@simone3332 I got a lot out of this podcast! It makes sooo much sense to me to have a daily mindset protocol or routine juat like I have gym or skincare! I am super analytical so I need things numbered and spelled out lol. When you said "4 things" I had to go back and look them up 😂
Seriously as a gay boy who struggles with confidence and always looks outward for love this episode had me understanding that i need to build my relationship with myself instead of chasing after someone who I have hurt and caused pain from my lack of taking care of my self. Growing up not knowing how to love myself is just deep trauma and people pleasing alllll the time, thanks to you I realized this has got to go and we need to be our own safe space. Words can’t describe how grateful I am to have watched and subscribed to you, thank you!!
I feel like you explained every single thing I've been doing to distract myself from developing a great relationship with myself. It is quite calming knowing it will get better.
This episode is ABSOLUTE GOLD. I've been following you religiously since the fall of 2022 and you've helped me so much in my lowest times Elicia. I have the best relationship with myself now and I can't really imagine how I could've gotten to this point without all of your help and guidance. YOU ARE your brand you're living proof and truly my inspiration when I get stuck in my head. Journaling has changed my life thanks to you. I'm a different person and I really just want to thank you girl for everything that you do ❤
This is what my soul needed. I’ve been single for 8 months & entertaining men I see no future with because being alone is scary for me but over the last almost month I’ve cut everybody off and I’ve been now working like a maniac instead of taking time for me. This was a divine message!
I feel like I’m at church being called out for my sins. And I’m not even Christian. No guilt about God, just guilt about the way I haven’t been showing up for myself.
I just turned 30 and started my total healing journey 8 years ago, and your tips, examples, theory, explanations, etc are spot on! It's pretty crazy that we have the same avoidant and anxious attachment styles for the same groups (friendships and relationships, respectively). I can't stress enough how spot on the entire video is. 🔥
The daily non-negotiable chapter really hit with me. So true about your personal beliefs and how if you aren’t connected with yourself, then it can become a negative outcome like spiraling thoughts. So freaking true.
It hurts me so badly 💔😭when people says to me you're too small and too tiny, I'm 29 years lady,I have a smallish body.. I'm trying my best and also praying for God to give me his grace to love, accept myself the way he made, and I pray he gives me a husband who also loves and cherish me genuinely 🥺✨✨🙏
God created you a certain way for a reason.. and what is a fault with being small? My ex husband was 6’6” and he always got the comments “you’re so tall”… or I always get comments “where are you from, I hear an accent”… I think when we don’t feel secure, we find fault in ourselves.. but the true story is .. people just see something and it’s different in their perspective.. so they comment. They don’t know how this comment will make someone feel, there is no blame in their comment. BUT .. our trigger is what creates that feeling of not being good enough. You are good enough for God, your creator and that’s all that matters. 😃😃😃
Currently struggling with my relationship with MYSELF, this video has helped me immensely to see what I need to change and commit to! I'm starting today and there is no turning back !
Using this as my morning mindset work🙈 this one was powerfullll and I think you’ve just explained why I haven’t been feeling “like myself” for the past 6 months after moving in with my boyfriend (as a recovering anxious attachment girly), thank you
Girl, do you have a way with words!! I discovered your platform fairly recently and yours quickly became one of my go-to podcasts whenever I’m out for a long walk. Love the content, I think it is ACTUALLY useful and relatable.
I have no words to describe how beautiful you are in this video. For some reason, the message you convey makes you radiant and omg you can’t imagine how grateful I am for you, for finding your channel and for following your content. This episode soothes me to another level as I am trying so hard to fight depression.
This is so beautiful of you to say.. wow 🥺🤍 thank you so much. I’m really so happy to hear that I’ve been able to help you along your journey, it’s such an honour 🤍
This is very well explained! I was very at peace for many years but I had a terrible breakdown after being in a toxic workplace for too long. Since then I’ve lost my fiancé and have been living alone for the past three years. I’ve been diagnosed with cptsd and find it hard to connect with others and I really struggle to regulate my nervous system now. Podcasts like this help
I’m so glad I came across this video randomly without realising I needed it. You give honest, constructive and clear advice which cuts straight through my bullshit. I’ve always wanted to address what’s going on inside but I often feeling confused and do too much at once so the cycles repeat, but your clarity has inspired me and taught me a lot. Thank you so much❤️
17:05 this is a very powerful thought. And I feel like it could branch out into pretty much every other aspect of life if you think about it. It really makes you look at the bigger picture that we are machines that constantly need upkeep. And it’s exhausting if we don’t do it in sustainable and positive. This is got me looking into your podcast, daily of this pattern, even veganism. What am I doing every single day and what is it putting my life? And what is it putting into life? What am I eating consuming thinking every single day
My biggest struggle has been equating time to myself to isolation. It took me a long time to understand isolation can be a form of self harm too. Movement and nutrition have made a big difference for me also. And I know, at one point, I would have rolled my eyes if someone suggested exercising and eating well to feel better. But it does make a difference. I sleep better, I have more energy, I feel stronger and more confident.
This episode really did got me out of my spiral in 1 hour! It’s amazing how direct and realistic you deliver things for us listeners to understand. I’ve been spiraling since last night and this truly changed my day (if not week) around. Thank you thank you thank you ❤
I felt so called out when not having non-negotiable beliefs. Cause literally last week i felt this man i like hated me because of a dumb message that had no bad intentions behind it. I needed that calling out, thank you!
Starting a new school year away from home and I am so incredibly scared of losing myself again and feel all type of negative emotions. I know it's going to be hard but I need to make it, I can't let myself spiral again, things must absolutely change. This video has been awesome to watch and listen to, thank you.
This was great. Im everyhting you mentioned. Anxiously attached to the point of obsession/desperation. Its disgusting and it stems from when a romantic partner steps out and deals with another female behind my back. It has happened in 2 relationships. This marriage my husband was recorded gridning on a bridesmaid while i was home with his kid. The humiliation. I cant even. So now i dont trust him intoxicated and i want to know everything he is doing and when. Its annoying but i cannot stop. The feeling of not being good enough him looking for better. I truly do not love myself and i dont feel like i am good enough and i never can figure out y.
Listening to this coming out of a funk and finally cleaning my dusty apartment was alllllll I needed, your personal experiences and perspectives you share are so helpful and validating, thank you for being you ❤🩹
This episode truly touched my heart 🥹 I have already begun to implement the non negotiable practices you spoke about and I am starting to feel like my life is getting back on track and you helped me to realize that prioritizing taking care of myself is the most important thing I need to do in order to keep myself in a healthy, positive state of being 💯 I feel so blessed to have you as a resource to go to when I am needing that support in those hard times, thank you so much Elicia! ❤
I am so glad i found ur channel!!! The way that you are so genuinely honest is the only thing that really clicks with me i love how u dont sugar coat things ❤❤thank you so much for being here
Omg girl, the relationship between self care and overwhelming negative thoughts are SOOO REAL. When I do things for myself from day to night, I realize I have way less negative thoughts. Whereas vice versa, if I don’t I get more negative thoughts
I just want you to know that I sent this to everyone I know including my grandma. English is not our first language but I noticed the captioning translation works well. Thank you for this video, my algorithm found it on the right day. I have my next appointment tomorrow and I really needed these insights to help me with myself and working towards myself
So grateful to find you, I somehow stumbled across this video and I listened from start to end. I felt so much resonating with me and you communicated in a way that really served me and I found this helpful. You are such an inspiration and like a big sis, even though to me you are younger, which just adds to the inspiration, thank you for sharing 💛
Thank you so much for this episode, really needed this. I have been more intentional about building a relationship with myself, it really feels good knowing that others also finds this important and I'm not crazy or in misalignment ❤
I found this process so difficult - verging on impossible - but I kept meditating (no matter what) because while I absolutely did not like DOING it, the benefits were evident, immediate and clear. Then one day it hit me - the whole “love yourself” concept had eluded me for all kinds of reasons I’d never “fix” until I loved myself = paradox BUT I could absolutely love the LIFE i had inside/outside/all around me. That was easy and could include all the things I didn’t like, wanted to change, wished were different. I could cherish the “me” that was struggling, flawed, even awful because all that was part of the life I was in live with. I sure hope this makes sense because it changed everything. Now I can click on these videos and enjoy them!
Earlier this year it finally hit me, I was not getting the commitment I wanted from my partner because I was barely committing to myself. Since then I’ve been on a self-worth/ self-love journey trying to incorporate a lot of what you talked about. Thank you for laying all this out so well ♥️ This video has been incredibly helpful and I have a feeling I’ll come back to it again and again when I need a little reminder of this journey I am committed to! ✨
@@LA-cm9uo My partner broke it off with me last November. Thats part of what prompted some serious self-reflection. We took some space and time apart, but have been seeing each other regularly since April. It’s a long story and has been quite the journey. But I’m now at the point where I’m mostly focusing on my own life and feeling more self-fulfilled and taking more steps to achieve what I want. And I feel it reflected in that relationship, little by little. We will see what unfolds!
omg i love how you approach all of this so analytically!! my first video of yours i stumbled upon and i'm so glad i found your channel/podcast. really needed this recently as i'm coming out of a slump after a traumatic event and learning to care for myself again so i can show up for myself and everyone i love
This was 10/10. TEN OUT OF TEN! So helpful, spot on, and practical as hell. Thank you. From this I realized that trying to please the person who makes you feels unsafe WILL NOT make you feel safe in return. Wow! BIG MOMENT for me!
I really needed to hear this today... I started a journey 3 years ago to heal after a super toxic and abusive relationship. I went from the why aren't I good enoughs to the blame game to realizing my choices were what was holding me back... then I internalized the blame. Starting to see clearer after a very long period of self doubt... i.still have a long way to go however this is important stuff to remember when it gets tough What a blessing I came across this podcast Thank you for doing what you do ❤
I’ve been obsessing lately about a crush on a guy who’s giving me mixed signals. The anxious overthinking about him made me not feel so great about myself. I Is avoiding listening to this video because I didn’t feel like being triggered. But instead of being triggered, I found some clarity about myself. Thanks for posting this video. It really helps someone like me who has anxiety anxious attachment.
Thank you, this made me feel not so alone in my struggles. -‘d I’m going to take to heart that it’s important and OKAY to explore yourself. Maybe I like clubs, maybe I like coffee shops, if I’m scared or uncomfortable that’s a valid feeling that I’m welcome to observe rather than push down and ignore. I put myself second mentally and I ran away from all of my problems my entire life because I was hurt so badly as a kid and now I’m ready to start showing up for myself. So I want to say thank you so much for making this podcast. It helped me as I was cleaning my room and my space and mentally showing up for myself by being physically present for my own personal needs. Thank you for continuing to post these amazing videos. You’re amazing.
I really needed this. I have always depended on people's opinions about myself and making me feel validated. When in reality i need to rely on myself for that.
Wow! 5 stars from me! The quality of your content speaks volumes - thank you so much for providing such great context and advice and for also sharing your own experiences, Love this! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
You talked about finding someone that resonates with you so you actively change your mindset and do better for your life, and I’ve found the person. You! New subscriber ❤️ thank you so much. Genuinely.
this episode definitely started my week on a very high note. As an anxiously attached girly i struggle a lot with being my own safe space and this episode has given me just the tips i need to build a relationship with myself. thank you for the tips. I'm definitely camping here for sometime.
Hey, Queen, I'm 29 and definitely needed to hear and watch this video. I have my notepad out and an action plan. now I feel like I got one up on everybody else.😭🤣 Thank you, queen.
I am so glad u popped up on my feed today. I have been needing to hear something like this to shift my mindset because I have been struggling. I’m so grateful for you
as soon as you said your birthday was in november and that your a scorpio i had to follow so quick 😂 scorpio gang🙌🏽 i love your content ive watched a couple of your videos this video stuck out to me
That's so true....i dwell on triggers ans somebody's actions too much, i am obsessed basically....can't stop thinking about it and just putting myself down (even if that person is trying his/her best to make me feel secure xP). It's like opening the same wound over and over again....I am a dumbass....i need to listen to your advices sis.
your videos always appear when i need them the most, you always snap me back into reality and remind me to keep growing and invest in myself. thankyou for everything you do ❤
I genuinely needed to hear all of this. I lost my dad this summer and it has put me further then I’ve been before in my depression. I’m trying to learn my new life and who I am and what I wanted changed before it happened. It’s weird I’m scared to live and feel so weird being alive I don’t know if others feel that. Anyways this is a conversation I’d have with my dad and it helped keep my head on track. Thank you for this.
I’m so sorry that you lost your dad this summer. Sending you so much love and healing throughout this time. 🤍 you will find your way through this journey 🙏🏼
Hi Elicia, I was wondering if you could provide more detailed insights into a couple of topics I'm interested in: 1. Various Types of Affirmations: Could you explain the different types of affirmations? I'm particularly interested in understanding how affirmations can vary depending on their focus, such as self-affirmations, health affirmations, career or success affirmations, relationship affirmations, and financial affirmations. An explanation of each type along with some examples would be very helpful. 2. How to Use Affirmations in Various Circumstances: I'd like to learn how to effectively use them in different situations. For instance, how should I incorporate affirmations into my daily routine? How can they be used to overcome specific challenges or to achieve particular goals? Tips on practical application and any strategies for maximizing their effectiveness would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much for your help!
7 minutes in and yeah 😮💨im gonna need to buckle up for this one. I am definitely the people pleasing anxiously attached girl and it's time for a change
This was a great episode, you got me together in the most direct gentle but assertive way !!! I love it bc accountability for the way I feel & actually understanding how to navigate through & find things to help with doing so is important to me at this time , truly going within & dissecting those uncomfortable feelings , thank you 🙏🏽 💕
Babe.. I don’t even believe in a safe space anymore. Not in myself, not in this world, not in God. It’s literally chaos But I’m willing to change that mindset cuz it’s not helping me
GIRL 👏🏻 this was so spot on to so much of what I have felt over the years. These tips were so practical and the whole discussion really helped me feel seen and validated 🙏🏻 also empowered to work on this and improve myself! THANK YOU 🖤🥰
I'm so glad your video popped up on my YT thread. Because I struggle as an anxious attached person. Can't wait to apply your videos into my life. New subscriber!! Thank you💗
Hey from the uk here sending love🥰 your podcast is the only podcast I can listen to, your tone, your knowledge is just amazing I hope you continue making them!🤍
This is the first time I’ve seen you. I’m very pleased with this video. You have a pleasant voice & you are very intelligent on this subject. Thank you. I know you are going to have a positive impact on my life. ❤
You''re gonna be 29 in November? I'm gonna be 28 in November and my name is also Jasmine, are you also a Scorpio? 😄 Really good advice, I'm still trying to learn how I can give myself all of these things, I know I can give myself everything I need, but it's so hard trying to convince my mind of that.
You are so incredible and intelligent, thank you for these inspiring amazing thoughts and words! I’m ready to continuously commit to building a solid relationship with myself & my emotions.
Eating good and working out are a privilege. Many people with CPTSD, BPD, and Neurodivergence can't overcome this barrier. I think you should note this and say "if accessing some of these things are hard, work with what you got" de-shame the lack of access. It's not a moral failure, it's a material reality we didn't choose. Some people are starting at -100 when others are at 0 or 50.
Your video started well and took a dive when you got to the solutions aspect. You should recognize your immense privilege. It's not a problem it worked for you, it's a problem for shaming people who are struggling to exist. You turned things around with focusing attention to yourself. You also don't recognize harm reduction.
Final thoughts: I am a little peeved about a thing or two but overall you're doing a great job. I love to see you thrive. You're very on-point and a pioneer into a better future. I recommend getting some sensitivity training regarding people who have it worse than you. Keep up the good work!
