When a man leaves God's way, the word of God and turns to his own way of thinking, what I find is a person who is lost, petty, confused, indecisive, and immature because they lost their connection with God. A man needs to have the word of God in his life. Knowing that something is bigger than you makes you humble and more conscious of your own ways and what you need to correct yourself.
Redirect your focus from relationships and focus more on You. I’m 29 and been through probably enough to write a book. The more I pour into myself it’s EASY to weed out the real and the BS.
@@niki-mars955men don’t pay attention to your words, they only care about actions. When you stop expressing yourself, they know something is wrong. If they care, they start paying attention at that point. And if they don’t care, well, nothing will change.
Four types of communication styles include passive communication, aggressive communication, passive-aggressive communication and assertive communication.
Babieeeeee I'm long winded..matter of fact, the wind'll beat me..😂😂😂. For work, I had to take classes to communicate more effectively and concisely....I've found that the investment has benefited me personally and professionally! 😉😌
Call a spade a spade and don’t hold your cards close to your chest but lay them out and say are we two of a kind working on a full house or are you a joker lol😂
"Not everybody communicates the same." At times, we have to adjust the way we communicate with the other person in order to achieve effective communication.
Hi big bro Tony ! I’m a Chinese 41 yr old women and I wished I had you as a big bro , but at least I’m very , very grateful for you to do this gemstone 💎 videos. I have a feeling men are watching you too , but the one’s with light ✨Love Shanda 🙋🏻♀️🇨🇦
Made this mistake (lol I am the long winded one) and I was willing to learn and adjust but he never gave me a chance and didn’t seem to want to reciprocate, guess he just wasn’t that into me.
It’s sad half of em don’t even want to communicate an just want to move on with thier life not caring about ppl feelings specially women smh. It’s like most men don’t even care anymore.
They don't care about the woman in front of them. Women need to stop trying to cultivate, curate, and manipulate a man to care. We are told to wait. The waiting is an absolute waste of time. We need to only give time to people who are clear with their communication. Multimillion corporations spend millions on ensuring their communication is correct. Walk alway from confused communication.
Yes. A man will hear you and adjust, if he is ready to. It’s just that’s it’s not gonna look like the fairy tale you imagine. Change takes time. Some men need you to give them the real to hold up a mirror. A lot of them have never been checked by anyone they respect. I wish more Grown men would check Grown boys.
Ive asked men what are thier communication styles so i know how to move forward. Many has no clue and asked whats needed from me to communicate effectively with them. Once Ive said my views, they tend to make the changes needed, or we stop talking. Im fine with either way.
I did the exhausting back and forth with my ex a few times. I walked away completely almost 6 months ago. It's hard, but I love me more and know I deserve better. His behavior was a clear indication that he did not care or love me, so why stay? You're in the way of my husband sir. BYE!
"hey, why do some men chew on their toenails?" lmao hi mr. gaskins, i enjoy watching your videos. you have provided so much wisdom and laughter for me. God bless you. i can proudly say i have found a man who is respectful, kindhearted, and treats me as a lady should be treated. however, i don't believe he has a close relationship with the Lord. & that's important to me because I am developing a stronger relationship with Him. how can I encourage him to develop a relationship with the Lord?
Thanks Tony! I’m new to your methodology… I’ve watched a few videos so far and most times I take what applies to my life and leave the rest… but this specific video is 100% on point!! Thank you for carrying out your anointing.
I def had a whiner, nit picker, always had an issue with everything and took everything so personally and made mountains out of molehills. 🙄 That was so draining.
@janiahmcghan4169 Saved up my money for a year and moved out on my own. It was hard, but I was determined to remove myself from that unhealthy environment for my own sanity.
Hello Mr. Gaskins, thank you for all your videos, they’re all very helpful and insightful! I’ve watched most, if not all of your videos, and it’s been a while since you’ve talked about why women aren’t getting approached or if women should initiate, I was wondering if your thoughts have changed since your last videos considering how it seems men are doing less and less approaching?
Thanks a lot for the video Mr Gaskins. Can you make an updated video on the long distance relationships video did 4 years ago. It seems to be all I attract, even with people I met in person.
I don't think im greatest communicatior yes I can it just depends on how I am being apporached. I find most men don't communicate well or dont want to communicate at all unless benefits them in some way. Or tune out for whatever reason. I communicate maybe to direct it comes off as mean or I heard surprisingly im to masculine in my apporach. Yes definitely could use different apporach on how to talk to someone without feeling unbothered or dismissive
Indeed with what was said. Me know how to behave, conduct themselves in professional settings. They should be able to do the same with a woman that they consider serious
Hey Tony! Can you do a video on how to handle other peoples opinions and criticisms on a relationship? I’m dating a guy and some of my family members dislike him and I don’t know how to approach this?
Hi Tony- I agree with your video and that a lot of men( including mine) do prefer a more direct approach to discussing things. In my case, I like discussing things as a way to bring closeness and more connection and part of the intimacy I need in a relationship. How can that disconnect be met?
I don't agree with that. When you work in a corporate or service environment. If you talk directly, you will lose your job or be disregarded by your colleagues. A relationship should also be intentional and not natural.
Unfortunately, I do not care what communication style I use he does not want to be called out nor held accountable. But on mad day aka whenhe gets mad the wrath begins.
There isn’t any particular timeframe however I will say go by the works of that man. Is he motivated? Is he determined? Is he making strides? Is he purposeful and strong willed? Ultimately does he have vision and dedicated to seeing it through. If not, and he constantly makes excuses and there’s no progression then that’s your answer.
Question how do I get to a happy place? I have everything I need in life but I just don't feel happy. I am single do not want a relationship right now. I have family. I just don't feel happy though. How can I get to that happy place in my life Tony. ?? Love what you do.
Okay so I’m 24 and i have a 16 month old. 2023 was probably one of the worst years for me because i had a kid and i was a new mom living with her dad in a one bedroom and one day we got into it so bad I prayed and i felt that god told me to move I had a friend that offered to let me move in with her and I took her up on the offer that’s ended up being a mistake but I didn’t want to run back to her dad because he willing me go out there with my baby and didn’t care to stop it. My daughters dad didn’t fuss he helped me move all of our things and didn’t ask about what condition we would be in my baby was probably 6 or 7 months at that time. He pretty much went on with his life while we were homeless and moving from house to house because there was so much drama everywhere we went. I had never had my own place before and I wasn’t sure I was capable at that time to get us a place but everywhere we went was like torture. My sister who I ended up staying with briefly ended up putting a knife up against my daughter body and for no reason she just said that she didn’t want us there and had to get me out someway , that day we left and couldn’t bring anything I had to go back to her dad who didn’t want us there at that time and made me leave with our daughter again. Once he found out about the knife situation he let me come back and stay until my new apartment was ready which was in the next 2 weeks from the time we got there. I work from home and while I was working from him house he would make it difficult with all the background noise and everything. Eventually we ended up getting out apartment and moving and the first he dropped up off and left didn’t ask if he needed anything and he didn’t bother to stay. I was still heavily relying on him for help with the baby and because I didn’t have a car at the time. He basically took advantage of me and my circumstance. Every chance he got and once I got my income tax I was able to get my first car. After I sat down and created a budget I realize I was able to afford my life and everything started to get better from there now he is asking to come back into my life saying that he wants to work on things with me and I’m just so confused I went through so much this past year trying to get away from the drama that I was going through with him. when I really needed him because all I wanted was to get to a good place and give my daughter a good life he wasn’t there for me. He took advantage of every opportunity that he could to help me. He made it hard for me he made it worse for me. Everybody in my family did everybody in my life did so now our daughter don’t see our family and I let her see her dad from time to time whenever he asked to see her, but I’m just at a loss. I guess I’m trying to see if you think I should give this man. Another chance the first few years of our relationship were not horrible but it did go downhill pretty much from day one once I had my baby I was way more willing to work on our relationship and try to build it and get it to a healthy place, but it never happened at none of my efforts we didn’t sleep in the same bed, we didn’t really have any type of time and he was letting me live there until I decided to leave. so do you think I should give this another try or should I let another man pursue me which one has and is and is telling me that he is courting me for marriage. Truthfully, I don’t love my daughters dad anymore. I don’t feel the same way about relationships anymore. I feel happier and more at peace being by myself with just me and my daughter. I almost feel like if a man comes into my life he would have to really bring something that would make me wanna give all of my peace up and all of my independence up again because I would never wanna go through that again, especially now that I have my daughter.
I wanted to add that once I got my car I stopped reaching out to him completely before that I would call frequently because I thought I need his help but once I talked to God. God told me what is it that you think that this man can do for you that I cannot do for you? And once I heard that come from God, I knew I had to stop putting all my faith into thinking that this man would show up and be the man that I needed him to be for me and my daughter, and just heavily rely on God and so God brought the car. God brought the apartment And once I got my car, I was able to stop communicating with him completely when called turkey wasn’t reaching out to him for money wasn’t reaching out to him. His daughter was able to handle everything on my own by the grace of God and so now that I’m OK and I’ve been doing this for the last few months. It seems that he’s so enthusiastic about us being back together and building a relationship because he feels that, this is the place that I should’ve been in when we first started dating in a relationship would’ve been better. I’m not saying that that’s not true but the way that he handled so many situations makes me feel like no he could’ve been way more gentle understanding about the fact that I was young. I didn’t have anyone in my family teaching me how to get on my feet. I had to figure it out, strictly by faith and with God because I wanted to desperately give my daughter a great life by any mean. Tony I hope you read this and make a video for me for me because I really need your input I may even really need a coaching session. Right now I have a man that is interested in me interested in quoting me for marriage, but I’m not enthusiastic about a relationship with a man right now just like you always say I’m not enthusiastic about no big grown musky man being around me every day having a feed him having to help him find the things he loses him playing the game all day meanwhile, I’m taking care of my daughter, trying to work from home and maintain all the things in life that I want to do personally for me. When I’ve had conversations with her dad about what is going on with our relationship and how we could even start over, he refuses to accept the fact that there was a lot on me that he never consider he never considered what I was going through as a first time, mom not having a good family support system not having the guidance of how to be an adult in this world as I met him when I was 20 and now I’m 24 with a one year-old so I’ve been trying to figure this out for the last few years while I’ve been with him and he never really understood that it’s like he thought I was a grown woman at the time that he met me because I am mature, but I didn’t have the understanding of life the way I do now by the grace of God so I’m just thinking, do you think that this is worth it and if I do give him another chance what are some things that I should put in place to make sure that I’m good and I don’t get hurt one of the things I’m Already Set on. I’m not moving back in with him unless or any man unless we get married first and then I’m moving after the marriage so that’s one thing I’m no longer gonna have sex with him and he no longer can spend the night over my house.
Girl u know he's just not into u He's a very selfish man baby & I'm sure T would tell u to leave that boy alone U need to be alone for awhile U deserve better
Focus on you and your baby ❤ work on having a strong relationship with God before you even try to give another man a try. Forgive everyone who hurt you. Then find a spirit filled church where you can have a community of people that will actually love you with the love of Christ 🙏🏼
You are too young to compromise your self worth. This is your time to build that love for yourself and build your own wealth. You still don't trust yourself. The number one sign of self-love is someone who trusts in themself. You have done so well thus far. Your boundaries need to be extremely high.❤
@@mymakersdaughter6041 Thanks, I have thought about whether this person is a narcissist but I don't want to run down a rabbit hole with this new buzzword. This person is not vulnerable and does not like to share about themselves, unless it's to say how great they are at something or what they have, yet always cut me off when I'm sharing something and even makes it about them when I am sharing some thing important. They don't know how to encourage or give empathetic responses.🤷🏾♀
When first getting to know a man in conversation (prior to any dates)... how should you ask about vices to determine if you even want to move forward? Should you just be direct and say "do you smoke, drink heavily etc)?"
It progresses organically, no stagnation, no going back. You feel relaxed, at peace when not with him. You're both feeling heard and OK to voice your concerns and safe to share more personal stories. Finally, he adds you into future plans and is happy to talk, see, connect with you. My 2 cents
It's not easy but try praying about it and go ahead. Stop texting, calling them for a while and work on yourself. Especially try to work on the hurt that the current situation has caused you. Work on your happiness and move on with gladness and peace at heart.
