How to Deal With a Disrespectful Teenager (4 Strategies That Work Wonders) 

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Truth hurts sometimes… and people need called out on negative traits. Delivery matters… yes. But too much candy coating does not make them stronger, nor prepare them for the world.

Even with helpful information, a good family can still have disrespectful children. The internet, social media etc is destroying today generation at a rapid pace..

The older I get the more I realize why the older generation acted and raised like they did. Society is unraveling.

As a father of six daughters, one being 42 years old, 4 teenagers and one that just turned 12, I have had a variety of issues over a long span of years and of different generations. My teenagers, who have grown up with internet, social media and the Covid 19 pandemic, are a special generation of kids that traditional thinking has gained new meaning. It's as if they don't need or rely on parents when answers to their questions are fingertips away. What used to be the proper way to deal with conflicts or emotional differences with parents, have become rise to stress and frustration. I agree to a point on some of the suggestions you make on this video, but I also think because there is less parenting going on in the world because of single parents, long work hours, lack of time spent with kids and more access to internet activities that content can be fake information that kids become more confused than ever.

Every time my teen is back to calm and normal and I ask if we can discuss something she goes straight back into fight or flight, she is instantly triggered. Meeting doesn't even begin.

its like tolerating their behavior

My daughter is always in her room, she doesn’t spent enough time with her family.

I did all of this, but it didn't work with one of my children. All this advice is good, but you have to take into consideration that sometimes the situation is unbearable.I'm not even talking about great conflicts here. I experienced a slow, but steady decline of respect, dedication to family life, a chosen way of life I can't relate to and a frustration that there seems to be a total lack of appreciation for me and my husband. Although a lot of time has passed and were're not living together, the emotional distance hasn't really gotten smaller.Whenever there's a meeting that last for more than a day or two, tensions are running high.

Talking back and not caring!

Idk if you’re still on here. My 16 daughter has been on my last nerve. She is 1 out of seven. She is the third youngest. Mother passed away in 2020. My daughter has been testing the waters since. Being rebellious, low academic grades, needing her cell phone to survive, rolling the eyes, sneaking out of the house, vaping, missing school bus and I could keep going. I think corporal punishment would do her some good. However I will try some of your steps first before I get the wooden spoon like my mother use to do me. All of the selective words you gave hurt my head. I am not a God but a mere human with human emotions. So I will keep trying but she is on my short list. You’re more than welcome to stop by my house for a few sessions. We live in PA in the Lehigh valley area. I’ll even do a zoom call. Anything. I also need a vacation. Thank you

Telling me that I have no right to expect her to do her chores...or anything for that matter, really frustrates me.

I think, as a mother, I demand respect no matter what. I'm friendly, but in the end of the day, me and my husband are paying for them. And I don't accept being treated badly, just because my children's brains haven't develooed yet. I think, as part of the older generation, I don't have to engage in too much conflict, I can simply say no.

U are a true enabler.

I think i have to watch this about 100X more for my step teenage daughter

Thank you for this video! Its so important for parents to evaluate their own behavior and disrespect that tends to fuel children's misbehavior. The "traditional ways" of parenting have often left children scarred, perpetuated abuse, and now we have grown adults who don't know how to model humility and kindness for their own children. For those who are willing to lay down their pride and actually contemplate their ways, this videos for you!

Saying he doesn't care, refuses to do anything he is asked to do and that he doesn't want to be in our family.

Thank you, but sometimes i want to send him to a boarding school, because no matter what i do his is miserable.

14 yr old gets A and B's. We reward him for grades, chores etc. Wifey bought him a phone. This boy still disrespect us and gets mad when we say NO!!

I had a 15 years old daughter,now she lied alot and following the wrong group at school

My teenage son talks back while I'm talking to him. It becomes annoying when he continuously does that...

My sons are 13 and 16. My younger one is very stubborn and always challenges anything I say. He will always say I’m not doing much for him and he had a very bad childhood as he was in Creche and he never had mother’s love and was always alone

This is a 15yo boy from an online community. I'm not his family. Apparently, his parents doesn't let him use social media, except for our small online server. I am 28. At first, I tried to coach him, I was respectful and all that. He didn't respond much but kept talking about his situation. He displays toxic traits like judging other ppl or saying sarcastic things to them. One day, he tried to do this to me too, and I wasn't having that and changed the topic in a dismissive way. Eventually after some more weeks, idk why but he started judging me, giving me silent treatment, then when I was writing about a bug bite in the server today, nothing serious just little daily life things, he said "...just no." I asked him to clarify what he meant, but he decided to run away with silence. :/ Super frustrating

Thankyou so much...concrete and well articulated advice. It's a gradual process,with teens you can just focus on the moment or situation...getting over stressed over how they will turn out or their impulsive behaviours will spoil the current communication. Parents must work on being calm and ready that some things will not be in their control.

This is wild, children and parents are not equals. It's not criticism it's teaching and guiding. This is half the problem with kids nowadays.

All this if we cannot tell, it is simply telling us to suffer in silence.

I try these and have for years and they don’t work on my teen. I wish. Thank you though.

i have giving up the teaching . it just easy to do the work and go on. avoid frustrates . they will grown up when turn 18.

Agreed sir❤

I don't know if I can think of just one thing. My son is very disrespectful he lies about everything (big or small). I cant trust him to do the right thing, recently caught him smoking in my home an he tried to lie about it. Its like nothing I do is good enough and I have 3 other kids that need me as well and I feel drained with just him, that i have nothing left for my other children

Daniel, these are excellent tips! My 8-year old grandson was "eavesdropping" while i was watching your video and he remarked that parents of younger children should listen to the 4 tips, too :)

Nah. I'm just not going to put up with the disrespect. She can stay with her mother and have a wonderful life

I'm so glad I found your channel. Really love your parenting tips and looking forward to watch more.

This is the best advice I can get. It makes so much sense to me. Thank you!

Excellent speech 👍👍👍

I tell my son to please clean his bathroom and he tells me that that’s my job that I am the mom and that’s my job.

I give him time to behave n take action but he waste time n results are at risk.. As a single mom n financialy weak so i have to remind him not to waste time n preparr well

Excellent pointers!

Soo true sir

Great job !!

Wow. That crap about being expected to follow rules???...I give my kids more freedom than I probably should, but helloooooo....welcome to the real world!!! We allllll have to learn to follow the rules of life.

Bossing me or telling me what to do

You are great! 👍 thank you!

My son Ethan is 17 and he always gives me the cold shoulder

As a teen myself this is interesting to learn

Actually because of my child behaviour,I am getting frustrated and getting,dipression,, every min I am thinking of him ,he should be good person,

You put into words what I’ve been trying to explain to my husband, but you explain it more logically lol😅

When I ask him to be home by a certain time and he's always late with excuses.

Good practical advice. No fluff.

Any suggestions on a child disrespectful because the coparent allows it? How can you navigate that when they’re getting away with it majority of the time?

Telling me I am not her mother, telling me she doesn't wanna live with me...

I got tons of YOU statements. At 57 years old I was diagnosed with a learning disability they never questioned. It was always me rather than them asking me why I struggled so hard. It was beyond my control and not the expert in neurodiversity. . I was just expected to keep up or get verbally assaulted.

I’m glad I found your channel 🎉🎉🎉

Trueeee

It was a good video.....

Yes patents do all that and stull the distespect and entitlement and swearing and refusal to do any chores etc it goes on and on.

i feel frustrated when my son use vulgar languages on me, cover his ears when i just want to say something to him, stay in his room most of the time to avoid me ...:( i feel so hopeless on him ever will talk to me anymore....sighz

Don't look me in the eye or try to look at their phone while I'm talking.

Teens in the US know they have all the power because they know no matter how they speak to you that you aren't allowed to physically discipline them or you go to jail nor are you allowed to kick them out of the house until they are 18. I can only stop paying for my sons phone, get rid of video games and computer. I cant make him help around the house either because mine is so stubborn he would rather stare at 4 walls and never have phone or games again rather than do what hes asked.

Playing video games on the phone and talking to parent at the same time.

She says you guys never do anything for me and never love me

These are probably the worst possible advices. Man , get your kid out of that publoc school . Thats it. Even if that doesn't work. Then just hand them over to child care. In the earlier times there were provisions to take physical actions against kids who are disrespectful. That was the best. Too much freedom is dangerous. In this era if you try to beat your kid for somthing that is harming others. You get called from child protective service and as they wont allow you to teach lessons to these kids/teens, then they should be the one managing them. Parents go through a lot while raising a child and when they grow up to become like this ( disrespecting and causing harm to others), then parents just should leave them alone. It's a small life, if it"s not worth it, dont sacrifice your happiness for shits like this. I am sorry to put things like this but the policy of this country is the one who is responsible.

Low grades i have issues with them

Using F word so casually all the time..

The words "whatever" or "Ill try" are like a redflag to me

Very good lacture

Being 43 I'm confused with some things. I might be wrong, which I have no problem with owning if I am, but what I hear is when i grew up I was to be respectful and accountable, we were raised outside then news had to remind parents they had kids at 10. Being the only child I wasn't the spoiled only child, I was the you are responsible if your friend breaks something in our house then it's on me type. Also if someone disrespects you then try to resolve, then don't entertain, then make them if they insist on harassing. But now I'm an adult I'm supposed to give my kid more power than I have in the only place I have it? When the kids now aren't accountable and believe they just are never wrong. They don't know how the world works because they grew up inside, they never lose because they get rewarded for losing and now can be disrespectful to their parents because they're no consequences? So at what point do they learn reality? In the work force, bosses aren't going to pretend they have power. If respect is not understood early then accountability for actions is not learned because that is respect in the self and from others. If respect is not learned early then understanding authority and power is not learned. So like now we have people who think they can make decisions but not the consequences, they think communication is them saying whatever they want and then ignore the other part of conversation like they do online, while they are being told mean are weak, not needed. My job as a parent is to raise a productive good person, but in order to be that you have to know who they are. You have to lose to overcome the mindset that you win all the time. You have to acknowledge mistakes to learn from them. You have to struggle to know what you are capable of when your back is against the wall. Right now you a society that nobody knows who they are but demands other people to meet expectations that they have but they aren't the weakest version of person they could be. They can't handle pressure now and end up snapping and hurting themselves or others. All because they were raised to be a false level of respect.

My son mumbles and swears at me, this makes my blood boil, constantly criticizing my driving…

could you please give some examples?

Cutting me off in conversation, I know…I know …are you done now.

I work in a middle school. I understand the comparison to prisoners. I also work with students with IEPs. They are even more under a microscope than Gen ed kids. The one thing rhey have in common is they have no fun in their lives. As school budget cuts dig deeper, the art, music, creating new things no longer exists. I ask kids what they did all time off, they shrug their shoulders and tell me video games, TV and sleep. The parents took them no where and did nothing...just like a prisoner in solitary confinement. When they get punished, they get more of the same nothingness. In my day, fun was taken away. These kids have very little pleasure or fun to take away. Good behavior is not rewarded with fun or acknowledgment. Why bother???? It won't be seen. It also steals their ability to dream of the future , explore who they are as people and see their strengths. They need to see a world out there worth working towards

My Daughter doesn't feel she should do chores and I have to keep repeating myself

my mom and sister narcists , then came ex another narcist now son a soon to be adult who lives with me another narcist, how do i deal with this teenager who will turn adult in few months who is extremely selfish and doesn't care about the struggles of my life to get him whatever he wants

Can’t listen to them if they won’t talk. 😢.

I respect him, no tonting n calm ntry my best but he don't like even I say a single advice... He always blame me for the things I don't say or do... Just to prove his misbehave is right

My teen didn't follow routine

I’m have been staying calm and respectful but her behaviour is getting worse

I feel like this dude is promoting social media. This is not OK in my household social media is an influence to the children and the stuff that they’re watching is also influence. No, I will not tolerate my child to be influence by the world..

🎉🎉🎉

Talk back or walk away

Disrespect towards teachers!!

When you’re disrespectful and you don’t respect your parents which it’s 12 times in the Bible, you lose your freedom you lose your voice and you lose control. If these are things that are important to the toxic teens, then they shouldn’t be so abusive.

Constant silent treatment

How do we contact you?

We remind & they blurt out ; Wait .. Later.. Annoying. Ops..itz when using You....

This is stupid Tough love and hard nosed parenting is what kids need now more than ever. Take the phones and consoles laptops and tablets Tvs and make them earn them back w good behavior. Period

Gaslighting teens my stepdaughter does it all the time and I don’t even know where she learns it from

Act like they don't care about me or my husband or all. Rolling eyes, being rude, etc. Teen girls, it wasn't a problem with my son

Why? Why? Why? Questioning every instruction.

You work for 40yrs to have $1M in your retirement, meanwhile some people are putting just $10K in crypto from just few months ago and now they are multimillionaires..

I’m scared of my teen daughter she’s violent so I don’t talk to her anymore

Average 3 hours on tiktok, late homework, lazy, doesn't clean their room or shower. Where do you start with that? Lol

I don't get it how do I get my lazy stealing, breaks 200 dollars equipment out anger teen to realize he's not the victim without saying you are breaking my stuff out of anger. Your being self centered and you are feeling sorry for your self .I'm pretty sure they need to know what kinda behavior there doing is how they will be presevied

clearly you don’t have or live with a teenage child who you’re parenting into becoming a contributor to society. Nothing of what you said is going to get them to respond or be respectful. i.e he complains about eating dinner, doesn’t like anything. you go through the trouble to buy what they like, prepare it the way they like only for them to find something to complain about, or eat a couple of bites and say they’re full or tell you they’re going to a friends house, without having said anything about it as they know it’s dinner time….and that, like I said, is one example of hundreds occurring every week.

#2….ridiculous….seriously?

Educating a child is not giving them total control of absolutely everything just because "our woke generation gives more power to children than to parents". This is crazy stupid hippie stuff. When you are already treating them with respect and trusting them, but they still break that trust regularly and still disrespect everything no matter what because it's what kids their age tend to do, hippie suggestions (the ones YT is riddled with, like this one) are stupid and DO NOT (!!!) work.

I find swearing almost intolerable.

my teen tells me to keep quite

You completely lost my interest when you said "you need to show them respect" 😂

It starts when they are toddlers, not when they are teens. Parents today are their kids little friends, that is why they are disrespectful to you. It is not hard, spare rhe rod, spoil thr child. Even if you don't believe in spanking, there are ways to discipline your children. Lastly for God's sake, quit blaming CPS, they do not want your children!!