At 43 and for the first time I am feeling the message to the heart and this message connected me to see how I have been living performance based. I am sitting and feeling the love and grace of God filling me up. I am not performing anymore just in tears and allowing this presence and acceptance just surround me. I feel like a kid again, and reconnecting to how I used to feel when I first felt the love of Jesus Christ. Thank you Mark, you are truly a beloved brother in Christ.
Thanks Mark! Learning to just receive and rest in the Father’s love is what I’m learning, and at times is a struggle. As someone who’s had 7 fathers in and out of my life, I feel like I never knew where or whom I belonged too. God has been so gracious in showing His love for me💙 This is a process, and I know I must be patient and learn to rest and affirm His Truth and love over me.
This has to be one of the very few messages I've heard from Christians that made me actually want to contact God again. I gave a up a long time ago, accepting that I just cannot live up to the that Christian standard that allows one to be saved by Jesus and accepted by God.
Learning to be Gods child! Came out of a very legalistic cult that I was born into about 2 years ago. Praise God for his goodness and kindness towards me. It’s really hard to break a legalistic mindset when it’s all I have ever known but Jesus has been so good to me. Healing and joy!
“Who I am is what I do.” I love that. I’ll have to chew on that for a while. “Affirm people in who they are NOT in what they do.” The same idea. Affirming people in what they do would reinforce performance based Christianity in others. Thanks, Mark. You explain this so well.
Empowering. God spoke directly to my heart through your words and concepts. Many words you said today came up throughout my day earlier, and they have made a deep impression on my heart. Thank you!!
Learning to just receive God's love without condition has always been a challenge to me. I got told you got to repent first in order for God to save you. So I've got caught up more in my performance and always trying to get sin out of my life which has been a neverending struggle that I can't win that I've been feeling like I've slowly been learning and repenting from. I could use prayer because I just want to receive God's love freely through the Lord Jesus Christ finished work and no longer try to earn it or put my daddy issues on him.
I believe I am the Father's dearly-loved daughter, but performance-based scrupulosity dogs every step of my life in Christ. Constant evaluation/judgement...guilt and shame over sins of commission and omission make for a joyless existence. I feel PRESSURE to DO all that we are admonished to do in the New Testament...and do it well. I wonder if I will ever experience the power of the Holy Spirit helping me walk in "newness of life." I know it's all about RELATIONSHIP with the Father, but that's a fuzzy mystery to someone like me...who has known only performance. Nevertheless, thank you for describing the symptoms and solution for a broken heart!
Thank you so much for sharing this. This has been a problem for me all of my life and I feel like your guidance about this topic has helped me tremendously. ❤️
As much as I want to believe this, I can't. Our problem since the fall has been following and obeying anything other than God. So our performance does matter, as an evidence of our faith.
Hey mark, Your rejection based thinking book is hitting me to my core, especially the “always seeking rejection and reminding myself of past events to validate my feelings” DAYUM But question, Im wondering when you wrote to not blame the person for these traumatic events for why we are in a rejection based thinking, who do we blame then? Like, i feel my dad plays a huge part in why i am the way i am, should i not think he is to blame? Thanks mark,
Healing is not about blame, as it is about recognition. Blame can keep us stuck. Compassionate recognition takes in what happened and how it impacted us and gently moves us into steps of healing
But you have to "do" in order to hear the words from God "Well done my.good and faithful servant" You have to "do" in order to receive crowns/rewards in heaven to later lay at Jesus feet in worship - to say "I did this for You".. I'm struggling to understand
He isn't saying "not to do" but rather do all things out of a place of rest and relationship with God rather than just "lemme serve God so I don't go to hell or maybe of I do more I won't feel so guilty" Serve in love and rejoice in God's love for you rather than how well you are foing as a christian. I know it's hard, I'm struggling to learn this too.
Two resources I would recommend, Exposing the Rejection Mindset and God Loves Me and I Love Myself. Both books will be very helpful. Check them out at markdejesus.com
