How to Confront Someone With a Substance Abuse Problem About Their Addiction

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Confronting someone with a Substance Abuse problem can very easily go BAD! Addiction has many defense mechanisms and the key is to avoid setting them off. Watch this video to learn how to EFFECTIVELY confront someone about thier addiction.
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@PutTheShovelDown 4 года назад

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@katrinacopple914 2 года назад

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@cherryteagirl222 Год назад

Hi im back. Its been some time since I discovered your channel. I binge watched A LOT of your videos , spent hours on that and listened to the podcast. And im happy to announce that... WE MADE IT ! My friend is 28 days clean.. 🎉! For the first time for so long. Of course she put a lot of work in herself but... YOU really helped.. all of those tips, I used them and she is now getting her life back ❤❤❤ I will never thank you enough... You described everything so so clearly and well.. Thank you again

@PutTheShovelDown Год назад

Oh wow! That's so exciting 🤩🤩🤩🤩I'm so proud of you both! Thank you so much for taking time to share that with me. News like that helps keep me motivated. You made my day. thanks you so much 💝

@jamescook1986 3 года назад

I deal with a loved one who struggles with substance abuse. Thank you for giving advice and taking the time to make this helpful video.

@PutTheShovelDown 3 года назад

My pleasure, James. Glad you liked itt!

@cindymichelle2200 5 месяцев назад

My husband of 13 years…and I both got clean together. After being homeless, losing our kids.. it was the hardest journey I’ve had in my life but we made it a year (yesterday was our anniversary) I find out this morning while I was asleep he relapsed . I’m trying to deal with this in a better way but I am having a really really hard time not reacting badly. Thank you for this video

@user-ez2gt8es2m 3 года назад

People that gave negative thumbs are dumb as hell. It's a shame that more stuff like this hasn't gotten Tons of Views like everything else. Cause probably more than 90%this is a dysfunction in like almost every body's lives in America Daily!And im not just talking substance abuse. So 👍's up, and thank u for this im Subscribed. This type of Social Dynamics Practice is to recognize all people's problems, as well as Our Own and at least gain the knowledge to gently and positively delegate these frustrating matters in all walks of Social Dysfunction issues .

@PutTheShovelDown 3 года назад

Wow! Thanks 0 0 😊

@taylernoelle1 4 года назад

Such a sticky situation. Thank you for offering your valuable advice!

@PutTheShovelDown 4 года назад

You are so welcome!

@danielabonfanti4398 Год назад

Thank you so much. And yes, humor is definitely a way to break down walls, within reason of course. Use discernment when doing so.

@PutTheShovelDown Год назад

That's good advice, Daniela!

@Rikkivlogs33 2 года назад

This channel has saved my life! ❤️ thank you for these videos!

@PutTheShovelDown 2 года назад

Thank you, Kaur! 😃

@mjccmc82 10 месяцев назад

I confronted my father who is an alcoholic for the first time in my life recently. I never told him how I really feel. The conversation went just like this: Me: Do you think you're an alcoholic? Dad: No. I just enjoy a few drinks every evening. Me: I think you're an alcoholic. Dad: That's your opinion. Everyone has an opinion. Me: Have you ever had a DUI? Dad: Once. Me: Do you remember I once had to carry you up the stairs when you were so drunk? Dad: It happens. Then he said, "I just want some peace in my life!" He was immediately defensive and angry. My father has no wife, no girlfriend, and no friends. He admits that smoking (ciggs) is not good for him. He openly admits that. But calling him an alcoholic you would have thought I called him a Nazi. The stigma is so real. He totally broke down. I honestly felt like I always held back and never expressed my true feelings. He said, "Let's agree to disagree." To me, I feel like I planted a seed in his mind and heart and soul. At the very least, I got it off of my chest. It did not change his behavior at all, but it definitely felt good to finally tell him how I really feel. I would love to be at a place where I can joke around with my father about his weaknesses. To me he's hypersensitive and defensive. I think we have a superficial relationship and I feel my father drinks because he is lonely and depressed. The tragic irony is that the alcohol does not help with loneliness and depression. Very informative video. Had I watched this earlier, I would have taken a different approach with my old man.

@susansage7218 Год назад

Wow, such helpful information! Thank you!

@PutTheShovelDown Год назад

You are so welcome!

@kurtisprice3337 25 дней назад

I myself have dealt with substance abuse the majority of my life and have slowly shed addiction but unfortunately now I'm confronted with a loved one who struggles and I don't know what to do because the confrontation it causes.. thanks for the advice

@SophieBird07 4 года назад

How do you know when to give up? That’s where I am at right now.

@PutTheShovelDown 4 года назад

Hi Sophia, here is a link to a video titled: WHEN TO WALK AWAY: 👉 ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-loWOZP1Tig0.html

@brendareed5050 4 года назад

This is good. It’s hard for me to know what my loved one really cares about. All we get is that she demands our help with doing many things for her. But she gets really mean and manipulative if we don’t comply right away, and then we don’t want to help. Our relationship is not strong enough right now to try this out. She even wanted us to go to counseling with her by accusing us of being horrible parents. Doesn’t counseling typically work better if done after getting off drugs?

@SophieBird07 4 года назад

Brenda Reed I hear you. Addicts are always looking for someone else to blame. “You always...I never”. Or , “I always..you never”..... Maybe going to a therapist with her might give them some insight as to how to help her address her own issues, rather than just setting you up for blame as she might want to think. I wish you well.

@slickguitar5818 3 месяца назад

Thank you. Sincerely.

@djstravels4828 2 года назад

I get the non confrontational approach. But sometimes he asks me straight up why I don’t want to get married or why I’m not as in love etc. and I am honest during those times. I mean I just say I can’t be in a marriage with him and alcohol. Or he can choose to do whatever he wants but I don’t have to accept that as part of my life. Of course that still leads to him getting defensive. But I usually just don’t say anything else. He’s the one who brought it up like he doesn’t understand🤷🏾‍♀️ not sure what else to do in that situation

@djohnson8303 8 месяцев назад

Each time I try to confront my daughters dad, he becomes hostile and will just ghost us. He actually found a whole new woman for 4 years after I confronted him the first time. He is back and the drug usage is worst.

@lala5061 8 месяцев назад

No need to keep confronting what u already know...I don't know how old your daughter is but u gotta protect her, supervised visits or something I wouldn't let him take her on his own...but keep him out of your life he gotta hit rock bottom that's the only way he gotta fall to his knees and have a come to Jesus moment by HIMSELF...cuz years later he still doing it and it's worse then yea he been using women to get by to lean on! Praying for u and your daughter 🙏🏽

@nmartin5551 7 месяцев назад

Protect your daughter and yourself

@lorettakelley7495 4 года назад

I confronted my daughter about smoking weed by stating the observable behavior & physical appearance that I & other family members saw. I also stated the physical evidence that was found. I then told her of a boundary that I was putting in place. She did get angry, so I wish I had seen this video first! I told her that it was because I love her that I told her the truth. That was my experience in confronting! My question is, do you keep confronting or bringing up the issue of addiction until you can see real change in the person? I feel like my daughter & I have such a superficial relationship to where we only now talk about very neutral topics ( my daughter & her children do not live with us; she is in the middle of a divorce as well, & because it is related to substance abuse, I don't feel like I can even ask about that).

@PutTheShovelDown 4 года назад

Hi Loretta, I don't think it's going to do you any good to keep directly confront about it. It's just going to make her build more and more walls. Focus on building a relationship with her. (as long as she isn't treating you badly). Once she builds trust in you, you'll have more credibility.

@cherryteagirl222 Год назад

Thanks.. i am going to do it in 2 days.. cause my friend i think is started to get addicted. She said she woukd stop but she did drugs and 2 days in a row..

@cherryteagirl222 Год назад

I did I think it went well but we will see. I used your tips (from many of your videos) and tried not to make her feel guilty or shameful. Well sadly she used the phrase " you don't understand " but I tried my hardest to do so and encouraged her to talk to me about it. But I don't know what's next. I showed her that I care about her and am worried but she started saying that when she takes it, she feels just as if she was a child again and she saw good in everything. I really didn't know how to respond but I told her that people can experience happiness without drugs.. I don't know.. I will try mg hardest to stop her from taking it

@sonyablauvelt3457 5 месяцев назад

Hi there! Thank you for this channel! It has helped me alot!! I am currently trying to navigate 20 years worth of mental things I've never delt with and a substance abuse disorder. I am new to all this, the steps, counseling, mental, physical. I am terrified I'm crazy and I don't like talking to others about alot, alot I haven't even started working through. I would like to ask however, if you are in a SUD, outpatient therapy group, and you level up from beginning to second stage,is it typically appropriate for the counselor to ask another group member their opinion on if someone is high at that group and then point to that person, in front of the entire group, and then allow that individual's response? The individual does not know what medications or nuerological conditions you may be taking or have or have any other interactions with you outside of a few groups. I am not wondering this for an argument, I just was kind of genuinely embarrassed and demoralized. I understand if it's a concern, question, assertion of authority, what have you. It immediately sent me into past degradation issue shit that I am also currently trying to understand to understand this and I'm just curios if this is typical in these group counseling things. Thank you for listening to me bitch❤

@cathyburris2500 3 месяца назад

I don’t know how to avoid confrontation when you’re trying to ignore the drunk person but they won’t stop trying to provoke a fight. I’ve tried everything I can think of if I ignore him he gets so angry & has even gotten physical. I’ve called the police but they don’t really do anything. What do I do? We live with my mother & 2 years old child.