад

Thank you Damon

@DamonCart 4 месяца назад

You're welcome.

@bodhitrent192 Год назад

Replay... Uh oh, I wrote about "hoping" for something in my comment on the last video! And I've even heard you talk about the problem with choosing that as a value, before! 😯 Lol! Silly human.... Guess I'll have to go back & change that! 😝 Thanks for another amazing lesson, Damon!

@charlesallen7892 Год назад

Replay...Take away: Identify my values in the context of my life. And focus on Being vs chasing the carrot. Chasing the carrot without being will only lead to frustration and lack of fulfillment. Thanks Damon

@DamonCart Год назад

You're welcome.

@mamaahu Год назад

So grateful for the chance to watch on replay. And grateful for the chance to keep learning from you.❤

@_bigwilliestyle_ Год назад

Replay! Do you coach and certify people in NLP? Thank you for the amazing content.

@DamonCart Год назад

Yes. More specifically I certify people in the Self-Concept Model, which is the most powerful NLP model. It was created by my late mentor Steve Andreas.

@ABB14-11 Год назад

Replay: whate are other examples of "life contexts" other than work and relationships? I'm not sure where other things like hobbies, health, spirituality can go.

@DamonCart Год назад

Health, spirituality, and hobbies are contexts. It all depends on how you see your life and how you would chunk your life down into 3 to 5 major life contexts. For example, a single parent may think of parenting as a major life context, but a person who parents with a spouse may call a similar context Family.

@alisonrenwick1520 Год назад

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@LegendaryDJ 10 месяцев назад

This is such a good formula. It's crazy because I've basically discovered NLP and all this stuff on my own through understanding emanationary metaphysics and my own psychology and the psychology of others around me and it's become abundantly clear to me that your model is the closest there is to a correct way to actually live a fulfilling life without needing to overwork yourself.

@DamonCart 10 месяцев назад

Thank you.

@EnglishwithAlan Год назад

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@finnthehuman5275 Год назад

Has anyone ever commented on some of your expressions, mannerisms, occasional tone, etc. being reminiscent of Marques Brownlee? I wonder if you are both from the same area of the country. It could serve you well if viewers are subconsciously assocating you with the premier RU-vid pioneer lol. Also, thank you for this month long free class.

@finnthehuman5275 Год назад

I'll point out an example. Your expression when you said, "A hundred dollars" just before saying "could probably feed a homeless person for a couple of weeks." Marques-esque.

@DamonCart Год назад

I know who he is but I don't follow his content. That's the first time anyone has ever told me that we look or act similarly.

@Preeta1980 15 дней назад

My value is that of freedom. Freedom to not be tied to a 9-5. Freedom to buy what i want, whenever i want.

@EnglishwithAlan Год назад

been meaning to ask, how are you ribs feeling? healing up, I hope.

@DamonCart Год назад

Better everyday. Thanks for asking.

@hanna-bati 2 месяца назад

we would love you to create a new value elicitation exercice pdf that's clear and easy to understand it's really important and thank you damon

@BrianSullivanopus125 Год назад

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@djb4009 8 месяцев назад

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@danschimbischi9459 2 месяца назад

How do you overcome the situation when the person eliciting values does not have the vocabulary to say what they need? When discussing values with persons that have never discussed values in their live, I noticed that, even though that, maybe, they have some clarity of what they want, they do not know how to speak it and they get lost in a lot of words trying yo explain it. The other situation is that they feel the value...like freedom for instance but they use their mind and, since it does not have any apparent connection to their initial purpose, they ignore it. How do you make them to include everything and trust what it comes to them from within? Any magic words?

@DamonCart 2 месяца назад

Anyone of reasonable intelligence has the vocabulary. They're just not used to accessing unconscious information, which is what a values elicitation does. The more you do it- like anything else- the easier it becomes. It won't always come out in an easy question and answer way. If they ramble and speak in paragraphs, they still usually give you their values. You have to listen for them and notice them between the other words. You will hear their tonality shift to emphasize the value. Develop your sensory acuity. The language models of NLP like the Meta Model have great questions you can use. They're effective at elicitation.

@RickyDeeMusic 3 месяца назад

Just came back to this again. Too good. Peace comes up a lot for me but I just need to learn more about criteria to align with values(I think that’s what it’s called)

@rebeccateseneer1166 Год назад

Replay Takeaway: We are told what to value causing us to look externally for what to value. Thank you! You're an amazing teacher. You make this easy for me to understand.

@DamonCart Год назад

You are so welcome!

@syzygy4365 Год назад

Because society needs to be civilized but we also need morals to see value. ❤

@justinrobinson9583 Год назад

Replay; The part of confidence and self-esteem, floating around like a fairy I can relate too...but is seems like a concept brought on from a weak belief system. It goes hand in hand with the carrot on the stick module.

@santoshkarela8433 Год назад

Replay, my takeaway: what we want to do implies certain value that could be unconscious as well. If the thing that we want to do has core value aligned with your value then you will feel instant motivation. So it's very important to find out your core values.

@engyhamdy Месяц назад

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@katrinatoia1595 Год назад

I continually flick over to this values and her illicitation process, more than any other (you probably already know lol).

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@busysaru888 6 месяцев назад

You're putting me to sleep. Zzzzz... you lost me.

@DamonCart 6 месяцев назад

Goodnight

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@hrhmadhuri 11 месяцев назад

20:20. Need to keep coming back to this in my life.

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@tatianapouladian7901 Год назад

Replay ... the one point that really hit me was Jay's quote. Although I have heard you say it before, it really hit today 🙏 Thank you

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@petergriffin7176 2 месяца назад

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@rickboiardimindshiftingaca6975 Год назад

Take away - dig deeper for the values associated with my goals

@taariqq Год назад

There is a difference between pride and arrogance, right?

@DamonCart Год назад

I would say yes, but at the same time very much related.

@taariqq Год назад

@@DamonCart That is true too.

@syzygy4365 Год назад

@@DamonCartwhen I think of Pride i think of tribe. It's what we become a part of that feeds growth. Arrogance is a little better. Holding a standard isn't necessarily bad, but hate those environments. Drama island isn't were I see myself in 5 years. Let alone putting up with the belittling for another day.

@fabman101fabman5 Год назад

Replay, Values, so interesting. Great video Thank you

@deepamehta1110 10 месяцев назад

Knowing our value > makes us not need the external thing, and yet get the external thing easily… and be resilient bc value is still intact. Success > fail over and over > get back up and going. Knowing true values > aligning behavior > self-esteem, confidence, self-affirming (byproducts) Eg > Value kindness > behave kindly > confidence in myself as a kind person 13:41 Value = generalization about experiences that are important to me. Something I want more of. Eg > Happiness defined by my understanding of happy experiences 16:42 Values elicitation - in each life context, what do I want? What is important to me about that? Values will pop out. Break it down to the value level that leads to the goal… Want X Goal > achievement > success > happiness > freedom > peace 22:27 Connect with these values - goals aligned with values = motivation Make values-based decisions and act accordingly > In each context, rank values. Make better decisions.

@DamonCart 10 месяцев назад

You've got it.

@dianeclayton4936 8 месяцев назад

Replay take away...freedom contextualized, the process of eliciting vs. Worksheet and hope equals hopeless. Thanks for this! Ive been in therapy and it hasnt been helpful in this area. Your 49 minutes has been greatly valued!

@DamonCart 8 месяцев назад

Glad it helped.

@GLI4U 7 месяцев назад

Replay...been reading Steve Andreas book and will do my value solicitations...thank you Damon!

@DamonCart 7 месяцев назад

One of the best books on personal development ever written.

@AWAYSOMEINDIAN Год назад

Love from INDIA🇮🇳 Do Value your Values.

@guygarcia6472 Год назад

Would clarity be a value?

@DamonCart Год назад

Yes. It's a very important value.

@kylechaplain8073 Год назад

At what point do you know you have a character trait that stemmed from your values? Ie: valuing integrity then knowing you are integrous, valuing authenticity then knowing you are authentic. How do you know you earned the title? If I mess up, and lack integrity in only one situation. do I lose the title and have to earn it back? If so, how do I earn it back and make it more stable?

@DamonCart Год назад

I would call those qualities rather than traits, but that really doesn't matter. Also I wouldn't think of these words as titles and that probably does matter. Key to having a solid sense of self is your ability to validate yourself. This doesn't mean that we don't accept external feedback. Whether it's someone's constructive criticisms of something we did or whether or not we succeed at something, a person with a strong sense of self is not afraid of feedback. But we do not allow other people to validate what is important to us especially when it comes to validating who we are. No one is perfect and no one is 100% anything so don't judge yourself by the standard of perfection. You will always fall short of perfection, which means you'll always feel bad about yourself. The model I use is called the Self-Concept Model, created by my mentor Steve Andreas. It's beyond the scope of this comment to explain it all. We have an entire training program where my coaches and I teach it. Included in that model is how to self-validate and also how to integrate your mistakes to make the qualities you value even stronger.

@angelnieves-ch7kn Год назад

This one really hit 2nd time around taking notes. So deep. I’m going to play around with these concepts and reflect back in life to get deeper meanings. Loving your content!

@DamonCart Год назад

Thank you.

@kuysvintv8902 Год назад

This free livestream helped me change my perception on things and my mindset as well because of our values inside of us to make better decisions. You really explained it well, thank you Damon!

@DamonCart Год назад

You're so welcome.

@martinnhantran Год назад

This is wonderful & practical

@samurai74785 Год назад

Hey damon, i'm interested in learning this model but all of your options seem to be live, groups, etc. I'm the type of person who would much rather study this on my own, do you have a solo video course or book available for purchase?

@DamonCart Год назад

The book will be coming out soon. Our practitioner course includes live training as well as an online training that you can use to go at your own pace.

@IheanyiDavidIke Год назад

Damon, How do you "connect" to your values?

@DamonCart Год назад

Eliciting them using the exercise I give, which you can find in the Description of the video, will connect you to them. Most people aren't conscious of their values so connecting with them his haphazard. The process of elicitation will give you that connection and then once you know what your values are, you can always act in alignment with them, which will connect you with them as well. You will feel it. Your self-esteem and confidence will get a boost.

@IheanyiDavidIke Год назад

@@DamonCart thank you very much. Keep up the good

@wesallstar9273 Год назад

Did I just miss it replay!!!!😅

@taariqq Год назад

Me too! Seems like he moved it up an hour.

@DamonCart Год назад

The lives occur at different times. We announce them a day in advance. You can click on them to notify you when I go live.

@SandyAVideos Год назад

Watching on replay and learning loads!👍

@harlydavidson8608 Год назад

Mention krishnamurti more!

@starqueenlotus3755 10 месяцев назад

Thankyou so much... such a valuable information

@DamonCart 10 месяцев назад

My pleasure.

@finnthehuman5275 Год назад

If you know where your True Value is, you can buy a flashlight there.

@mamaahu Год назад

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@jeanettecouldry1611 Год назад

Replay. Thank you Damon

@jenlemke8210 Год назад

This was my exact experience with Prac training (wanting to get a firm understanding of it before Master Prac) but they didn’t even teach values there. They teach it in Master Prac. But I’m surfing all over the internet trying to figure out values elicitation and what to do after you have the values….

@DamonCart Год назад

I give you all of that in the PDF. Did you get a copy?