How to Date Like St. Joseph: 6 Quick Tips (feat. Tanner Kalina) 

It's absolutely refreshing to hear a young, single man say that people who struggle with habitual sexual sin shouldn't date. It's a standard I've come to for myself and any potential suitors, and it's one I intend to stick to no matter how difficult it seems to find someone who agrees. I'd rather be single than introduce that into my future family. Kudos!

St. Joseph, pray for us.

The Church offers us unlimited access to the greatest role models through the saints. These days, a lot of young people are lacking strong examples of virtue in their life, but St. Joseph is there as an example.

I feel that I am married to a man who is like St. Joseph in so many ways. I Praise God for that!! Please help me pray that my son will grow up to be the same, and that my daughters will be cared for and protected by men like St. Joseph as they grow older. I highly recommend the consecration to St. Joseph!!

Great video, Tanner. I wish I could find a man with half of these traits. At midlife, it's not easy because people have been hurt in childhood and by divorce. God bless all the men and women who are single and dating.

Just, chaste, obedient, prudent, faithful, strong. Thanks for highlighting what one should expect from a man :) P.S. you made me smile throughout. Thank you. :)

Yes! Please more videos for young Catholic men on dating. Loved this video!

Yay I need dating tips and encouragement. I feel called to marriage but haven't met my future husband yet

Thank God for this video. I think I should not date until I stop consuming pornography and masturbating. I am not a man. Dude, this video is reinforcing God's message to me which is "Be still and know that I am the Lord."

Supremely based! Perfect timing - single Catholic fellas we got this!

Great talk BUT there's a serious problem these days with Catholic talks focusing on how bad men are while giving women a free pass. It's because its safe to bash men, while it's the end of your career to tell women to improve themselves. It's tragic how many men listen to all these Catholic talks and obey them, only to find out Catholic women aren't taught to imitate Mary, are not taught what is needed for family or what a husband needs. Instead it's one long list of men never being good enough. How about women be held to chastity, virginity, debt free, submissive, homemaker rather than career, feminine in disposition and fashion, etc? Im not saying this to be a jerk, I'm trying to sound the alarm. There's a cancerous silence among the top Catholic outlets to avoid asking anything of women.

Great video!! I pray that my future husband is like St. Joseph

The first guy I dated was devoted to St. Joseph and it was very inspiring/attractive. I hope my future spouse loves St. Joseph with the same eagerness! Also, this is my first time watching any of your videos, Mr. Kalina, and I love your energy!

Is this a nephew of Fr Mike or so? xD

Good luck to the 0.001% people this is addressing. Men aren't Joseph, and women aren't Mary. We don't receive the same graces, as great as that would be. Fully agree with chastity being pivotal because of the effects of not keeping it, but if only whoever is the biggest saint already is allowed to date, then welcome to our extermination in a generation. Unless you want only other religions to survive modernity. The internet and self-sufficiency culture have created unrealistic standards and unreal, overblown expectations and that is making catholics literally die out and children be replaced by cats. That gives you the current tons of Catholics in their 40s still looking for the "perfect match" like it's not long over already. Previous generations just married the first person who was good enough, idealism can turn into poison. I'm so tired of it and of all this cucking and emotional blackmailing by women. Nowadays women are at least as unfaithful if not way more. Have some humbleness, we strive for perfection, we don't expect it

On point! This is awesome. Thank you, Tanner - very well presented. St. Joseph, pray for us!

The root of sexual perversions such as pornography and masturbation can often be loneliness. Getting involved with a more spiritually rooted person of the opposite sex could actually be the best therapy for liberation from such perversions. But one should pray for wisdom here, because such a relationship could also be destructive, as you suggest.

Can you do a video of why its hard to find catholic men in this specific decade? I feel like theres more women who stick to their catholic values and morales more than man do these days which is why it makes it hard to find men who may have similar characteristics like Saint Joseph. #askascension

Virtues of St. Joseph to practice: Justice. Chastity. Spiritual strength. Prudence. Obedience. Faithfulness.

This is so good. I wish this was shown in schools.

Sorry, it's sounds exaggerated and presumptuous. How do you know that St. Joseph knows? I'm not discrediting the 6 keys mentioned, they're good to emulate.

"Don't bring a woman into this [struggles with porn/masturbation]. You don't date until you have this conquered" SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK

Praying for my son and daughter to be equally yoked and to find their spouse.

I must say I am engaged and getting married to a man like st Joseph and I can't be more thankful 😭

This reminded me of an old bumper sticker: “Real Men Love Jesus.”

My patron saints are Joseph and Pio. Could you say a video speaks to you more? 😂

Well done. Nice to see someone so youn talking about St Joseph.

Please pray for me that God helps me better myself to become a lady that can bear the cross of motherhood and wifehood. And for the man to become my husband will meet me when we are both ready.

Awesome video! Can’t wait for more!👍🙏

Could you do a similar video on virtues for women?

What a 😇 video! We do need examples like St. Joseph, and even thOugh I’ve always admired him and always wished I’d found a man like St. Joseph for a husband, some facts were mentioned that I hadn’t thought about. Thanks for this video.

dislike for the wrong title. Maybe it's a click bait strategy. I searched for "how to date" not "how to be holy", or "how catholics men should be", not because whay you say seems wrong, but because any priest can talk about (even better.) ;)

Greetings Ascension Presents, Thanks Brother Tanner for Clear Insights about the Fruits of Successful Sacramental Marriage. Key Concern : 1. Social Empowered woman or Kind and Polite Woman. 2. Equal Respect or Complete Respect. 3. Selfless Love or Ulterior Motive. Thank for mentioning about Being WORTHY in Front of God and in Marriage. Be Safe and Stay Safe. With Kind regards to All. - RanjithJoseph (R.J)

Is that really the most commonly held belief? Never heard it before, seems unlikely. If Joseph was young, I wonder how he died so early. I'll be honest, I'm scared to believe everything you just said despite how pretty it all sounds.

That was super well spoken! Very helpful. Interesting how simple it is, yet so hard to master: The manliest thing you can do, is commit yourself to God. Spot on.

Well, he was a perpetual married virgin, as we know from Church dogmas that Mary was a perpetual virgin, and he hadn't been married before her.

This talk is exemplary, should be part of marriage prep!

I pray that my son will aspire to be like St. Joseph.

Thank you so much for this awesome video! It can be so hard as a catholic man in 2022 to keep these virtues and I will remember these tips that you gave!

This was so good!

8:13 lay down and me submissive is many things but manly lol

I just love this! Thank you so much! But just remember that St. Joseph was Jesus’s foster father, not His Eternal Father, that’s all,

Love this idea. Women responsible for expecting responsibility in men. Thank you

In addition to being holy, this dude's got a great head of hair.

lol it was an arranged marriage

I needed this. I lost my father when I was very young and have not had many fatherly role models in my life but through Saint Joseph and learning about his masculine, fatherly, and Christian virtue I have learned a lot on what it means to be a man and servant of Christ.

hmmm? A better title would be How To Be A Man Of Virtue Like St Joseph A Man strong in Faith Humility, Faith,Hope and Love A date is not a marriage.

Thank you for making this video! As I’m navigating the season of singleness, it’s been a blessing to learn, not only how am I called to be in the eyes of God (& how God calls us to be loved & to love), but how I can help my future husband one day as well. This was so beautifully put and helpful in that direction!

Love this!!! Prayers that this sinks into those who listen 🙏🙏🙏🙏 what a dream to find a St Joseph 🙏

Always ask your guardian angel to help you and to communicate with your family’s guardian angel’s. Watch the warning or illumination of conscience by Christine Watkins. Then The Papacy can NOT be destroyed. Then Don’t call protestant’s Christian. Most men are unfortunately the opposite to St Joseph,which is extremely sad. I certainly need St Joseph’s help-intercession to help me be the best boyfriend to Erin May,then the best fiancé,then best husband to her and best father I can be to any children Jesus gives us! God bless. Praise Jesus and Mary always!!!

This kind of like watching Bill and Ted" s excellent adventure with out Ted or George Carlin. "surf up dude ".

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I didn't know about the thing with St. Joseph trying to separate from Mary out of reverence for her. That's interesting.

Could you do this but for women? :)

Not every date will result in marriage. example, if you agree to join someone for dinner/lunch...that doesn't mean you're thinking of marrying them... Spouses Choose to marry and make that commitment. we're,all of us,sinners do you ask someone to find a spouse who is Perfect?

"God, King of kings, Ruler of the world The One whose Will makes the hells trumble The One whom the adorable heavens always adore has submited Himself to you" (Free translation from Caelitum Joseph) This verses say it all. Let us all praise the one the King of Kings chose to submit to 💚

Why is Justice first and faithfulness last? It seems so weird that this is the order we say it in the Litany of St Joseph. Maybe it is because we say “establish justice, ensure domestic tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general welfare” in the preamble to the US Constitution, it is mentioned later about a full faith and credit clause.

🙏🏻🕊🔥+Wonderful! Thank you!+🔥🕊🙏🏻

I actually for some reason have always imagined David as a young man, similar in age to Mary and a strong working man, I'm glad many people share this view of him.

"Mystical City of God" by Blessed Mary of Agreda goes into a history of the Blessed Virgin Mary (which involves St.Joseph and Jesus intimately). It is not considered part of the church you have to believe but it is considered most valuable for the faithful to read. The section on Mary's pregnancy and Joseph's actions toward it is in Book 2 "The Conception" around the second quarter of the book. Anyway, in the book Mary and Joseph both privately consecrated themselves as virgins, then God worked things out to where they were pledged in marriage to each other and then married. When they both found out the decision to live as virgins that they had made, they were overjoyed. They were already married. I forget at which point the Angel Gabriel came, (it was either in the betrothal period or after they were already married) but the relevant info for this topic is that Joseph was not aware she was pregnant until they were well into a few months into their marriage. Mary had not gotten express permission from God to tell Joseph about the pregnancy so she did not and instead prayed for him and God's will. Joseph dealt with two things, what his eyes were seeing, and what he knew of Mary's exemplary character and sweet soul in the time they had been married. The book says this was the hardest struggle he had and would ever face and it tore him up on the inside. This is because in one light, she was perfect, in the other she had sinned against him and God in one of the most grievous ways possible. But he decided to not just go with what his eyes were seeing and instead to resolve to not understand it but to leave her and live the rest of his life in the desert in a place where nobody would know him. This way she would not be killed in accordance with the law for adulterers, because through everything he had experienced with her he did not believe she deserved it. He accepted his predicament and resolved to do the best thing for her first... and then himself. I think this really showed his just character. In the end God sent an angel to him in a dream explaining everything. God ordained that Mary and Joseph should both be tested through this in following his will, to show that they could, and for them to grow in virtue. The whole story and their reunion after this trial are very romantic.

My goodness! What a great presentation on the virtues of St. Joseph. My appreciation of him, which was already high, has been further elevated and deepened. Thank you! Men: be like St. Joseph!

Cool

You don’t know how big of fresh air you are my brother! You’re a wonderful gift from God thank you for sharing and teaching us. Shalom 🕊

Yeah, I believe Joseph thought Mary cheated. Why else would God send an angel to scare the guy and deliver a message?

I think that can’t be the right interpretation because later on the angel explicitly assured Joseph the child had been conceived of the HS and admonished him not to be afraid. That wouldn’t be so explicitly emphasized I think, if at Joseph already knew? Also are you saying to simply be a doormat in relationships?

Thank you so much for covering this topic! Great advice that should be known by more people.

I hope my both sons will listen to this It’s so hard in those days to convince this generation that the normal is NOT normal Living together Having sexual experiences before getting married No commitment No dating without sex And all of this as men IF they talk about IT it’s considered old fashioned or weirdo to think that way !!! My God it’s so hard to direct them one is 20 who just started dating !!! And the other one is 26 I pray for them not to be put into temptations They are not Christians I pray that they open their heart to the Lord JESUS I Guess I cannot protect them But God Will 👉

Can Ascension please make a feminine version of this? On what virtues a woman should have in order of being worthy of a man like St Joseph?

Your talk is excellent top mark’s my friend. God bless. Praise Jesus and Mary always!!!

best tip - stay single

It's inspiring to see a young guy present this! We need more videos like this on RU-vid

Glad to have you!

I little bit less americanism would help.

St. Joseph never dated in fact the concept of going on a date originated during the late 19th century. Marriages were arranged in which the man being the suitor would ask the woman's father or next male kin for her hand in marriage. In St. Joseph's case he asked St. Joachim for the Blessed Virgin Mary's hand in marriage. And likely St. Joseph would've gave a dowry to St. Joachim like oxen, goats, sheep, etc.

Six virtues, the best! Great! Thank you very much! God bless you! keep on going.

Praying that my son grows up to have the same values as St. Joseph. 🙏🙏🙏

Could you do one for girls?

Brumly! I knew you looked familiar. Your a man of faith, that's awesome! EWS is one of my favorite movies btw.

Why Bother Dating At All?

4:30 😂😂😂😂

Awesome !

Brilliant video.

Great video, you are so relatable and bold!

te amo San Joseeee♥♥♥

Thank you :)

Amen!!!!❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏Sharing this!!!

This is so beautiful! Thank you so much for such a great video! St. Joseph pray for us. Praying for a husband like St. Joseph.

Thanks I about gave up

No, no, no.

Great video! ❤❤

Beautiful

Chastity… yaaay!! - Good talk Tanner! Many thanks! 🙂🕊

Love this dude

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What does it mean "chastity does not end in marriage?" Hpw does one be chaste in a marriage aside from avoiding adultery?

4:28

SUPER STRONG (AND HARD) BUT TRUE AND URGENT WORDS!

Thanks.So nice

Cool, I truly need these tips. God bless.

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