How To Deal With Haters Like A Feminine Woman 

" you don't wanna mess with people who are close to God" 📌come on now!

Passive Aggressive comments is a huge red flag for haters! Example: “Girl, why are you dressed up? You trying to be chosen tonight?, why are you wearing make up, we are just hanging out!” The reality of these comments are hidden in the words unsaid!

Every single example you mentioned plus more I have experienced. And to be transparent my own mother hates me & has told me she’s jealous of me. Yeah, a real Lifetime movie. 😐 I’ve accepted it all & moved on.

I’m work in critical care as a nurse and I was so shocked at some of the evil women I met were older women who are successful. I was not prepared for that encounter. I had to adapt so quickly that I ended up changing but luckily I adapted so quickly to who I was and stayed the course. They are still negative but I go on living my life at work. It’s sad that some people actually go their way to make your life hell. This is a great video. Incredible.

I’m 67 and time flies. I say this to say, see it, it’s real and keep it moving. Don’t waste your energy. Most important part is know what you’re seeing is what it is. So very sad, but so very true. Anyone can be their best if that’s where they put their energy. Don’t even let their energy in.

Your workplace analysis is on point! I had to leave my job due to jealous coworkers who did everything they could to push me out, mainly passive aggressive and sabotaging behaviours. My boss had even asked me why do I think these women are behaving the way they were. My response took her aback, but I was direct and said clearly ‘they are jealous’ 🤭 I think she thought I was being arrogant but I could also tell that she knew there was truth in what I was saying 🤷🏾‍♀️

Loved the fact that you stated not matching others bad energy. When people do that the toxic cycle is never broken.

That’s why I love this channel so much! It’s reaffirming why I’ve always had so much drama from other women…even before I did the work! I didn’t realize it’s the reason most people have bullied me throughout childhood and early adulthood as well! This is so good!

Thank you for This video. I ended up having to hide my feminity to make other women feel comfortable because I got tired of the stares, jealousy that came from other women as a result of being in my feminity.

I LOVE being my feminine little me!!!💕 Praise the Lord!!! Whenever I listen to your content I feel extra feminine.

I'm so glad you're talking about this topic. I've always had issues with women not liking me because of how I look. It bothered me to the point where I didn't want to go anywhere. I get nasty stares from some people in my family or just random strangers. It made me feel sad because I wanted friends but I realized that I had to be around women who were feminine like myself and separate from being with those types of people because it can be dangerous when dealing with jealous people.

Dr.Daf thank you so much, I have a lot of haters because am elegant and feminine. My mother-in-law hates me just because am elegant and feminine. My husband asked her if I had done something bad to her, and she said I AM ALWAYS CLASSY, EVERYTHING MUST BE CLASSY.

Figure out right away if people like you or not. It is crucial!!!

My older sister had the hardest time accepting my femininity. She bullied me my whole life after I got married she even agreed with my husband that I shouldn’t buy makeup and wear it. I had already paid 17 thousand for my cosmetology certification and wearing makeup and dressing up was the one thing they instilled in us. My sister told my husband I need to learn to suffer and go without that because everything else was more important. I literally cried so much. Me and my husband don’t talk to them anymore she always threw me under the bus and never applauded my success.

I have dealt with just about everything you've stated. I only wish I could have known what was going on years ago. Thank you for breaking this down. I have always thought it must be something wrong with me.

Thank you for this message. A so Called a friend rated me a 5 & I felt embarrassed. Even if she felt that way, it’s just things you don’t need to say out loud. But now I feel like she feels guilty and it’s been awkward energy since I left her home.

Ive dealt with jealousy from women everywhere church, school, street, grocery store, its pathetic and make me sick!!!!

I have experienced the first scenario as a teenager living in a foster home where the foster mother was literally worried and jealous of me that her 40-something year old boyfriend wouod like me. A minor! A teenager! I experienced so much hate and bullying from women as a child it made me distrustful and dislike women altogether. In my opinion, women who are clique-ish are not real feminine women. I have experienced being in groups where the women act as though they were feminine, but exclude me and other women in the group, i witness them talking about women and then the next day hanging out with the same woman. I have also experienced being in a friend groups black women who were dark skin complexion, but i would get microagressions from them because im lighter skin complexion.

GOD'S Girls are GOLDEN Girls‼️💯❤🤝🍎🍓

Dealing with this at work right now. It’s making me want to quit. This video helps a lot.

Random comment but I love your flower arrangement ! ( i'm an artist so the small details always grab my attention) lovely video as always 💖

I wonder what the Bible says about haters and hating,and how to overcome it or the the wisdom to live with haters in harmony, because wow!

Ive never been extremely feminine to my knowledge but ive always been kind, natural and respectful and comfortable un my own skin , not a hater of other women I actually had to stop complementing some women because they think its one up on you..smh I was nieve to the "game" ...at church they hated me. Smile in my face and talk about me behind my back ... i have a nice shape but not permiscuous.. the men in church would open doors and chat with me out of respect... when i realized what was going on, I was soo shocked to realize what was happening. I can not deal with catty women just real down to earth beautiful women (inside and out).

Im a man and I watch your content because I love how you articulate yourself as a feminine woman, and literally everting you say applies to both men and women (though I know your lens is thru a feminine lens). It helps me understand women better, understand men better, understand myself.. esp bc even as a masculine man, I have been through variations of ALL of these from men AND women ! Thank you

Wish I could’ve heard this 20 years ago ❤

This video spoke to me. I was one of those people who believed that no one was jealous of me or didn't like me. I also experienced someone trying to sabotage me at work over a guy and she noticed I started levelling up. I have also experienced terrible comments from women who were way better than me in all aspects. Even the part about honouring certain parts of my feelings-I need to do it more.

I had to come to grips with this recently! This channel has helped transform me! This and feminine universe page. This junk is so real! Some people don't like you just because. Jealousy is real. Dimming your light is also real!!! As soon as I started to allow my light to shine all hell broke loose. 🕯️ ☀️

I love you so much. Your videos truly have this way of just reeling me in and keeping me hooked and spellbound. You’re so magnetic and captivating. And relatable and transparent. You have an incredibly inviting energy and I LOVE IT. I will ALWAYS support your content. I will always love you and what you stand for. If you lost all of your followers and subscribers today, rest assure you’d still always have ONE that’s not going anywhere. Thank you. God bless you queen.

I haven’t even finished this video and already I’m so grateful . I honestly didn’t not understand the problem . Thank you

First of all, you look great! I watched this video several times. The beautiful thing is that it came out two days after I’d spoke to a friend on the issue of jealousy and strife so I felt that this was a great encouragement from the Lord! I’ve been in the hating giving side before realizing my blessings so I recognize some of the examples you gave. I love how articulate you are and your ability to convey truth. Lastly, I must say you look so cute making faces! I especially enjoyed the face made at 22:10 😂

That was the plot twist we needed when the girl asked 'why do you like her' and he literally replied because she ask a lot of questions..BOOP!

Thank you for this!!! I am currently dealing with these issues at my job and with certain family members!!! It's like misery wants company, and I don't want to be miserable any more. My mind is made up in the Name of Jesus ✝️

Oh Michelle how I would love to be your friend 🤍 you don’t know me but you are my mentor. Thank you for another amazing video

Thank you Dr ❤omg this was God sent I have dealt with this my whole life and still dealing with it 🙃

Wow!!! Femininity takes discipline!!! STAY WHO YOU ARE!!! Thanks Doc!!! I needed this so freaking much!!! I thank God for you and your femininity 💛💛💛

Thank you so much for making this video Daphne and focusing on people jealous of FEMININE WOMEN this is a real thing that we battle with. This video really brought peace to me. ❤️

Dr. Michelle, can you please cover the topic of avoiding conflict in your relationship/marriage & how to navigate arguments or dissolve them completely?

I needed this video at least a decade ago. I need this now. So goods start a series on this, please! You are doing great❤️

Yeiiii!! I was asking for this video ❤❤❤❤

Great video and encouragement lord know it’s hard out here. I love love 💕 anything feminine. Thank you Dr.Daf you look stunning and beautiful as usual 🫶🏽💕

Thank you. I really needed this, thank you for sharing I didn’t have someone with more experience who could teach me or share thoughts like this. I admire your personality so I’m glad that I could hear this from you. Thanks again :)

I've experienced all of this you explained and more except for the mother issue. I'm still going through it now and also in the workplace trying to make me lose my job, talking about me and spreading rumours about me. List goes and it's stressful and upsetting. I can't stop or turn off who I am and before I used to try to and to fit in but I don't anymore as I understand that's not how I'm designed. You look lovely and your videos are always helpful. Thank you for this video, it's very on point ❤️😘

Been away for awhile…as following you from since the pandemic and when you opened up by sharing one of your first video.. Soooohappy to see the growth of your channel.. 🥰🥰… as usual coming through with your Godly message in a secular topic🥰🙏🏽🌺

Wow. Thank you for this. I didn’t realized that our own mothers did this.

I love this so much, I have been having problems with this my whole life. People would say I'm not acting the way they want or I'm being too nice a soft for them. Thank you for this video. 😊💖

Dear Dr. Michelle Daf, Recently, I have been reflecting on my personal growth, especially in the context of relationships. I've encountered feedback from two individuals I've been dating, both noting that I may have a tendency to exhibit a quick-to-offend attitude. They both made a statement saying I have a bad attitude. Despite my efforts to improve, it seems there's more work to be done. Your expertise in psychology and personal development has inspired me, and I believe your insights could benefit not only myself but also others facing similar challenges. I would like to kindly request if you could consider creating a RU-vid video on this issue, offering guidance on recognizing and transforming negative thought patterns and behaviors.Your wisdom and godly advice could truly make a positive difference in many lives, mine included.

OMG, your look is just adorable! Your hair all braided up like that is just the cutest thing ever! And your whole outfit? Such an amazing sense of style and great topic

I have and am still experiencing this with people. I’ve learned to not let it bother me. ❤❤❤ Every scenario you mentioned, I’ve experienced with friends and family! It use to bother me when I was much younger because I didn’t understand then, but now that I’m older (47) I understand why now. It was really bad when I became a stay at home wife & homeschooling my children. I would get the looks and stares as if I was wasting my life, but yet they wondered how I still managed to stay put together. I even got the mean girl looks in the SAHM/homeschooling community too! 😂 Great video sis, thank you for sharing!

Thank you dr Michelle just want I needed to hear.God bless you abundantly 🙏🏻💕

Girl I love u 😘 these videos are apart of my testimony with my transformation of 2023. Work in progress.

Right on time as always! ⌚ 🌹

omg thank you i needed this so much! 💗

Amazing as usual, always learning with you💋

Your examples are always head on with my experiences. I wished you took on clients for life coaching or talk therapy. Either way, thank you. Your videos ALWAYS bless me, sincerely.

Thank you so much for this uplifting content🙏🏽

The accuracy of all these examples 😊🎉

This was such a wonderful video. So much wisdom shared with so much grace. ❤

I love you so much Michelle. Thanks for these teachings.

Thank you! As always this is such a blessing ❤️

Thanks for the lovely and informative video. You look stunning and the colour of your top reallg compliments your skin tone👌

Thank you 🥰🥰🥰. Another wonderful video!

Love this, bring light to the enemies ways.

You are amazing and an angel, thank you so much for everything ❤

Loved this an really needed it today .. Thank You...💕

Yassssssssssssi got haters all day& Night around my apt

God is really using you to touch lives, because the way i connect to everything you said. hmmmm...Please don't stop, Sending you love and may God continue to bless you💞

I love your grace and voice and so I just had to subscribe 😃😃 just lovely

This video was right on time. Thank you! ❤

Spot on! Thank you! 💜

Needed this

I Thank God for your influence it's so refreshing.😘💋💅👄

Relatable content!!

I came across a video about femininity and the lady was speaking a bit roughly... And In my mind I was like "I can't watch this... She needs to speak like Dr Michelle she is so smooth and gentle ..." Your voice is so calming in itself no matter what you are talking about...

Hello yes it helps me, thank you very much for sharing.

Thank you!🙏🏾

very interesting and refreshing perspective :)

love the realness 💓

You are my big sister in Christ ! 🎉❤ Thank you for your content ! So needed ! Be blessed ! ❤🎉

So true 😊 love your content! ❤

Women at my job complain about their weight etc all the time. I just stand there saying nothing, because I love myself. That just makes them dislike me more. I do get dirty looks from women all the time. Men usually stare, do a double-take, or look at me with their mouth open. I get men running to the door to open it for me. I don't think I'm all that tbh. I feel I am humble and comfortable with myself for the most part

I have observed closely, many mums...There are only a few who are well put together and are good mums! Many of the mums who are very beautiful, are not good moms( giving there babys to someone else, to take beautytreatments many hours or go to gym, when they should be there for there babys etc) - they look good, but for what cost? I have decided that my priority at this short time is my baby. No Nails or Makeup etc... i do my best, to look fresh and clean and to be a good mum not a model or seeking Attention from other men- i dont think thats right. I also have a friend( a mom), she is really dressing so sexy, with very short dresses etc...i dont invite her when my man is at home😂

Wow 8:05 hit hard, its true

Is there anyway to prevent this?

Hallelujah 🙌🏾God girl😊

What if you were the one dealing with jealousy and comparison? I struggle with it a lot. I feel very insecure around other women especially if they are more beautiful than me. I even feel some type of way if the guy I am with treats other women kindly I start thinking well does he want them. What if I am the one struggling with envy how can I deal with It? Ps I am also on my way to femininity and i absolutely love your channel. ❤

30:38 the exact same thing happened to me 🤯

I would like to know how to react as a feminist woman in front of what is happening in the world. I get very angry in front the injustice in Africa, in the holy land, in Ukraine… and don’t know how to react un a feminine way

This is one of my top 3 favorite videos from you. I love that you even mentioned that this happens in the church community too 👀 it’s so sad. Every example and story you shared was spot on.

Wow to be called a friend of Jesus it’s An honour ❤

Thank you for this video. This has been so hard for me as I approach friendship with a genuine and pure heart yet others in my friend group seek to tear me down by mean or rude jokes. I always feel like the target. This is right on time, Amen 🤍🙏🏾

Great video

Sooo pretty

WOW

Dr. on a normal day how long does it take you to get ready??? xoxo

Thank you. I think I left a company because they could not accept my feminity, however, I do have guylike jokes.

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I was transfered coz of jealous

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