HOW TO CONTROL EMOTIONAL TRIGGERS | Emotional Triggers Explained | Wu Wei Wisdom 

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I had PTSD and a trigger was something that immediately set my body in fight or flight mode. All it took was for me to hear a certain sound and it felt like I was about to die. I learned more about Trauma and read the book "The body keeps the score" which explained a lot. Just realizing that it's "normal" for my brain to react like that after being through trauma helped a lot. Then I healed my trauma. I mostly just cried for a few weeks and then started doing golden threads, going for walks, meditating, self reflecting. Then one day I realized that I don't need to hold on to my trauma anymore. Since then my PTSD has been gone. I still produce lots of red lights, but I don't get triggered anymore like I did before.

David, I truly love how blunt you are. Honest bluntness works for me.

i love the good cop/bad cop approach to your lessons. I am learning so much. thank you

I’ve been listening to dozens of Wu Wei videos🙏The contents are eye-opening and resonate a lot with me. I feel so blessed to connect with both David and Alex, two amazing life mentors❤ As a Chinese girl, I’am grateful that I got healed by a combination of Tao spirits and cognitive therapy !

The realization of I am creating my emotional feelings is half a battle won. Now I just need to be on Wu Wei systems to brainwash the inner child's mind to let go of the lies in order to bring joy in my life. Thank you Wu Wei heroes.!! 🙏🙏

Harsh? No, direct and helpful. I've been looking for someone like you two. Highly sensitive videos helps me understand how to deal with it and be in truth. Thanks so very much!!!

Brilliant! The trigger…an eye gesture during FaceTime. My initial response was shame and confusion because I could never understand what I was doing to cause this look of contempt. Like a jolt, I heard “STOP IT!”. Next, down the Golden Thread with Alex’s prompting. I had done nothing wrong. It was never about me personally. My new adult response was…this is emotional abuse and I will not accept it any longer. I am now initiating extricating myself self from decades of abuse. By the way, my breakthrough was just yesterday. Difficult to believe, but true. Much gratitude to the Dynamic Duo. May blessings keep flowing ❤

Omg yes yes, thank you David and Alex, I am so glad to know that I am the only creator of my emotion... Nothing external triggers it...

I absolutely love you. I am in tears of relief and gratitude. Losing an important relationship was the best gift the universe could have given me as it led me to you and the Facebook group.Thank you so much 🙏🏾

these teachings are like gems. we need to keep collecting and wearing as garland all the time forever

Right, right, very right, what ur saying about controlling our emotions. The more I get negatively effected by how negative people would tend to behave against me I realize this. I would begin to clear my reasoning of emotional confusion..Thank u WuWei Wisdom Heroes!

Very good video. The biggest take from the video is We create our emotions.

Brilliant video. It inspired me to make a list of my emotional triggers by writing them initially in the format "I am triggered by...." Then I rewrote them in the format "I trigger myself with....." My plan is to work with one of these each day. Much appreciation... as always!!

26:15 was so powerful to me. We want to see the feelings are flooding in from outside and we are the victims of them. He is saying we have to recognize and except why we feel the way we do. We have to think. Why am I feeling this way? Then those feelings are free to move. In the first scenario we protect ourselves from the outside trigger by blaming them usually. And then we’re trapped in those feelings forever maybe.

David you’re priceless! So empowering.

Yet another excellent and timely video. The holiday season approaches and I am deeply aware of my emotional response to this time of year. I love the imagery of disconnecting the door buzzer and stopping the creation of negative emotions where they start...with me. I'm not answering that ring. I don't even hear it. Brilliant.

It is almost like others are pushing your buttons! But, then, it is only because we allow them. We find ourselves not strong enough to go on the roller coaster ride after the emotional buttons are pressed. It happens so so fast for me. And then after the entire drama has unfolded, I realize my weakness, and then the guilt trip starts, which doesn't help either, because it takes me into depression!

Holy wow. I am overwhelmed by this information. Our family is full of unhealthy behaviors, beliefs and unresolved issues. This has been my "church" today and I am so grateful to have found you both. We so often spend our whole lives trying to get validation that we are important, worthy and lovable. I am being healed one day at a time and you are now a part of my journey of figuring out why I keep crying and feeling so stuck. I have stopped going to church as it triggers the black and white thinking and control issues....and for now, your videos are providing hope and light. Thank you so very much. You are both amazing!!

Hi David thanks for your knowledge. I have being listening to your videos for 4 months and you have guided me in thinking that I have being working on. And I have learned and putt into practice this believe that I am on control of my emotions and I owned my anxiety, my emotional rollercoaster is in my hands.

This is a very valuable video for me. I will listen to it again and if still needed again. I hear and understand what you both say here. It makes sense to me and I agree with you but, it is your truth which I intellectualise. The moment I start owning it it will become my truth. I want to own it with every inch of my skin, with every cell in my body. If I do that I will be a very different person and my life will change. The wheel of change has been set in motion some time ago and I see with my own eyes that change is possible. This video ads a fuel to my Ferrari! Thank you very much Alex and David. Your teaching is invaluable.

Thank you so much. I have blamed people all my life. Always thinking the worst. Feeling less than, feeling people are against me. I'm always on the defense. When I in this head space I'm so panicked I can't think of anything else. ☮🌻

GENIUS. "TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR PERCEPTION AROUND THAT SITUATION"

It's like my eye has opened that i have the whole control in stop feeling bad, in choosing how to react and feel when i do it over, when he said it so assertively! Thanks a lot

SO helpful. I want to rescue my inner children. 👧🏻👧🏻👧🏻🤗💪🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🎉🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Thank you both, I have taken onboard that I choose the trigger...interesting now I am keeping the people at bay and building a wall.

Thank you for this guys. I appreciate the surfboard metaphor. And the reminder that we wont always get it right, but we need to just get back onto our boards if we fall. Because tht can sometimes be the most discouraging thing. I had been managing my emotions successfully for a while and then today its like I had 3 emotional outbursts in one day. I will be having a one on one with my inner child to get to the underlying truth behind them as these reactions are signposts to a deeper issue. Thank you for all your videos. These are changing my life for the better.

Woooo after a huge red light situation ysdy, that I got control of immediately with I.c. she really played up when I was tired, then during the night. Phew. But I knew I could get back in balance with you guys, and this video was perfect. As ever thank you for yr invaluable work. You've really changed my life. ❤❤❤

Brilliant. This is one of the few places I can go to get compassionate AND firm direction. (It's usually one or the other). So appreciated!

Learn something every day and deepen my healing. Thank you!!!

This shifted my perspective so quickly and effectively cant thank you enough for this.

Amazing video, a real gem of wisdom ❤ you guys are great. Thank you 😊

Great information you guys! However, I have been traumatized from childhood parent , physical and mental abuse. I felt the mental abuse was far more damaging . Here Iam sixty years old and still its affecting my relationship! I never new how bad my little child was hurt, and how he has controlled my emotions , its know wonder I ran away from so many relationships and lost businesses ! Thank-you for your gift ! The information you two are giving is priceless!

Listening, to this video about controlling your emotions.At work I was triggered, a bunch of times This is new to me this concept of Wu Wei. I rather like it. Personally I'm not doing well....not taking the responsibilities. Need to do the whys.

Maybe this is one of the most important lessons. While getting " triggered" I forget everything that I've learned. There's more to learn, that much is clear. Thanks for reminding me!

I LOVE YOUR TEACHINGS😍

Amazing way of teaching, and so wise.

Thank you David and Alex!. Another very informative video!

Thank you guys for the tips 🙏,😊

Yes, yes, yes, this is what we need to do. You make it sound so easy, and it really is easy once we see in ourselves what we have been missing all along. We have been missing that we can handle it. We can ask for what we need and want and if we are met with indifference, so be it. We pick ourselves up and move forward. We put our big girl pants on and say I can handle this and accept that someone you are trying to deal with is not able to meet us at the place we need or are asking and release it. Let it be within them to figure it out. If they can't figure it out, maybe it is not meant to be at this time. Yes, sometimes we want something so badly for ourselves that we get stuck in the realization that we may not get that what we so badly want. It hurts, but we pick ourselves up and let it go. Let go of your need for it to happen at any cost. This is when I learned to create my boundaries, also. I will not allow certain things anymore and I will accept that I can not change anyone. Learning some of this is very painful, but we need to feel the pain to have so much gain. Thank you so much for your teachings. I am so happy I found you. Blessings to you.

I have to admit to feeling a little frustrated by David sometimes. Alex seems to understand things he doesn't, especially on the how we might see and feel things. The state of choosing that he describes we do is not visible to me. There is no pause, no moment of being able to choose or stop, no fork in the road. I have the reactions immediately and they blend into my sense of Self. I am my reactions. I don't see myself in a place where a choice is made.

I really benefitted from this video. It helped me to see the work I need to do, coupled with forgiving others for their behaviour which triggered me. The Forgiveness released me to to step higher knowing, everyone is imperfect and triggers come to refine our character and behaviour to make us better humans. Thank you very much for your guidance and insight. Its truely beneficial

Awesome! I'm working through the Golden Thread Process playlist and this one gave me great insight. Thank you so much. Loving each video!

Thank you❤ so great you teaching

I am new to your channel ( 1 week now) & absolutely love spending time with you but most of all learning from you as I know I need to change. My new folder called: Transformation gets filled with your topics. I love your energy & complicity... Thank you for sharing your knowledge... You are a gift....Cecile De France

thankyou both, content always helps gain deeper understanding and peace.🙏❤🌹☮

Excellent!

You’re grea! Of love ❤️ Wei way…👍. It’s the way!

Hi Alex and Divid, Fitst I have to thank you about this subject, it was just what I needed. While whatching this video, I had a reflection: some times, I or we I don't know if some body else is like me, I choose the defoult mode because simply I don't have time to deal with the situation proprly, so I choose the incocient minde because it is fast and traind(I mean have default answers) and the concient mind is besy dealing with other importent subject, like for exemple :thinking about a school project, or how to deal with some relation ship problems. and other times, I choose to use the "default mode" because I believe that I am in a "do or die" situation, or very pressed with time, and I had to react so fast, so I use the vocabulary and the reaction allready stored in my incocient mind in order to provide a very fast reacrion. Sorry for the long message, but it is very funny, because while tipping this, I start having an insite about what is maybe the root of this wrong believe that says:" I have to ezact imediatly to peaple, or some thing bad will happen", ypu know, when I was yong, my dad use to introgate me about things happend in house, like where is this thing!? or what have you done!? Or why did you do that things!!?... , and if I don't answer him, or don't having an answer, or freezd from fear, he used to hit me very hard, so I learned that I have to respond to any body who trrigers me, or I'm going to be physicly heart. What do you think abiut this reflection?

Amazing video as always. Brilliant teachings. The bell 🛎, if I take the batteries out , I won’t hear it ring. It can be pressed all day long and I won’t hear it. I Love this.. thank you again David and Alex. I think you are both amazing and inspirational. 💜

Dear David and Alex, your videos have helped me in many ways. Thanks for all the great advice. I have a friend with Borderline Personality Disorder. Do you think Wu Wei Wisdom can help her too?

Ur guide so much helpful.

A classic Wu Wei video, thank you both - Alex plays the Devil's advocate very well. Can you explain more about the 3am mind?

Enjoyed this one, and covers one of my triggers very well. Thanks 😁

Brilliant! 🎯👍🏻🙌🏻👏🏻❤️

Thanks again for this video! Yes please a video on setting healthy boundaries would be good! What I notice, is the closer people are, the more I like them the more my emotions go in the lift! People closest to you can hurt you the most. It is very hard then to walk away... People I don’t care about, I do not react and just walk away. That’s a though one...

Spectacular!

Great video! This is super helpful!

6:28 QUESTION.... I get that we can be in control of our reactions to external stimuli. As for TRIGGERS .. I see them as something setting of an emotion from the past that was created from trauma. The response happens so quickly, that saying stop it and correcting the response is near impossible. For example. If you were in your front yard and your 3 year old ran out onto the road and was Killed by a car going past... you are not going to think about how to respond. You will most likely go into shock, cry, scream and break down. I don't understand how you can say that this is a choice that someone has made? This is how I explain my response to triggers. I am immediately thrown back to the situation of my inner child's experience and act the way I couldn't back then. I really want to understand how to say STOP IT before the immediate response happens. I want to know how to stop the trigger to start with.

Hi Alex and David, Thank you for sharing your wisdom, and thank you Alex for your compassion in the face of David's frankness, I feel like you're asking the compassionate questions I need to hear in the face of David's bluntness, which sometimes hits my ears like a tonne of bricks ;), I appreciate it. I love the surfing analogy, it makes so much sense. One question, when do we know which waves to take and which to leave to the more experienced surfers? I mean, how do we know we're ready for a big wave or not? I've been surfing all my life, so to speak, but there are certain waves I'm still not ready for, or is that just my limiting belief? I see people writing here below that thanks to your teachings, people have understood they need to cut disrespectful people out of their lives (choosing not to ride the wave), I didn't get that from your teaching. When do we know to cut people out or choose to ride the wave? Thanks

What is the golden thread rule?

Pls can u do a video for my health condition ulcerative colitis.. Thanku.

It's very difficult to understand I have been making my self sick, old school treatment is to accept you have a mental illness and take your meds. I have a friend who is on tons of meds starting as a teenager and I cannot get her to watch this channel. My ptsd is going away , but it subsided when using boundaries and defriending those causing me disrespect.

Thanks for your fantastic videos, I have learnt a great deal so far and I really appreciate your self-empowered, loving approach. Do you have any tips on how transgender people can develop control over emotional 'triggers' when they are constantly at risk of being targeted in public spaces, share houses, intimate relationships, medical institutions, sports clubs, workplaces and by the media/entertainment industry? Most trans people go through life trying to be read as they truly are while simultaneously trying to stay safe, which by design is reactive. I'd be grateful for any thoughts you have on the above. Thanks, Elliot

Hi I find your videos so inspiring for me Finally I can understand many things in my emotional live I’m now working on my 4 th step for the adult children from dysfunctional families and I have difficulties to connect events that happened during my childhood and the emotions and what we call character defects or defense mechanisms that as an adult are not necessarily positive I can’t easily make the link Any advice? Thanks again EW

My emotions are triggered when I am accused of something I didn't do or say, for which I have to give explanations OR there is no way of proving my innocence ...!!! ( I was constantly bullied by my sibling for almost 18 years.She would accuse me of things I didn't do or even couldn't think of at that age..I used to feel helpless and hurt as she was a good girl in front of my parents and they punished / scolded me without checking the details.I have developed strong resentment to such situations ever since ) I guess wu wei can't be applied in such situations..

I really like this

How does we choose our emotion?🤔

Is red light and green light feelings created by your subconcious mind? Is yin yang interchangeable? How do I talk to my inner child? What questions should I ask to my inner child?

Whenever I'.going to take responsibility to my emotion, about to say NO the situation that I dont like, my parents keeping blame me and said critizing that I'm selfish , and sometimes they use death threat to stop me say NOto them.I was kind of not allowed to take responsibility to myself, and they are my parents who are someone that I couldnt cut in my life. I feel so frustrated.

Is controlling your response, denying your emotions

Do not agree. The emotion comes up automatically… but you can choose not to react….

I am trying to find the impulse Control worksheet they talked about in one of the videos. Does anyone know the questions on the worksheet or where I can find it?

Calm down David

But but but.... they triggered me! Poor me! Waaahhh!

…. I didn’t hear lessons, all I heard is “do this.” Lol thanks but no thanks for this video.

I could get back on the surf board when I fall off. You made my day

wow I learn so much every time you release a video, "live by your own belief system, no one can touch your Shen". Once I learned to only need my own validation rather than others the triggers dissolved. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!

I love the life lessons you teach! There's always something I take away from every video the generally blows my mind 🤣🤯 in a good way and when I start to see it happening in my life and employ the techniques and thinking that you both speak of it's so empowering ❤🙏

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I am sorry sir, but I'd like to ask some things. You said to stop digging the hole, but it's the feeling, it's instantaneous, it comes out of nowhere and hits you like a ton of bricks and it only serves to make me lash out. It doesn't even take a seconds time to dig that hole deep enough for me to never get out. How should I stop it? Second, you said to never build my belief system, but never on anyone of the three lies, but how can I convince myself it's a lie when all I can think of myself when I think about it is that I am not good enough and all I ever want to do is erase that thought and never feel like that anymore. It comes unexpectedly, suddenly and I become very angry, and it just serves to make me sad once I did lash out trying to control the surroundings because I know I shouldn't want to do that. It just hurts me and my family.

Is it not also that others actions which cause our reactions are their to help us being out these unresolved emotions, so we can release the pain that we suppressed as that child, young adult, by crying and allowing the un-shed repressed tears, that may stagnant in our inner waters, our inner sea? That's what I have experienced I have over my life met people who were borrowing the same traits and actions behaviours of that of my abusive parents who were acting in auto pilot mode, no light. Each individual brought up loads of emotions feelings, I used to blame them, and learnt nothing. Until I began to ask myself questions? Why did I react like that? Why did that freak me out? Why did I get so angry? It was only then I began to realise it wasn't them that was making me feel the way I was feeling, they were doing behaving in ways that were bringing up unresolved experiences, they were playing themselves out again, different situations different people but same behaviours same actions. when we seek that which was hidden within, when we get to the roof of the emotion, the reaction changes, because the adult self has acknowledged the root, and has the understanding and life experiences, to pass into that part of us that had that expereince, and helping the child release the emotion instead. So instead of acting out the emotion and then depressing it again, we love ourselves by helping us to release it through the year ducts, or expressing it. One thing I do know is that when we seek within, when we seek and face the Truth of what happened to us, and we embraced and help the child self we receive more light, more insight, understanding, empathy, and we find our hidden treasures, our creative gifts, which can help in our healing process, to give the child a tool to express what they cannot express in words. And dreams, dreams are very helpful, having had dreams all my life, not so much now, but when younger they were constant, and frightening. But they have helped me understand my inner fears, I travelled back in my dreams, to a dream I had as a child, I was with that little girl I once was, who.was being chased by a vampire. I even met my teenage self who literally ran away from me, and who I was trying to comfoet ? I can after her wanting to tell been I loved her but she was scared of me. I realised I was running away from myself. I have also had many unexplained experiences throughout my life, so I do believe their is also a spiritual element in all this, something that is not seen which can also have an effect on us when we are in a low energy state. Water holds memory, those memories experiences unresolved issues are held in the waters of the body, supermarkets the inner waters causing blockages and murkyness, blurring our sight, and making our minds murky. Crying flushes out the stagnant waters, and then the DNA replaces the stagnant water with cleaner waters.

Whoa..... "The 3am mind"...! I need to know more

So is it better to be stoic and have apathy?

Hi David and Alex .Thankyou so much for this wonderful video...It's made me realise that I need to let go of people in my life who disrespect me .It's not easy as some are family .Thankyou so much for the continued support .Love to you both .♥️ xx

I enjoyed this video very, very much. What you are saying about taking control over my own emotions remind me quite a lot of Byron Katie‘s the work. Which I have tried and really like. I recommended Byron Katie’s the work to a friend and she mentioned it to her psychologist. The psychologist called this method totally non-scientific and said that it wouldn’t be beneficial at all. I think many would say something like ‘after all we are only human, we do react to /are influenced by external circumstances and people, this is just a part of life for us - it’s part of what makes us human’. Even though I think it’s easy to understand the benefits of taking full responsibility in the way you are describing, many would say it’s actually not possible. Maybe not even desirable, because then we, from one perspective, wouldn’t ‘need’ other people as much. What do you think about this?